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3. Cultural Diversity Office celebrates Black History Month with on-campus events

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Cultural Diversity Office celebrates Black History Month with on-campus events

Events this year include an Afro-Caribbean cooking class, a cultural fashion show and more

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This year, Black History Month events on campus are being held in person for the first time since the COVID-19 pandemic began.

The University of Guelph’s Cultural Diversity Team was founded in 2017 and works to ensure that Black and racialized students are provided support through cultural advisors, mentorship, discussions, workshops and more.

“[The creation of the Cultural Diversity Office] was in response to demands that a number of Black students on campus had in terms of the institution not meeting the needs of Black students,” said Alexis Charles, cultural diversity advisor.

Charles explained that microaggressions, macroaggressions and discrimination in the classroom were factors that led Black and racialized students to demand programming based around their culture.

Under the Cultural Diversity programming umbrella is Black

History Month events, which the Cultural Diversity team plans every year. Past years have had events like candle-making workshops and paint nights. This year’s will focus on Black achievements.

“We'll be kicking off with a concert with an artist named TOVA, who has become popular in the GTA,” said Amelia Kezaabu, member of the Black History Month committee and co-president of The African Students Association.

“He's a new artist and has been nominated for a few awards. So with our theme being Black achievements, we thought it was fitting to start with a young Black person who is achieving a lot in the music industry.”

Kezaabu said the concert will be followed by a panel discussion featuring professors who will speak on their journeys as Black professionals in academia.

Charles said the Cultural Diversity team is also bringing back their Afro-Caribbean cooking class

for the third year in a row.

“We have a local chef join us and teach us how to make some delicious Afro-Caribbean dishes.

So things like rice and peas, jerk chicken, curry, chickpeas, fried plantains,” Charles said. “It’s an opportunity for folks to come and learn how to make these dishes.”

Another event, which is taking place on Feb. 10, is a movie night where the Sexual and Gender Diversity Team is teaming up with the Cultural Diversity Team for a screening of the 2016 film Moonlight, which focuses the struggle with identity and sexuality.

There is also a Black History Month Cultural Fashion Show, a winter edition of the Black-Owned Market and special edition of Quad Nights that allows students to rollerskate in Peter Clark Hall, among other events.

However, the main event of Black History Month on campus is the keynote address taking place on Feb. 28 in the event centre at

the Guelph Gryphons Athletics Centre.

The keynote speaker this year is Payton Head, a leader in combating institutionalized, systemic racism.

Charles explained that Head was the president of the Missouri Students Association at a pivotal moment. She said that he led the #BlackOnCampus rallies that demanded institutional change at Mizzou, the University of Missouri.

After the Missouri rally, many universities followed suit, including the University of Guelph.

“He will be delivering a presentation on intentional intersectional leadership,” Charles said.

“So, basically encouraging students to use their voice to find their voice to push for change, whether within this institution or elsewhere in the

larger society.”

Kezaabu said events like this help to show the commitment the University has for supporting Black students and ensuring they have a safe space.

“Just knowing that the school takes pride in arranging these spaces and supporting these spaces goes a long way to show that we are appreciated and like we are valued on campus as Black students, not just as students,” Kezaabu said. Those wishing to get involved, or those who are looking to connect with the Cultural Diversity Office can visit uoguelph.ca/studentexperience/cultural-diversity/ to sign up for their newsletter.

A full list of Black History Month events can be found on Pg. 22 in The Ontarion’s to-do list and on gryphlife.ca.

Keeping the care in reproductive healthcare

What is reproductive healthcare, how does Canada protect reproductive rights, and what can you do about it?

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ast year we witnessed a terrifying setback on reproductive healthcare with the overturning of Roe v. Wade, a 1973 U.S. Supreme Court ruling that established abortion access as a constitutional right. This isn’t merely a single step backwards on bodily autonomy; the decision sets a dangerous precedent for reproductive rights not just for the United-States, but for everyone around the world who continues to struggle with access to these essential services.

But how much does reproductive healthcare encompass, and how can we in Canada continue to fight for our rights to our own bodies?

What is reproductive healthcare?

According to the World Health Organization, healthcare “enables health systems to support a person’s health needs–from health promotion to disease prevention, treatment, rehabilitation, palliative care and more. This strategy also ensures that healthcare is delivered in a way that is centred on people’s needs and respects their preferences.”

Further, healthcare must address “the majority of a person’s health needs throughout their lifetime,” including their physical, mental, and social wellbeing.

For reproductive health services, this means that care is “not merely the absence of disease or infirmity,” but all matters relating to the reproductive system, its functions, and its processes.

Therefore, practising reproductive health means being able to have a safe sex life and the freedom to choose if, when, and how often to reproduce. However, the Government of Canada website estimates that only 55 per cent of married women across the world make their own decisions about sexual relations, the use of contraception, and reproductive health services. On top of that, approximately 257 million women using contraception are not using safe methods, and contraceptive use is 53 per cent lower among women who have experienced intimate partner violence.

Further, there are about 121 million unintended pregnancies around the world every year, 60 per cent of which end in abortion.

45 per cent of abortions are performed unsafely and lead to the hospitalisation of 7 million wom-

en a year, five to 13 per cent of which result in maternal deaths.

Given these statistics, the lack of access to reproductive services consistently results in physical, mental, and social harm to the individual. So, although some leaders around the world have agreed to restrict reproductive services, what they’re ultimately doing is denying individuals their human right to essential healthcare.

What is Canada doing to protect reproductive healthcare, and can it do more?

According to the same government website mentioned above, Canada made a 10-year commitment in 2019 to reach an average of $1.4 billion in funding each year to support women’s, children’s, and adolescent’s health around the world. This investment reportedly expands access to safe abortion and post-abortion care, comprehensive sexuality education, support to family planning, and prevention of sexual and gender-based violence. But with that said, there is still plenty more that our country could be doing better.

Andrea Gunraj is the vice president of public engagement at the Canadian Women’s Foundation (CWF), and during “Alright, Now What,” a CWF podcast se-

ries, she discussed reproductive rights on our side of the border.

“The ability to make informed choices about your health and access health services should be a basic right,” said Gunraj during the podcast. “In Canada, even with the legislative standards and legal precedence in place, the lived reality of women, girls, and Two Spirit, trans, and non-binary people have not matched that right. Their autonomy, safety, self-determination, and ability to make true choices have suffered.”

gation.

“I never had any thoughts about a tubal ligation,” said the anonymous woman. “I felt like the life of my unborn child was in my hands if I didn’t sign the documents fast enough.”

In addition to this awful practice, even some of our law-protected services remain difficult to access for many Canadians.

Jacqueline Villeneuve-Ahmed is a Sudbury-based doula, and she told CBC that many Canadians “aren't provided with the information starting from when we learn about reproductive health as to where we can access abortion services.” Additionally, those in rural areas often need to travel far to get an abortion.

What can you do to protect reproductive healthcare?

So if a lot of Canada’s lacking reproductive healthcare services are a result of laws and direct implementation, you must now be wondering, “what can I do about it?” As it turns out, there’s plenty for you to do.

And of course, support your local sexual health centres, racial justice organisations, and disability rights organisations. If you can’t donate or volunteer, even just joining their newsletters and showing up to their events can be a great show of support towards reproductive healthcare rights.

“And the basic, but also fundamental part of responding and contributing to positive change is to have those conversations with your community, with your family, with your friends, to be really open to having those hard conversations,” said Doherty. “The personal is political.”

As just one example of this lack of bodily autonomy, a Senate report calling to criminalise forced sterilisation in Canada was only filed in July of last year, according to CBC News. To this day, forced sterilisation continues to disproportionately affect First Nations, Métis and Inuit women, Black and racialized women, persons with disabilities, intersex children and institutionalised persons.

