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The Voice of Ohio’s LGBT and Ally Community

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Jenner: Republicans Are a Restroom Menace

sex on an undercover cop in the restroom of a public park that same year. Jenner criticized her party for pushing bills in state legislaBan Republitures that would force transgencan members of Congress der people to use restrooms of from using Actually, it was just the gender they were assigned them. then-Sen. Larry at birth, not the gender of their Craig of Idaho own identity. “Over the last who had been arfew years, we’ve rested in an airport restroom by “You’re creating laws for a nonhad a few Republican represen- an undercover cop in 2007. But issue,” she said. tatives who were all arrested for Republican arrestees also inlewd behavior in the men’s bath- clude a Florida state senator A bill introduced in Ohio by GOP room,” she said July 20 in Cleve- who offered $20 to perform oral state Rep. John Becker of ClerCaitlyn Jenner has an idea for protecting people in public restrooms.

land at a brunch for LGBTfriendly conservatives. “Maybe what we should do is ban Republicans at the federal level from public bathrooms.”

Toledo Baker Takes the Cake... Away just because their potential customer is a lesbian.

Bakers usually don’t get 760 Facebook comments for a fruit pizza. But bakers usually don’t refuse to make a birthday cake

LaGresha Fizer-Brown, owner of Toledo’s Take the Cake, has been feeling the online heat from people around the world since she snooped on the Facebook page of a customer and found out she was married to a woman. Fizer-

Brown messaged Candice Lowe on July 4 to tell her “we do not do cakes for same sex weddings or parties.” “Who will she discriminate against next?,” one Facebook commenter said. “So now it’s ‘un-Christian’ for a lesbian to get a year older?,” said another. And another: “OK, you are bigots. But that has nothing to do with the real problem. Those are the worst looking strawberries I’ve ever seen.”

GOP Platform Doubles Down on Anti-LGBT Stands LGBT delegates were at the party, but they weren’t exactly welcomed by the party in July when the Republican National Convention convened in Cleveland. A year after the U.S. Supreme Court settled the matter, the GOP platform still rails against marriage equality. It endorses the right of parents to subject their children to discredited and dangerous “conversion therapy,” which it refers to simply as therapy. It also calls for a reversal of Obama administration rules ordering U.S. schools to let transgender children use restrooms

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that match their gender identity. Platform committee members rejected attempts to identify victims of the June 12 mass murder at Pulse nightclub in Orlando as members of the LGBT community, and they rejected mention of ISIS targeting LGBT people for execution.

“This isn’t my GOP,” said national Log Cabin Republicans President Gregory T. Angelo, whose group found itself explaining all week why its members remain Republicans. Angelo called the GOP platform “the most anti-LGBT platform” in party history.

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The Outlook Fund of the Columbus Jewish Foundation is accepting grant applications for a $500 Tolerance Grant, which will be awarded to Ohio religious groups that promote acceptance of the LGBT community. According to Outlook publisher Chris Hayes, the

Around Ohio Statewide: Equitas Health is launching a series of free legal clinics to advise transgender Ohioans about the process of changing their gender and names. (See our Central Ohio calendar on Page 38 for details about the first clinic in Columbus.) Attorneys from across the state who wish to donate their services should email Trent Stechschulte at trentstechschulte@equitashealth.com. Akron: There’s some real beef hanging around Cocktails Akron. Literally. Cowboy Cantina opened up inside the bar in late June. It’s serving up cheesesteaks, wings, chicken strips, fries and more. Akron: The Gay Community Endowment Fund has scheduled this year’s Sugar Plum Tour for Sunday, Dec. 4. The annual fundraiser is a tour of six historic and contemporary homes that are decorated for the holidays. Last year’s event raised more than $114,000. Berea: Baldwin Wallace Allies, the group for LGBTQIA+ students and allies at Baldwin Wallace University, donated $150 to Equality Florida last month to help survivors and the families of victims of the June 12 shootings at Orlando’s Pulse nightclub. Bowling Green: The Fourth Annual Bowling Green Pride Picnic is scheduled for Saturday, Sept. 17, from

grant’s objective is to teach tolerance by highlighting practices in faith communities that reduce prejudice and improve intergroup relations. Groups across Ohio are eligible to apply. Applications are available at columbusjewishfoundation.org/tolerance-

noon-4p at BG City Park’s Kiwanis Shelter, 520 Conneaut Ave., Bowling Green, 43402. Organizers ask people to bring a dish to share and canned goods to help fight hunger in the community. Cincinnati: Pride Night at Kings Island is Friday, Sept. 9! Order your tickets at cincyglbt.com/pride-night. Cincinnati: Auditions for the Cincinnati Men’s Chorus will take place on three Wednesdays next month: Sept. 7, 14 and 21, at St. John’s Unitarian Universalist Church, 320 Resor Ave., Cincinnati, 45220. Potential members should be prepared to sing a brief audition consisting of pitch-matching, scales and vocal warm-ups. No prepared song is necessary. Visit FB: Cincinnati Men’s Chorus. Clarksville: The 22nd annual Camp Sunrise for children affected by HIV/AIDS will take place Aug. 7-13 at Camp Joy. Visit sunrisekids.org to donate. Cleveland: CLAW XV, the Cleveland Leather Annual Weekend, has been nominated for a Pantheon of Leather Award, to be announced Sept. 1 at an international gathering in Dallas. CLAW was nominated in the Large Event of the Year category. Other Ohio nominees include Rangers Inc., of Akron for Small Club of the Year and Rangers leader Rick Cordaro

