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T H E G A T E S O F H E A V E N W I L L B E O P E N . . . T H E H I G H H O L I D A Y S A R E C O M I N G U P H I G H H O L I D A Y S A T C H A B A D * I n s p i r a t i o n a l H e b r e w / E n g l i s h S e r v i c e s * S p e c i a l C h i l d r e n ' s P r o g r a m m i n g * M e m b e r s h i p N O T R e q u i r e d * T i c k e t s N O T R e q u i r e d * J o y f u l & C o m f o r t a b l e A t m o s p h e r e * E v e r y o n e W e l c o m e T H E R E I S A C H A B A D C E N T E R N E A R Y O U ! S c r i p p s R a n c h ( R e g i o n a l H Q ) , B o n i t a , C a r l s b a d N o r t h , C a r m e l V a l l e y , C h u l a V i s t a , C o r o n a d o , D o w n t o w n , E a s t C o u n t y , E n c i n i t a s , L a C o s t a , L a J o l l a , O c e a n s i d e / V i s t a , N o r t h C o u n t y I n l a n d , P a c i f i c B e a c h , R a n c h o S . F e , S . M a r c o s , S D S U , U C S D , U n i v e r s i t y C i t y S o W i l l O u r s B"H R o s h H a S h a n a : S u n - T u e s . S e p t 2 5 - 2 7 Y o m K i p p u r : T u e s - W e d O c t 4 / 5 S u k k o t : S u n - S u n , O c t 9 - 1 6 S h e m i n i A t z e r e t a n d S i m c h a t T o r a h : M o n - T u e s , O c t 1 7 / 1 8 "May you be written and sealed in the Book of Life." T o f i n d y o u r l o c a l C h a b a d J e w i s h C e n t e r a n d t o l e a r n m o r e a b o u t H i g h H o l i d a y s l o g o n t o w w w . C h a b a d . o r g / H i g h H o l i d a y s 4 | SDJEWISHJOURNAL.COM September 2022

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SEPTEMBER 2022 | ELUL 5782 • TISHREI 5783 Features 28 High Holidays — Local Services Information 37 World Premiere Play Explores Contemporary Jewish Conversations and Friendships 39 You Can Be A Jewish Success 43 Yom Kippur: The Opportunity of a Lifetime 44 Beginnings and Endings at Rosh Hashanah Columns 10 From the Editor | Reflecting on a Year, Or 18 18 Personal Development and Judaism | Better Than Tzimmes 20 Israeli Lifestyle | Getting It Right 22 Examined Life | What Is This Thing Called Love? 24 Religion | The Process of Acquiring Knowledge 58 Advice | Echoes. We Remember: September 1, 1939 Departments 12 Letters 12 What’s Up Online 14 The Scene 50 Local Offerings 59 Food Contents 5028 59 COVER The 2022 San Diego JCC Maccabi Games. Photo by Alan Hess. PUBLISHERS Mark Edelstein and Dr. Mark Moss EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Jacqueline Bull ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT EDITOR Eileen Sondak CREATIVE DIRECTOR Donna D’Angelo SENIOR CONSULTANT Ronnie Weisberg CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Emily Bartell, Linda Bennett, Leorah Gavidor, Emily Gould, Judith Fein (Senior Travel Correspondent), Paul Ross (Senior Travel Photographer), Patricia Goldblatt, Pat Launer, Sharon Rosen Leib, Andrea Simantov, Marnie Macauley, Rabbi Jacob Rupp, Saul Levine, Rachael Eden, Sybil Kaplan. ADVERTISING REPRESENTATIVES Jonathan Ableson | Senior Account Executive Alan Moss | Palm Springs EDITORIAL editor@sdjewishjournal.com ADVERTISING marke@sdjewishjournal.com

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Join Our High Holy Days Community Food Drive Help us support San Diegans experiencing hunger. Visit the website for a complete list of participating organizations.

The Center for Jewish Care, at Jewish Family Service, is a welcoming and compassionate space for San Diego’s Jewish community to access critical services and support. Our dedicated staff are here to listen without judgement, address immediate needs, and develop a personalized plan to help individuals and families move forward.

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The High Holy Days offer us a time to reflect, to be grateful, and to recognize that the future is a time of infinite possibilities. Through our shared values and belief in repairing the world, we work together to uplift our community with kindness and compassion. If you need assistance, we’re here for wishes for health,happiness,andpeaceallthroughtheNewYear.

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WWW.SDCOMMUNITYTRIP.ORGMAY4-11,2023 T h e s e a r e j u s t a f e w o f t h e e l e c t i v e s o f f e r e d o n t h e C o m m U N I T Y t r i p . C h e c k o u t a l l o f t h e m a t j e w i s h i n s a n d i e g o . o r g / e l e c t i v e s ! B e a p a r t o f a t r i p o f a l i f e t i m e , s t r e n g t h e n i n g o u r c o m m u n i t y f o r g e n e r a t i o n s . Wishing you a year of health and happiness. Next year in Jerusalem...and Tel Aviv... and Sha’ar HaNegev...and more! Shanah Tovah! In Tel Aviv: Food and Wine • Art and Culture Hi‑Tech • Immigration and Olim Mutual Co existence • Disenfranchisement Pluralism and Advocacy In Jerusalem: Food and Wine • Women’s Achievements • Co existence • Beneath the Headlines Archaeology and History • Geopolitical and Security • Hunger, Aging and Poverty This year, experience Israel in a whole new way with Jewish Federation of San Diego County’s CommUNITY trip! Customize the experience by choosing the electives right for you. Elul 5782–Tishrei 5783 SDJEWISHJOURNAL.COM | 9

I read David Sedaris’s published diary entries “A Carnival of Snackery” which span the years 2003-2020. They are not every entry he wrote during that time; they are curated. Entries could be eliminated for, in his opinion, excessive whininess, excessive cleverness (in the case of listing his favorite quotations, which would also require him to get permission), or excessive banality. In a podcast appear ance, he also said that when revising his writing if he comes across a sentence that he likes too much, he eliminates it. (More on that later). The result is snippets that represent not the very worst or the very best of himself, but a best attempt at a neutral showing. (I say “best attempt” not as a snipe, but just that it is impossible to be completely unbiased about oneself.)

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Reflecting on a Year, Or 18

Nonfiction is easily my favorite genre to read, but I don’t find myself with memoirs that often. I prefer articles and essays. There is something about the genre that I’m biased against. The assumption of grandiosity maybe? My inner critic finds it hard to believe that life can make narrative sense without being heavily massaged. A selection of diary entries, curated with a reader in mind, has been the closest I’ve gotten to the memoir genre and still enjoyed it. There isn’t much of a through line across the 18 year time span. There are recurring characters, locations and even curiosities and points of view, but there isn’t what could constitute a plot. This eliminates the risk of being pedantic. It is more of a character study where the subject and the researcher are the same person. I wonder what we would learn about ourselves from 18 years of near daily journaling? In Sedaris’s case, he has a writing practice because that is his job, so he isn’t approaching it from a self-actualization intention. His only intentions seem to be to find the humor in things and show the absurdity in people and societies–the latter ultimately also being a motivation to show humor. He is most interested in being entertaining it seems. He is not concerned with looking sophisticated and is willing to show himself looking petty or hypocritical in the service of comedy. I think that is why he explained that he gets rid of sentences that he likes too much. If he feels himself trying to look clever, it puts his ego in the mix and challenges his persona of the amused observer. Maybe because it was the final entry in the book, or maybe because it was his final entry of the year, but at the end Sedaris takes a moment to reflect more explic itly. (I think in 2020 especially many of us became more introspective). He takes stock of himself like we do for the High Holidays. In the pages of this High Holidays issue, you will find a lot of festive messages and reflections. And this is mine: This year I’ll endeavor to reflect with a dose of humor and objectivity. A

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educates customers about her family’s extraordinary legacy of producing unique wines — a 150-year-old family tradition that was nearly eradicated by the AmongHolocaust.the14wines currently available on the Loew Vineyards website, four are not wines in a traditional sense. They are meads, or honey wines, made from fermented honey — and therefore are well-suited for the upcoming High Holidays. Among the available varieties include cyser (mead with apple juice) and pyment (mead with grape juice). A fifth-generation winemaker, Lipman’s method of making mead is not unlike the way her ancestors did it in Europe.“Mygrandfather always says you can’t argue with success,” she said.