An anonymous Indigenous survivor of forced sterilisation said in the Senate report that she gave birth to her son in 2018 via caesarean delivery. While she was in labour, the doctors brought the papers to authorise the caesarean, but they also brought up tubal li-

"That can be not only very financially draining for families, but also very emotionally draining, having to go to an entirely different community just to access a medical abortion.”

All in all, Canada has the foundation set to protect most–not all–reproductive rights, and federal institutions do offer some funding for support and advocacy, but these rights don’t hold up as well in practice. Furthermore, explicit policies desperately need to be put in place to prevent any further medical abuse on vulnerable populations.

Meghan Doherty is the director of global policy and advocacy at Action Canada for Sexual Health and Rights. Gunraj spoke with Doherty who said, “what’s happening in the U.S. right now is the result of over 20 years of work by essentially anti-democratic actors to erode sexual and reproductive rights at the local level, at the state level, and now … [at the federal level].” She urges Canadians to stay informed on where their local representatives stand on reproductive rights and to be vocal with them on their stance.

If you’re a student, you can also advocate for better sex ed.

“In medical schools, the average training around medical abortion provision is less than an hour, so demand greater training for abortion provision,” said Doherty.

University of Guelph to limit use of Lockdown Browser for winter semester

The move comes after an email was sent to students explaining the flaws of the program

ALEXANDER BRADSHAW

Due to inequities brought about by the software, the University of Guelph will no longer be using the Respondus Browser for the Winter 2023 term.

The Respondus Monitor was a companion application for the LockDown browser that used webcams and other video software to not only support academic integrity but also deter cheating during online tests and exams.

Since it has been implemented, students have challenged the idea of using the Respondus Monitor. When Respondus first became used by the school, 4700 students

showed clear, negative feelings toward the idea and signed a petition, according to an article published in The Ontarion in 2020.

Today, that number of students who have signed the petition has increased by almost another five hundred. Those who have signed the petition are unequivocally against the use of this software, as it is too invasive for them to be comfortable during already stressful times.

From the lack of a stable WiFi connection to eyes drifting off the screen there are many different issues that could cause a student

to be flagged down for suspicious movement. As pressure affects people differently, there is no way of knowing what a student does and why.

According to GuelphToday. com, there have been complaints and petitions from both faculty and students for over a year. Officials from the University of Guelph say the school will take a step away from the software that monitors exams this semester.

Respondus Monitor has shown to complicate already serious issues with disabilities such as ADHD/ADD, Tourette’s syn-

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Two Years Later: U of G students are remembered

January marks two years since the fatal plane crash that killed two University of Guelph Students

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On Jan. 8, 2020, a passenger plane was shot down near Tehran, Iran, by the Islamic Revolutionary Guard Corps. There were no survivors. On board were 176 passengers including 46 students, faculty, and researchers from 19 different Canadian Universities, as well as two University of Guelph students.

Ghanimat Azhdari was a PhD student who studied within the Department of Geography, Environment and Geomatics. She was

a member of the Qashqai tribe and studied Indigenous peoples-led conservation and governance.

Milad Ghasemi Ariani was also studying towards his PhD, in the Department of Marketing and Consumer Studies. His research focused on the best way to launch new products in the consumer market.

Both were returning to Canada after visiting family in Iran.

Since the crash, there has been a serious lack of justice and account-

drome, epilepsy, as well as for students of colour and transgender students.

Respondus Monitor has been already complicating things for students living with disabilities. It also unfairly targeted students with darker skin tones and students who identify as trans or non-binary, according to GuelphToday.com.

As the software isn’t aligned with the school’s values and the values of the President’s Advisory Committee on Anti-Racism (PACAR), the use of Respondus will not be completely terminated.

University of Guelph Aca-

demic Vice-President and Provost Gwen Chapman said to GuelphToday.com that the University has a “commitment to ensuring that students have opportunities to demonstrate achievement of learning outcomes.”

Students during the winter semester will still have the option to refuse the program due to concerns about their human rights. Chapman indicated that even though the school does not have any future plans to adopt any comparable software, the Lockdown Browser will still be in use in instances like socially distanced learning.

The season of love is here, and it's the perfect time to immerse yourself in the stories that will make you feel love, desire, joy and of course a little bit of heartache too. These fantastic reads will explore the complexities of queer identity, romance and self-acceptance.

The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller

“He is half of my soul, as the poets say.”

This novel is a retelling of the culturally significant Iliad from the perspective of Patroclus, the closest companion to Greek hero Achilles. Readers can explore how their infamous relationship evolves right from their first encounter to their last. Even as these complex characters learn the art of war and follow their paths of destiny, their love and intimate relationship remain the true focus of the novel. Filled with adventure, companionship and sacrifice, this book is one that will not disappoint.

“He smiles, and he’s made of trouble”

Magic, monsters, ghosts and vampires, are all things you can find in this thrilling romance novel by Rainbow Rowell. The book follows Simon Snow, the chosen one, entering his last year of Watford School of Magicks. After a rocky start to the school year, his mysterious and potentially blood-sucking roommate Baz lingers in his mind. When a ghost comes to visit in the night, Simon discovers there’s more to Baz than he thought. In this nemesis-to-lovers storyline, readers can explore how two lost boys find each other amidst the chaos of their magical and mysterious world.

Initially, Ukraine investigated the incident but the pandemic and invasion from Russia have hindered progress. The Royal Canadian Mounted Police stated that the matter was complex and evidence was inaccessible in Iran.

The families argue that the plane was deliberately shot down and there has been no justice for those who lost their lives or loved ones. This is felt around the

ability, which is felt most deeply by the families and communities continuing to come to terms with the loss.

Due to the lack of independent investigation, the harassment that grieving families have been subjected to, as well as the obstruction from the Iranian authorities, the families of the victims have submitted a request for the International Criminal Court (ICC) to conduct an investigation as a potential crime against humanity.

world, particularly here on campus as two of our own students lost their lives.

Following the incident, the University of Guelph participated in

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid

“I have been married seven times, and never once has it felt half as right as this. I think that loving you has been the truest thing about me”

This novel explores the flawed, glamorous and beautiful life of a woman named Evelyn Hugo set in the dazzling time of old Hollywood. Long after her time in the spotlight, Evelyn recounts her life to an unknown reporter, revealing the secrets and desires of her past and present. Readers have the opportunity to immerse themselves in the scandalous world of this movie icon, learning the truths of her forbidden love and the intricacies of life and identity as a queer woman.

“Well…I think he might maybe like me back”

Heartstopper follows the heartwarming story of two teenage boys that find themselves in an unlikely friendship when they sit together on the first day of school.

Main character Charlie Spring is a shy and kindhearted individual who’s faced bullying and hardship after being the only openly gay boy at Truham Boys High School.

Charlie’s relationship with caring rugby player Nick evolves from friendship to something more as Nick struggles to discover and accept his sexuality. This moving graphic novel explores themes of friendship, love and acceptance of one’s self.

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“That's the choice. I love him, with all that, because of all that. On purpose. I love him on purpose.”

The President’s son Alex Clairmont Diaz and the Queen’s grandson, Henry the prince of England end up intertwined in a media scandal after they end up in an altercation at a royal wedding. These two seemingly opposite boys are thrust together in an attempt by their families to repair the American and British relations in the press. Throughout the novel, these boys realize that they have more in common than once believed and their relationship evolves into something unexpected.