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grant. You can also email stanur@tcjf.org . Applications are due no later than Monday, Aug. 15, and must be sent as a Word doc attachment. For questions, please call the Columbus Jewish Foundation at 614.338.2365.

for the Great Lakes Regional Award. Columbus: Kaleidoscope Youth Center has several groups for LGBTQ kids ages 12-20. Guys Who <3 Guys and Lezbihonest both meet on Mondays. Queernicorns (for bi, poly and pan youth) and Genderscope (for trans* and gender-nonconforming youth) meet on Tuesdays. And QPOC (for queer youth of color) meets on Thursdays. Visit kycohio.org to learn more. Columbus: Trade in one of those two left feet and learn how to dance! Stonewall Columbus will begin a new six-week session of ballroom dance lessons on Thursday, Sept. 15. They’re $50 per couple. Visit stonewallcolumbus.org/classes for details. Springfield: The Miami Valley Islamic Association raised more than $10,000 for the survivors and victims’ families of the June 12 mass murder at Pulse nightclub in Orlando. The group was one of the first to reach out to the local LGBT community after the attack, Equality Springfield’s Rick Incorvati told the Springfield News-Sun. Toledo: The annual LGBT Unity Picnic, hosted by the LGBT Historical Archives of Toledo, is scheduled for Sunday, Sept. 18, at Vienna Park in Temperance, Mich. For details, visit FB: LGBT Historical Archives of Toledo. outlookohio.com

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New Cleveland Law Ensures Restroom Access It took three years of advocacy, but Cleveland’s City Council finally voted on July 16 to overturn a local law that had allowed bosses and business owners to dictate the public restrooms used by transgender people.

took conversations, truth and hard work to get it done. … We took on the meanest and most denigrating argument. We took on the view that transgender people are a social threat. And ... for at least today in Cleveland, we won.”

Council members voted 16-0 to close a loophole in Cleveland’s nondiscrimination law that exempted restrooms from its guarantees of access to public accommodations. Mayor Frank Jackson signed the proposal into law on July 22, and trans people now can use the restrooms that match their gender identity.

Cleveland Is Ready included Equality Ohio, TransOhio, the LGBT Community Center of Greater Cleveland, Cleveland Advocates for Transgender Equality, PFLAG Cleveland, Trans Family, the AIDS Task Force of Greater Cleveland and other groups.

“You did it,” the leaders of a campaign called Cleveland Is Ready said via Facebook. “It

Youngstown Has a New LGBT Community Group groups in August at St. John’s Episcopal Church (323 Wick Ave., Youngstown, 44503). A transgender group led by Kage Jonas Coven and Kai Parker will meet for the first time on Sunday, Aug. 14, at 6p, and it will meet on the second Sunday of every month. A sexuality support group led by Rick Marrow and Mai Alie will meet on Thursday, Aug. 18, at 6p and on the third Thursday of every month thereafter.

But even before the formal launch of the organization at Youngstown Pride on July 16, people were calling her. “Everything’s just falling into place,” she said. “There’s such a need for it.” Full Spectrum will begin offering two support

Until now.

Our history is tucked away in scrapbooks and photo albums, drawers and boxes. It’s a history we have kept for ourselves because no one else really cared.

Cleveland joins Cincinnati, Columbus, Dayton, Toledo and more than 150 cities nationwide that extend full nondiscrimination protections to people based on gender identity and sexual orientation.

Marnie Cram expected to be calling on a lot of people in Youngstown to tell them about the Full Spectrum Community Outreach Center, a new effort to offer support, services and more to LGBTQIA+ people in Mahoning, Trumbull and Columbia counties.

GOHI: Preserving Our History

Long term, Full Spectrum hopes to expand into other Mahoning Valley counties, start a shelter for LGBT homeless youth, start a scholarship fund for LGBT students in the area, and offer financial help to local LGBT groups and events.