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Why a High Holidays prayer book is still going strong after 70 years by Yosef Lindell, JTA News When a local Orthodox synagogue asked me to lead Yom Kippur prayers six years ago, one aspect of the request stood out: Was I comfortable using the “High Holyday Prayer Book” translated and edited by Philip Birnbaum?Thearchaic spelling of “Holyday” is a tipoff to the book’s longevity. First published in 1951 by the Hebrew Publishing Company, this Hebrew-English prayer book, or machzor, has been used by multiple generations of worshippers in Orthodox synagogues. Remarkably, 70 years after its publication, the Birnbaum Machzor is still here, outlasting its publisher, author and even its own copyright.

Statement to the San Diego Community Chabad Headquarters of San Diego together with the Board of Chabad Emissaries of San Diego (the Vaad HaShluchim) announce the opening of a new Chabad House to serve North County Inland. Rabbi Dr. Yehudah Trestman and his wife Devorah Trestman will lead the community as the representatives of Chabad temporarily. We have installed the Trestmans, who are longtime residents of the Poway/Rancho Bernardo area, and are highly dedicated and respected within the community. The Trestmans are best qualified and situated to restore unity to a fractured community after the numerous scandals that plagued Chabad of Poway.Fornearly

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This Jewish family has been making honey wine for 150 years by Stacey Pfeffer, JTA News

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two years we have endeavored to work with the previous administration of Chabad of Poway and to install appropriate oversight in the troubled organization. The crimes previously committed happened in an environment where one person had complete control. He then passed sole control to his son. While this may technically be legal, in our view this is inappropriate, especially when the son continues to run the organization as the sole legally empowered head. After repeatedly trying to get his cooperation and being rebuffed we asked for his resignation last month.

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Outgoing President Dorie Goldman turned over the gavel to Mary Weiss, who introduced herself to the assembled Congregation and she also presented a full calendar of events for the year. Dorie Goldman received heartfelt, special recognition for her past three years of leadership as President.

Far left: Cantor BrombergCaitlin Near left: Dorie-Goldman (left) and Mary Weiss Below: 2022-2023 Etz Rimon Board of Directors 2022

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The newly elected Board of Directors of Temple Etz Rimon for 2022-2023 took their oath of office as given by Spiritual Leader, Cantor Caitlin Bromberg at the Temple.

Since 2000, young volunteers from the Tisch Family Zoological Gardens in Jerusalem have been coming to San Diego to hone their skills at one of the finest zoos in the world. This year, the San Diego Zoo again welcomed aspiring zoo keepers from Jerusalem for hands-on instruction and international interactions. The nine participating Israeli and Arab teenagers will take their newfound knowledge and friendships back home after this exciting experience. Recently, supporters of the Jerusalem Zoo gathered to celebrate the summer learning experience with the kids at the San Diego Zoo. In addition to celebrating the visiting teens, the event honored the long-serving Congresswoman Susan Davis. Mayor Todd Gloria read a proclamation declaring the day Susan Davis Day in San Diego. He also credited her as his mentor, noting “She was never a politician — always a public servant.” Her successor, Congresswoman Sara Jacobs, had a proclamation of her own to deliver to the retired Congresswoman. “I have a proclamation from Congress,” she noted, adding “She’s one of the reasons I ran for Congress in the first place.” Among the large crowd on hand were the host families that made the visit possible, the Honorable Victor Bianchini (who emceed the event) and many of the Jerusalem Zoo’s most ardent supporters.

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THIS WAY TO EDEN by Rachel Eden | rachel.s.eden@gmail.com

This year doesn’t have to be your grandma’s Rosh Hashanah. I’m not saying don’t dip the apples in the honey–I’m all for tradition. I’m saying the High Holidays are hard wired to give you way more than good food and a whole lot of synagogue service.

Better Than Tzimmes

The obstacle to courage isn’t fear, but conformity. Stick with the crowd, do what you should, and you’ll be safe. You just won’t be successful.

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As the story goes, a man had a friend named Kamtza and an enemy named Bar Kamtza. The man made a party and told his servant to invite Kamtza but the servant accidentally invited Bar Kamtza.

When Bar Kamtza showed up instead of his best friend, the host threw his enemy continues on page 26 >>

The upcoming High Holidays follow the hot end of summer, a time in history marked by tragedy for the Jewish people.

We commemorate the destruction of the Temple with the fast of Tisha B’Av every August and then start preparing for Rosh Hashanah the following month.

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT AND JUDAISM

It’s noted in the Talmud that Jerusalem was destroyed because of what took place between Kamtza and Bar Kamtza.

Just know that every limiting belief and negative thought you have adopted is a lie. That’s a bold statement but deadly accurate. While lying isn’t great, the consequence of lying is worse. These lies keep you surviving, moving and protected — you tell yourself. The truth is: Any negative thought in your mind is another brick in a vast city of barriers to actualization.EarlNightingale defines success as the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. You determine what your ideal is and if you realize it (and it’s a worthy one), you are successful. Very few have the courage to be successful though and courage is often, if not always, a precur sor to Mostsuccess.people assume the obstacle to courage is fear, but courageous people always possess fear — they just do it anyway. The real obstacle to courage, as Nightingale cites from Rollo May’s book, “Man’s Search for Himself,” is conformity. Stick with the crowd, do what you should and you’ll be safe. You just won’t be successful. It’s incumbent upon each of us to see our own individuality. There is a unique spark inside each human being that defines him as an outlier and a maverick. Each one of us is leaving legacy, love, meaning, peace and money on the table when we don’t lean in to what makes us special. In fact, our relationship with ourselves is the very seed for the relationship we have with the people in our lives, with G-d, with our livelihood and with our community involvement. In other words, nothing, but nothing, is left untouched by conformity.

If you ever ask people what they want, you might hear about some professional aspirations, weight loss dreams, romantic or relationship goals, or just hoping to proceed through a crossroads or difficult time gracefully. More often than not, those same people are clamped up somehow. Some are stuck in fear or anxiety. Some have a death grip on the areas they can’t control. Most have beliefs that are really not serving them and, in fact, are blocking access to their desires. Look, I’m all for tzimmes (not really) but keep your eye on the real sweet treats. I’m talking about stepping into a new reality entirely. You probably don’t believe me. You’d rather believe some story about how you’re destined not to have everything you want, or that you have to suffer in life and enduring your penance is a necessity. Maybe you’re just not born lucky, or you mess things up, or you’re not the type to have that one dream that keeps nagging you. Perhaps you’re sure that the circumstances of your life or the people in your life aren’t set up to allow you to have what you want. I’m not here to convince you. As Evelyn Waugh wrote, when you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them.

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Upon opening our eyes in the morning, we are exhorted to thank G-d for the fresh-canvas upon which we will, during the next 24 hour cycle, paint our relationships, our holiness, our connectedness to one another. At sunset, we review the day’s “masterpiece” and determine if it is ‘museum worthy’ or best suited for the trash. And the next morning, if granted another day of life, we are presented with another canvas! Hopefully, this day’s work will be more spiritual, more community-nourishing, more pleasing in His eyes than that of the dayLetbefore...uspledge that the sweet New Year blesses us with the will to forge ahead with an awareness that, more important than human do-ings, the world will prosper from myriad human be-ings.

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At about mid-August every year, I say to my husband, “The holidays are late/ early this year, aren’t they?” and like clockwork, he replies “They are exactly when they’re supposed to be.” He knows exactly what I mean, juxtaposing the Gregorian and Hebrew dates along with my level of preparedness but, because he is an orthodox, former army rabbi/ chaplain, religious subtlety isn’t his strong suit. He’s trying to make a point and I never have any of it. I suppose the annual pre-holiday musing arises from a disheartening sense of not maximizing the summer as I’d hoped. A (not small) part of me wants to push-off the weighty Days of Judgment for just one more beach day, one more camping trip, one more charming antique-shop stroll and quaint cafe visit. Our Israeli climate may be more arid than in other places but the urgency of September feels the same as elsewhere — school buses, holiday food shopping, invitations issued, family considerations for prayer, meals, phone calls or Zoom. Carpooling and sign-ups for student activities and cultural endeavors only add to the 180 degree shift from a lazy season to a crazy season. And instead of “being present” and experiencing the different rhythms of my truly good life, I’m often unable to catch my breath between clients and September’s punishing pace. Have we learned nothing during the scourge of Corona? “Der mensch tracht, und Gott lacht/Man plans, G-d laughs.” What is the point of the frenzy and continual attempts to manipulate time once we recognize that we are not in charge? There isn’t. And therein lies the rub. I was recently driving down the highway from Jerusalem to Maale Adumim and reflected upon the Bedoin enclaves I passed. Their world appears frozen in time; goats being herded along sparse sagegrass, black fabric-wrapped tents only yards from one another, the encampment’s silence during the hottest hours of a long summer day. And even while imagining what a hefty dose of modern infusion might do for them, I catch the arrogance, put it in check. Surprisingly, a subtle feeling of envy rises to the surface. It is uncomfortable.Theworldis spinning at an inconceivable rate of speed and everyone I know seems to be either hopping on or off the next project or is reaching for a brass-ring that, once caught, becomes tarnished and gets tossed aside for the next big thing. It is all so exhausting. Being Torah observant does not guarantee immunity from the artificial lures that wreak havoc on our values. Concepts such as original sin and eternal damnation are antithetical to Jewish belief. As partners with G-d in our own creation, we grasp the opportunity to reset the “Commandment-Gauge” to zero, not only once a year but, remarkably, each day in our prayers.