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Examining the importance of showcasing Indigenous artwork in a mainstream gallery, like the Art Gallery of Guelph

ADAM TRIPP

Art exists at a crossroads. Initially, one might view a work of art as a profoundly personal act of expression on behalf of the artist, meant to share and explore their own rich history. However, once displayed, the public perception of that art and the larger message that becomes attached to that work of art becomes an equally important part of its existence.

Such is the case for the Indigenous Artists and their works that were displayed in the Art Gallery of Guelph, (AGG). Two exhibits, titled “Quatamaat”, curated by Taqralik Partridge and “For Catherine”, curated by Erin Szikora, lay within this crossroads, as they both represent personal and cultural connections that these artists have made to their cultures and histories.

Paige Saunders, a member of the Cree Métis, and a graduate student at the University of Guelph who is currently completing her Masters of Anthropology degree, spoke with The Ontarion

about the exhibits and indigenous representation in mainstream art.

Saunders spoke about the ways in which these exhibits filled her with pride, and represented the beginning of a necessary resurgence of Indigenous art. Saunders noted that, in 2018, there had been considerably less indigenous art than there is now, and the exhibit at the AGG shows current and future indigenous students that it is possible to produce and have their art displayed.

Saunders said she was drawn to two particular themes when she viewed the displays, which were language and beadwork.

In regards to “Quatamaat”, it demonstrates Inuit history through language, and how even personal stories and events become a part of one's personal and communal history. Saunders explained that language is such a large part of revitalization, as there are so few fluent speakers left within the communities. She said language must be preserved,

so that the future generations of first nations can know and feel familiar with their native tongue.

Similarly, the beadwork displayed in “For Catherine” left Saunders in awe. Even someone with no serious experience with any kind of beadwork would be blown away by the beautiful intricacies and the effort it took to make these works of art.

As well, the story of Catherine (Hill) Silver—a Mohawk beadworker from Six Nations of the Grand River— and her work being refused as it was deemed “not suitable” for its engagement with modernity. Without question, the importance of this display is not lost, as its curator Erin Szikora is a descendant of Silver. Saundersis just learning beadwork herself, and for her to see this display helps her and others to connect to their ancestors, who paved the way for them. The skill and techniques inspired Saunders, as seeing her ancestors' skill on display was truly a moving experience for

herself.

One thing the exhibit highlights is the importance of representation, and the impact it can truly have.

While the aesthetic beauty and talent of the artists displayed through their art leaves the viewer in awe, Saunders related her personal connections to these displays that allows the viewer to grasp the importance of these works.

Saunders said she wants Indigenous people to know that it is possible for them. The resilience of Indigenous peoples that has brought beautiful works of art out of pain and suffering is crucial to appreciating these works, and more importantly that these works of art demonstrate that indigenous people do not have to settle or resign themselves to a single box.

The experience of Indigenous people is valid and should

shared with

and others, works of art such as these, and even curated exhibits like “Quatamaat” and “For Catherine” present a beacon of hope for future generations.

In the future to come, Saunders hopes to see more Indigenous representation in as many different areas as possible, because we both know anyone is capable of creating something great.

Given society's current climate, it is easy to notice how social media has effectively programmed society to become an outlet for social networking founded on the premise of curated personas, half-truths, and fabrications.

As a society, we have found ourselves in an era formed on the notion that photoshop, buying likes and followers, and fake news are considered the standard, and to experience hardship is unheard of. This is because we have been conditioned with an urgency to prove ourselves, not only in the real world but online as well. For some people, the latter is more so a concern.

dards that nobody can reach.

Essentially, we are composing all of our favourite qualities and collecting our favourite moments of ourselves and presenting them to the world to control our narrative. However, this narrative does not limit itself strictly to proving our individuality, but also, and some may say, more commonly, our relationships, especially with Valentine's Day looming over our heads.

During times like these, it seems impossible to escape the pull from these unrealistic standards. But sometimes, you must unsubscribe from this mentality and remember that social media is not black and white. You can't look through a couple's highlight reel and assume they are perfect. It's no different than posting a photo of yourself smiling when your day was anything but smiles in reality. So don't waste your time looking over at the grass on the other side, especially when so many people would be overjoyed to feel your love and appreciation this Valentine's Day season.

Of course, I am not insinuating that everything and everyone you see on social media is all an act, but what I am saying is that social media is a highlight reel. More often than not, it is our best and happiest fifteen minutes from our day, week, and even years for some people. It could be a graduation, an engagement announcement, or a tropical vacation. These are the moments we want our friends, family, and even strangers to see. It's easy to put on a smile and act like everything is okay, even when it's not. And this is a direct product of society's behaviour that continues to perpetuate this flawed belief that encourages us to share our inauthentic selves and continuously sets unrealistic stan-

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Arguably, this inauthenticity is slowly starting to crash because society has begun to crack open the window of authenticity, not only wanting to see the good and the bad but also appreciating the vulnerability that comes with sharing those not-so-great moments. This resurgence of individuality and imperfections has been far more well-received through media and consumption.

And with that being said, social media’s authenticity is still a work in progress. And people are still treating specific platforms as highlight-reels. But that should prove to you that even during holidays like Valentine's Day, not every relationship is perfect, no matter how well they take their photos this year.

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Top 10 best antivalentine’s day albums

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1. Sour - Olivia Rodrigo

From the punky guitar on Good 4 U to the vocal harmonies on Driver’s License It was pretty obvious this was going to be a true hit record. There’s really nothing quite like screaming along to this album in your bedroom or car on a rainy day.

2. Thank U, Next - Ariana Grande

If you’ve just gone through a breakup, but know you’re an absolute baddie who can roll with the punches - this one’s for you! Between Ari’s vocal chops, the catchy beats and the earworm choruses, you’ll get wrapped up in living your best life so much you’ll forget about what’s-theirname? Thank U, Next!

ed for a grammy award in the Best Music Video category. It also reminded us all that Jake Gyllenhall still has Taylor’s scarf and made us wonder if he remembers it all too well?

4. Rumours - Fleetwood Mac

I know your parents probably go on and on about this album - but there’s a reason! Fleetwood Mac is notorious for dating each other, breaking up and creating this classic album. It includes hits like Landslide and The Chain and is definitely a must-listen for anybody interested in classic rock.

5. Cuz I

Love You - Lizzo

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6. Melodrama - Lorde

It wouldn’t be fair to not include Melodrama It’s one of the best albums of the 2010s and perfectly captures coming of age in that moment. Highlights on this album include Green Light and Perfect Places. But Supercut is the real reason this album makes the list. It will always hold a special place in our hearts.

7. 21 - Adele

21 is one of those albums that’s so good it hits you right in the feels. WIth mega-hits like Rolling In The Deep, Someone Like You and Rumour Has It this album will get you dancing, laughing and sobbing within its 48-minute run time. Every album is an emotional rollercoaster, but this one is a classic.

Feet on it, You Oughta Know smacks it right in its face and brings the rage in a moment when you feel like you really need it.

9. Back to Black - Amy Winehouse

You go back to her, I’ll go listen to Back

To Black Amy Winehouse’s luscious voice paired with the old-school vibes and a message about self-medicating with substances after a rough breakup hits hard. Even though this album features the upbeat Valerie, songs like Rehab, Tears Dry on Their Own, and the title track, Back To Black create a sultry experience for those looking for a retro vibe.

10. Happier Than EverBillie Eilish

What flower is a Scorpio, anyway?

It can be hard to choose what type of flowers to get your partner. Luckily, we’ve put together a list of what type of flowers you should get for your special someone based on their zodiac sign.

