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The magic of Neen Prepare to be charmed Sometimes

cupid throws . . . a hammer

Far from the

Dating in the age of COVID

grandkids neednâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t mean distant

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I need some advice.

Not about anything in particular. Give me random advice.

Be greatful Hug a tree, pet a dog, smell the fragrance of a horse, say "I love you" to people you love, live your dreams and much, much more....... Be patient with others as you would wish others to be patient with you. One good turn will get you most of the covers.

Don’t take any wooden buffaloes Fake it till you make it..., Think big and don’t sweat the small stuff. Brush your teeth. No one ever regretted brushing their teeth. Laugh aloud whenever possible. My advice: Take advice from no one. Strike out on your own and enjoy your life.

Breathe If you borrow a friend’s car, return it cleaner than when you got it with a full tank of gas. Eat your vegetables.... If someone starts a comment with people tell me I am smart or I am a genius, don't listen to them.

Do the Universe a favor... don’t hide your magic! Be giving without expectations. The universe sees. Wear a mask, wash your hands! Pay attention. Live in The moment Breathe If you wait for the best, you're likely to get it. Don’t play leapfrog with unicorns Be here now remember who you are Don’t worry about gaining weight, given our world’s situation. Wash your hands!

“Don’t sleep in the subway, darling” Petula Clark

You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

Be your delicious self!

Don't take any wooden mantras.

Oreos are better than pop corn

Start everyday with good intention and a freshly made bed (doesn’t matter whose bed)

Where ever you go there you are.

My mother’s words: “Never put yourself down. The whole world will do it for you”

Keep the faith, baby.

Put a sawbuck on Sea Biscuit in the fifth. Practice gratitude. Always say please and thank you More naps Touch the earth with bare feet or hands at least once a day. Don’t squat with Spurs on 2

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Don't take random advice. Don't lie. Don't cheat. Don't steal. Don't harm the innocent. When you come to the fork in the road take it Persistence is Queen! Think before you act Listen to your heart.

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The working title of this issue, inspired very simply by the month of February, was “The Love edition.” While it came to have minimal content focused on romantic love, many of the features illustrate forms of love we all need more of, especially these days.

I’m talking about the kind of love that shows up in the form of a simple smile. Or happening upon one of those rare human beings who clearly makes hearts smile wherever he or she goes (see “The Magical World of Neen"). Or found in a somewhat serendipitous series of caring events that result in a wee stray finding his way to a home where he will be loved for life (see “A gift made possible by everyday heroes"). It might seem a silly, but for me, all this brought to mind that old ditty, “What the world needs now is love, sweet love.” As we move into a new chapter following so much loss and hardship in recent months, I hope “The Love edition” brings you a smiling heart and a little reassurance that while times of trouble and challenge will always be a part of life, there is always a reason to smile — and to have a happy heart. As the ditty says, “Love, sweet love — not just for some but for everyone.” Thank you for being part of the 50Plus family,

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Far from Grandkids Needn’t Mean Distant Grandparents provide love, security and comfort. And however far away your grandkids may be, you can have a close, active role in their lives.

The Steps of Life How the ruckus of a pack of “furry street monitors” led to strangers become friends.

Sometimes cupid throws

a hammer

She wasn’t looking for love. He was a longtime soccer player. They were both athletes. As fate would have it, they met at a fitness class, and Cupid’s hammer brought them together.

Dating in the age of COVID The dating game has changed, but it’s still possible to do so safely. Insights, tips and cautionary tales for those considering giving online dating apps a try.

Stronger in Love Fitness for two

As seen on FB Amidst the angst, opinions and noise on social media recently, a simple post asking for advice “about nothing in particular” prompted practical, funny and inspiring replies.

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Dental Health • Don’t skip the checkup due to COVID Don’t let stress or safety concerns keep you from the dentist. Your safety is their first concern, and dentists are practicing increased precautions for your dental and overall health.

The second most famous smiley face Randal Hill brings history to life in fun, fascinating ways. This month he shares the story of one very famous smile.

For the

♥ of Pets

From an officer on night patrol discovering a tiny black waif to an animal control facility not normally set up to care for cats, “Bat” was an unexpected gift made possible by everyday heroes.