The Ohio History Connection the state’s official historical society - is fstepping up its effort to collect and preserve Ohio’s LGBTQ history with an event on Saturday, Aug. 20 in Columbus. LGBTQ Community Day at the Ohio History Center is part of the Gay Ohio History Initiative, a 10-year-old collaboration between the state and Outlook. It will be a free museum day where people can bring in items

What is GOHI? GOHI is a collecting initiative developed in 2006 by the Ohio History Connection and Outlook Media designed to preserve and share Ohio’s LGBTQ history. GOHI works to preserve, archive and curate the history and culture of the LGBTQ citizens of Ohio, to tell the truth about their experiences and to share LGBTQ culture and history with all Ohioans. This is the 10th anniversary of our partnership with Outlook Media, which is really exciting.

Stacia Kuceyeski, outreach director at the Ohio History Connection, has the answers:

LGBTQ couples. You can see it on display at the Ohio History Center now. What kinds of things to do you collect? We collect a whole range of items: From 3-D objects like parade banners, buttons, clothing and other personal items to archival materials like letters and journals. We also collect photos, film and organizational records.

What are some of your favorite items in the collection? I really like some of the early newsletters and journals from the 1970s - these include mimeographed, hand-drawn pictures and articles that were typewritten, pasted together and circulated. It’s interesting to see how information was shared and distributed in the early days of the LGBTQ movement. At that time, sharing this information Why is GOHI meaningful to you? would have been an act of rebellion in itself. Since the beginning, this initiative has been defined by the LGBTQ community. We’ve been working I also like our Flaggots collection - we have a series of flags that the group used over the years, and to engage with the community to preserve their they supplied some of the first pieces to our GOHI history in a way that is meaningful to them, that will allow us to better represent the LGBTQ experi- collection. ence. What objects do you wish you had? In the museum field, an initiative like this is fairly I wish we had more personal collections - letters new territory. More and more museums are looking diaries, scrapbooks, photos. We have newsletters and organizational records, and while we still need into how their spaces can function as places of discussion about social issues - places where often more of those, we have a gap when it comes to individuals’ personal stories. I’d also like to collect uncomfortable and difficult histories can be told, which can result in changing perspectives and the more from LGBTQ veterans, as well as things from the gay trailblazer generation. driving of social change.

Why was it formed? Our organization, along with Outlook Media, recognized the need to preserve and share the stories of LGBTQ Ohioans. We wanted to tell their stories accurately and give people the chance to both recognize their achievements and highlight their struggles through time.

We hear you were collecting during the U.S. Supreme Court decision on marriage equality last year. Tell us about that. People often don’t know that museums collect objects and stories in the moment. We realized the importance of this monumental and historic court decision, and we wanted to capture as much of that experience as we could. Among other things, we collected a sign from a park near the Franklin County Courthouse that advertised weddings for outlookohio.com

such as photos and other print materials to be scanned and digitized. There will be a display of GOHI items, exhibitors from Ohio LGBTQ organizations, curator talks land more.

Are you accepting donations of materials? Yes, we are. If you’re interested in donating, you can contact our curators at collections@ohiohistory.org or call 614.297.2535. You can find out more about how to donate at ohiohistory.org. You can get more information about LGBTQ Community Day at the Ohio History Center by visiting ohiohistory.org/GOHIday.

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I thought I caught a drag queen at The Ohio HIV/STI Hotline posted a Union in Columbus, too, but it was a photo of a Pidgey perched on a pile Jynx. of condoms with the message: I caught crabs at Union. “Catch Pokémon, not STIs!” No, people, not that kind. I’m talking In Cleveland, I caught a Tauros, some Psychic Pokémon and, I hate After finding Pokémon at gay bars, it about Krabby the Pokémon. to admit it, more Krabbys at Bounce was only a matter of time before during the week of the Republican people got creative and came up We all know that Pokémon GO has with memes on social media to taken over people’s lives since its re- National Convention. A guy who lease July 6. The augmented-reality works at Flex told me there’s a Jynx inform other players of other funny places they’ve found Pokémon. app allows users to catch Pokémon hiding in there somewhere. out in the real world and pick up more Poke Balls and other supplies So now instead of hunting dates on A gym - a place where Pokémon trainers, or players, gather to battle at stops along the way. If you’re not Scruff or Grindr, I see more guys in playing, it’s why the rest of the world bars with Pokémon Go open on their the animated characters - is is walking with their phones in front phones, talking to strangers about located at the Westboro Baptist of their faces and not noticing that the game, capturing Pokémon and Church in Topeka, Kan. Someone exchanging stories about how the had the brilliant idea of placing a they’re about to run into you. app’s server keeps crashing every cutesy Clefairy named LoveIsLove five minutes. as the gym leader’s main Pokémon. Pokémon have been caught at the White House and in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. Two people were ar- It made us think of how close some Drew Boehmker found the image Pokémon are to folks you’d see in through Reddit and tweeted it, rested at the Toledo Zoo after they jumped a fence at 1:30a while hunt- the bars anyway. Go on and tell me which then caught the attention of you didn’t see everyone on this page the Westboro Baptist Church. The oring down Pokémon. at Pride. ganization tweeted back directly to Boehmker with a sign of a JigglyPuff So of course they’re hanging out in Others are getting in on the act, too. saying, “Pokémon GO & Sin No.” The gay bars.

