Outreach Magazine by mhmcorrespondent

Community Newsletter December 2018

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2019

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For the Mill Hill Missionaries, love and service is expressed wherever they work in the world drawing inspiration from the thoughts of the founder. In the same line, it is an invitation to everyone, through this magazine, to practice love, to serve rather than seeking to be served, to recognize those who need our love and in our communities. Finally, I would like to thank everyone who contributed to this magazine, our dear formation staff for the support and advice, and all of you, our dear esteemed readers, friends, benefactors and well wishers. I wish you a nice reading and hope you will enjoy it! God bless you. Merry Christmas, enjoy your festive season and happy New Year 2019.

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Chief Editor Dear readers

am glad to present to you another volume of our annual Outreach magazine of the Mill Hill Formation House, Jinja. It has been a collective work of the editorial board and I really thank God and all the board members for the wonderful work done. This outreach magazine has been prepared in line with the theme, which is our Mill Hill Motto, To Love and to Serve. I hope you will enjoy the reading of various articles from different contributors of this magazine trying to expound more about love and service. Love and service go hand in hand, the one without the other may not make sense. Today, we realize that most people in their different capacities are longing for love more than anything else and every one of us needs to be loved. In realizing this, we see that these two concepts are worth to be talked about and expressed in our every day encounters with the people in our families, communities, schools, apostolate areas, public places and the world at large.

Wilson Karugaba.

EDITORIAL TEAM

Victor

Joseph Tusiime

Joseph Okoth

Bowen

Landus

During the same ceremony the candidate is asked: ―The death of many missionaries reminds us of the dangers we encounter in committing ourselves to witness to the gospel of Jesus. Therefore, I ask you, is it your desire to become a perpetual member of the Society and to persevere in it until death?

To Love and to Serve It was shocking news: our brother and friend Fr. Cosmas Ondari shot dead in front of his parish church of Kembong in Cameroon. Just over a year ago he had begun his miss ionar y apostolate with great enthusiasm and commitment to ‗love and to serve‘. ‗To Love and to Serve‘ is the theme of this edition of Outreach; it is also the motto which Cardinal Vaughan, the founder of our Mill Hill Society chose commissioning us, missionaries and future missionaries to translate it into our daily life.

―Such, by the grace of God, is my desire.‖ This is the answer Fr. Cosmas gave wholeheartedly two years ago. Whilst reflecting on the words of the oath and the tragic event of Fr. Cosmas‘ death, the words of St. John in his first epistle come vividly into my mind: ―This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us; we too ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.‖ 1John 3:16

During the ceremony of the perpetual oath, a Mill Hill Missionary candidate is presented with a red sash and a Mission Cross with the significant words: ―Receive this symbol of the red sash, let it be a sign to you of the love you should have for the people entrusted to you, and of your readiness to give yourself to the utmost for the love of God.‖ and ―Receive the Crucifix of our Lord Jesus Christ, wear it always upon your heart and bear it with you into whatever lands you may be sent, to be your strength and protection, your consolation and salvation, in life and death.‖

This is not romance, this is paying the ultimate prize of love in its stark reality. Fr. Cosmas was only 33years of age, the age of Jesus when he was killed. This Jesus reminds us: ―No one has greater love than this, to lay down one‘s life for one‘s friends.‖ John 15:13 These are challenging times especially for those who are in the process of discerning their vocation and are preparing to make decisions about their future. ―To Love and to Serve‖ is a mission statement for each Christian but it becomes even more compelling for us missionaries and future missionaries who are called to go out to the ends of the world to be witnesses of God‘s love by the way we act and live with the conviction that life is stronger than 3

death, hatred will be overcome by love.

Primarily, this should not be because of the various religious inclinations and teachings but rather out of will and duty as human beings.

I like to thank all who have contributed to this edition of Outreach: the editorial board, all those who wrote articles, Fr. Charles, the patron, and our new formator Fr. John Akain who has just arrived and generously shared his experience in this edition.

However, the paradox of our present time as Doctor Bob Moorehed said, is that we talk too much, love too seldom and hate too often. We work too much but serve less simply because we all feel we are bosses and therefore need to be served. We work out of duty because we expect a token or salary at the end of the agreed time.

Wishing you deep inner joy, the joy of the gospel, on the Feast of Christmas and peace, the peace that only Christ can give, new hope and courage and abundant blessings for the New Year 2019. Fr. Wijnand Huijs, Rector.

In one of his works, Bertrand Russell, one of the greatest thinkers, comments that ―a good life is one that is inspired by love and knowledge.‖ Mahatma Gandhi complements this by saying that, ―the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in service to others.‖ I guess that this service is not out of compulsion. It must be out of love. Falling in love is a nourishing thing in life and makes life enjoyable. More importantly, falling in love with individuals in society makes one to transcend or rather go beyond his/her comfort zone and thus, one becomes able to devote themselves to the service of others. This is why Andrew Lloyd sings that love has the ability to change everything. Sincere love opens up someone to move from being full of themselves to being understanding of the others around them, empathizing with them, being concerned and flexible to learn and share with them without expecting a reward. Doing this enables individuals to share with the world their giftedness. Sharing out our love through serving humanity is like a tree that bears

True Love that Begets Service In one of the most beautiful prayers of St. Francis of Assisi, he prays that God may grant him the graces to love rather than to be loved. Cardinal Herbert Vaughan, the founder of the Mill Hill Missionary Society, comments that, ―He who loves becomes identified with the one he loves so that a friend is called an Alter Ego (another self) ….‖ The primary call to every person towards the ―other self‖ (alter ego) as Vaughan says, is the call to be ready and open to love and to serve each other. 4

fruits, it bears them but does not eat them rather those around the tree are the ones who eat its fruits. Just like these trees, love also involves giving up our best moments, responsibilities or duties to reach out to those in need. In doing so, we shall lead a good life that Russell calls us to.