Aries (Ram): March 21–April 19

Taurus (Bull): April 20–May 20

Gemini (Twins): May 21–June 21

Cancer (Crab): June 22–July 22

Leo (Lion): July 23–August 22

Virgo (Virgin): August 23–September 22

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Red (Taylor’s Version) - Taylor Swift

This album is absolutely stacked with perfect hits how can it not be on this list? Taylor’s version has the 10-minute version of All Too Well which is nominat-

This is the perfect album for sitting with your friends and trash-talking your ex over a glass of wine. Lizzo is an absolute powerhouse during this album and it features the songs we heard when we were first introduced to her. If you don’t dance around your kitchen to Truth Hurts who even are you?

8. Jagged Little PillAlanis Morissette

I want you to know that I’m in love with this album. I wish nothing but the best for you if you listen to this one. Besides being Canadian content, this album is on this list because it captures a wide range of emotions. Even though it has Head Over

Needed to put the album on this list for the oxytocin. Billie’s sophomore album dives into her feelings while growing up, exploring new romantic relationships and dealing with fame. The title track starts as a beautiful ukulele ballad that turns into a rock song and takes the song in a completely different direction. It’s a great listen to anyone experiencing these feelings for the first time.

Tulip Tulips are often associated with energy and passion, which is a perfect combination for an Aries. Their wild range of colours allows them to stand out in a crowd and be beautiful all on their own, just like an aries.

Libra (Balance): September 23–October 23

Rose Roses are the epitome of love and grace. These flowers are great for Taurus’, who often appreciate the more glamorous side of life. You really can’t go wrong with roses too, which is a good thing to think about when shopping for a picky taurus.

Scorpio (Scorpion): October 24–November 21

Lavender

Gemini’s are often quick witted and can often be associated with devious twins. That’s why calming lavender is the perfect flower to balance these air signs out. They smell as delicious as geminis do and look as gorgeous as they smell, just like a gemini.

Sagittarius (Archer): November 22December 21

Gardenia

Gardenias are gorgeous white flowers that resemble the moon, which is cancer’s ruling planet. These flowers are said to resemble purity and generosity, which fits in perfectly with cancer’s love of family and tightknit friendships

Capricornus (Goat): December 22–January 19

Sunflower

Leos are sunflowers for obvious reasons. They grow during leo season and often steal the show in floral arrangements. Sunflowers stand for adoration and loyalty, which is just what the inner lion in leo wants and needs to thrive.

Aquarius (Water Bearer): January 20–February 18

Chrysanthemum

These are the perfect flower for virgos because they bring joy wherever they go, and they come in a variety of colours - they can even be dyed. Virgos love changing their looks up and inspiring others with real happiness and thoughtfulness, thus making Chrysanthemums the optimal choice for your virgo partner.

Pisces (Fish): February 19–March 20

Orchid

Libras and orchids are very similar. They’re both seen as thoughtful, charming and they both stand for refinement. Libra’s are naturally charming without even realizing it and truly appreciate their relationships, but they aren’t afraid to be a little boujee and enjoy the finer things in life.

Peony

Peonies are pretty flowers that are said to bring joy to scorpios. Peonies symbolize happiness, wealth and love, which are definitely characteristics that scorpio lovers are all about when they’re looking for their special somebody.

Carnation

Carnations symbolize fascination, love and adaptability. Sagittarius’ are known for their ability to shapeshift and reach their goals by any means necessary. These resilient flowers and zodiac signs belong together like chocolate and peanut butter.

Lotus Flower

The lotus symbolizes strength and rebirth. Since capricorn season is when we start off the new year, it makes sense that they would be associated with the lotus. The lotus is also a symbol for healing and rebirth, which is why soothing capricorn is a great match for this flower.

Daisy

Daisies are like an aquarius because they both have the ability to light up someone’s day. They’re both fun-loving, free-spirited and graceful. They also are a great match for aquarius’ because of their ability to be independent - something an aquarius knows all about.

Lilies

Lilies are a beautiful flower that represents love and devotion. As a water sign, pisces’ love fiercely and love hard. Their beauty is the thing that attracts their partners, but their crazy personality makes them stay. Like a lily, pisces are beautiful and worthwhile.

Speak the language of love fluently

Exploring the love languages, effective communication and showing love in your own unique way

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The concept of love languages was first introduced by an American author, Dr. Gary Chapman. It was first talked about in his book, The Five Love Languages:

How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate in which he introduced the five broad types of love languages, namely Words of Affirmation, Acts of service, Receiving Gifts, Physical Touch and Quality time.

The love languages can be a fun way for people in romantic relationships to better understand each other. However, it’s important to not take them too seriously.

“Dr. Chapman doesn’t seem to have any relevant background for writing about mental health, including relational mental health,” said Dr. Ruth Neustifter, an associate professor at the University of Guelph. Neustifter is also the Co-Editor of Participator which is the official academic journal for the Canadian Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

“While his writing sounds very confident and fact-based, I am not aware of any research at all to support his ideas,” they said.

While these love languages

may be problematic in their inception, they provide a fun way to categorize how we feel in our relationships and they also encourage us to be more caring toward our partner in our everyday actions.

Neustifter shared how in their own personal relationships, they create notes that remind them of things their loved ones like or important dates. They said it’s all part of actions that are rooted in mutual sharing, remembering, and frequently making time to act in meaningful ways.

“There are many ways to make a practice of sitting down regularly to communicate with each other, without rush or interruption, for at least 30 minutes each day,” Neustifter said. “Show your partner that you adore them and are fascinated by getting to know them, how they change and grow, and what their life is like.”

Neustifter encourages everyone to find ways to show love in their own unique way. Whether it be taking time out of the day for a quick snuggle, or completing a daunting task for your partner, it’s little things that count.

As for love languages, they can provide a good jumping off point for those looking for a way to best express their love in a way their partner will resonate with. Here is a breakdown of the different love languages and what they mean:

• Words of AffirmationWords are what matter to you, be it verbal confirmation, words of affection and love. You love hearing and saying ‘I love you(s)’ to your partner. It can also look like writing letters to your partner or even if you see them every day, sending cute, heartfelt messages to your partner throughout the day.

• Acts of Service - You like to express your love and affection for your partner by doing selfless acts for them, they can range from making a meal for them or even drawing them a bath on a stressful day.

• Receiving Gifts - Tangible tokens of love and thoughtfulness are what make your heart

full and make you feel appreciated by your partner. It can be anything from a bracelet to your partner bringing a meal for you at your work or school.

Physical Touch - You feel more connected to your partner and appreciate it when you are cuddled, hugged or kissed by them.

Quality Time - You like to spend undivided time with your partner, without any distractions or any foreign thoughts. You intentionally take out time to spend with your partner and appreciate it if someone does the same for you.

Confused on which love language speaks to you? Take this quiz to find out!

1. What is your idea of a perfect date?

A. Poetry reading in a coffee shop

B. Making a dinner for your partner

C. Going shopping together

6. What would be your dream house?

A. Apartment

B. Townhome

C. Penthouse Condo

D. Cuddling and movie night D. Standalone home

Mostly A’s: You got words of affirmation!

This means you like to verbally let your partner know how much they mean to you and you like hearing how much you mean to them in return.

“Don’t stop there, though! Make up your own list, invite your sweetheart to do the same, and spend time exploring all of the different forms that emotional intimacy and acts of love and appreciation can take,” Neustifter said. “Take time to notice when love is shown, and to both request and give feedback on how to make your words and actions more meaningful to each other."

Ever since the concept was talked about in 1992, it has deeply resonated with people as they see and relate to one or more of these love languages which help them express their love for their partner and even for their platonic relationships, more authentically and in a fulfilling manner.

Neustifter said that for anyone anxious about beginning the conversation surrounding love languages and how to better express your emotions with partners, psychotherapy could be a great place to start.