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simple tweet by Boehmker resulted in an online frenzy that prompted hundreds of people to take on the gym located at the church. They placed Pokémon there with names referencing the hatefulness of the organization. “I even tweeted that I wasn’t the one who placed the Clefairy there,” Boehmker said. “Yet Westboro Baptist Church still tweeted at me.” Although the app has only been out since the beginning of July,, it has led to people finding Pokémon in the most curious of settings. Some found their Krabbys in a Union urinal. And who knows what that Jynx is up to at Flex. Happy Pokémon hunting!

FYI: That’s not Lennie in the photo. He’s more of a Pikachu.

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Festival: Aug. 13 @ Mall C 301 E. Lakeside Ave., 44114 11a-8p

THE SLEEPS

Hampton Inn Cleveland Downtown 1460 E. 9th St., 44114 216.241.6600

Doubletree Cleveland Downtown-Lakeside 1111 Lakeside Ave. E, 44114 216.241.5100

The Westin Cleveland Downtown 77 St. Clair Ave. NE, 44114 216.771.7700 Tudor Arms Tudor Arms Hotel 10660 Carnegie Ave., 44106 216.455.1260

Melt Bar & Grilled Grilled Cheese

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14718 Detroit Ave., Lakewood, 44107 216.226.3699

36033 Westminster Ave., North Ridgeville, 44039 440.353.2828 Noodlecat

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THE EATS

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From Dayton: 215 miles From Findlay: 120 miles From Toledo: 115 miles From Youngstown: 75 miles

Seasonally Inspired Modern American

Aloft Cleveland Downtown 1111 W. 10th St., 44113 216.400.6469

Aura Ultra Lounge 1313 E. 26th St., 44114 FB: AURA Ultra Lounge

From Akron: 40 miles From Athens: 215 miles From Cincinnati: 250 miles From Columbus: 145 miles

Bounce/Hinge 2814 Detroit Ave., 44113 FB: Bounce Nightclub Hinge Lounge

Leather Stallion 2205 St. Clair Ave. NE, 44114 FB: The Stallion Leather Stallion Saloon

Cocktails 9208 Detroit Ave., 44102 FB: Cocktails Cleveland

Twist 11633 Clifton Blvd., 44102 FB: Twist Social Club

The Hawk 11217 Detroit Ave., 44102 FB: The Hawk

Vibe 11633 Lorain Ave., 44111 FB: Vibe Bar + Patio

Greenhouse Tavern

Greenhouse Tavern Locally Sourced, Carnivore to Vegan

2038 E. 4th St., Cleveland, 44115 216.443.0511 Market Garden Brewery

THE SIGHTS

Ramen, Rice Bowls

234 Euclid Ave., Cleveland, 44115 216.589.0007

Ohio City Just west of Downtown, the gay-friendly neighborhood is a great place to walk, window-shop and people-watch. Campbell’s Sweets Factory, whose popcorn flavors include beer and cheddar, dill pickle, and a rainbow-colored fruity corn, has two loca-

Cleveland Pride has a new home this year: Mall C instead of Voinovich Park.

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1947 W. 25th St., Cleveland, 44113 216.621.4000

tions in the neighborhood: on the main drag of W. 25th Street and in the West Side Market. Other W. 25th Street favorites include Ohio City Burrito and Mitchell’s Ice Cream (try the vegan chocolate). West Side Market Cleveland’s incredible diversity is all in one place inside the historic 104-year-old market. outlookohio.com

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Favorites include the Pierogi Palace, Ohio City Pasta (try the cilantro and lime linguine), Frickaccio’s Pizza Market (you can buy huge sheets of focaccia or a ball of pizza dough to take home), or Kim Se Cambodian Cuisine. And stop by the Pork Chop Shop to see our favorite lesbian butchers, Alexia and Emma. Little Italy Little Italy The Italian neighborhood on Cleveland’s East Side that has been around since the mid-1800s is still noticeably and charmingly Italian, through and through. Take your pick of restaurants, though for a quick bite and incredible pastries, you can’t get better than Presti’s at 1201 Mayfield Rd.

Cleveland Museum of Art The museum boasts a collection that includes a 14-foot panel of Monet’s Water Lillies, Dali’s The Dream, El Greco’s Holy Family and Warhol’s Marilyn x 100. One of Frida Kahlo’s selfportraits is currently on exhibit as well. The museum is located at 11150 East Blvd., 44106. Rock & Roll Hall of Fame Lady Gaga’s meat dress, Rihanna’s body suit, the Beatles’ bass drum and 310 inductees from ABBA to ZZ Top are in the museum on Cleveland’s lakefront. The Rock Hall is open every day until at least 5:30p; general admission is $23.50.