LIVE YOUR SERVANTSHIP!!!

any people regard themselves as optimists or pessimists. But I do not regard myself as either of those, I prefer the term realist. The realists pay attention to whatever is happening around them. They see things as they are and respond to them effectively. Actually, they practically do what is right for the betterment of their brothers and sisters, which sometimes involves risking their own lives for the benefit of others.

Reaching out to people in love calls upon individuals to close their ears to the prejudices that people pose and be open minded to make new ventures and have a personal touch of the people. Prejudices cause the person reaching out to serve with a judgmental attitude thus, limiting them to love.

Optimists are people who tend to be happier and cope better in tough conditions, look at the world with a positive mind. However, it is possible to be unrealistically optimistic. And it is not certainly helpful to put a positive mind on everything or pretend that things are fine if they are clearly not. As Christians, we need to have a realistic approach in building God‘s kingdom. A devoted servant of God must have the desire to serve God‘s people, not only by giving them hope but also doing something practical when needed.

Today, love and service in the contemporary world seem to be caught in the snares of the technological tools. Our gadgets like phones, computers, televisions and even jobs seem to attract more devotion and attention than fellow human beings. We therefore need to reflect and prioritize more on human beings rather than the gadgets. In all we do, let us remember that the true power of love is exercised by service. Let us nourish love, for love begets service.

More so, faith is not something tangible which can be seen or touched at any time. How can we say that we have faith if we do not look at our brethren‘s needs? The best way we become faithful to God is to serve His people. If we all agree that we are created in God‘s image, then we have to serve others, because through them, we see God‘s

Simiyu Victor Wekesa Year III, Kenya.

presence. God did not call us to be served but to serve.

person only with a prayer? In fact, Jesus was a practical man. In the gospels we always hear that Jesus cured people, fed people and did many other practical actions in his time.

Most people may ask how they can serve God‘s people when they are not religious. I would rather say that God‘s service takes place in various responsibilities we undertake in life, whether small or big. Basically, this starts from the families we come from, communities we live in and groups or societies we belong to. In order to be good servants we should have genuine and heartfelt empathy. It is more important to put others first rather than ourselves. The church leaders or civil leaders have the duty to be servant leaders, following the example of Christ.

Therefore, dear brothers and sisters, as the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ draws near, let us put into practice what we preach and believe in. We should not limit ourselves to talking only. It is much better to do something practical for our brothers and sisters in need rather than only praying for them. There is no one who cannot offer anything in this world. In the small responsibilities entrusted to us, let us do what we can to make sure that our brothers and sisters feel comforted. Ikofo Ferdinand Congolese, Second year.

THE HOLY EUCHARIST During my reflection, I got a desire to write about the Eucharist which is the central part of our Christian life. St John Paul II once said ―the Eucharistic sacrifice is a single sacrifice that embraces everything.‖ It is the greatest treasure of the church. Etymologically, the word Eucharist, comes from a Greek word ―Eukhrastia,‖ meaning, thanksgiving or gratitude. Mathew 28:20 tells us about the institution of the Eucharist through the species of bread and wine during the last supper. Through the celebration of

We cannot pretend we are ministers of the church or good Christians if we do not follow Christ‘s example. When Jesus Christ was on earth, he preached and lived according to his words. We too, must emulate that in order to be His good followers. For instance, if a priest or any other Christian with an expensive car and bank account, visits a poor bedridden person and just prays for the person and goes away without doing something practical, is that really true Christianity? Surely, if Christ himself were there, could he leave the 6

the Eucharist, we give thanks to God for His eternal presence to us through Jesus Christ. Personally, I believe it‘s not merely a symbol or a nice gesture to watch but the Eucharist is God himself present in body and blood. It shows Jesus‘ real presence as he said in Mathew 26:25; “This is my body and this is my blood,” and every day, these words are repeated by the pope, bishops and priests during consecration.

Eucharist as Christians who follow the life of Christ, since Christ is present as a whole not in parts. Therefore, let us develop the desire for the Eucharist. Through it, we enter into union with Christ. The Eucharist cannot be fully understood; it is an incredible gift to all of us and we need to love it unconditionally. Again, St. Maximillian Kolbe once said, ―What a miracle! Who could ever have imagined such? If the Angels could be jealous of men, they would be so for one reason: Holy communion‖. Sserunkuuma Kato Paul Third year, Ugandan.

THE TRUE EXPERIENCE OF LOVE AND SERVICE

Evangelist Ben Hinn once said that there is healing in the Eucharist, but the Christians are not fully aware. Some of our Mill Hill missionaries, whom I call modern martyrs, are, Fr. Declan O‘Toole and Fr. John Kaiser drew their strengths from the Eucharist to speak for the voiceless people in Uganda and Kenya respectively. We can be good scholars and preachers but if we fail to recognize the centre of our Christian life, our life becomes meaningless. We therefore need to enter into communion with Jesus by receiving the Eucharist. He transforms us into new persons living in a new way.

―What would you like to be when you grow up?‖ asked the class teacher.―I want to be like Bishop Collin Davies.‖ ―Why do you want to be like Bishop Collin Davies?‖ ―Because he is a loving person; whenever we meet on the way heading to the same direction, he readily offers me a lift. He loves the poor and does whatever it takes to care for them. He is a lover of education; he ensures that those from the marginalized families go to school and thereafter, have something to do. He is also famous for his habit of carrying a spade and a jembe, hoe, in the boot of his car whereby, whenever he is driving and

St John Paul II, in his encyclical about the Eucharist to the church gave us a plan to always contemplate the face of Christ. He encouraged us to love the 7

comes across pot holes on the road he would alight from the vehicle to repair the road then continue with the journey. He is very hard on those who do not appreciate the little support they get and can change his mood immediately. Therefore, I want to work as he works, to love as he loves and to serve as he serves.â&#x20AC;&#x2013;

mentioned Fr. Bernard Phelan, MHM, who had been on mission in this parish. They have more vivid memories of him than of the society itself, he is a good example of Christ to them, and their stories made me aware that his work in this place was of loving service. Listening to stories from missionaries in Karamoja, I get inspired by their sacrifice, love and service. They live among the people, share their stories and in times of joy and sorrow, they are always close to them. Listening to how these people risk their lives to the point of dying has inspired me.