The magic of Neen Prepare to be charmed

The Steps of Life

It all started with, “There goes that lady” as several times a day my three little “furry street monitors” would go into a barking frenzy. My curiosity was piqued when one day while stopped at the corner in my car “that lady” walked to the corner, turned around, and headed back the other way. I lowered my window and called, “How many miles do you walk every day?”

Her first steps from a one-room school for kids grades 1-7 in Northern Wisconsin led to the goal of 10,000 steps a day in Springfield, Oregon. When her family sold the Wisconsin farm and moved to Eugene, Estelle was to enroll in junior high, something she’d never heard of. The trail to reach her goal has had many interesting turns and experiences. She graduated high school, entered nursing school at Sacred Heart in Eugene, and go marred one week later. Her husband of 58 years, Larry, is a retired police officer. When living with their three kids in Eugene. Estelle and two neighborhood women started walking together every morning, to Shari’s for coffee and back. Together Estelle and Larry have worked as camp cooks at Camp Christian, working 14-hour days, cleaned offices for 10 years, and she worked at the U of O Childcare and Development Center as a cook five hours a day. Estelle had always worked on her feet and was having knee pain. She found she had osteoporosis and had heard that walking could help. That’s when her commitment to walking 10,000 steps a day became a reality. Now she has a health app on her phone and got a Fitbit for Christmas, which also counts her steps. She doesn’t know how many miles she walks, but that the neighborhood route she treks eight to nine time each day adds up to her 10,000 steps a day goal.

Estelle Contributed by Ambassador Marnie McCammon, Springfield.

Estelle had passed by so many times before I finally decided to say hi. In doing that, I’ve met a fun, interesting woman who I can now call my neighbor. It’s amazing how with just a little contact, strangers can become friends.

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A Long Distance Grandparent

Needn’t Be Distant by Pamela Slaughter

Grandparents have long represented love, security, comfort, and calm. I was blessed to have two very loving grandmothers. They both had a strong impact on my life. I now realize it was so powerful because they were always teaching me. That is the beauty of grandparents — they teach life lessons. It’s not always easy. These days grandchildren often live in different cities or states from their grandparents. Is it possible for a grandparent to have a close, active role in the life of a grandchild they rarely see? Yes. With planning and effort, a long-distance grandparent/grandchild relationship can thrive. How? First, create memories. When I take my grandson on daytrips, I take lots of pictures of ordinary moments to capture the experience, starting with driving there and ending with my grandson’s sleeping face in the backseat as we’re headed home. Afterward I often create a photo album. featuring pictures of his favorite moments along with ordinary bits, and photos of us together. Sometimes we go over the books together and laugh and relive our fun. He’ll have those books long after I’m gone, and I love knowing that.

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Here’s a tip: Photo books are a wonderful way to communicate with words, too. Add a few sentences next to certain photos to completely capture the moment. Your grandchild will “hear” your words, so be thoughtful. This is a beautiful way to share important thoughts. Let your grandchild know what the book represents and why it’s so special. Each time you visit, a wonderful memory/photo book can follow. I often get my books the same day, from Walgreens, for under $20. This is one easy way to create both quality time and powerful, happy memories. High-impact quality time is important, but I’ve found that quantity is equally important. These are the little ordinary moments you spend with your grandchild — such as driving to the store, helping with homework or walking the dog that add up to create familiarity, comfort, intimacy and trust. How does a long-distance grandparent find a way to gain quantity time? By being creative. The simplest is frequent phone calls. Schedule calls, like visits, but be flexible if changes are sometimes needed. Make the calls fun, which doesn't mean dragging out old "knock knock" jokes you thought were hilarious as a child (yes, I did that). Fun refers to something instantly engaging to your grandchild. Use your phone time to get to know her. Ask about his video games. Make part of the call include

my grandson an electric pencil sharpener for his ninth birthday. He loves it and uses it a lot. I still remember the delight I felt after my grandmother gave me a new, plump pillow. I felt the presence of her love and thoughtfulness every time I lay on it. Consider what simple item might represent your presence every day.

something you share together on an ongoing basis, such as completing a family tree together or playing chess. Or write a story, taking turns making up the next paragraph. My grandson and I have been reading books from The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis. Get to know them. What is her favorite meal? His best friend? Her fears? Listen deeply. Take notes so you don't forget. The next time you speak, you can follow up on things that came up before. Keep calls somewhat brief but very interesting.