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But the theme of romantic love is especially apparent in popular songs which have always been and continue to be deeply ingrained in the souls of adolescents and young adults. At my age, Ella Fitzgerald’s and Frank Sinatra’s singing of love songs still evoke warm memories and moods, just as songs of your youth surely get to you.

“What Is This Thing Called Love?” When Cole Porter’s song asked that memorable question about a century ago, he was referring to romantic love’s wondrous yet complex effects on us. Most of us have fallen “in love” at one time (or perhaps more) in our lives. Yet if we’re asked to describe that incandescent feeling of “being in love,” we might have some difficulties capturing its essence. Love can be correctly defined (see any dictionary), but those definitions do not do justice to love’s magic and mystery. We’re familiar with love’s emotional stirrings and ecstasy, its pleasures and longing and to be sure, its fears and sadness, but mere descriptions can be devoid of its emotional grip and enchantment. Not that we haven’t tried: volumes of poetry, prose, opera and architecture in every language, culture and country have all attempted it. Our earliest love bonds are formed in infancy and childhood, usually with our mothers or other loving primary caretakers. This nurturance is crucial in developing the ability to form love attachments. All our senses are involved in the soothing sensations of warm faces, sounds of voices, aromas, touches and kisses.Inaddition to those unique “in love” romantic feelings of ardor and passion, we have certainly experienced other kinds of fulfilling love. Although very

The pop romantic song list is endless and each youthful generation revels in its especially memorable music as a personal and soulful talisman. Love can also be painful and many of us have had our hearts broken, perhaps more than once. When love mysteriously ebbs from our beloved, we often feel lost and forsaken. A brokenheart’s soul yearns for the return of the lost love, so poignantly evoked in the blues, country and western songs, or in operaticSmittenarias.lovers often envisage idealized lifelong partnerships of com mitment, caring and companionship. We know, however, that early passion and romance are not guarantees of rewarding long-term marriages. By the same token, prearranged marriages (Hinduism, Orthodox Judaism) can end up being loving and fulfilling.

Nowadays millions of people throughout the world are searching for both superficial and meaningful love by using internet websites. This could be a reaction to the loneliness spawned by the pandemic and its worldwide uncertainties. Life nowadays is pressured and confusing and we need love more than ever. Love eases the “Human Condition.” We humans are social beings and bonds of affection and intimacy are part of our DNA and our lifeblood, emotional different in nature, we feel and share unique feelings of love with our parents and grandparents, our siblings, children, extended family and close friends. Music is composed in honor of one’s beloved, as in Beethoven’s “Fur Elise,” or in dramatic operatic arias of Verdi or Bizet. Architectural masterpieces like the Taj Mahal in India, Le Petit Trianon at Versailles and many others were dedicated to particular lovers.

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Queen’s “Somebody to love” evokes that poignant feeling of yearning for a soul mate. The blush of early romance can be a magical yet discombobulating sensation. Cole Porter’s “You’re Just in Love” captures that inimitable experience with the lyric, “I hear music and there’s no one there” which describes the passionate feelings of enrapturedResearchlovers.hasdemonstrated that feelings of love stimulate neuronal activity in specific parts of the brain which actually “light up” on brain imaging scans. (The song, “You Light Up My Life,” must have been prescient!). continues on page 26 >>

What Is This Thing Called Love?

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הבוט הנש (Shana tova) A wish that the year ahead will be filled with happiness and good health.HAPPY NEW YEAR

If people say you’re put together, it must be because they see that in

The first is to surround yourself with positive people and only accept and think about concepts that serve you. The mind is an amazing filter. We can create reality by thinking, so being cognizant and only believing positive things about yourself is crucial. Begin this process by starting to pay attention to the words you use when talking to yourself. When I fall short in the gym, or in any other endeavor, my first voice used to be “you’re an idiot” or “I hate you.” Stop that thinking. Actively tell yourself you love yourself, that you’re good, confident and great. You will become more confi dent. Become aware. Secondly, as the saying goes, you are a combination of the five people you hang out with. Change your friends, find new friends/mentors, cleave to positive motivated people as their positivity will rub off on you. Just like in any job or sport, you need a coach, a positivity coach, or a person already doing what you want to do and hang out with them. This applies as well to what kind of media you consume. At best, shows and music are ways to disengage and there is a place for that. However, the messages of the shows/music also makes an impression. The news media often pushes disaster and despair. Read, watch and think about success and positivity.

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The Process of Acquiring Knowledge

Third, take care of yourself physically. Exercise more, sleep more. Take cold showers. The mindset and emotions are you. If people say you are confident, outgoing, a good speaker, a detailedoriented person, it must be because you’ve practiced that, either on purpose or by accident. It means you can do it.

The things we feel good about or that others tell us we are good at are things to cultivate. Work on those. If you are good at speaking in public, learn how to do it better. We naturally don’t work on our main skills because we assume we are good at them already, but oftentimes it is these skills that will distinguish us and set us Theapart.point is to strengthen your confidence and look for the things you are already good at. What are you good at? The things you enjoy or can do without much effort, or the things others tell you you are good at. It is a good idea here to seek the input of others; people outside of ourselves often can see the things we gloss over and assume everyone is good at. Making a list of your strengths and interests often directs you to where you will be good at, either both at work and at home. It allows you to choose your life instead of having your life chosen, which will again cause another crisis. In this process, you must be patient. There is a crucial point when it comes to change; you wouldn’t scream at a seed to become a flower. Real growth is organic and takes time. That being said, there are a few important factors that will accelerate change. continues on page 26 >>

RELIGION

Last month, we discussed the idea of learning more information, without going into “information overload.”

As a springboard to the next concept, I want to clarify our previous one. A natural outcome of learning more is feeling like you know nothing, or very little. The more you learn, the more your “core skill set” becomes eroded in your mind and you feel like you know nothing. This is a fallacy.

As you broaden yourself, learn more and follow much more successful people, you start to feel more and more like a loser. This is the inevitable response to being in the right place. Judaism teaches that it is better to be the tail of a lion than the head of a fox. That feeling that you are the least successful person in the room is a level to aspire to because that means you are learning from people better than you. You must therefore consistently nurse your ego and be proud you are in the process of getting better. Be technical about taking the next steps instead of emotional. Reward and compliment yourself. One of the core elements you notice about successful people is that they know their core strengths and are confident in them. What is a core strength? Simple: what are you confident about and/or what do people feel you are competent in. What are people telling you?