My vocation story mainly starts from this bishop, he made me know what love and service means. Despite his position as a bishop, he was very free with everybody both Catholics and non Catholics. He never at any cost clung to his position as a bishop; he was there to serve faithfully. For me, I knew that it was only bishops who have such personalities, and so by becoming a bishop I would even do more. He is resting with the Angels of God and his memories of good work remain in my heart. This man to me was really walking in the footsteps of Christ.

After a week of retreat in December 2017, I had a chance to travel to Palabek Refugee Camp to experience life there. We stayed with one of the Salesian priests, Fr. Arasu, who is on mission there together with a Marian Priest, Fr. John, who occasionally visits the camp. Listening to the stories of both the young and old refugees in the camp and celebrating with them the Eucharist was inspiring. Most of the refugees having gone through a lot of traumas in their life never wanted the priests to leave them. Love speaks louder than any word in this world.

One of the things which made me love Mill Hill Missionaries even more, was from the life stories that I used to read from the Magazine of the Friends of Mill Hill Missionaries. I was inspired and so decided to join this team of Christ. Throughout my three years in formation, I have encountered most of the Mill Hill Missionaries doing their missionary work in East Africa. Seeing them moving about, does not tell all that they do as they are in mission, their practical lives speak more to me than their words. When I was in Toroma Parish in Soroti Diocese, I could introduce myself as a Mill Hill Missionary Seminarian but it did not mean much to them, not until I

There is a challenge that remains in my mind and heart as I continue discerning on Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2DC;s will for my life. The missionaries have left a legacy of love and service. Am I able to offer true loving service to God and the people I encounter all the days of my life? This is a point of reflection for you and me. Michael Ouma Owuor (Matoka) Year III, Kenyan. 8

In the evening of my first day at the formation house, Saturday 17th November, Fr Wijnand, the Rector of the Formation House, at a Eucharistic celebration, beautifully animated by our students, officially welcomed me to the formation community. That same evening, the zest and joy at the socials after mass was just heavenly and so impressive that I danced! Those who know me, also know that its a thing I hardly do! A thing with which I am not at home!!! As the above reads, it is evident that I have had a very good start in Uganda. There is a lot for which I am grateful. But it has not all been a juicy and glorious time.

GOODBYE AND WELCOME!

issionary life is punctuated by ‗goings‘ and ‗comings,‘ by ‗goodbyes‘ and ‗welcomes.‘ Since my ordination in 2014, I have lived, studied and served in Ireland. Completing my studies in September, I had to say goodbye to Ireland on 14th November for Uganda to take up my new appointment. It was quite an ordeal to leave the comfort, the freshness and the great life in Ireland but I had to go. Time was up! Mission was calling! I had to say goodbye.

The shocking, aching, emotionally draining and paralysing news of the brutal killing of Fr. Cosmas Ondari in Mamfe, Cameroon has really shaken me to the core; stinging without disabling. A feeling of confusion, anger and a kind of piercing pain overwhelmed me. It was too bad to be true! Too sudden to be real! Too hard to chew! And too distressful to hear! Thank God I have not been experiencing this excruciating emotional turmoil alone; the whole community has been. And as a community, we have offered a mass and continuous prayers for the repose of Fr Ondari‘s soul, consolation for his natural family, and for us all Mill Hill Missionaries as his spiritual family especially his team mates and parishioners in Kembong with and for whom he worked. The pain of this loss is indescribable! Lost for words, one can only turn to God‘s words in Wisdom 4:7 -9: ―For old age is not honoured by a length of time, nor measured by number

I arrived in Uganda on 15th November 2018 and was warmly welcomed and generously collected from Entebbe by Fr Kajja Ronald, a fellow Mill Hill Missionary and a classmate and ‗height mate.‘ It was thus, a joy and a blessing to have him usher me into the country and indeed to the East Africa Mill Hill family. In the afternoon of the same day, Thursday 15th, Fr Wijnand Huijs warmly welcomed me again to Uganda and on Saturday 17th brought me to the Formation House in Jinja, my new home. Then I met Fr Charles Okata, Ben Jones, a young English anthropologist whom I had met during my MEP years (2010-2012) in Loyoro. It was not until evening that I got to meet the students as they were undistractedly busy doing peer evaluation. 9

of years; but understanding is grey hair for men, and an untarnished life is ripe old age.‖So young, dying at the age of Christ, these words are not only consoling but also true. !Ut sua anima requiescat in pace!

wish you a very Merry Christmas! May His birth bring us the peace and the grace of consolation that we desperately need! Fr. John Akain, MHM

Yes, indeed, life is punctuated with a series of goodbyes and welcomes! Goings and comings! Partings and meetings. Just as in every ending, there is a new beginning, in every parting there is an anticipated meeting. Until we meet again, bro Cosi, Fare thee well! We will live to celebrate you!

The Reflective Tears

Otherwise, it has been a great start here at our formation house in Jinja, Uganda. After a week and a half, I feel very much at home. This is thanks to the warmth of the students, exhibited during liturgies, at tables during meals, at meetings, at socials and at sport grounds. The presence of Fr. Okata, who is not only available but very ready and willing to help and get me sorted with the necessary practicalities for my stay and ministry both at the formation house and at PCJ here in Uganda, has had a tremendous impact in my settling into the program with ease. The presence, wisdom and experience of Fr. Wijnand are of a crucial importance for me and indeed, I dare say for us here at our formation house. With him around, I am not only assured of encouragement and support but also of the calming and taming effect he has on my youthful enthusiasm by his wealth of experience and inspiring wisdom.