The item doesn’t have to be purchased. It can come from your heart. You might send jokes, text words of encouragement, family stories, pictures, cards, questions, feathers, rocks, or cookies. The point is to have a presence. The challenge is to not overdo it. Treasure can become clutter if there's too much of it. The other challenge is to make it special. Not expensive, just meaningful.

Technology can really support the bond. There’s nothing you can’t learn by watching instructional videos on YouTube. Find out how to use Facetime, Skype, web cams, and other options to speak with (and see) your grandchild.

Don’t forget that another basic way to bond is to enjoy conversations on a regular basis. Your grandchild wants to know you, too! Share details about your

Occasionally, send things your grandchild will use. I bought

childhood and your life now. Talk about what makes you happy and what you regret. Be transparent about your evolution into who you are now, if appropriate. Let her know that you have overcome some things, and how. Likewise, ask about his daily life, thoughts, friends. Learn how she cheers herself up, his greatest victory so far, his goals. Talk to her, but more importantly, listen, and remember what she shares. Be curious when you disagree, rather than judgmental. Let her know you love her unconditionally. We all need someone like that. A long-distance relationship doesn't have to be distant. With planning and effort, you can be truly close with your grandchild. I would love to hear your ideas on the subject. How do you bond with your grandchild long distance?

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The Magical World of Neen by Candy Puterbaugh

If you’re looking for some magic in your life, meet Neen Fitzwalter — she has plenty to spare. The certified magician-golfer-sports enthusiast-musician-ordained minister-mixologist-cook-collector-entertainer and holiday home decorator has brightened the lives of family, friends and neighbors of all ages. Kids flock to her. In the past she hosted a group of golfers overnight at her mountain cabin, wining, dining and spoiling them with gift bags hand-embroidered with their names. She’s served them meals with colorful gift boxes at each plate, then entertained them with a magic show. “We as neighbors, friends and golf teammates are the happy recipients of Neen’s excellent cooking, fun parties and almost daily neighborhood dinners,” says friend and fellow golfer, Karen Johnson. “She is always ready for drop-ins with enough food to go around for four guests or twelve! She is a walking heart!” Her cabin and home are reflections of Neen, with whimsical museumlike memorabilia decorating every room. Her original Brownie and Girl Scout uniform (with forks and canteen) hanging in a bathroom provide a peek at her past.

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Magic made its way into her world 30 years ago when a friend showed her a magic trick. “I was hooked!” she says. “He wouldn’t show me how it was done so I went to a magic shop downtown and bought the trick. I loved it and have been doing it ever since.” A member of The Society of American Magicians, one summer she performed at UKANDU, a camp for kids with cancer. She continues to perform for neighborhood kids, adults and at weddings and birthdays, free of charge. Lynnea (later Neen, or Neenie to neighborhood kids) grew up the youngest of seven children on a small farm with pigs, horses and a garden in SW Portland. During her senior year at Lincoln High School she worked half-days at an insurance office across the street to earn money for a car, clothes and shoes.

With no children of their own, Neen and her husband Stevie cherish their nieces, nephews and kids of neighbors and friends. The kids love visiting, to swim, help decorate, and play with vintage games in the basement. At the cabin visiting kids happily forgo electronics for archery,

croquet, volleyball, biking, skipping rocks, hiking, kayaking, fishing and geocaching. “They’re building memories and that is so important,” Neen says. Because she reveres marriage,

Magic made its way into her world 30 years ago when a friend showed her a magic trick. “I was hooked!” she became an ordained minister so she could perform weddings. “Stevie says I’m a master of the Ms: magician, minister, mixologist and musician,” she laughs. The consummate hostess studied mixology for over 10 years to learn to create interesting cocktails. } } }

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Favorites include vodka infused with berries, basil, cucumber, jalapeno, watermelon or peaches. She began ukulele lessons a few years ago because, “I like the sound of it and it’s small enough to take to the beach, our cabin or on vacation.” She’s been decorating her large Alameda home to the hilt inside and out for every major holiday since she and Stevie married 35 years ago. People stop, drop their jaws, and gawk at the lavishly-lit corner home. “Stevie and I both decorate,” she says. “We started small, probably

with Halloween. It’s gradually gotten to be more. Although Halloween is my favorite, Valentine’s Day comes in a strong second. Decorating for that only takes about three hours where Halloween takes two or three days with a lot of help from family and friends.” They’ve been rewarded for their efforts, some years bringing as many as 2,000 trick-or-treaters.