THE GAY BIZ

Kilted Bros. Since we wrote about them October 2015, owners Nick Vannello and Jefferson Lipson have taken their business from online to a brick-and-mortar shop Downtown in the 5th Street Arcades. They make kilts in tartans that run from traditional to a multicolored “Acid Trip” plaid. The inventory includes a Bear Pride Tartan and Pride of Cleveland Tartan in bears’ browns and the Browns’ orange. Visit Flex kiltedbros.com.

Latitude 41N Need we say anymore than pancakes filled with chopped Snickers bars and topped with caramel, chocolate syrup and whipped cream? That’s the Mongo Grubbo Cakes at Kathy Brown’s Latitude 41N, located at 5712 Detroit Ave., in Cleveland’s Detroit-Shoreway neighborhood. The diner-type menu includes everything from burgers and pizzas to salads and

soups. And the brunch menu, which includes a Cure for a Hangover breakfast pizza, is just what hung over doctor ordered.

The Pork Chop Shop Alexia Rodriguez and Emma Beno post on social media with the hashtag #butcherbabes. In a male-dominated field, they’ve earned it. At their West Side Market shop, they sell only pork products: chops, roasts, ribs, hams, sausage and bacon. They sell a Christmas Ale Bacon using Great Lakes Brewing Co.’s popular holiday brew. Flex This one’s for the guys. The hotel, spa and gym east of Downtown at 2600 Hamilton Ave., is a men-only club. OK, bathhouse. There are pools inside and outdoors, a steamroom and sauna and workout space. There’s also a bar and the attached Aura Ultra Lounge.

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Cleveland International Film Festival More than 100,000 people saw 192 features and 213 short films at this year’s festival. Films are screened over 10 days at Downtown’s Tower City outlookohio.com

Cinemas. Organizers embrace diversity, so there is always a good representation of LGBT stories and LGBT filmmakers. It’s March 29-April 9, 2017. Cleveland’s first-place baseball team will play at home during Pride weekend.

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THE DRINKS

THE HAPS

Nite Glo 5K: Aug. 26 @ International Park 26 Main St., 43605 7p Kiss ÊnÊ Drag Kickoff Party: Aug. 26 @ Downtown 6p-midnight

Bretz Parade: Aug. 27 2012 Adams St., 43604 @ Downtown Adams and 21st streets, 43604 FB: Bretz Nightclub Noon Georgjz 1205 Adams St., 43604 Festival: Aug. 27 FB: Georgjz Food and Spirits @ Levis Square 285 N. Saint Clair St., 43604 Noon-Midnight

THE DRIVE

From Akron: 135 miles From Athens: 215 miles From Cincinnati: 205 miles From Cleveland: 115 miles

From Columbus: 145 miles From Dayton: 150 miles From Findlay: 45 miles From Youngstown: 175 miles

THE SLEEPS

Hotel Toledo | Park Inn by Radisson Hotel 101 N. Summit St., Toledo, 43604 419.241.3000

THE EATS

The Beirut

FrickerÊs

Middle Eastern

Wings, Pub Food

Tony PackoÊs

4082 Monroe St., 43606 419.473.0885

19 N. St Clair St., Tony PackoÊs 43604 Hungarian, Eastern European 419-.244.9464 1902 Front St., 43605 Burger Bar 419 Burgers, Gastro Pub 419.691.6054 159 Superior St., Rossford, 43460 419.214.1035

THE RETURN

Marathon Classic LPGA Tournament

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About 150 women pros compete each year in Toledo’s Marathon Classic. The tournament ran from July 14-17 this

year and was won by Lydia Ko. Others in the field included Chella Choi, Beatriz Recari, Na Yeon Choi and Paula Creamer.

Legends Showclub Mojo 115 N. Erie St., 43604 117 N. Erie St., 43604 FB: Legends Showclub Toledo FB: Mojo’s McCuneÊs Other Side Bistro R-House 5534 Secor Rd., 43623 5038 Lewis Ave., 43612 FB: McCune’s Other Side Bistro Bar FB: Rhouse Bar

THE SIGHTS

Tony PackoÊs

The food is good: Packo’s pickles and peppers, Hungarian hot dogs and chili sauce have been known far and wide since Toledo native Jamie Farr mentioned them regularly on the 1970s TV show, M*A*S*H. But what really draws the crows to the East Toledo restaurant is its collection of autoToledo Museum of Art graphed hot dog buns - yes, hot dog buns, signed Toledo’s crown jewel houses more than 30,000 works of art, including paintings by van Gogh, Gau- by actors, singers, celebrities and even a few presidents. gin, Cézanne, Degas and Renoir. The 10-year-old Glass Pavilion - more than 360 panels were used houses one of the world’s most comprehensive Toledo Zoo collections of glass art, which is appropriate for the USA Today named the Toledo Zoo the best in the Glass City. Among current exhibitions is more than country in 2014. Attractions include a 80 contemporary glass pieces from private collechippoquarium, a 12-acre recreation of the African tions. The museum is open weekends and is loplains, Gorilla Meadow, an Arctic exhibit of seals cated at 2445 Monroe St., in the city’s Old West End. and polar bears, and Cheetah Valley.