I remembered the goodness of the Lord, but I failed to understand as to why many people suffer in the world. Tears were flowing from my eyes. One of my friends found me and asked what was making me cry. I answered, ―My heart.‖ Then I remembered Hannah. ―She was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk.‖ 1 Sam. 1:13.There are many hearts in pain all around the world, but who cares? I have seen on the streets, all around the developing countries, children who are homeless, addicted to drugs, and young girls given to sexual slavery. There are so many people who lack someone who can listen to them and understand their situations; they are instead judged. It seems as if we no longer care. Hannah‘s bitter cry calls for a release of love, the

As we await the birth of Wisdom, Himself, Jesus Christ, who is our Resurrection and our Life, I wish to 10

warmth and generosity that lifts the heart and restores hope. She, like many of our people today, needed someone who could stand in her shoes and understand the pain in her heart. Unless we are moved, nothing will change.

and care. In Church, politics, family and any other institution that serve humanity, when things are done out of ―Good will,‖ which means with love, everything changes. Sadly, we have created ranks, and we have forgotten that after one or two centuries to come none of us will exist. We will be gone and forgotten. Why do we behave as if we are here forever?

If so many people today are trapped in drug abuse, sexual disorders, and all sorts of abnormalities, it is partly because they have no one who can understand their pain. Sadly, when a pastor fails to listen to his/her sheep the result will be a creation of a judgmental attitude rather than the one who understands and comforts. Thus, the sense of love becomes shallow and selective. This often pushes people to build walls that are unnecessary instead of bridges where everyone would feel safe. Many set walls of differences, and choose to build hatred. This keeps many wondering and asking how the world can experience true love that breaks the barriers and loosens the desire for power to dominate. The reality is so complex and unbelievable.

Jose Nixon Litako Belengo, D. R. Congo, Third Year

Learn To Love, Then You Will Serve As I continue encountering different people and experiences in life, it evokes in me a spirit of deep reflec t io n on th e aspects of love and service. This reflection has really made me to appreciate each and every individual I meet because they are not only an image of love and service but also an encounter with Christ. They also leave me with something to learn from due to their unique nature.

One of the great thinkers of all time, Immanuel Kant, in his ‗Critique of Practical Reason‘ says that there is nothing in the world that can be good except ―Good Will.‖ It is worth to consider his statement as a fundamental principle for harmony in the world. Good will can be taken as love. When one loves somebody he/she will not hurt that person. The person will be offered great service with authentic love

Love is an act that can be expressed through little services we render to each other. St. Teresa of Calcutta echoes that we should not wait to do great things but 11

the little things we do with great love can really bring change in the life of an individual. Such acts include caring for the sick, speaking for the voiceless in our families, communities and societies where the love has lost its meaning. Loving and serving are choices which each individual has to make. Those who fail to love others because of their uniqueness are depicting a lack of understanding the fact that uniqueness is a source of strength in a community of diverse ethnic backgrounds. Love surpasses all these and in a diversified community, one can never win anyone with subjugation other than by love.

Life Experience in Mill Hill Formation House-Jinja I am greatly honored to present a short life experience in the Mill Hill Formation house and in the same way express gratitude for our beloved missionaries who have left a lot of impact on our lives as the people who work in this formation house. On behalf of the support staff, allow me to share our working experience in this formation house. We are a team of six people and we are people of integrity which has been shown through faithfulness, transparency, loving, generosity, caring, kindness and role models. These aspects have kept us together as a team and drawn support from the formation administration and students who in one way or the other, contribute to our being here. In addition, the integrity of our team has been fostered by the fair treatment from the formation team and good collaboration among the students. We do respect them and they also respect us. All of us are concerned about our responsibilities, by doing our part, and about the well being of our community as a whole.

People will always gravitate where they can be loved and celebrated, and not where they are criticized. Just like water always flows towards a slope. We should therefore learn to love each other since we cannot serve if we do not love. In the words of Mahatma Gandhi â&#x20AC;&#x2022;if we can love each other, raise each other up, and decide to stick together through thick and thin, then there is nothing we can fail to attain as a family, community or country.â&#x20AC;&#x2013; Therefore, my dear readers we owe each other genuine love.

For the different years of working in this formation house, it has been a great experience to be proud of and we have a lot of memories. In many aspects, we

Okoth Ochieng Joseph Kenyan, Second year. 12

have touched and improved many lives of people in and outside the community. We have joined hands with the formation team to help our young members, the students, in many ways, for instance, caring for their well being and making them interact with the locals around Jinja. This has enabled them to carry out their research work on different topics and their course work.

our lives, a willingness to evaluate our perceptions, thoughts, feelings, needs, behaviours, and our interactions with others. Furthermore, it requires that we should be critical of ourselves without condemning ourselves and others. So it calls us to become the best we can be without becoming perfectionists. We should be asking ourselves this question ``If I am always with myself, should I not be my own best friend, feel good about myself, and be happy with myself, in spite of the difficulties and the mishaps of life?‘‘

We are very happy to work with people coming from different corners of the world and we shall continue giving them support and courage. This may help to provide a benchmark for their progress towards attaining an authentic spiritual life. We wish each and everyone well in their daily endeavors. May God bless you all. Merry Christmas and happy New Year, 2019. Mr. Roy Bayua,

Becoming comfortable with oneself means being in touch with one‘s thoughts, needs and feelings without any guilt or shame. Our feelings and needs reveal what is going on within us. Our feelings give us important information about us. The more we can be comfortable with such feelings, the better we can manage them and if necessary, express them in a constructive and appropriate way. It is an invitation to all of us.

Support Staff.

SELF-LOVE IS DEMANDING Genuine self-love is the ability to maintain a balance between loving ourselves and loving others. It requires constant vigilance and honesty with ourselves and others. Such love respects one‘s own individuality.