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Religion continued very tied into how we treat ourselves. As someone who has lost over 100 lbs, I am confident saying that physical health is crucial in how you feel overall and your self esteem. Again, find healthy friends. Work out. Push yourself. Sit upright and smile. It’s impossible to be upset when you are smiling. Smile by yourself in the mirror. Listen to happy music. Fourth, put yourself on a schedule. Make goals. Make plans. Andrew Carnegie said that one piece of advice that was worth millions was to write down the six things you must do the coming day. What you can measure, you can change and you can improve. Goals must be specific. Wake up early. Go to bed early. Even if you have nothing to do, find things to do that will make you better. Become fit, more spiritual and more educated. And write and talk. Articulate yourself, it’s therapeutic. Write a book, start a podcast. It’s not for the world, it’s for you. Realize that the goal is a successful life and that requires more than just money or love. Don’t focus on reaching the goal. Focus on what you have to do today to reach your goals eventually. Celebrate your victories. Look to judge yourself favorably. Talk to everyone, network, read “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” Find yourself spiritually. The Talmud says to cast your burden on G-d and He will sustain you. Successful people are people of faith. You can’t accomplish anything on your own, but you are obligated to do everything you can. A

A life with love is fuller, healthier and more meaningful. A life without love is lonelier, emptier and bereft of meaning. A world without love is not one I wish to inhabit. A

So, of course, the healing — and at times painful healing — that we desperately need is introspection. To embrace the High Holidays and rekindle a relationship with ourselves. To dig deep for the spark that is a part of us and G-dly. To see ourselves as a reflection of the Infinite and to access what makes us us So, keep cooking that brisket and baking that honey cake. Keep praying for health, for love, or even to finally build that seven figure business. Just know that inside Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur is buried a beautiful secret power. One that allows us to know ourselves as far more powerful than we imagined. Once we nurture our relationship to ourselves, our world takes on a new shape with vastly different, remarkable results. A equivalents of oxygen and nourishment. We need love from our first breaths in infancy until our last inspirations (used advisedly) of life. Without love, our hearts can ache and atrophy. Without love, children don’t develop as well and adults are prone to depression and illness. Without love, our human essences diminish.

Personal Development continued Examined Life continued out despite pleas to stay. Bar Kamtza even offered to pay for his own meal but the host remained stubborn. Bar Kamtza, as it turned out, was the son of Kamtza. The host’s enemy was his best friend’s son. The entire friendship between our host and Kamtza is called into question based on the relationship status of the host and his enemy. We can draw the conclusion that we became a nation that couldn’t even maintain an authentic relationship with people we called friends. This sad state of affairs isn’t in a vacuum. It’s an indication of a far more deeply rooted disease. The rot begins in each of our minds, how we see ourselves, who we know ourselves to be, the relationship we have with ourselves.

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No registration fee, but RSVP is required. Services will will take place at the future home of Chabad of Chula Vista: 2086 Otay Lakes Rd #101, Chula Vista, CA 91913. Services feature Hebrew/English Prayer books and a children’s program and service. The concert will be held at the amphitheater in Mountain Hawk Park (1475 Lake Crest Dr., Chula Vista, CA 91915).

Services will be held at the Hotel Del Coronado. Cost for the catered meals — Members: $75/adult, $50/child; Visitors: $95/adult, $65/child. The reservation page allows specific meals and services to be reserved. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6:30 p.m.: Evening services 7:30 p.m.: Community Dinner *RSVP required Sept. 26 10 a.m.: Morning services 10:30 a.m.: Children’s room 11:30 a.m.: Shofar blowing 1:30 p.m.: Community Outdoor Lunch *RSVP required 3:30 p.m.: Sweets room 4:30 p.m.: Tashlich at the Del Beach 4:30 p.m.: Kids XTreme Fun 7 p.m.: Evening services 8 p.m.: Community dinner *RSVP required Sept. 27 10 a.m.: Morning services 10:30 a.m.: Children’s room 11:30 a.m.: Shofar blowing 1:30 p.m.: Community Outdoor Lunch *RSVP required 5:30 p.m.: Adult Education Classes 6:15 p.m.: Evening Services/Havdalah Yom Kippur Oct. 6:304p.m.: Kol Nidrei services and Children’s room Oct. 5 10 a.m.: Morning services 10:30 a.m.: Children’s room 12 p.m.: Yizkor/Memorial 4:30 p.m.: Ask the Rabbi 5:15 p.m.: Mincha Services/Jonah 6 p.m.: Neilah Services 7:05 p.m.: Community Break-Fast

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 6:30p.m.:25 Erev Rosh Hashanah evening service 7 p.m.: Community dinner *additional RSVP needed Sept. 26 10 a.m.: Rosh Hashanah morning services 10:30 a.m.: Children’s program 11:30 a.m.: Shofar blowing followed by kiddush luncheon Sept. 27 10 a.m.: Morning service 10:30 a.m.: Children’s program 11:30 a.m.: Shofar blowing followed by kiddush luncheon 5:30 p.m.: Shofar and concert at the Mountain Hawk Park amphitheater *additional RSVP needed Yom Kippur Oct. 4 6 p.m.: Candle lighting 6:15 p.m.: Kol Nidrei service Oct. 5 10 a.m.: Morning services 11 a.m.: Children’s program 1:30 p.m.: Mincha afternoon service 5 p.m.: Yizkor memorial service 5:30 p.m.: Neilah and final shofar blowing 7:15 p.m.: Community break fast

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Services are led by Cantor Larry Kornit in-person with Zoom links available. Tickets are $100/Adult and available for purchase on their website. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6:30 p.m.: Erev Rosh Hashanah Sept. 26 9:30 a.m.: Rosh Hashanah Day 2 p.m.: Tashlich Yom Kippur Oct. 6:304p.m.: Kol Nidre Oct. 9:305a.m.: Morning service 4 p.m.: Yizkor, Afternoon Service and Neilah MORE Elul 5782–Tishrei 5783 SDJEWISHJOURNAL.COM

Chabad Jewish Center of Oceanside 1930 Sunset Dr, Vista, CA 92081 info@jewishoceanside.comjewishoceanside.com | 760-806-7765

No tickets or membership required. Security is present at all events. Registration is requested. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6:30 p.m.: Evening services 7:30 p.m.: A toast for the new year: L’echaim and Light 9:30Sept.refreshments26a.m.:Morning services followed by kiddush luncheon 11 a.m.: Youth program 6 p.m.: Community dinner Sept. 27 9:30 a.m.: Morning services followed by kiddush luncheon 11 a.m.: Youth program 2 p.m.: Special Shofar service 5 p.m.: Family service with Shofar sounding Yom Kippur Oct. 4 6 p.m.: Kol Nidrei services Oct. 9:305a.m.: Morning services 11:30 a.m.: Youth program 2:30 p.m.: Special Yizkor memorial service 5 p.m.: Mincha and Neilah Service 7:05 p.m.: Fast Ends and Break-fast Buffet Chabad Jewish Center of Rancho Santa Fe 14906 Via De La Valle, Del Mar, CA 92014 info@jewishrsf.comjewishrsf.com | 858-756-7571

Suggested donation: $360/person. Reservation requested. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6:30 p.m.: Evening service Sept. 26 10 a.m.: Morning service 11:30 a.m.: Family/Kids service 12 p.m.: Shofar sounding, kiddush lunch and tashlich Sept: 27 10 a.m.: Morning service 11:30 a.m.: Family/Kids service 12 p.m.: Shofar sounding followed by kiddush lunch Yom Kippur Oct. 6:11p.m.:4 Candle lighting, fast begins 6:30 p.m.: Kol Nidrei services Oct. 5 10 a.m.: Morning service 11:30 a.m.: Family/Kids service 12 p.m.: Yizkor Memorial Service 5 p.m.: Evening service 7:05 p.m.: Holiday, break-the-fast CongregationCONSERVATIVEBethAm

Services are planned for both Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. Further details were not available at press time. Check their website closer to the day of event. Congregation B’nai Tikvah 2510 Gateway Rd., Carlsbad, CA 92009 info@bnaitikvahsd.combnaitikvahsd.com | naomi.gabai.fisher@gmail.com 760-650-2262

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Ner Tamid Synagogue 12348 Casa Avenida, Poway, CA 92064 info@nertamidsd.orgnertamidsd.org | 858-513-8330

Services are planned both in-person and over Zoom. Additional information was not available at press time. Temple Beth Shalom 208 Madrona St, Chula Vista, CA 91910 arlenelagary@yahoo.combethshalomtemple.com | 619-420-6040

Services are led by Rabbi Sammy Seid and Dr. Sharna Shachar. For the Erev Rosh Hashanah Seder, dinner is $30 for adults and $18 for kids who are not enrolled in the school (NTSS kids are free). The Break the fast for Yom Kippur is $18. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6: p.m.: Erev Rosh Hashanah Seder *Registration needed Sept. 26 8:30 a.m.: Shacharit, Torah and Musaf Services 4:30 p.m.: Tashlich with Temple Adat Shalom at 8:30Sept.Lake Poway27a.m.:Shacharit, Torah and Musaf Services Yom Kippur Oct. 4 6 p.m.: Kol Nidrei Ma’ariv Oct. 8:305a.m.: Shacharit, Torah, and Musaf Services 3:30 p.m.: Torah Study and Meditation 4:30 p.m.: Mincha, Yizkor, Neilah, Shofar Blowing 7:10and Havdalahp.m.:Break the Fast follows Havdalah (approximately 7:10pm.) Ohr Shalom Synagogue 2512 Third Ave, San Diego, CA 92103 office@ohrshalom.orgohrshalom.org | 619-231-1456