THE GAY BIZ

People Called Women Ohio’s only feminist bookstore - one of just 12 left in the United States - is on the edge of Toledo near the suburb of Sylvania in a strip mall called Renaissance Place (6060 Renaissance Place is the address). Owner Gina Mercurio has been in business for 23 years and carries a huge selection of titles by women,

as well as music and gifts. People Called Women also is home to Steinem’s Sisters, a feminist library and archives. InviGAYtions You’ve read about couples whose wedding plans are upended by bigoted businesses. Kelly Heuss’ wedding-invitation business leaves no doubt she’s gay and gay-friendly. . It’s InviGAYtions, with a capital G-A-Y. She can do everything from classy to “gloriously geeky.” Heuss recently relocated to Florida, but she does business at invigaytions.com.

Our favorite Toledo band, Arctic Clam, will be performing at Toledo Pride!

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Colleges Step Up for LGBT Students

by Bob Vitale

When Jude Mikulich came out as transgender at the beginning of his senior year at Youngstown State University, just one classmate refused to use his preferred male pronouns. Fellow theater students had Mikulich’s back. “Our friends are our safe zone,” he said, sitting among a group of them at Youngstown Pride in July. YSUnity, the university’s LGBTQ student group, will host a Diversity Prom, an LGBTQIA organization fair, Coming Out Week events, discussions, a drag show and other events in the course of the coming school year. It and groups like it have made Icollege a much different experience for today’s LGBTQ students.

“There was a fear of association,” he said. “It is a completely different time and place now.” In compiling this LGBTQ College Resource Guide for Ohio, Outlook found LGBTQ student groups and official university offices to support LGBTQ students at 70 schools in the state. That’s more than 60 percent of the colleges and universities listed by the Ohio Department of Education. Schools without LGBTQ resources tended to be Bible colleges and seminaries, theological schools and others with conservative religious affiliations. But forget any notion that queer students are sticking to tiny liberal arts schools and big state universities.

At Rio Grande Community College in Rio Grande, a southern Ohio town of 830 people best Brian Wells, an academic ad- known as the home of the first viser at Youngstown State, Bob Evans restaurant, 11 facwas president of the LGBT stu- ulty and staff display Safe dent group when he Zone stickers on their doors to attended the university in the let students know they’re allate 1990s. He remembers lies. seeing fellow students in the gay bars and then seeing LGBT student groups are acthem avert their eyes when tive not only at Ohio University they passed him on campus. in Athens, but at OU branch

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campuses in Chillicothe, St. Clairsville and Zanesville. Ohio State University campuses in Lima, Mansfield, Marion and Newark have Offices of Diversity and Inclusion that extend beyond race and ethnicity into gender identity and sexual orientation. Bowling Green State University students will be greeted back to school with a Big Gay Welcome next month. And at campuses across Ohio, seniors will be sent off next spring with Lavender Graduation ceremonies. LGBTQ students were on their own years ago, left to navigate coming out, hostile classmates and other issues without much of a support system. But attitudes have evolved on campus. “One of our primary goals is to provide programming so that our LGBTQ+ students feel connected to a larger community as they explore the multiple and intersectional ways there are to be LGBTQ+,” said Krishna Han, assistant director of the BGSU Office of Multicultural Affairs. Bob Vitale is the editor-in-chief of Outlook. You can reach him at bvitale@outlookmedia.com or at 614.268.8525, x3. august 2016

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OUTLOOK’S LGBTQ COLLEGE RESOURCE GUIDE UNIVERSITY OF AKRON Office of Inclusion & Equity uakron.edu/ie Buchtel Hall Room 210 Akron, Ohio 44325 330-972-7193

BOWLING GREEN STATE UNIVERSITY-FIRELANDS Student Organizations: S.A.F.E (Student Alliance for Equality) suemcco@bgsu.edu

Student Organizations: LGBT Union uakronstudentlife.orgsync.c om /org/lgbtu302 FB: Akron Lgbtua

CAPITAL UNIVERSITY Office of Diversity and Inclusion capital.edu/ Diversity-and-Inclusion Harry C. Moores Campus Center 1 College and Main Columbus, Ohio 43209 614.236.6181