Besides accepting our feelings, we need to listen to them and respect our needs as well as the needs of others. They are part of us and they are not weaknesses. Recognizing our needs and feelings is part of healthy self-love and has nothing to do with selfishness. In the turmoil of life

Developing a loving relationship with ourselves is demanding. It requires truthfulness, openness, and honesty about 13

much unrest occurs because people do not accept their own needs and feelings. They either suppress them or act them out in unhealthy ways. If we do not recognize our needs and satisfy them appropriately, they will be in control of us. A loving relationship with self demands a holistic care for oneself, for instance, physically, emotionally, spiritually and other aspects of life. We need to appreciate the gift of life and of who we are. As the psalmist states, ``Oh Lord, I thank you for the wonder of my being‖ (Psalm 139:14). If we love ourselves, how do we care for our bodies? Do we wash, eat, drink, and dress properly? Do we avoid what always intends to harm our health? Do we rest and relax? Do we exercise? Visit our doctors when necessary? Get medication and treatment when needed? Do we take care of ourselves intellectually? Do we appreciate education? Seek for it as long as we can? Do we read worthwhile material to nourish ourselves? Do we care for ourselves emotionally? We are all invited to reflect on these questions and remember Jesus‘ word, ``Ephatha!‖ which means `Be opened‘, to the deaf man who was also having a speech impediment (Mark 7:31-37). As we continue loving ourselves. We are therefore called to ―be opened‖ to ourselves and others. Thomas Likofata Congolese, Third Year.

URBAN APOSTOLATE The Repentant Thief said to Jesus; ―…remember me when you come into your Kingdom‖ (Luke 23: 42). These words depict a deeper emotional concern of the repentant thief, who by acknowledging his crime, expresses his contrite desire to be saved by the innocently crucified Jesus. Urban apostolate has a closer relation with this encounter at the place of the skull. There is a unifying factor, a pain that seeks relief. In this rapidly urbanizing world, we ought to double check on the trend of urban ministry. The urbanizing Africa is characterized by a myriad of documented civil laws. These range from the human rights in the holistic sense to the physical development laws that govern land use. An urban pastoral agent today has a tedious task to understand not only the spiritual dynamics of the urban dwellers but also their daily challenges relating to civil laws, their operations and the ultimate effect on their lives. This requires a morally brave pastoral agent who is bold minded in detecting and fighting socialine justices. It is quite saddening to see the poor people in the urban setting struggling in this manipulative society. Their constant appearance at the headlines in the media platforms is alarming. At

times, they are forcefully evicted from their homes and sometimes find difficulty in accessing social services. These are the signs of disfunctionalism in the political and social systems. There is some uneasiness in terms of the relationship between the rich and the poor. The poor feel uncomfortable whenever they are in the porch houses of the rich and so do the rich in the smoky houses of the poor. Despite the differences in social classes, spiritual needs act as a unifying factor among these people as I noticed in my six weeks apostolate at Kiyindi Parish in Buikwe District in Uganda. The presence of the basic Christian communities, prayer groups, devotions and other movements are influential in both spiritual and physical needs of the people. A pastoral agent in an urban setup requires a simple yet a patient mind that studies the spiritual topography of the modern urban Christian. Urban life is often masked with a comfortable lifestyle that progressively leads to spiritual dryness. Most urban Christians are absorbed by economic preoccupations that slowly drift them away from prayer life. Ronald Rolheiser in his book The Holy Longing: The Search of a Christian Spirituality, calls this condition a pathological business that brings about a distraction and restlessness. Rolheiser claims that this is brought about by some historical circumstances that follow together and conspire to create a climate within which it is not only difficult to 15

think about God but also to pray or simply to have any interior depth whatsoever.

Another concern in urban apostolate is the mission to the Persons Living with disabilities. An authentic urban apostolate seeks to liberate those who are discriminated because of their physiological and psychological condition. Understanding their needs, loving and serving them appropriately is the same as the intention of Jesus when he said to the repentant thief; â&#x20AC;&#x153;Amen, I say to you, today you will be with me in paradise,â&#x20AC;? (Luke 23:43). Hence, loving and serving the people with disabilities is bringing paradise to them. We ought to protect them from being victims of deviant behaviours such as sexual abuse. To sum it up, let us continue to explore the urban areas and re-evangelize them. Bowen Chirchir Evans, Second Year, Kenyan.

Henry Osara, Ugandan First Year

Francois Nono, Congolese Third Year

Masereka Paul, Ugandan Second Year

Jeremy Efumo Liyandja Congolese Third Year

Animating Mass in Namugongo

Evans Otieno, Kenyan First Year

Ephraim Looko Congolese Second Year

Choir practice

Support Staff

Mr. George

Mr. Mathias

Madam Robinah Madam Resty

Madam Florence

Madam Rose

Mr. Roy

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confront them as factors that govern my decision –making requires more still to step out there and do something about them – that is heroism. It is also the only way to health.

Love changes everything It is a four – letter word that carries a lot of meaning. It might be agape or intimate love but it doesn‘t really matter, all is love. Love is not forced, it is not bought at a price, it‘s not all about admiration and attractions, love is not only a feeling. ―Love is always patient and kind; love is never jealous; love is not boastful or conceited, it is never rude and never seeks its own advantage, it does not take offence or store up grievances. Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but finds its joy in the truth. It is always ready to make allowances, to trust, to hope and to endure whatever comes. Love never comes to an end. But if there are prophecies, they will be done away with; if tongues, they will fall silent; and if knowledge, it will be done away with.‖ 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

One of the most inside destroyers of our lives is secrecy. It acts like white ants in our confidence and self-esteem. And it is slain, of course, by exposure. With its death, we regain our confidence and our self-esteem flourishes again. There are people who think that because we are friends we are somehow obliged to desert our personal standards for the other; friendship is built upon love. This means, I choose to keep you as my companion, because it seems to me that we can help each other grow into fuller and happier people. Love means, I love myself first and so, I have to behave in a way that helps me love myself. Only after that, I can behave in a way that helps you love me and yourself too. However, in love, we don‘t break all secrecy, there are some things which are kept in our hearts and known to God alone.