“If that’s not of interest or not accessible, then you could also share a book or article on the topic to broach the idea of learning more about what helps each other feel authentically loved and appre-

ciated,” they said.

The introduction of this concept could also help some realize that sometimes, in relationships, no matter how much people love each other, their actions may get lost in translation and may lead to unwanted miscommunication in their relationship.

E. Going for a walk together

2. How do you like to greet your partner?

A. “You look beautiful today!”

B. “I made this coffee for you!”

C. “I bought you this because it made me think of you!”

D. No words, just a kiss

E. “I’m looking forward to spending time together tonight!”

Neustifter also pointed out that sometimes the concept of love languages can show what others may be missing in their relationships.

“In my own practice I meet many people who are big fans of Love Languages,” they said. “What I often find is that it is more revealing about what is currently missing in their relationship than about what type of person their or their partner is. In other words, I’ve found that some of the people I work with tend to shift their love languages depending on how life and love is going for them.”

The best way to avoid miscommunication is to ask your partner how they want to be loved and how you can love them best. You can start by finding what their love language is and share yours with them too so that you can express your love for them just the way they like it, and they love you, just the way you want to be loved!

If you are looking for a jumping-off point to increase your romantic communication, you can take the quiz on the next page to find out yours, or your partner's love language. Just remember to not take it too seriously and that different people love differently.

3. What gift would you love to give to your partner?

A. A love letter

B. Relaxation/Spa day

C. Self-care kit

D. Massage

E. An activity to do together

4. Where would you like to go on vacation with your partner?

A. Fergus, Ontario

B. Banff, Alberta

C. Vancouver, B.C.

D. Halifax, Nova Scotia

E. Muskoka / Cottage Country

5. You and your partner just got into a fight, how do you apologize?

A. Singing an original love song

B. Breakfast in bed

C. Buy them a nice card and some chocolate

D. Kiss them all over

E. Take them out to a fancy dinner

E. Tiny home

7. On a typical Friday night, you and your partner like to…

A. Watch a romantic comedy together

B. Create pottery together

C. Go to a concert or musical

D. Go to the gym

E. Go out for drinks

8. How would you describe your relationship in one word?

A. Fulfilling

B. Thoughtful

C. First class

D. Dynamite

E. Splendid

9. Where do you see your relationship in the next 5 years?

A. Getting married and writing our own original vows

B. Living in the country raising a bunch of dogs

C. Drinking on a yacht in the Bahamas

D. Raising children in the suburbs

E. Living our best lives as the power couple we are

10. What city do you see you and your partner living in the future?

A. Paris, France

B. Delhi, India

C. Milan, Italy

D. Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

E. Cape Town, South Africa

Mostly B’s: You got acts of service!

This means you like to show in your actions your love for your partner and appreciate when they show in their actions their love for you.

Mostly C’s:

You got receiving gifts!

This means you measure your love in gifts! You appreciate when your partner sees something, thinks of you, and buys it. Also vice versa.

Mostly D’s: You got physical touch!

This means that you show your love through physical touch and appreciate it when your partner reciprocates with the same steam you bring to the bedroom.

Mostly E’s: You got quality time!

This means you know time matters in this fast-paced world. You try to give your partner the time they deserve and want them to give you their time in return.

WONDERING WHEN YOU’LL FINALLY MEET THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE?

Will it be at your local coffee shop? Or will you meet them on Hinge? Now you can find out! The Ontarion has put together a fortune teller to let you know where to hang around to help you make connections and fall in love this year. You can use our already filled out fortune teller, or you can use the blank one and create your own destiny! Start by picking a colour and a number, and let the fortune teller reveal your fate.

Reminder: You are in charge of your own destiny. Make the choices that are best for you!

Be mine - on a budget

How to celebrate your love without killing your credit card

With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, some might be concerned about the financial burden of making big gestures to show their love to their significant other. But don’t worry, there are many ways for one to show their love without going over budget. Below is a list of five inexpensive date ideas in and around the Guelph area:

warm place to read, eat, and play with the cute kitties–and best of all, it costs only $8 for 50 minutes. All cats at the café are up for adoption, so if there is one you really love, you could become their forever home.

Market Square Skating Rink

The Market Square skate rink, located right outside of city hall, is an awesome place to take a friend or loved one. Especially during the night when the sparkling bright lights are shining, it is quite a romantic atmosphere indeed. If you do not have skates already, the T & T Hockey Shop Source for Sports offers skate rentals and is located just across the street.

Exploring Local Nature or The City

My Kitty Café

Located in the centre of downtown, My Kitty Café is a wonderful little spot to visit if you are of the feline persuasion. Cats of all different breeds make this cozy hangout their home. It is a wonderful and

Weather permitting, it is never a bad idea to take a loved one for a scenic walk. Especially in the falling snow, a romantic walk through our beautiful city can set the mood and cost nothing at the same time. Recommended scenic routes include the Arboretum, Guelph Lake Conservation Area, and the downtown trails along Speed River.

Open Mic Night at the Bullring

Each Wednesday night, from 7 p.m. to 10 p.m., the Bullring hosts an open mic night for local talent in the Guelph area. From acoustic and electric performances, to comedy, poetry, and dance, this is a great place to take a date if you are looking for a night of free entertainment.

Art Gallery of Guelph

With free admission to all, the Art Gallery of Guelph is a great place to explore and enjoy local artists from Guelph and its surrounding areas. Most notably, the gallery is consistently home to Indigenous artist’s works.

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Glass Onion: A review of a Knives Out mystery

ANNA MCIVOR

Glass Onion, the highly anticipated sequel to the 2019 film Knives Out was released globally on Netflix on Dec. 23. This film is full of famous faces, comedy, and a great murder mystery.

Daniel Craig returns with his comedic accent as the famous and elusive detective Benoit Blanc. The star-studded cast includes Kate Hudson, Katheryn Hahn, and Janelle Monae. The group of friends is

reunited for a murder mystery weekend on a private island. This film is full of pop culture references and surprise cameos, from Serena Williams’ workout class to Jeremy Renner’s hot sauce.

Edward Norton plays tech billionaire Miles Bron who decides to invite his old friends, who are self-described ‘disruptors’, for a murder mystery weekend that takes place on his private island. The weekend

takes a turn when there is an actual murder which Benoit ends up investigating. The plot has several excellent turns and spoilers which even include who’s murder is being investigated. The dynamics of the group are explored as well as how seemingly quite different people came to be in this group.

Cassandra Brand (played by Janelle Monae) features as Miles Bron’s rival and former friend. As the clear outsider in the group, she plays an interesting role as the characters and the audience try to figure out why she has shown up. Kate Hudson is incredible as the fashionista who is often canceled for saying the wrong thing. Her timing is on point as well as her outfits.

The acknowledgment of COVID-19 at the beginning acts as a clever way to introduce each character through their attitude to the virus. From Kate Hudson’s character who wears a mesh mask to the billionaire’s shot which protects everyone from the vi-

rus, with absolutely no explanation.

Glass Onion follows on from Knives Out, yet this film can be viewed without viewing the first as Glass Onion has a brand new plot, selection of characters, and location. However, Benoit is not the only link to the original. Just like the first film and the title of this one, the plot has several layers and has viewers still thinking about it days after.

This sets up the film, which is set early on in the pandemic, to follow the theme of the absurdity of the wealthy. There are mentions of lockdowns and hope that the general public will not find out about their holiday. Knives Out followed the same theme in a different way and could possibly be something that the franchise continues to feature.

This hotly anticipated sequel did not disappoint and encourages repeat viewings. Glass Onion is a funny, absurd, and wild ride.