While decorations are stored in their large attic, the basement is home to one more “M” in Neen’s mix: memorabilia. “Our basement is full of things we grew up with,” she says. “We just didn’t throw stuff away 50 years ago. We have a slot machine from the ‘20s, shuffleboard from the ‘30s, and three juke boxes, a pinball machine and a coke machine from the ‘40s and ‘50s.” She also still has her original pogo stick, baton, dolls, softball and mitt, jacks, hula hoop, first transistor radio, and brownie camera — all on display. She also owns “tons of vintage clothing,” complete with accessories, which she lends to friends for dress-up events. Neen’s hands are never idle. She does wood-burning and has made wooden placemats. She also once made a quilt out of 36 half-gallon Crown Royal bags. “That’s $1,800 worth of Crown Royal per quilt!” she laughs. Neen retired on her favorite holiday — Halloween — seven years ago after working in human resources for 36 years. “Retirement has been heaven, just perfect!” she says. “I have no responsibilities other than to play. My only responsibility is to know what sports activity I am doing that day.” These include tennis, golf, power-walking, kayaking,

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"Stevie says I’m a master of the Ms: magician, minister, mixologist and musician.” stand-up paddle-boarding and biking. “I might do one, two or three sports a day — it’s all on my calendar.” Still, she adds, “I need projects this winter. I might make some wooden direction signs for our cabin, including elevations of a variety of mountains around the world, and local ones such as Mt. Hood. I’d like to make a large totem pole but it may be too complicated — I’ll see.” I like to have fun and don’t like to sit idle. I need to be busy, going someplace or doing something. I’m just a kid in a 70-year-old body.”

The Second-most Famous Smile by Randal C. Hill

Though you may not know it, Harvey Ball has had an impact on your life.

doing humdrum tasks around the office such as chatting on the phone with customers.

He was born Harvey Ross Ball in July 1921 in Worcester, Massachusetts, one of six children. After graduating from Worcester South High School, he became an apprentice to a local sign painter and later studied fine art at the Worcester Art Museum School. Following World War II, he worked for a local advertising firm until 1959, when he started his own advertising business.

Smiley buttons became so popular with the general public that they were eventually being ordered in lots of 10,000. By 1971, more than 50 million Smiley buttons had been produced. Ball’s creation had become recognized around the world as an American icon.

In 1963, a call from a Worcester client, The State Mutual Life Assurance Company, changed Ball’s life — and in time added to the popular culture of America and many countries around the globe. The insurance outfit had recently experienced a hostile takeover merger with an out-of-town competitor, and employee morale was low and sinking. Could Harvey come up with some kind of quirky design that would be fun to look at and consequently lift spirits around the office? Within 10 minutes, Ball had created a bright yellow circle with black oval eyes — the right eye slightly larger — and a creased, slightly off-center smile, the right side a bit higher and thicker than the left. Ball was paid $45 — about $350 today — for his efforts. The State Mutual folks produced and handed out 100 Smiley pins to its employees in hopes of encouraging workers to smile while

So, did he retire early, purchase a yacht and sail off to a beachfront villa on a tropical island? Well, actually, no. He never applied for a trademark or copyright of the Smiley Face, and State Mutual made nothing from the design either. Ball’s son, Charles, always maintained that his dad never regretted not registering the copyright as he wasn’t motivated much by money. Ball did, however, have an incentive other than cash. In 1999, he founded the World Smile Foundation, a charitable trust supporting children’s causes. The outfit now licenses Smileys and runs World Smile Day, an event celebrated the first Friday in October each year. It’s a day that emphasizes the slogans, “Do an act of kindness” and, “Help one person smile.” Ball’s Smiley is now said to be the most famous grin since the Mona Lisa’s. Footnote: When the Vietnam War was raging in the ‘70s,

businessmen brothers Bernard and Murray Spain decided to make buttons displaying Ball’s creation, adding, “Have a Nice Day” on each disc. The Spains raked in a healthy profit with sales of 50 million discs. Yep, the pair had first copyrighted that four-word phrase.