Love is Honest. Honesty is hard; there‘s honesty to oneself. I tell myself the truth, I‘m a good cook, a skilled driver, and I sing well, everybody in general likes me. They are easy ones. The hard ones might be, in my heart of hearts I like my youngest sister, and I hate my eldest. I am a lousy funny-man, I drink and eat too much or I‘m a liar. To be able to say these things to my own self takes a lot of courage. To be able to

Love is friendship. The heart of friendship is that two (or more) people like one another in a very special way. They enjoy one another‘s company in a special way, feel more at ease with one 18

another than with someone else. Well, one can ask him/herself questions like, how does this happen? It happens in the same way we ask ourselves such questions: Why does a breeze blow? Why do caterpillars become butterflies? The answer is; it is all pure gift; it just happens, and it is freely given. This invites us to freely give friendship since it is a free gift. Everyone gives his/her friendship freely to the other. However, we realize that one cannot give his or her whole life to the other, for instance, married people cannot fully give themselves to people outside their marriage though they may be friends. On the other hand, there is also full self surrender to the married partner. The same to Religious life, one dedicates his/her life and love to God; one crowns that expression of love with the fullest giving and surrender to God.

God is love: Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2DC;s existence used to be proved in the old days by appeal to an argument that went, since all the heavenly bodies move and nothing moves unless it is moved by something else, then the first mover must have been God. Thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2DC;s a summary of the proof of existence of God by Thomas Aquinas. And now the Father out of His love for humankind has revealed Himself through His beloved Son Jesus Christ, the Lamb of peace and love. And the Word became flesh, and dwelt among us, and we have seen His glory, the glory as of the fatherâ&#x20AC;&#x2DC;s only Son, full of grace, truth and love (John1:14). Jesus then showed us the highest kind of love by being sacrificed by our sins. This is true love for which we have to struggle every day; the love that changes everything.

Friendship involves giving much of myself to the other and vice versa. This promotes real growth for the two of us and we can have a pleasurable time together as well as supporting each other on the journey. There seems to be no answer to the question how one chooses a friend despite the number if times the question is asked.

Kyeyune Jude, Ugandan, Second year.

wants to gain something from him/her and this is common today where everything has become materialistic. The expression ‗I love you‘ can also have sexual overtones. Others may say ‗I love you‘ just because that one holds a higher position in the society, company, country or any other public offices. These kind of people use those public figure to gain favours.

To love and to be loved

In our context, as heralds of the gospel, the statement to love and to be loved applies to us more. But what may apply more to us is to love. This comes in when we are aware that love is out of free will, Gail Pherterson in her essay, Love in Freedom, writes, ―love derives from two equally autonomous beings who experience the relation as a precious gift, not as an obligation or demand.‖

George Sand, a French novelist and memoirist says ―There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.‖ Love is one of the most powerful emotions human beings can experience. Love is commonly understood as a strong passion and attraction towards someone. At the bottom of every friendship is love. It makes us perform certain acts of kindness that do not necessarily benefit us. Rather, it benefits the entire creation. It takes us out of our comfort zones and can change any situation we are in. However, today one will tell you that love does not only entail this, that is why there are many ways of understanding love today.

However, as for us, we have the obligation to love the people we are serving as Jesus did. Jesus loved everyone but not everyone loved him and that is why he was crucified. However, this did not make him withdraw his love from people even those who killed him; ―Father forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.‖ (Luke 23:34) This, however, should not mean that we should not expect love from the people we serve. In fact we need it and we should always encourage people to love those in service of the gospel. This does not mean that if we do not receive love from the people we serve, we stop loving and serving them. We have to transcend reciprocity.

Love is one of the most misused words in the world. It has been interpreted in many ways rather than its real meaning. This is because of the intention of the one telling the other ‗I love you‘. One can tell the other ‗I love you‘ because he or she is emotionally and passionately attracted to him/her and this love just comes. It is characterized by, compassion, affection and kindness. Another one can tell the other, ‗I love you‘ because he or she

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loved starts when we love ourselves. Gail Pherterson continues again, ―In love, the emphasis is on the self-autonomy and appreciation of the other.‖ If we don‘t love, we shall not be loved. It calls for a first initiative from us. The love we offer also matters, it should be an inclusive love to all people we serve. We should try by all means to be objective; being attached to particular a person may create a strong bond with the one we are attached to but the same time it may create a gap between us and other people. I have heard many Christians say, ―He is only for the rich‖, and so the type of relationship between the pastor and the poor Christians can be unhealthy. It is true that many times as human beings we tend to be attached to some people for intimacy. Therefore it is important to ensure good relationships in our pastoral ministries where we are invited to serve and love all people equally.

One may wonder how we know that we are loved. It can be felt through our actions, behaviour, words, character and even the way we live our lives according to truth, compassion, trust and respect. It is also through recognizing that love is more about giving than receiving, that there is more thirst for love in this world than ever before, dialogue fosters this love. This will bring all people from diverse backgrounds together creating peace. The modern society is a diverse society, each group has its own values and through love we learn to relate well with different members of society. Love is the answer to most common problems in society. Issues such as violence, bullying, robbery and sexual immorality could be solved if we loved more. Finally, we have to always be grateful for the love we get from others and recognize that love always needs to be nurtured so as to endure. It is not easy to love and to be loved but very easy to break the love which is very hurting.

Therefore, that true love, especially in ministry, is the one which involves sacrifice, drawing inspiration from Jesus, who gave up his life for all, and God the Father, who is love and the source of love. This love should be free from prejudices and bias based on place, people, tribe, language and nationality. Going to a new place calls for an open mind to experience new places and people in the spirit of love and service guided by our vision. If we have a vision, we don‘t need to be pulled but it will in itself pull us to do extra ordinary things, keeping in mind we can do small things with great love as Mother Teresa puts it. This will inspire people to love us and in return see God in us.

Wilson Karugaba. Ugandan, Third year.

spouse to be. He prepared himself to take up a special mission for our salvation through Jesus. Joseph had a very receptive attitude to mission that was set before him despite the fact that the Angel announced the mission to him with an immediate challenge about Mary. He bestowed tender love to both Mary and the child Jesus because he had discerned and understood the will of God. It was his inclusive love and humility that aided him to discern the will of God and later execute his fatherly duties diligently. He might have had normal human doubts but he accepted to deny himself and to allow the will of God to reign in his life.