Liberation in Progress FB: Akron Lip BALDWIN WALLACE UNIVERSITY Office of LGBT Student Services bw.edu/student-life/ services/lgbt 275 Eastland Rd. Berea, Ohio 44017 440.826.2112 Student Organizations: Allies FB: Baldwin Wallace Allies BOWLING GREEN STATE UNIVERSITY LGBT Resource Center bgsu.edu/lgbt FB: BGSU’s LGBT Resource Center 318-B Math Sciences Bowling Green, Ohio 43403 419.372.2642 Student Organizations: Vision bgsupanelprogram.wix .com/vision FB: Vision BGSU Delta Lambda Phi, Beta Omicron Chapter dlp.org/betaomicron HUE: Honoring Urging and Empowering Queer People of Color FB: HUE: Honoring Urging and Empowering Queer People of Color TAG: Trans Awareness Group FB: Tag Bgsu

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Student Organizations: Pride FB: Capital University Pride CASE WESTERN RESERVE UNIVERSITY LGBT Center case.edu/lgbt/ FB: Case Western Reserve University’s LGBT Center 11038 Bellflower Rd. Cleveland, Ohio 44106 216.368.5428 Student Organizations: Spectrum FB: Spectrum at CWRU QGrad FB: QGrad Lambda Law Students Association FB: CWRU Lambda Law Students Association Mandel Allies FB: CWRU Mandel Allies; LGBTQA Association PEOPLE (People of Every Orientation Protecting Liberty & Equality) in Medicine casepeople@gmail.com CENTRAL OHIO TECHNICAL COLLEGE Office of Multicultural Affairs Warner Library and

Student Center Room 226 Newark, Ohio 43055 740.366.9443 Student Organizations: Directions FB: Directions Gay AND Straight Alliance UNIVERSITY OF CINCINNATI LGBTQ Center uc.edu/lgbtq.html FB: University of Cincinnati LGBTQ Center 565 Steger Student Life Center Cincinnati, Ohio 45221 513.556.4329 Student Organizations: UC Alliance FB: UC Alliance

COLUMBUS STATE COMMUNITY COLLEGE Office of Diversity Services cscc.edu/campus-life/ diversity Franklin Hall, Suite 223 227 Jefferson Ave. Columbus, Ohio 43215 614.287.2426

multiculturalinternational FB: The Center for Cross- Cultural Engagement at Denison University Slayter Hall Student Union Room 401 Granville, Ohio 43023 740.587.6605

KENT STATE UNIVERSITY LGBTQ Student Center kent.edu/lgbtq FB: Kent State Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender and Queer Student Center 024 Kent Student Center Kent, Ohio 44240 330.672.8580

Student Organizations: CSCC Pride FB: CSCC Pride

Student Organizations: Outlook FB: Denison University Outlook!

Student Organizations: Pride! Kent FB: Pride! Kent

CUYAHOGA COMMUNITY COLLEGE Student Organizations: LAMBDA Gay-Straight Alliance FB: Tri-C Lambda GSA

UNIVERSITY OF DAYTON LGBTQ+ Support Services Colors of Pride udayton.edu/studev/ FB: Colors of Pride dean/lgbtq GenderBloc Gosiger Hall Room 205 FB: GenderBloc 300 College Park Dayton, Ohio 45409 CINCINNATI STATE TECHNI- 937.229.1212 CAL AND COMMUNITY COLLEGE Student Organizations: Student Organizations: Spectrum In the Zone FB: Spectrum University FB: In the Zone LGBTQ of Dayton Student Organization at Cincinnati State Athlete Ally FB: University of Dayton CLARK STATE Athlete Ally COMMUNITY COLLEGE Student Organizations: DEFIANCE COLLEGE Gay/Straight Alliance Office of Intercultural FB: Clark State Relations Community College GSA defiance.edu/ student-life/info/ COLUMBUS COLLEGE interculturalOF ART AND DESIGN relations.html Multicultural Affairs Office Hubbard Hall, FB: CCAD Multicultural McCann Center Affairs Defiance, Ohio 43512 112 Cleveland Ave. 419.783.2362 Columbus, Ohio 43215 614.224.9101 Student Organizations: DC Pride Student Organizations: FB: Defiance College Pride Queer Alliance FB: CCAD Queer Alliance DENISON UNIVERSITY Center for Cross-Cultural Engagement denison.edu/campus/

EDISON STATE COMMUNITY COLLEGE Student Organizations: EROS (Equally Regardless of Sexuality) pheintz@edisonohio.edu UNIVERSITY OF FINDLAY Office of Intercultural Student Services 1222 N. Cory St. Findlay, Ohio 45840 HEIDELBERG UNIVERSITY Student Organizations: Berg Equality FB: Berg Equality HIRAM COLLEGE Student Organizations: PRYSM (Presence and Respect for Youth Sexual Minorities) FB: PRYSM at Hiram HOCKING COLLEGE Student Organizations: Rainbow Alliance 740.753.6175 JOHN CARROLL UNIVERSITY Center for Student Diversity & Inclusion sites.jcu.edu/inclusion DJ Lombardo Student Center Room 48 University Heights, Ohio 44118 216.397.1886 Student Organizations: Allies FB: JCU Allies