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Dating

in the age of COVID by Vanessa Salvia

Changed relationships and social lives are among the many effects of the pandemic. Some got stuck with people they didn't want, some were separated from those they wanted to be with, while others had no one to be with at all. Isolation hit hard, even for the happily single. For those seeking companionship, the dating scene has changed. Where can you meet people if you’re not going to church, stores, or the gym? Well, dating over 50 is still happening, it's just very different now. Advice columnist Amy Dickinson responded to a 55-yearold male asking what dating will be like for someone over 50 once “normalcy” resumes. Combining humor and wisdom, Dickinson suggested this universal conversation starter: "How has the pandemic treated you?” The answer, she says, will tell you a lot, such as whether a person is panicky, anxious, resilient, gloomy, or hopeful. That alone should help you decide whether to continue contact. For those who want to date now, the best bet is dating apps and chatting by video before meeting safely in person. Dickinson suggests meeting outside, wearing masks and maintaining social distance. One perk: no concerns about the check, and sex is clearly off the menu.

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Helen Fisher, a data analyst for Match.com, hypothesized in a May 2020 New York Times article that dating during the pandemic is changing in some positive ways. She says the process has slowed, so people are getting to know each other before feeling the pressure to kiss or more. It's actually a gift, she says, because this gives people time to really get to know a lot of people safely and find a truly suitable mate. Using dating apps (Match.com, eHarmony.com, OurTime.com, etc.) and video chat tools such as Zoom and Facetime requires some investment in technology, but the results can be rewarding. Once comfortable with Zoom or the like you can access endless ways to connect — with special interest groups, virtual book clubs, online classes, friends and family, and more. Safety is of utmost importance.

While online dating may seem scary, it can be done safely. After her husband died a few years ago, *Barbara began using dating apps. Her daughter *Carla says that's when the trouble started. "She gets taken advantage of on these apps because she's not savvy," says Carla. "She'll post a selfie on Facebook but try to make herself look younger and then men will message her to tell her she's beautiful and they are in love with her and she believes them." Even when Carla and her sister *Jeannie tell their mom the "guy" she's messaging seems too good to be true, Barbara doesn't believe it. "Sometimes she'll say she knows but, 'He's so sweet and keeps texting me and he really likes me and says the nicest things,' and all that kind of stuff. It's happened multiple times." If that were the end of it, it might be fine, but Barbara has given out her social security number, her birthdate and even a photo of a current utility bill. This last was after a man told Barbara he was going to make her a beneficiary of his will and needed proof of her address. "These people recognize pretty quickly that she's looking for romance and they give her what they think she wants to hear," says Carla.

Barbara suffers from loneliness due to work being curtailed and lack of visitors during COVID-19. "There's only so many hours a day she can watch TV," says Carla, "so she gets online and the people she interacts with really play into what she says she wants. They really know how to pick up on what a person's vulnerabilities are." While online dating may seem scary, it can be done safely. 2020 data from the Pew Research Center says 12 percent of Americans are in a committed relationship with or married to someone they met online. If you try it, be cautious but open to friendship. Never give out identifying information such as address, social security number, credit card info or birthdate to anyone you haven't met in person, and even then, be cautious. The Federal Trade Commision says, "Never transfer money from your bank account, buy gift cards or wire money to an online love interest. You'll never get it back." Online Dating Warning Signs

A new Facebook profile with few or no friends and only one photo and/or no recent photo

A Facebook profile with an unusual or oddly misspelled name (Eriika, Jaq) or very common

names (John, Julie, Smith, Brown)

a Nothing or very little shared on a Facebook timeline a

Photos that are too perfect (they look like models rather than everyday people or in unrealistic attire, such as a helicopter pilotâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s uniform or evening gown)

a a

No mutual friends

They are Americans living outside of the country because they are "working on an oil rig," "in the military" or a doctor with an international organization

Asking you to wire money or buy and send electronic gift cards saying they will "pay you back"

A reverse image search reveals their profile photo to be associated with other names

Falls in love or seeks involvement very quickly

Makes plans to visit but then can't because of an "emergency"

Needs money quickly because of an "emergency" If you think you or someone you know is being scammed, report it to the FTC at ftc.gov/complaint and notify the website or app. *names changed for privacy