CongregationORTHODOXAdat Yeshurun 8625 La Jolla Scenic Dr, North La Jolla, CA 92037 info@adatyeshurun.orgadatyeshurun.org | 858-535-1196

The outdoor Service will be held at the San Diego Jewish Academy campus. Services are led by Rabbi Miller and Chazzan Sananes. Registration is required. Service times on next page MORE Elul 5782–Tishrei 5783 SDJEWISHJOURNAL.COM | 31

Registration required before Sept. 19. Tickets for guests over the age of 22 are $250. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6:50 p.m.: Mincha/Ma’ariv Sept. 26 9 a.m.: Shacharis 11 a.m.: Shofar 6:50 p.m.: Mincha/Ma’ariv Sept. 27 9 a.m.: Shacharis 11 a.m.: Shofar 6:50 p.m.: Mincha/Ma’ariv Yom Kippur Oct. 6:204p.m.: Kol Nidre Oct. 5 8 a.m.: Shacharis 12 p.m.: Yizkor 5:30 p.m.: Neilah Aish San Diego 11860 Carmel Creek Rd, San Diego, CA 92130 info@aishsd.comaishsd.com | 858-250-0057

Services are planned both in-person and over Zoom. Additional information was not available at press time. New members and guests that have not attended High Holiday services at Temple Beth Shalom are asked to contact the Temple’s office.

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Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6 p.m.: Erev Rosh Hashanah Light Service; Brief family service for pre-school–grade 2 7 p.m.: Erev Rosh Hashanah Service Sept. 26 10 a.m.: Rosh Hashanah Morning Service 4 p.m.: Family Service & Rosh Hashanah Experience at 5Lake Murrayp.m.:Tashlich Ceremony at Lake Murray Yom Kippur events on next page MORE Elul 5782–Tishrei 5783 SDJEWISHJOURNAL.COM

Yom Kippur Oct. 4 6 p.m.: Kol Nidre early service 8:30 p.m.: Kol Nidre late service Oct. 8:305a.m.: Family Yom Kippur Service 11 a.m.: Morning Service *BITY reflections post Torah service 12-1 p.m.: Speaker Rabbi Philip Graubart “Notes from the Narrow Place: Jewish Stories, Songs, and Texts on Illness, Confinement, and Healing” 1:15-2 p.m.: Sermon Talk Back with Rabbi Nevarez 2:30 – 3:30 p.m.: Contemporary Confessions 4 p.m.: Afternoon Service 5 p.m.: Yizkor Service 5:30 p.m: Neilah Service 6:15 p.m.: Break the Fast Temple Adat Shalom 15905 Pomerado Rd, Poway, CA 92064 info@adatshalom.comadatshalom.com | 858-451-1200 Services are planned. Temple Adat Shalom has a joint Tashlich service at Lake Poway with Ner Tamid. Further details of Temple Adath Shalom’s services were not available at press time. Temple Emanu-El 6299 Capri Dr, San Diego, CA 92120 temple@teesd.orgteesd.org | 619-286-2555

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Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6 p.m.: Erev Rosh Hashanah Service Sept. 26 8:30 a.m.: Family Rosh Hashanah Service 9 a.m.: Café Beth Israel 11 a.m.: Rosh Hashanah Service *BITY reflections post Torah service 11:30 a.m.: Café Beth Israel 4 p.m.: Young Families Rosh Hashanah 6 p.m.: Tashlich Sept. 27 9 a.m.: Morning Service, followed by a light Kiddush lunch 11:15 a.m.: Hike

CongregationREFORM Beth Israel 9001 Town Centre Dr, San Diego, CA 92122 cbi@cbisd.orgcbisd.org | 858-535-1111

Aish San Diego — Service Times Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6:23 p.m.: Candle lighting 6:30 p.m.: Maariv Sept. 26 9 a.m.: Morning services 10 a.m.: Torah reading 11 a.m.: Shofar sounding 11:30 a.m.: Mussaf 6 p.m.: Mincha/Tashlich 6:30 p.m.: Maariv Sept. 27 9 a.m.: Shacharit/Mussaf 11 a.m.: Shofar 6:30 p.m.: Mincha/ Maariv Yom Kippur Oct. 6:304p.m.: Kol Nidre Oct. 8:305a.m.: Shacharit/ 11Mussafa.m.: Yizkor 4:30 p.m.: Mincha 6:30 p.m.: Neila 7:05 p.m.: End of Fast

All High Holy Days services will be streamed. The family service is designed for families with children grades 2-7. Registration required; tickets are available on their website.

Temple Emanu-El — Yom Kippur Oct. 4 6 p.m.: Erev Yom Kippur Light Service; Brief family service for pre-school–grade 2 7 p.m.: Erev Yom Kippur Kol Nidre Service Oct. 9:305a.m.: Yom Kippur Morning Service 12:45 p.m.: Yom Kippur Limmud 2 p.m.: Afternoon Service 4 p.m.: Family Service & Limmud Breakout Sessions 5 p.m.: Yizkor Memorial Service 5:45 p.m.: Neilah & Havdalah Temple Etz Rimon 2020 Chestnut Ave, Carlsbad, CA 92008 info@templeetzrimon.orgtempleetzrimon.org | 760-929-9503

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 6 p.m.: Erev Rosh Hashanah followed by Seder Sept. 26 9:30 a.m.: Morning service at Garfield Theater 5 p.m.: Tashlich at Playa Pacifica, Mission Bay Sept. 27 9:30 a.m.: Day 2 of services Yom Kippur Oct. 6:304p.m.: Kol Nidre at Garfield Theater Oct. 9:305a.m.: Yom Kippur 4 p.m.: “Ask The Rabbi” — an unscripted, open conversation with Rabbi Yael. Bring your questions on beliefs, spirituality, Jewish tradition and customs, current events and hot topics. 5 p.m.: Mincha 5:45 p.m.: Yizkor & Martyrology 6:30 p.m.: Concluding service of Neilah JEWISH RENEWAL The Elijah Minyan 760-943-8370elijahminyan.com

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CongregationRECONSTRUCTIONISTDorHadash 11860 Carmel Creek Rd, San Diego, CA 92130 administrator1@dorhadash.orgdorhadash.org | 858-268-3674

Most services will be online conducted by Rabbi Wayne Dosick, Cantor Kathy Robbins & Rebbetzin Ellen Kaufman Dosick. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 7 p.m.: Evening service Sept. 26 9 a.m.: Morning service: joyous prayer, meditation, Torah-learning & celebration 5 p.m.: Tashlich at Moonlight Beach: the traditional “casting of sins” into the body of flowing water Sept. 27 9 a.m: Day 2 of services Yom Kippur events on next page Yom Kippur Oct. 4: Kol Nidre Oct. 5: Yom Kippur MORE

Services are planned; registration is requested for more detailed information. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25: Erev Rosh Hashanah Sept. 26: Rosh Hashanah Congregation Havurim 29500 Via Princesa, Murrieta, CA 92563 congregationhavurim@gmail.comhavurim.org | 951-387-5018

Congregation B’nai Chaim and Congregation Havurim will be having a joint service this year. Additional information was not available at press time.

Services held at the LFJCC. The Erev Rosh Hashanah Seder will be Israeli style by Pita 22. The dinner is $25 per person–under 12-years-old is free. LFJCC will be collecting non-perishable food donations to benefit the JFS food pantry. All services will be streamed on Youtube in addition to the in-person events. Registration is required.

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Services will be at the Escala Clubhouse in Mission Valley and Ventura Cove, Mission Bay. For the outdoor Ventura Cove events, chairs and sun protection are suggested. Registration is required for all events on their website. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 25 7 p.m.: Rosh Hashanah at Escala Clubhouse Sept. 10:3026a.m.: Tashlikh ceremony at Ventura Cove Oct. 10:302 a.m.-12 p.m: Children’s High Holiday Experience at San Dieguito County Park, Del Mar. There will be stories and activities for kids to experience the values of the holiday. There will be light refreshments.

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Yom Kippur Oct. 5:305p.m.: Yom Kippur at Escala Clubhouse. The event includes the Kol Nidre music and a Nizkor memorial recognition. There will be a potluck Break Fast meal following the program.