How to choose a birth control method

Ensuring Valentine's Day is just about the two of you

Valentine’s Day can be full of surprises, like flowers, dates, and chocolates. One surprise to avoid is an unplanned pregnancy. This can be done with safe sex practices, which can also limit the spread of STIs. When choosing a birth control method, it’s important to note its effectiveness, safety, and availability. Each person with a uterus might have a different method that works for them. Here are some birth control options to consider:

IUD

(Intrauterine Device)

99% effective

An IUD is a tiny device that a doctor puts in your uterus to prevent pregnancy. There are hormonal IUDs, which use the hormone progestin to prevent pregnancy, and copper ones. IUDs stop sperm cells from reaching an egg. Depending on the brand, an IUD can last up to 12 years!

This method is convenient and low maintenance: once it’s in, there’s no chance of mistake. It can ease period cramps and PMS, and the copper IUD is hormone-free! The IUD can be used as emergency contraception after 5 days of unprotected sex.

Birth Control Implant (Nexplanon)

99% effective

The birth control implant is a thin rod about the size of a matchstick. It releases the hormone progesterone, which prevents you from getting pregnant by preventing ovulation and blocking sperm. A doctor inserts the implant in your arm, and you’re set for up to 3 years of protection from pregnancy.

This method is convenient and low maintenance: once it’s in, there’s no chance of mistake. It can ease period cramps and PMS, and it’s estrogen-free.

Birth Control Shot

96% effective

The birth control shot is done every 3 months by a doctor or nurse. It prevents ovulation with the hormone progestin. The shot goes into the upper part of your arm or your butt cheek.

The shot can ease period cramps and PMS, and you only need to remember to get it once every 3 months!

Can I kiss you?

The ins and outs of consent and getting an enthusiastic yes

SYDNEY BAYNHAM

February is the month of love. It

is easy to get wrapped up in the sentiment and the romance of the month, especially if you’re dating someone. When you have a partner, sometimes it feels as if your emotions toward them are heightened all the time.

When you’re happy with them, you’re ready to fly to the moon. But, when you’re upset with them, there is no one else on this earth that could make you more angry. It’s the extent to how much you care about them. You feel this way about disappointing them as well, and so you’ve never been more worried that you aren’t good enough.

Imagine one night, your partner climbs into bed beside you and begins to initiate sex. You smile at them, but you politely tell them

A Gryphon's guide to staying warm this winter

Knowing how to dress can make the season just a bit more bearable

Birth Control

Patch

93% effective

The patch releases estrogen and progestin, which stop ovulation and block sperm. It is worn on your stomach, butt, back, or upper arm, and you should change it once a week.

The patch can prevent acne and ease period cramps and PMS. However, you must remember to change the patch once a week and refill it on time. Additionally, ensure the patch does not fall off, especially if you spend a lot of time in water.

Although there are plenty of options for preventing unwanted pregnancy, condoms and abstinence are the only ways to help protect yourself against sexually transmitted infections.

Condoms

Up to 87% effective Condoms are thin pouches that collect semen during sex. They are usually made out of latex, but there are also plastic and lambskin condoms for those with skin sensitivities.

Latex and plastic condoms are the only contraceptives that can help protect against sexually transmitted infections! They are easy to find at drugstores and health centres. Condoms can add extra protection when used with other birth control methods.

Make sure to put condoms on correctly and store them so they don’t expire. If you’re sticking to condoms, use one each time you have sex.

Abstinence and Outercourse

Up to 100% effective Abstinence refers to not having sex, while outercourse describes all other activities outside vaginal sex. These include kissing, using sex toys, or having oral or anal sex. However, outercourse can lead to STI’s, whereas abstinence does not. If you’re using this method, both partners must be cool with not having penetrative sex. Communication is key. Keep a backup option, such as condoms, in case things get steamy.

Whichever birth control method you use, it’s important to be aware of their risks. Research the method and make sure it’s right for you. Have a great Valentine’s Day, and ensure you practice safe sex all year!

Dressing for the winter can sometimes feel like an impossible balancing act: outside is freezing but indoors you’re overheating. It doesn’t help that the season is nearly six months long, and hibernating at home is not an option. Leaving the house during winter can stir up feelings of dread, especially because dressing can be such a chore when you don’t quite know how. Here are some tips on how to dress appropriately for the weather.

Check the day’s weather

Checking the weather first on an app or online is a good starting place for knowing how to dress before leaving home. It may look sunny outside when you’re going out at 1pm, but the wind may be 45 km/h and a snowstorm could be expected in two hours. Checking the weather could be the difference between freezing in a windbreaker and being moderately warm in a fur-hooded winter jacket. Having an idea of the weather ahead of time can help you mentally prepare for the day ahead and be an immense help when choosing what to wear.

Layer up

By wearing several articles of clothing, it allows you to take off each piece when you're inside and start to get hot. You could start with a vest or camisole, then a thermal long-sleeve top, a regular long-sleeve over that, a sweater and then your winter jacket. Depending on how cold it is and how cold you get, a few layers I mentioned could be added or subtracted. The key to layering is that your outermost garments should be easy enough to put on or take off at will and it’s up to you if you prefer wearing several thin layers or a few thick layers. Sometimes you may end up looking like the Michelin Man but at least you’ll be warm.

Know your limits

Some people wear puffer jackets in the summer, and others wear shorts when it’s 0 degrees. You may need to wear two pairs of socks, gloves under your mittens and several tops to be even slightly warm and that’s okay. Recognizing your tolerance for cold can make dressing for the weather easier because there’s

truly no one-size-fits-all to winter dressing.

Don’t forget the winter accessories

Besides the winter jacket and boots, there are other pieces and elements that are just as important when dressing for the weather. Gloves, beanies, wool caps, scarves, earmuffs and thick socks make a huge difference during winter. You might think some of these items are overkill or unnecessary

but you’ll be grateful to have them when winter is at its peak. Many stores in the mall sell these at reasonable prices and they can also be bought at thrift stores or the dollar store for even cheaper. Numb fingers and aching ears can be a thing of the past, and these accessories can help your other body parts stay warm too.

Dressing for the winter doesn’t have to be boring though, as you can still be warm and look

good. Coloured inner layers when visible, can provide a contrast to darker outer layers and vice versa. Turtlenecks can be worn underneath sweaters for both practical and fashionable reasons. Scarves, beanies and gloves come in all kinds of colors, textures and patterns and styling these accessories can make dressing for the season fun.

Try to stay warm this winter, and enjoy a warm drink when you can.

you aren’t in the mood tonight. Your partner nods, but comments on the fact you guys haven’t had sex in a few days. You apologize but you just haven’t been feeling it recently and it has nothing to do with your partner, and you tell them this.

But they roll their eyes and turn their back toward you. They ask again and again but you keep saying no. A few minutes of silence passes before you give in and tell them “Okay, we can have sex.”

You know you don’t want to, and deep down your partner knows you don’t want to. They have abused their position of trust. You did not consent.

In a healthy relationship, it is vital for both partners to to make sure both parties are comfortable and safe with the other person. It

can be awkward and vulnerable, but discussions about sex with your partner is important in a healthy sexual relationship. Boundaries need to be drawn and communication has to be clear. Lines between two people who have a connection can get blurry, but it is important to remember that consent is enthusiastic and includes your partner saying “yes.”

Here is a list of things to remember when engaging in sexual activities:

1. No means NO

You might remember this one from preschool. No has always and will always mean no.