Discovering the hidden treasure in St. Joseph

e find ourselves living in an era

where a person‘s success is judged by his ability to create fame and social standards in society. Fame and social standards in many instances compromise and suppress humility. On the contrary, St. Joseph the Husband of Mary left a fascinating and humble legacy that holds no connection to fame and social standards in the community of his time. He never allowed himself to be inclined to the desire for fame and building a social standard but rather out of his just and tranquil nature, he was able to do extraordinary things with great compassion.

St. Joseph neither wrote letters nor was he talked about many times in the scriptures but his works sound louder and remain fresh in our hearts. These works continue to inspire many Mill Hill Missionaries to respond to the inner voice speaking within them. Though he was silent, he participated in God‘s mission willingly and it is in the same spirit that the Mill Hill Missionaries constantly seek for direction and strength from him to take up challenging missions across the world. St. Joseph Pray for us.

The words of the Angel in Mathew 1:20, “…Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to accept Mary as your wife. For what has been formed in her is Holy,’’ should have been very devastating for Joseph to hear as a man, because he must have already laid proper plans for his family to be. The message of the Angel could have disorganized his plans for the family, nonetheless, he conformed to the new mission that the Angel had revealed to him. Filled with humility, Joseph accepted to take the bitter truth from the Angel about his

Odongo Emmanuel Year III, Ugandan.

LIFE IS A WONDER

Wholesome Encounter with the Sick

Our life is comprised of many things that bring happiness and sometimes sorrows. All in all, it is up to us to choose what kind of life is best for us. Life is a twist, every moment we feel like we are living in a dream, like in a drama where we see ourselves like characters. Every new day comes along with something new and leaves us with a choice either to embrace or negate. Sometimes it is so bad that we feel like letting go or giving up. It is so complicated indeed, things that we cherish make us shed tears. Some things are so good that we may not want to lose them. Our destiny lies in the choices we make every day and how we overcome the challenges we face.

ife in the hospital is not an easy experience to live or to see others live it. All of us at one point or the other have been in hospitals for various reasons. We can all testify that the sick really need our presence, our listening ear, hearts that are empathetic and above all, our prayers. Having had the opportunity to reach out to the patients of Jinja Referral Main Hospital and that of the Children, I must confess that visiting the sick every Thursdays is such a blessing. Being with them, encouraging them, learning from and listening to their different life stories and reasons as to why they find themselves in the hospitals, are experiences to behold. Whenever I go there, there is a particular lesson and something for me to carry along with.

One of the most important things in life is to trust in God and ourselves. This will enable us to overcome fear, the greatest enemy of our happiness and dreams. It is important always to thank the Lord almighty for everything because how we are today is not how we were yesterday. Let us take courage and fight fear as Joshua did when God commanded him to lead His people to the Promised Land. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Be strong and steadfast! Do not FEAR nor be dismayed for the Lord your God is with you wherever you goâ&#x20AC;? (Joshua 1:9).

Most of the time when I meet the sick and listen to their stories, I become helpless. I realize that this is not a simple mission to undertake. The hospital administration is extremely alert on who comes in and who does what, just for the purpose of the security of patients. I, therefore, have to constantly walk with the permission

Petererick Mwenda, Kenyan First year. 23

letter from the Medical staff within the hospital compound.

A few insights from Henry Nouwen

I work closely under the supervision of Fr. Jude Kayima, the Hospital Chaplain, and a priest of the Diocese of Jinja. It is through him that patients especially those who are bed ridden and their attendants have Mass once every week mainly on Tuesdays. It is joyful too to see patients singing and showing a great desire to participate in Mass and sometimes to be anointed.

I was impressed by a short passage, â&#x20AC;&#x2022;Losing and gaining our lives,â&#x20AC;? extracted from one of Henry Nouwenâ&#x20AC;&#x2DC;s writings. In the passage, he talks about the great paradoxes in life. In summary he says, those who cling to their lives, friends or material possessions will eventually lose them. Those of us who spend our lives seeking for fame, attention and being at the centre, will be forgotten as soon as we die, while those who feel there is no need to be known will end up being remembered for ages. His advice is that we live in freedom so as to stay peaceful and meaningful wherever we find ourselves. He concludes by saying that giving away our lives for the sake of others is the greatest of human acts because through that we can gain it.

Surely those doctors and nurses who take care of patients deserve more credit. They offer their whole life to save the lives of the sick that are entrusted to them. I feel happy meeting the patients who share their joy of having recovered from an illness. It is honestly a beautiful experience however, when I enter the hospital on a visit, it is hard to find out that the person whom I shared with previously had passed away. This does not mean I stop caring and visiting the sick; it is the Lord who gives but He is also the one who takes. We are therefore invited to take care for the sick in hospitals, at home and wherever we are and to constantly pray for the gift of good health for all people we meet every day.

These words may sound saintly because they are from a person most of us acknowledge to be pious. However, they are ordinary words that are evident in everyday realities just as he himself says. We have all witnessed people dying in the effort of saving their lives; we have seen extremely jealous

Julius Oketch Agunda Kenyan, Third year.

Pastorâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Business Card

and possessive friends remaining lonely. We have also seen celebrities of all kinds coming and going but very few of their names have been jotted on the calendar to be remembered. Only those who displayed traits of humility find their names given to great stadiums, buildings, cities and streets. When it comes to living in freedom, I still recall an article by the same author saying that one who is not free inside cannot give freedom. From inner freedom there comes forth external freedom and freedom to those around. Freedom, like love, attracts.