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Services will be held at the Unity Center in Mira Mesa. Cost is $250 per person for non-members (includes admission for all 3 in-person services). $180 per household for livestream only via Vimeo (includes all 3 services)

For events open to the public on Zoom, pre-registration is required. Register at: sdo-synagogue.org/hhd. Rosh Hashanah: Sept. 25 6:30 p.m.: Erev Rosh Hashanah Seder, Zoom only — free & open to the public Sept. 26 10 a.m.: Rosh Hashanah Day 1, In-Person & Live-Streamed — tickets required congregation Yom Kippur: Oct. 4 7 p.m.: Kol Nidre, In-Person & Live-Streamed — tickets 10Oct.required5a.m.:Yom Kippur & Yizkor Memorial Service, In-Person & Live-Streamed - tickets required CongregationUNAFFILIATEDB’nai Chaim 29500 Via Princesa, Murrieta, CA 92563 bnaichaim1@gmail.combnaichaim.com | 951-677-7350

The Elijah Minyan — Yom Kippur Oct. 6:304p.m.: Kol Nidre: the most soul-ful service of the Jewish year Oct. 5 9 a.m.: Yom Kippur, the Yiskor Memorial prayers 5 p.m.: Entering the Holy of Holies 5:30 p.m.: Meditative healing service 6 p.m.-7:15 p.m.: The Ne’ilah Service: the concluding 7:15servicep.m.: Havdalah:the sounding of the Shofar

Congregation B’nai Chaim and Congregation Havurim will be having a joint service this year. Additional information was not available at press time. Happy Rosh Hashanah 2022

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The name of the play points to these types of conversations and is drawn from Nathan’s history. “The core of the play is this game that my sister and I always used to play where we would say in the event of a second Hollocaust, who would hide us?...If we met someone we would be like ‘Oh yeah he would hide us’ it was a sign that we trusted someone. It was a brother sister kind of shorthand and when I thought of it as a 40-year-old or something I was like ‘This is pathological. I want to explore this.’” The first form the piece took was a short story in “The New Yorker” in 2011. The interest in reinterpreting his short stories into plays originally came as a suggestion.“NoraEphron had read “The TwentySeventh Man” which is my first book and took me to lunch at Barney Greengrass to show her Jewish street cred and we went for bagels and lox...and you know there was just a kindness. We got along and she was like ‘This story is a play and you are FEATURE Elul 5782–Tishrei 5783

The landscape has been changing very quickly. That’s the stuff that I love to wrestle with,” he said.

World Premiere Play Explores Contemporary Jewish Conversations and Friendships

“What We Talk About When We Talk About Anne Frank” plays at the Old Globe Sept. 11-Oct. 23 by Jacqueline Bull Nathan Englander worked for a whole year on developing his short story “What We Talk About When We Talk About Anne Frank” into a play of the same name exchanging draft after draft with Barry Edelstein. When they finally had a draft they were happy to take into rehearsal, Covid shutdowns hit two days later.“Itwas just of the personal disappointments — it was so sad. I had been working for years and we were just about to all fly out and go into rehearsal. It has been so close to my heart this whole time. I didn’t let myself look at it for two years in between. I was like ‘Don’t read it. Don’t touch it,’” Nathan Englander said. He was in France teaching for NYU this past summer and was able to take a whole month to reopen the draft that he kept away from and revise it. The world changed in those two years and what his characters (contemporary Jewish friends) would actually talk about, their worries, their opinions on the global landscape had to reflect a specific point in time.“After Pittsburgh and Poway which are referenced in the play, the Jewish American experience and this play which is really talking things out (with a couple from Israel and a couple from America) about current Judaism, and future Judaism and Jewish history — these very main Jewish themes that are in there.

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World Premiere continued going to be a playwright and I’m going to teach you.’...I understood why she saw the play in that story.” “I wasn’t looking for it, but when I wrote this story of the same title and was touring a lot, and talking about it a lot, and I thought it is really two couples and their son. And the story is set in a kitchen and a backyard. It really stayed in my head. I think this one moves in the same way. I also understood the heart of the conversations in it. You don’t expand conversations into a novel that way. I felt like this is suited for the stage. The ideas in here, the conversations that are really stripped down for a short story could really open up on stage,” he said. The story works for a play on the practical side: having only a few principal characters and two sets. More than that, the story works as a play because it is driven by dialogue. Nathan explains the constraints of the medium can inspire so much creativity in the problem solving. Theater imposes rules like the length of acts to give an audience a bathroom break or the physical square footage of the“Everythingstage. is both like infinitely suffocating and infinitely freeing. Each form gives you something and takes something,” he said. To go from the experience of being in a room by himself writing fiction, or even to go from the experience of the“artistic isolation” of Covid making sourdough bread to being in rehearsal with a large number of collaborators, Nathan remarked that he was “floating.” “It is a process of discovery and I love the shared discovery. I’m so thrilled with this cast. I love watching them work together,” he said. In regards to the experience of an audience watching the play, Nathan explained that his intention is for a sense of universality where lots of different people can connect to all of the characters and their different viewpoints and live in that space without it being didactic.“Saytwo of our friends get divorced and you and I can have the same facts, know the same people and each take a different side and argue it out until infinity and if we are being gossipy have a really good time doing so [laughs]. That’s when literature is living, that’s when a play is living — when you both see the same story, see the same character and really have different feelings and opinions... I love when people think about how they think, that’s all.” A

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• Who are we? (Orthodox, Reform, Conservative, non-observant and others) Are we competitive or supportive?

I thought I could learn to juggle and also use the skill to energize the religious school. I started practicing and I taught myself to juggle three balls at one time. When I tried to juggle four balls, they all fell to the floor. I tried and I tried, but I could not go beyond three balls.

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I realized that what I was able to do was not a failure but a success.Afewmonths later during the reading of the Purim Megillah at the section when Esther had parties, I took out my juggling balls, threw them in the air and juggled well enough for the kids to give me a standing ovation.

• What can the smaller congregations do? What can the larger congregations do?

who juggles aren’t you?” Since there were no other Rabbis who were able to juggle at the synagogue, I said yes. The young boy responded, “I hope you are the Rabbi at my Bar Mitzvah.”

Not all Rabbis need to juggle, but I am suggesting that Jewish children and adults need an “in” like juggling was mine. Judaism is going through a difficult transitional time and many Jews are unsure of what to do next. As you respond to the classical questions of the High Holidays please include a few modern questions. The way Jewish youth, adults and professionals respond to the current needs of the day will determine the nature and future of Judaism.

• How do Rabbis and synagogues respond to livestreaming? What can we say to members (or non-members) when they say, I use Zoom to attend services because I can’t afford the cost of the gas?

• What should we tell members of synagogues? What should we tell non members of synagogues?

Years ago a friend gave me a juggling set as a birthday gift. My friend said, “I want to give you something that will challenge you and could take your mind off of your serious concerns.”

• Do congregations want Rabbis or TV stars?

Remember: It is successful to juggle three balls.

• How do we develop energy and finances?

• How do we maintain synagogue membership after Bar, Bat Mitzvah? What is the role of individual and family membership?

As the years went by I was inspired to juggle, but I could not succeed. I became frustrated at my attempts so I set the balls aside. One day I was walking through the hall of the synagogue and a ten-year-old stopped me and said, “You’re the Rabbi

In the near future it may be difficult to judge between success and failure. The following are seven suggestions to keep in mind. ❶ Whatever we are able to do for the Jewish community is a success. ❷ We should offer support to all endeavors and be thankful for what we can do. ❸ Jewish youth should be taught by parents, friends and the community that it is good and worthwhile to be known as a Jew. ❹ It is important that Jews throughout the world be known as a supportive asset to the world. In particular, that Jews in the United States and Israel work closely together to make the world a better place. ❺ The Jewish community and individuals should not be fearful of relationships with non-Jews. ❻ We must recognize that there are Jews throughout the world who want to join hands with Israeli and American Jews. ❼ We must develop new approaches to the “Social-religious Jewish Community” which will encourage Jews of all ages and ethnic partners to support the success of current modern Jewish ethnicity and encourage all ages of Jews to grow together.

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• What is success and happiness for the Jewish teenager? How do Jewish schools fit in?