2. Body language can be indicative of how someone is feeling

This should always be your

first clue to figuring out whether or not to make a move on someone. If they are very closed off (hiding their face, not responding to touch, pulling away from you) they are not interested and you shouldn’t make any further advances

3. You don’t need an excuse to avoid sex

You don’t owe anyone access to your body. You are in charge of your body and you don’t have to explain anything to anyone. The fact that “you don’t want to” is enough of a reason.

4. You can change your mind at any point

There’s no law that says once the clothes come off you are in it 'til the end. Consent isn’t a one time thing, it is a continuous contract

between two people that either participant can pull out of at any time.

5. Ask for consent

Some people might think that asking for consent ruins the moment and isn’t romantic. I promise, asking a quick “are you comfortable?” is not going to ruin the moment. It’ll show that you truly care about your partner’s wellbeing.

The bottom line is that you don’t owe anyone sex. Nobody owes you sex. You do not owe anyone access to your body and nobody owes you access to theirs. Bodies are the one thing we’re born with and consent is a huge key in respecting your body, and others’. Remember that consent is sexy and necessary when you want to physically show your love this Valentine’s season!

You’ve

heard

of Dry January, but what about Dry February?

How going dry for the shortest month of the year helps the Canadian Cancer Society fund lifesaving research

WERONIKA SZCZYPKA

Every year, thousands of Canadians are impacted by cancer. Most people at some point in their lives, will either develop some form of cancer, or have a friend or family member develop it.

Starting in 2016, the Canadian Cancer Society started a movement known as Dry February. This was a method of fundraising money for individuals who have had cancer impact their lives. It allows for the continuation of cancer research, in hopes of someday

finding a cure for this disease.

Dry February is a very simple process! You sign up, vowing to avoid drinking for the month of February, keep the promise and avoid drinking, ask people around you to sponsor you in order to raise money, and help save countless lives.

A month may seem like a long time, so some may think perhaps this challenge is a little too difficult for them! Yet, if we break it down, the month of February is

only 28 days long. That’s 4 weekends of possible drinking, which really is not that much.

There are many great benefits to Dry February, ranging from the reason you’re doing it, to the impact on your health and overall well being. There are many excellent benefits to taking a break from alcohol.

This includes an improved quality of sleep, which is very beneficial especially for a busy university student! It also allows

February is shorter than January, which might make it easier for others compared to staying dry for the month of January.

for a better overall feeling, as we all know after drinking one tends to feel quite groggy and not super great after having a few drinks.

Avoiding drinking and getting better sleep in turn results in higher energy levels. So even if you don’t want to participate in Dry February, definitely consider taking a break from drinking.

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Dry February is a wonderful campaign that benefits everyone involved. It allows for crucial research and support of cancer patients, while having those fundraising to gain health benefits while doing something good! So consider going out there, and helping make an impact and countless lives.

What studying abroad is really like

My experience living and studying at Keele University in England

RACHEL FIORET

Studying abroad has been on the top of my university bucket list since first year, and I’m so happy I got to experience a semester abroad! If you’re considering a semester or year abroad, I hope my experience can encourage you to apply - or help you prepare.

Travel

Studying abroad is a great way to travel, because it’s not so much of a vacation, as it is a way to truly experience a new place. After stopping at the tourist attractions, you’ll get to know the locals and really get a feel for the city or country you’re studying in. I’d recommend choosing a country or region that you’re interested in exploring or learning more about, because you’ll have time to really experience it like a local.

Something I loved about my location in

England was how central it was. Keele University is south of Manchester, so exchange students traveled around to the surrounding cities and I even visited Wales and Ireland!

Diving into a different culture

How different is England from Canada? That’s a question I had in the back of my mind before leaving, because I really thought that they were basically the same place. My first week there proved that I was wrongand although they do share similarities, they both have unique cultural differences that I needed to adjust to.

This was one of my favourite parts of studying in England, because I was always learning something new about the country that was unexpected. Wherever you choose to study, you’ll probably also experience this,

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and it’s really fun if you embrace the culture you’re living in.

And yes, I caught a football match!

Making friends abroad - and at home

Meeting people was my absolute favourite part of studying abroad! In the very first week at Keele, I had met so many students from England and internationally - I actually felt overwhelmed. This was the first time I had gone that far away from home, without knowing anyone, so I really relied on the new people I met. A lot of other students were in the same position, and many of us shared the goal to explore England, so it was an awesome way to make new friends!

U of G often sends a few students to the same universities abroad, so you can meet fellow Gryphons, too. I found this to be a great way to make international friends as well as some new friends on our campus!

Experience university in a different country

Of course studying abroad means actual school, in a different country! This isn’t talked about as much when planning or preparing for an exchange, because it might not seem as interesting as the traveling and experiences part. However, studying in a different country allows you to experience a different way of education, and maybe even appreciate it more.

When I first arrived at Keele, I took a few days to explore the campus with other international students. We visited the library, the students union, the gym, and a few other places more unique to the university. It was also insightful to attend lectures and speak to professors there, because they had a different style of teaching and grading than at U of G.

Coming out and self-identification

Addressing the pressures of being your authentic, entire self

My Identity—my sense of self— has always been something that I’ve kept close to my chest. I’d like to think that everyone does that. We introduce these different parts of ourselves to the world, and we hope that the world receives us with open arms.

Some things I learned during my time abroad

1. It’s kind of like taking a break from your life at home

Before going to England, didn’t think of a semester abroad as a break from my life, but it really felt like that once got there. felt like my life in Guelph was on pause while I was away, and returning really clarified that as well, because everything resumed when returned.

2. No real responsibilities other than school work

My life in Guelph has always been filled with different responsibilities other than school, like part-time work, volunteering, and of course daily chores. Studying abroad really removes any major responsibilities from your life - other than school work - and this gives you tons of spare time to enjoy your time away and get involved at your host university!

3. You meet so many new peopleat once!

Kind of like the first semester of university when everything is new and you get to meet so many people and make new friends, but this time it’s in a different country! You’ll meet people with completely different experiences and perspectives than yourself, and this is a great way to expand your own perspective.

Family, friends, co-workers, fellow classmates, even passers-by in public witness our expressions of self on a day to day basis, and they react to them. When it’s a good reaction, we feel recognized and understood, and we’re able to feel a bit more like our complete self. When it’s a bad reaction, a person learns to hide that part of themselves from certain people.

Eventually, we learn to compartmentalise ourselves, fitting the right personality into the right box, hidden away so we can pull it out for the right circumstance.

coming out will always be this troublesome, nerve-wracking, often negatively received admission, because it isn’t. Instead, I want to talk about the good times. Those times when I’ve felt completely recognized, and why those have helped me to this day. My friends at University have been a huge help, and those who I’ve formed close bonds with accepted me for who I am immediately, without pause or hesitation.

I haven’t completely come out yet, so not everyone knows that I’m bisexual. I’m hoping that feeling, that emotion is recognisable to at least some people who read this, and I’m sure it is.

I’m not here to grandstand about how my life has been torturous or continuously awful from the day I was born, because it wasn’t. I’m a white, cis man who grew up in an upper middle class family, with two loving parents and a healthy home life.

I experience every privilege under the sun, and recognize that those privileges also affect how I have experienced homophobia throughout my life. My aim with this is not to instil some pessimistic mindset onto people who may be going through something similar. I don’t want people to think that

The first person I ever came out to was my friend Julianna— I call her Juju— and our friendship never skipped a beat. She immediately accepted me, and kept treating me the exact same way as before she had known I was bi. I realised in that moment that she was friends with me—not just friends with parts of me—but all of me.

Juju let me know that it was okay to be myself and, every time I came out to another person, it felt like more and more of the world could see who I really am. It felt like someone had begun to reconnect the pieces of a broken mirror. It just felt right.