More about "romance scams" https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/ articles/what-you-need-know-aboutromance-scams

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Dental health being impacted by COVID 19 stress, safety concerns Dentists increase Infection control and sterilization protocols to ensure safety

Maintaining good health is top of mind for many these days, and dental hygiene is an important part of the equation. Medical experts say a healthy mouth is critical to whole-body health, and warn that during COVID-19, stress-related oral health concerns are on the rise. “Dental health and overall health are intrinsically linked,” says Dr. Alice Boghosian, American Dental Association (ADA) spokesperson. “Beyond teeth and gums, the mouth serves as a window to the rest of the body, providing clues about health-related issues that may be brewing,”

Dentists reported a rise in stress-related oral health conditions in their patients. 14

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Dr. Boghosian says dental visits have always been an essential part of health care and are safe during the pandemic. Thanks to ADA and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention guidance, dentists have increased their already strong infection control and office sterilization protocols. “Routine dental exams during the pandemic can help keep your mouth and body healthy,” the doctor says. “In addition, dentists can sometimes spot signs suggestive of medical issues, alerting you to the need for medical follow-up.”

The importance of regular dental visits The ADA offers the following reasons it is important to see your dentist regularly and insights into how oral and overall health are connected: _The COVID-19 pandemic has been a tremendous source of anxiety and stress. It’s no surprise that since its onset, a majority of dentists surveyed by an ADA Health Policy Institute reported a rise in stress-related oral health conditions in their patients. If you awake with a tired or sore jaw, find you’re grinding your teeth or have a chipped or cracked tooth, a dentist can help. _Dentists’ areas of care extend beyond teeth, gums and supporting bones to include the muscles of the head, neck and jaw, the tongue, salivary glands and the nervous system of the head, neck and other areas. When appropriate, dentists can take tissue samples to screen for chronic or infectious diseases, and even oral cancer. Catching oral cancer early reduces the risk of a patient becoming one of the 10,030 Americans who die of this disease each year. _Dental visits are especially important for the 29.1 million people in the US living with diabetes or at high risk of developing it. Untreated, diabetes can take a toll on the mouth in numerous ways that can be detected by a dentist. What’s more, people with diabetes are more prone to periodontal disease, a chronic, inflammatory condition that can destroy gums, the tissues holding the teeth and even bones. Research suggests that treating gum disease and practicing good oral hygiene can help improve blood sugar control in people living with diabetes.

Healthy routine hygiene practices combined with regular dental visits are easy to do. The serious concerns that can arise when these habits aren’t practiced is an important reminder that maintenance again wins the day. The better you care for yourself, the better your body will handle whatever life throws at you. “Dentists, along with your physician and other healthcare professionals, are part of your health care team,” says Dr. Boghosian. “Your oral and overall health are our top priority.” For more dental health tips and resources, visit MouthHealthy.org. To find a dentist near you, visit FindaDentist.ada.org. Contributed by StatePoint

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Sometimes cupid throws

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n the summer of 2012, Dennis Doyle and Erica Piccolo became enamored with each other — and the hammer throw sealed the romance. It all began when, after 30 years of competitive soccer, Dennis found his future in his mailbox. A package from a lifelong soccer friend contained a hammer and the note, “Welcome to your new sport.” Dennis picked up the hammer and hasn’t put it down since. A few months later Erica was stretching on a foam roller before a CrossFit class when she heard someone mention people’s birth years. “This guy Dennis said 1966, and I said, ‘that’s a good year.’ We started talking, and I was intrigued that we were the same age — in our forties and doing CrossFit — while most of the others were in their twenties. I liked that he had a wit and good comebacks, and we joked and teased and made each other laugh. But the last thing on my mind was a relationship.” Nevertheless, one found her, over coffee before another class. Dennis, a good cook, talked about a super muffin packed with energy ingredients. Erica asked