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FEATURE Yom Kippur is the day when G-d’s love for us is most apparent. Elul 5782–Tishrei 5783 SDJEWISHJOURNAL.COM

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Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement is upon us. We have dipped the apple in the honey and heard the call of the Shofar. Once again, the Jewish people have proclaimed that Almighty G-d is “Our Father, Our King!” We have allowed the wailing of the Shofar to penetrate the depths of our souls, as it has aroused us from spiritual complacency and renewed our drive to serve the One Above. Now what? Where do we go from here?

If asking ourselves these types of questions immobilizes us, Hasidic philosophy teaches that they emanate from the evil inclination. If, on the other hand, such questions motivate us to do better going forward and to learn from our past mistakes, we can be sure that they emanate from our G-dly soul, which is our true essence. Yom Kippur is the day most suitable to make a healthy assessment of our past mistakes and it is the best time to address them appropriately and sincerely. The awesomeness of the day helps us to feel profound regret for our past misdeeds, we verbalize them in the prayers and we make positive resolutions to not repeat them going forward. These three steps are called ‘Teshuvah,’ which means ‘Return to HaShem.’ We re-occupy that place where we belong, in the bosom of the Divine Presence. It is regrettable that many people feel a sense of dread when thinking about Yom Kippur. We must do a better job creating the right environment in the synagogues on this day of endless opportunity, where the sky is, literally, theWelimit.can illustrate this hopeful and even joyous approach by using a known analogy. A king was compelled to exile a prince from his presence and even his capital city because the prince did not behave appropriately. The prince matured and came to understand his mistakes and was filled with regret. When the king heard this, he was overjoyed and the prince made a triumphant return to the king. Imagine what their reunion looked like. It was the most joyful experience possible! This is exactly the type of joy we should all feel on Yom Kippur, for Yom Kippur is the day when G-d’s love for us is most apparent. We are described as a unique people because we reciprocate this love and yearning to be close with the Almighty. In fact, when we initiate the movement of getting closer to G-d (as opposed to G-d initiating the reunion), the effects are much more pronounced and permanent. G-d gives us this opportunity because He believes in us. Let us resolve to enter the holiest day of the year in the correct frame of mind. That we will return to Our Father Our King with love and the consequence of that love; joy! If your child asked you for something with joyfulness and appreciation would you not be more likely to grant the request?Maythe Almighty bless all of us with health, happiness, success and a reinvigorated spirituality that will inform our whole year! A Yom Kippur: The Opportunity of a Lifetime by Rabbi Yeruchem Eilfort

The answer is, “ever higher!” We Jews live by the motto, “Go from strength to strength.” (Psalms 84:8). This means that complacency is viewed as negative and that we must continually seek dynamic growth in our service of the Creator. It is precisely this ability to move forward that differentiates human beings from all other creations, for it is only the human who can spiritually advance.However, a person may justifiably ask him or herself, who am I to seek a closer relationship with G-d? I have so many imperfections. I am flawed. I have skeletons in the closet. I am a hypocrite to show my face in the King’s Presence (or even in the King’s house, as it were).

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Rosh Hashanahat

by Patricia Goldblatt

We always look forward to beginnings — the summer, preparation for holidays, new adventures. Endings in contrast can make us soulful, sad, but perhaps grateful for the experiences gleaned: a friend moves away, a vacation ends, a favorite outfit is outgrown. T.S. Eliot once wrote, “In my beginning is my end...” That idea of the cycle perpetuates literature and truly our lives. No sooner do we commence do we engage to contemplate the denouement, the wrap up of events. Blaise Pascal and others admonished us that the process, the journey, not the arrival point should be the goal as we glean information, grow, mature on the days that lead up to the conclusion. Underlying that powerful intent is the aim of Rosh Hashanah.Howwell

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I recall my very first day of Hebrew School, a curly haired tot anticipating the commencement of my Jewish studies, but then suddenly

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aware of the grim appraising face of Miss Glazer who immediately admonished us, a gaggle of 12 little girls stood frozen at the door. Quietly and seriously ushered into the stark room, we were confronted with a huge book drawn on the green blackboard in which, we were told, G-d would decide our fate in the coming year. Did we comprehend the meaning of repentance or the threat of death? Did we gasp the feeling of life’s fleetingness and the burden of our gossiping, petty squabbles over Barbie dolls, or arguments with our siblings: that we must break those destructive cycles and change ourselves for the better? Or else? It is doubtful that the two Channahs, Yehudith or Sara were excited that we would be celebrating a new year. Instead, we bit our nails, gazed through the open windows towards the playground and wished for release from the stifling class that day at the end of August. Over the many ensuing years, I’ve wondered why Miss Glazer did not introduce Abraham as the paragon of hospitality because of his reception of wayfarers in Genesis 18, seeking out passing travellers, welcoming them to his tent to share a meal. Other elements of the story, too, might have prefaced the new year with his eagerness, his largesse and helpfulness to those who continues on next page

to contemplate, quietly but joyfully sing, laugh and be together. Ah, the togetherness, even when the cousins have moved far away. We are on the voyage to the new year! The mysteries to come are unknowable at this point but dawning in our heads. We think of the opening and refreshing of our hearts, the opportunity to be better, act more thoughtfully, work towards the betterment of our souls, our communities, restore climate as we deliciously ponder what could be. We’re thinking as well of the biblical meaning and metaphors as discussed in D’var Torahs in our parshas: Sarah’s joy at becoming a mother so late in life; the knife poised at Isaac’s throat by his loving, fearing father; Hagar’s banishment with her son and fears; And I’m beaming ear to ear, remembering my grandson who at his bar mitzvah in June told his story of the little yud that could. And thirdly, finally we are readying ourselves for the ending of the evenings of family so we might go out into the world and put into action our promises to renew ourselves: to consume less, recycle more, put kindness before self, decide what is truly needed to improve ourselves. All the knocks to the hearts in the Al Chet prayers (for the sin of...) embodied in the ritual of tashlikh as we cast bread or pebbles over natural or flowing water symbolized by the casting off of our sins. But as well, we think of what is absent, missing this year. For us, it was the loss of a treasured son-in-law suddenly and tragically taken away. He no longer sits at our table, a man never happy about the gefilte fish placed before him, but ruefully accepting his place at the annual supper. Instead, his two-year-old, a joyful miracle, acknowledges “Daddy’s gone” and our hearts break. And I come full circle to the cycles that order our lives, the growth and decline, the sweet and the soul, the hills and valleys. And as I dismiss the troubling thoughts of Miss Glazer, I turn my mind to the fortifying and uplifting family dinners that not only herald the new year but my soul. A

And with the coming of each high holiday, it was always the same: divided into three distinct parts. First, there is the anticipation that old positive and good excitement overlaid with the sweetness of years of family togetherness that arrests the regular routines: the matzoh balls, the kugels, the deserts and my bubbe’s dark colored sweet wine, brewed in her basement from prunes, the uncles in fedoras, the aunties in their best.

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Beginnings continued unexpectedly required help. But if this initial beginning terrified and froze us in fear, it was soon to be replaced by the loving arms of parents, grandparents whose Rosh Hashanah dinners precluded the terror described by my surprisingly young teacher. Did she also teach that the new year was the traditional anniversary of the creation of Adam and Eve as well as our connection in G-d’s world? If so, I doubt my classmates heard her words. Did she also tell us that the origin of the beginning of the economic year of sowing, growth and harvest in agricultural societies of the ancient Near East, was associated with Rosh Hashanah and yummy fruits packed in our school lunches? Instead, her focus, as she used her dark pointer towards the open book, was an exhortation towards a rebirth of self, to weed out our flaws, our diseases of the soul, refresh and regrow ourselves.

Of the many lessons I learned in my six years at Hebrew School, this initial one has remained strongly embedded in my earlyLater,consciousness.andmoremature, I learned about the period leading up to Rosh Hashanah when selichot were recited. These prayers for repentance are for reflection and introspection as we hope to better ourselves as we mull over the past year’s experiences. With curiosity and compassion, we stand outside of ourselves and examine, critiquing like a kind parent on how to improve, how to behave better, love more. In that month preceding Rosh Hashanah, we are indeed entreated to initiate self-examination and repent, culminating in ten days of the Yamim Nora’im, or the Days of Awe, that are initiated with Rosh Hashanah and end withTrue,Yom Kippur.Iunderstood the wisdom of prayer, the need to review, revise, repent and look earnestly at my behaviour. But still, it was the warmth of my mother’s hug at the door, the smell of soup at the family dinner that enticed me and caused all the New Years to come to be visited with delight, longing and happiness.

We think of the opening and refreshing of our hearts, the opportunity to be better, act moretheworkthoughtfully,towardsbettermentofoursouls...