To the person reading this right now, I want you to know that there are people out there who will accept you with open arms, who will embrace you for all that you are. Regardless of what you may be struggling with, the acceptance and reassurance from one person will make all the difference in the world.

The theme of this month's issue is love and sex. Whenever I read someone’s story of themselves coming out to someone they trust, the majority of them leave a bitter taste in my mouth, and I earnestly empathise with that person, because I can understand the courage that it

takes to reveal a part of yourself that can feel so fragile and so new.

I wrote this for two reasons, and the first reason is to remind people that there are those who will embrace who you are, and if you consider someone your true friend, then that friend will love your true self.

The second reason is to re mind you—yes, you— that you can be that friend who loving ly embraces someone's complete self. To be kind is to love, and to love is to share. Share experi ences, share secrets, share little moments that plant the seeds of memories to look back on.

Admittedly, sometimes I need to be reminded that I can be someone's trusted shoulder to cry on, or someone's hand to hold during uncertain and terrifying times. Sometimes, I also need to be reminded that I have people who are there for me too. Hiding parts of yourself

away from people can become exhausting, and I can attest that it isn’t always going to be easy to trust someone with that part of your identity, but once you do, it feels like you can finally see yourself.

is the first piece. I hope that my experiences will help you feel not so alone, if that's how you feel. I know it’s not face to face, but whatever it is you feel you have to hide, you don’t. You are perfect exactly the way you are, and if no one has told you that up to this point, let me be the first.

Let me help you put that first piece of the mirror back, so you can see yourself a little bit better.

I liken this whole experience back to the broken mirror analogy. Sometimes you need some help to put the mirror back together, and sometimes you need to help someone else put their pieces back into place.

I promise that the hardest part

FEBRUARY TO-DO LIST

A Night with Tova

• 7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.

• The Bullring

Open to all U of G students, staff, and faculty

Songs of Sunya: Table Read and Performance

6:30 p.m.

• Heritage Hall (& online)

• Free Admission, donations welcome. Reserve a spot at eventbrite.ca

Splitsville

Black-owned Marketplace

• 6:00 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.

• UC Courtyard

• Open to all U of G students, staff, faculty and wider community.

Canvas 'n Cocktails

• 6:30 p.m.

"Stirrin the Pot": Afro-Caribbean

Cooking Class

5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m.

Food Lab

• Limited to U of G students, maximum of 25 people

Take a Paws - Hang out with Therapy Dogs!

• 5:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m.

• Athletic Centre, Old Gryphons Lounge Rm. 131

• Free! Reserve a spot on U of G's Gryphlife events page!

Walk-ins welcome if there are no-shows

• Also on Feb 14, 21 & 28

"Piercing it Together": Art, Mental Health, and Black Excellence

• 3:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m.

• UC, 442

Limited to U of G students who identify as black.

BHM Cultural Fashion Show

• 7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.

Peter Clark Hall

Open to all U of G students, staff, and faculty

• 8:00 p.m. - 10:00 p.m., 2:00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m. on Sundays

• Guelph Little Theatre

• Buy tickets online at guelphlittletheatre.com. $20 per adult, $15 for seniors & students

• Also on Feb 10-12 & 16-19

BHM Movie Night: Moonlight 6:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.

• UC, 332

• Limited to U of G students

Quad Nights: BHM Edition

• 5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m.

• Peter Clark Hall

• Open to all U of G students, staff, and faculty

Dot Painting Valentines

• 2:00 p.m. - 3:30 p.m.

• Peter Clark Hall

• Free

• Heritage Hall

• Created by Guelph Black Heritage Society. Limited to those who identify as female. Free admission, donations welcome.

Guelph Poetry Slam Live!

• 8:00 p.m.

• Silence, 46 Essex Street

• Open mic, or $100 cash prize if competing

Mystic Witches Night Market

• 6:00 p.m. - 10:00 p.m.

Victoria Park East Golf

• 40+ vendors

Afrique En Cirque

• 7:00 p.m.

• River Run Centre

• Buy tickets online at riverruncentre.ca. $49 per adult, $39 under 30

Keynote Address: Intentional Intersectional Leadership w/ Payton Head 6:00 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.

• Event Centre - Athletic Centre

• Open to all U of G students, staff, faculty, and wider community

4- Clan emblems

5- Imperial dynasty of Russia

6- ___-Locka, FL

7- Indonesian island

HYPROV: Improv Under Hypnosis with Colin Mochrie and Asad Mecci

• 8:00 p.m.

• River Run Centre

• Buy tickets online at riverruncentre.ca. $59 per adult, $29 under 30

Celebrating Black Achievement: A Panel for Black Success at U of G

• 5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m.

• University Club (UC, 5th Floor)

• Limited to U of G students

McLaughlin Library Book Collection

• McLaughlin Library

• The Guelph Black Students Association has curated a collection of titles celebrating Black achievement in collaboration with the McLaughlin Library

Spotify Playlist

8- Hold responsible

9- Thank you, in Mexico

10- Goddess of dawn in Greek mythology

11- Movie lioness

12- Fortuneteller

13- Ferrara family

18- French school

22- Goya's "The Duchess of ___"

25- Tools for duels

27- Utah ski resort

Shawnee Kish

• 8:00 p.m. River Run Centre

• Buy tickets online at riverruncentre.ca. $30 per adult, $25 under 30

• The Guelph Black Students Association has curated a spotify playlist titled “Black Excellence” which features over 11 hours of R&B, Soca, Afro-beats, Pop, Dancehall, Rap, Soul, Reggae, Blues, Funk Disco, and Folk Music

All events with this symbol are part of the University of Guelph's Black History Month

PETS OF THE MONTH

Fill in the empty squares so that each of the digits 1 through 9 appear once in each row, column, and 3-by-3 block.

29- Standing up

31- Linger

32- Most draftable

33- Antiquing agent

34- Clods

35- Arthur Ashe's alma mater

36- Dull sound

38- Dirty looks

40- Mary ___ Lincoln

44- Hindmost part

45- Finishes

46- Is unobliged to

47- Eye drops

51- Zigzag

53- Kett and James

55- Fine fiddle

56- Twirler's stick

57- Play group

58- Play start

59- Plaintiff

61- Driving force

63- Bird feed

65- Father's Day gift

67- Show

ANSWERS FROM ISSUE 194.1

BOB'S DOGS CROSSWORD CONTEST

For your chance to win two Bobs dog’s and two pops just complete the crossword snap a picture, and send it to puzzles@ theontarion.com by February 13th at 3 p.m. Winners and anyone else who fills in the crossword correctly are announced in each issue. Winners can arrange a physically distanced pickup of their voucher by emailing the same address.

Last issue’s winning puzzle was submitted by Sean Lloyd!

We also received correct submissions from Breah Snow, Madigan Gillespie, and Thomas Smith. Better luck next time!

MEET ELLA!

Breed: German Shepherd

Photo By: Samantha Fischer

Age: 4

Fun Fact: She loves playing in the snow and burying herself in leaves.

MEET DIZZY!

Breed: Ball Python

Photo By: Gwyn Rossiter

Age: 1.5

Fun Fact: Dizzy loves playing in mud and exploring!

MEET TEQUILA!

Breed: Siamese/Ragdoll

Photo By: Choummaly Smith

Age: 10

Fun Fact: Tequila loves to live on the edge. She loves cuddles and her IG is @tequila._world

MEET ISABEL AKA IZZY!

Breed: Texas Heeler

Photo By: Rebecca Hippie

Age: 2

Fun Fact: Herds Mom and Dad around the house. She is a good girl. Follow her adventures @iambusyizzy

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