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Erica likes the shot put, the high, triple and long jump, plus 100- and 200-meter sprints (the speed helps her with jumps). She’s made All-American twice in the hammer throw, once in the high jump, and is trying for the triple and long jump. “I always liked jumping!” she says. “I tried the discus but didn’t take to it. My small hands don’t give me a good grip. I also enjoy the shot put. Even though I had to run at practices during high school tennis in Hawaii where I grew up, I didn’t care for running. My dad was a sprinter in Hong Kong, and he encouraged me to try track and field. I didn’t try it then because I didn’t know about the fun field events.” The couple practices throwing together during track and field season when a venue is available and weather cooperates. Otherwise, they enjoy spending time together working out on a track, trails, or their home fitness equipment in Lake Oswego. They joined the Portland Masters Track Club where he is now vicepresident and she is secretary. He also runs the club’s Thursday night trainings. Since 2007 Dennis has managed the indoor soccer facility for the City of Sherwood. Currently closed due to COVID-19, he is currently working at the Sherwood Senior Center prepping and delivering meals to seniors. Erica, who has an 18-year-old daughter, Ashley, and a 20-year-old son, Hunter, was a certified CrossFit coach. She liked that the hammer throw put all her CrossFit training to work, giving it purpose. A licensed lawyer in Hawaii, she works locally as a paralegal, undecided about taking the Oregon bar. They now attend every meet together, and while they enter just about every event, the favorite for

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I’d like to share something special with all you fabulous readers, a story about love, and everyday heroes. I received a special delivery, just for me this Christmas, made possible by a series of everyday heroes who all went “beyond the call.” My heart tells me my Dad, long departed from this world, is smiling about it. I’m not saying he was involved; I’m not saying he wasn’t.

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I had mourned the passing of my black Ragamuffin* kitty, AsTar, since November 2018. Her personality was going to be a tough act to follow; the piece I wrote in her memory won my first national award from the Cat Writers Association. I followed various breeders, seeking another black kitten, but Ragamuffins are rare. I tried adopting, but someone else was always there first. I found a gorgeous Maine Coon kitten last fall, my first experience with the breed. Lady Petra Bella Luna is striking, with lots of Tortie-tude. Still, my thoughts wandered to a little black kitty friend — for her (wink). Petra kept growing up, and a companion wasn’t found while she was small.

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Sometime last summer, a small-town police officer on night patrol discovered a wee black kitten. No other animals or people were around. The baby was under two pounds, certainly not ready to fly solo. Into the squad car the orphan went. The officer couldn’t work his shift with a sooty little shotgun rider, so he took the time and effort to ensure the little one was in safe hands with animal control. The shelter wasn’t really equipped for cats, but they went the extra mile (see the theme?), taking in the little waif and promising to figure it out. After many calls, the kittenwith-a-rap-sheet was off to a rescue that primarily handled ferals and strays. There he was placed in a roomy wire play enclosure. He immediately climbed the sidewall and just hung there, looking for all the world like a little bat. The name stuck. Days stretched into weeks. Kitties came and went through the facility. Trap/neuter/release efforts were ongoing, and soon Bat was neutered — earning his badge, a tipped ear. If unfamiliar, feral cats, which typically can’t be tamed, are trapped humanely,

spayed or neutered, and released back to their territory. Their ear tips are clipped to show they’ve been altered. I follow many fosters and rescues on social media and one pivotal day connected with Bat’s foster mom. I happened to mention I’d been looking for a black kitten, but that it had to be the right kitten. I explained that Miss Petra Bella Luna is a diva, and that her breeder recommended a male kitten — quiet, submissive, etc. She replied, “Well, I think I have him….” All the boxes seemed to check off. And the backstory of an officer picking him up at night — well, who couldn’t love a kitten with a rap sheet? Soon he was home. After the usual hiccups — initial separate rooms, Petra looking at me like “WHAT have you done to me?” and the typical stress-related sniffles, we can finally say, Bat came home for Christmas. If I didn’t know better, I’d wonder at times if AsTar was back; especially when something SO small makes SO much noise running through the house — another thunder bunny.

I didn’t name names or locations in this telling in hopes you’ll look at every officer, every animal control building, and every feral cat rescuer and think, “It could’ve been them.” I believe angels come in all shapes and sizes — maybe some have wings, others, paws. I think quite a few drive squad cars or scrub cages at shelters. Maybe some magically transform from hissing kittens to kissing kittens. Let’s appreciate them all.

Note: The Ragamuffin is a breed of domestic cat. Once considered a variant of the Ragdoll cat, it was established as a separate breed in 1994. Ragamuffins are notable for their friendly personalities and thick, rabbit-like fur. Wikipedia.

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