A new pastor was visiting in the homes of his parishioners. At one house it seemed obvious that someone was at home, but no answer came to his repeated knocks at the door. Therefore, he took out a business card that he had printed "Revelation 3:20" on the back of it for just such an occasion, and stuck it in the door. When the offering was processed the following Sunday, he found that his card had been returned. Added to it was this cryptic message, "Genesis 3:10." Reaching for his Bible to check out the citation, he broke up in gales of laughter. Revelation 3:20 begins "Behold, I stand at the door and knock." Genesis 3:10 reads, "I heard your voice in the garden and I was afraid for I was naked."

Since a human being is born a free being he/she will always try to avoid all things that hinder his/her freedom. People naturally want to be around those who make them feel loved, accepted and free. Finally, we take a lesson from losing our lives for others. We may come to notice that the greatest manuscript one can ever write is that written on human hearts, that is to say, the good deeds and healing words we share with others. Even if the writer dies he will forever be alive in other peopleâ&#x20AC;&#x2DC;s hearts. We need to die to our crooked ways so as to gain new life and bring life to others. These are some of the principles that can enable us enjoy our short stay in the universe.

Wilson Karugaba, Ugandan Third Year

Mukaajanga Christopher Year III, Ugandan.

LOVE FOR CULTURE. As Africans, we refer to Africa as ‗Our Mother Land.‘ African cultures are rich in various activities, for instance, social and traditional gatherings such as marriage initiations, child naming, bull fight and many others. Despite the diverse backgrounds, food remains a fundamental aspect in all African cultures during these gatherings. Some of the staple foods presented during these gatherings include: TRIBE/COUNTRY Bakonzo- Uganda Langi- Uganda Ganda- Uganda Jnjora erisera- Ethiopia Igbo- Nigeria Bamongo- D.R.Congo Ateso- Uganda Banyankole- Uganda Chaaga- Tanzania Ameru- Kenya Batoro- Uganda Nsenga- Zambia Tutsi- Rwanda Basoga- Uganda

STAPLE FOOD Sombe n‘obundu- cassava leaves and cassava dough Guno kedi ocira- chicken and rice Matoke n‘ebijanjalo-matoke and beans Tigrulia Ji-yams Imondo and Fufu- Cassava leaves with Cassava. Amukeke- dry sweet potato dough Kalo, Matoke n‘enyama- Millet dough, matoke &Meat Machalari Githeri- Mixture of Beans and maize Bitokye-Matoke Nshima- Maize dough Ebishimbo n‘ebuzumba- Beans with sweet potatoes Emboli n‘envuluga- Sweet potatoes and ground nut paste

In the expression of Love, a visitor is welcomed with the cultural food of the people. To appreciate other people‘s culture, we must first appreciate the food, and feel at home with it. Kidemba Landus Ugandan, Second Year.

week. The time I have been in Jinja has been for me a period of new challenges in work, relationships and even prayer. Quite different from the parish pastoral ministry I had served before. For that reason I am very thankful to the people who have helped me and continue to help me in this ministry. Mention here goes to Fr. Wijnand Huijs, the rector, all our seven-member support staff and the students.

Grateful

As patron of the editorial board of the Outreach Magazine, one of my obligations is to encourage members of our community to write articles for the magazine. In that way, I do not only feel compelled to write or add a few words to the magazine, but I also feel that it is an opportunity for me to pause and reflect on what to write about. In this issue I would like to reflect and write about Gratitude.

As I continue to learn and to be inspired by the desire of our students to be missionaries, I am happy to see the positive growth in them and in myself in community life, prayer, maturity and yearning for more growth and development. While reflecting on the theme of gratitude, again turning to 1Thessalonians 5:18, the recent happenings have been very challenging as regards ―being always grateful.‖ This was more so tested at the reception of the sad news of tragic deaths in Cameroon.

St. Paul in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 tells us, ―give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.‖ From the above quote, being grateful at all times is not about covering our scars or hiding our hurts. Being gratefu l is rather th e sin cere awareness that there is still hope and possibility no matter our situation. In fact, we cannot fully experience joy until gratitude is present, for it uncovers what is a lr ea d y g o o d – co u n t i n g th e blessings we already have, and looking to the future with optimism.

First, was the death of the father of Fr. Cyprian Ta-ah, my classmate, and second, was Fr. Cosmas Ondari, both were killed by gun shots during the skirmishes in Cameroon. Fr. Cosmas was a young Mill Hill Missionary who was working in Cameroon in the spirit of loving service. My thoughts and prayers go to his parents and siblings. And in Uganda, recently, we heard and read about the tragedy of the cruise boat that capsized in Lake Victoria, drowning dozens of people.

Looking back, it is almost two years since I arrived in our Formation House, Jinja and it feels like it has been just a

In such circumstances, it is so difficult to feel grateful. That is why it makes 27

much sense to try to see what we can be grateful for, in good times and bad times. It is human nature to notice all that is wrong or that we lack, but if we give ourselves the chance on a regular basis to count on our blessings, we can increase our sense of gratitude, and create hope and optimism—no matter what is going on around us. My brothers and sisters what are you grateful for, today? On another bit, I welcome my brother John Akain, who has just arrived in our community as a formator and lecturer at PCJ. And to all of you, a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Fr. Charles Okata, MHM.

Wise quotes 1. The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. Mahatma Gandhi 2. Prayer in action is love, love in action is service- Mother Teresa 3. “Don’t feel bad if people remember you only when they need you. Feel privileged that you are like a candle that comes to their mind when there is darkness 4. “There is nothing small in the service of God.” Saint Francis De Sales 5. “If you really want to receive joy and happiness, then serve others with all your heart. Lift their burden, and your own burden will be lighter.” Ezra Taft Benson

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How do you make Holy Water? A. Get regular water and boil the devil out of it. Q. Who was the greatest female businessperson in the Bible? A. Pharaoh’s daughter. She went down to the bank of the Nile and drew out a little prophet. (profit) Q. When was meat first mentioned in the Bible? A. When Noah took Ham into the ark. Q. How long did Cain hate his brother? A. As long as he was Abel. Q. At what time of day was Adam created? A. A little before Eve. 28

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Fr. Charles and Second Year Students 2018/19

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