So in preparation, we shop, we clean, we plan, we cook for the inaugural dinner and we look forward to our kinder gathered at the table, the hugs, the pleasantness of being together, wanting the evenings that extend long into the night to endure. We relish the precious time of timelessness as we do not look at clocks, check cell phones or hurry the children home to beds. Like slowly dissolving a chocolate on the tongue, we want the taste of the night to persist as long as possible. And we recall when we were all young and impressionable cherished by our adoring families. Later missing those who no longer share our festiveSecondly,meal. and most importantly is the process, the rituals and routines that are repeated through our brief prayers and call out to G-d. We bless the challah, the earth, the fruit of the vine, the wine; we bless the multi seeded pomegranate, too, the diverse products of the earth and we break with our everyday activities

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THRU SEPT. 25: Fandango For Butterflies (And Coyotes) Performed both in English and Spanish (with live supertitles) this new play explores a community gathering fandango of music and dance. The Old Globe Visit theoldglobe.org for more information.

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THRU SEPT. 4: Midsummer Night’s Dream Shakespeare’s most magical and joyful comedy.

This world premiere play focuses on modern friendships of Jewish couples. See page 37 for a full feature. Cygnet Theatre Visit cygnettheatre.com for more information.

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Robin Israel, Seacrest Foundation’s Chief Foundation Officer states, “This has been an almost 35-year journey of friendship and professional success.” Israel also noted that the night before a building opened for the first time, she and Ferris would spend the night to make sure all systems were in place before residents arrived. “We even spent the first night in the assisted living building once residents were admitted.” She smiled as she recalled going with Ferris to check on residents in the middle of the night to see if they were warm enough — “We just couldn’t sleep unless we knew they were comfortable.”Anotherlong-time colleague and friend of 26 years, Bradley Blose, said of Pam, “Pam cares so deeply about each resident and it shows in everything she does. I am fortunate to call her my friend and colleague.” For more information about the July 8, 2023 Ruby Jubilee Gala, please contact Karen Moy, Special Events Manager at 760-516-2000 or

“I share my story with thousands of children each year at the Museum of Tolerance.” - Gloria Ungar, Holocaust survivor Join the Simon Wiesenthal Center in ensuring that generations to come will not have to endure nor bear witness to the atrocities of human genocide. Link your name in perpetuity to the Center’s mission of memory by joining the Simon Wiesenthal Legacy Society. * The Simon Wiesenthal Center, Inc. is a qualified tax-exempt nonprofit corporation under Section 501(c)(3) of the Internal Revenue Code. The tax identification number is 95-3964928. For more information on Planned Giving: RABBI MEYER H. MAY , Executive Director, Simon Wiesenthal Cente r rabbimay@wiesenthal.com or 310.772.2424 SimonLEGACYWiesenthalSOCIETY SIMON WIESENTHAL CENTER Elul 5782–Tishrei 5783 SDJEWISHJOURNAL.COM | 57

Bruno Touschek: 1921-1978. Austrian Physicist. He conceived the idea of radiation damping of electrons

Alexander Grothendieck: 1928-2014.

Echoes. We Remember: September 1, 1939

Let’s look at a few of these survivors who changed history forever. Elie Wiesel: 1928-2016. Author, humanitarian. In 1944, The Romanian village where he was born and raised was invaded by Nazis, its inhabitants were deported to the camps. “Never shall I forget that nocturnal silence which deprived me, for all eternity, of the desire to live,” he wrote. Wiesel had dedicated his life to reminding the world about the inhumanity of the Holocaust.

Simon Wiesenthal: 1908-2005 Architect and Nazi hunter. Lying in a ditch and weighing less than 100 lbs., he was liberated. Wiesenthal played a critical role in the capture of Nazi war criminals for the next 30 years, exposing an estimated 1,100 Nazi war criminals.

Primo Levi: 1919-1987. Italian Chemist/Writer, notably “If This Is a Man” (published in the United States as “Survival in Auschwitz,” regarded by many as one of the most important books of the 20th century.

Simone Veil: 1927-1979. French Politician and Lawyer. She was Minister of Health under Prime Ministers Chirac and Barre and member of the European Parliament (1979-1993). In 1998, she was appointed to the Constitutional Council of France, and in 2003, elected to the Board of Directors of the International Criminal Court’s Trust Fund for Victims.

French Mathematician. Considered one of the greatest mathematical minds of the 20th century, his contributions included among many, his work on algebraic topology, algebraic geometry, number theory, Galois Theory and func tional analysis.

On September 1, 1939 WWll “officially” started with the German invasion of Poland. Today again, we remember. During the Holocaust 11 million people did not die. During the Holocaust one person died 11 million times. We must never forget! In such staggering “statistics” it’s easier to forget; impossible to fully embrace. In these staggering numbers, the monstrosity is too overwhelming to imagine; too unthinkable...to think about.

I- SHOUT-OUT! Each was far more than a single human being. There are the children, grandchildren, generations — unborn. Those who would have existed, thrived, contributed...and loved! During the Holocaust 6 million Jews did not die. During the Holocaust untold generations were lost to us. We must never forget what might have been — what should have been! From these roots: They made it through and changed history.

Imre Kertesz: 1929-2016 Hungarian novelist, author of “Sorstalansag” (Fatelessness), Nobel Prize winner for Literature (2002) “for writing that upholds the fragile experiences of the individual against the barbaric arbitrariness of history.” Viktor Emil Frankl: 1905-1997. Austrian psychiatrist/author of the ground-breaking “Man’s Search for Meaning.” His 32 books on existential analysis and logotherapy have been translated into 26 languages. He held professorships at Harvard, Stanford, Dallas, Pittsburgh and San Diego, along with 29 honorary doctorates from universities around the world and among many other honors, was awarded the Oskar Pfister prize of the American Society of Psychiatry.

Please shout with me: I- SHOUT-OUT! Each was a mother, a father, a daughter, a son, a sister, a brother, a cousin, a friend. Each was a unique, separate human being. And millions of those were brutalized, beaten, starved, mutilated, tortured, gassed — exterminated in concentration camps simply because they were Jews in a world gone mad.

Shalom my dear San Diegans: Once again, this month we continue our 3000year tradition of celebrating the High Holidays. For monumental events are there truly beginnings and ends? I doubt it. There are, however, dates; markings to celebrate, to mourn, to be shocked, amazed, to gaze in wonderment at the journey of human history.

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4. Transfer the cornmeal grits to the prepared baking dish. Cover with plastic wrap, and refrigerate until set.

• 1 cup corn grits • ½ cup parmesan cheese, grated, plus more for serving • 2 tbsp. olive oil • 2 tsp. za’atar seasoning • 2 tbsp. honey

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circulating within a betatron, which laid the groundwork for powerful particle accelerators. Wladyslaw Szpilman: 1911-2000. Polish Pianist and Composer. He wrote both symphonic and popular music. At least 100 of his compositions are popular today. His account of his survival, “Śmierć Miasta” (Death of a City), was republished in English by his son in 1998 as “The Pianist.”

I’m starting my High Holiday menu with air-fried polenta fries, drizzled with sticky honey and sprinkled with savory za’atar, a middle eastern spice blend. It’s the perfect start to your New Year meal. No air fryer? No problem! You can fry these in olive oil until crispy, or coat in oil and bake at 400F until golden!

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• 3 cups vegetable stock, unsalted

2. In a medium pot, bring the vegetable stock, garlic, salt and pepper to a boil.

1. Generously grease an 8x8inch baking pan.

6. Toss with olive oil and air fry at 400F for 15-20 minutes, shaking halfway through, until crispy.

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7. Top with za’atar and sea salt.

8. Drizzle with honey, and freshly grated parmesan cheese. 9. Enjoy! 6 Micah Siva noshwithmicah.com 5782–Tishrei

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Roman Polanski: 1933 Polish Director, notably of the 2002 film, “The Pianist,” for which he won the Oscar for best director.Thesearebut a few who survived and changed the world. Just imagine the potential contribution lost of millions targeting for extermination. Just imagine them and the generations that would have followed.

5. Flip the set polenta onto a cutting board and slice into 16 strips.

• 2 cloves garlic, chopped • ¼ tsp. sea salt • ¼ tsp. black pepper, freshly ground

3. Add the grits and reduce heat. Cook on low for 5-6 minutes, whisking occasionally until thickened. Remove from heat and add the parmesan cheese.

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