Fusion Magazine ohiofusion.com Threads Kent FB: Threads Kent Trans*Fusion FB: KSU Trans*Fusion KENT STATE UNIVERSITYEAST LIVERPOOL Student Organizations: Harmony Alliance kent.edu/columbiana/ harmony-alliance KENT STATE UNIVERSITYGEAUGA Student Organizations: Pride sclement@kent.edu KENT STATE UNIVERSITYSTARK Office of Multicultural Initiatives 133B Main Hall North Canton, Ohio 44720 330.244.3578 KENT STATE UNIVERSITYTUSCARAWAS Student Organizations: Pride Tuscarawas FB: Pride Tuscarawas KENYON COLLEGE Office of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion FB: Office of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Kenyon College Gambier, Ohio 43022 740.427.5452

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Student Organizations: Unity House FB: Unity House (kcunityhouse) Athletes for Equality FB: Kenyon College Athletes for Equality Queer Women’s Collective kenyonqdubs.tumblr.com Queer Men’s Society wearp@kenyon.edu LAKELAND COMMUNITY COLLEGE Student Organizations: Lakeland Equality Alliance swadkowski@ lakelandcc.edu LORAIN COUNTY COMMUNITY COLLEGE Student Organizations: PRIDE Club FB: LCCC PRIDE Club (a Gay-Straight Alliance) MARIETTA COLLEGE Student Organizations: The Alliance FB: Marietta College Rainbow Alliance MERCY COLLEGE OF OHIO Student Organizations: Gay Straight Alliance FB: Mercy College Gay Straight Alliance MIAMI UNIVERSITY GLBTQ Services miamioh.edu/ student-life/diversityaffairs/glbtq-services FB: Miami University GLBTQ Services 3032 Armstrong Student Center Oxford, Ohio 45056 513.529.0831 Student Organizations: Colors FB: MiamiColors Spectrum FB: SpectrumMU

MIAMI UNIVERSITYHAMILTON Office of Diversity and Multicultural Services miamioh.edu/regionals/ student-life/diversitymulticulturalservices/index.html 114 Rentschler Hall Hamilton, Ohio 45011 513.785.3283 Student Organizations: Pride FB: MUH Pride MIAMI UNIVERSITYMIDDLETOWN Office of Diversity and Multicultural Services miamioh.edu/regionals/ student-life/diversitymulticultural-services 144 Johnston Hall 4200 N. University Blvd. Middletown, Ohio 45042 513.785.3283 UNIVERSITY OF MOUNT UNION Office of Diversity and Inclusion mountunion.edu/ multicultural-studentaffairs Hoover-Price Campus Center Alliance, Ohio 44601 Student Organizations: Spectrum FB: University of Mount Union Gay Straight Alliance MUSKINGUM UNIVERSITY Student Organizations: GLASS (Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Supporters) 740.826.8088 NORTH CENTRAL STATE COLLEGE Student Organizations: OutLoud FB: OutLoud

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NORTHEAST OHIO MEDICAL UNIVERSITY Office of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion neomed.edu/about/ diversity/office-ofdiversity-equityand-inclusion 4209 St. Rt. 44, PO Box 95 Rootstown, Ohio 44272 330.325.6733

GradQueers FB: GradQueers

Student Organizations: The Q Club atatini@neomed.edu

Pi Alpha Kappa FB: Pi Alpha Kappa

OBERLIN COLLEGE Multicultural Resource Center FB: Oberlin Multicultural Resource Center 135 W. Lorain St. Oberlin, Ohio 44074 440.775.8802

Out in Business FB: Out in Business Out in Science, Technology, Engineering and Math FB: OSTEM at the Ohio State University

SHADES FB: SHADES Sigma Phi Beta sigmaphibeta.org/ohiostat e FB: Sigma Phi Beta | The Ohio State University

Student Organizations: Lambda Union oberlin.edu/stuorg/lambda

Trans*Mission transmission.org.ohiostate.edu/

Queers and Allies of Faith oberlin.edu/stuorg/quaf

OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY-LIMA Office of Diversity and Inclusion lima.osu.edu/ current-students/ office-of-diversity-andinclusion 142 Public Service Building 4240 Campus Dr. Lima, Ohio 45804 419.995.8806

Zami FB: Oberlin Zami OHIO NORTHERN UNIVERSITY Office of Multicultural Development FB: Multicultural Development Ohio Northern University Lehr-Kennedy House Ada, Ohio 45801 419.772.3145 Student Organizations: Open Doors FB: ONU Open Doors OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY Multicultural Center mcc.osu.edu FB: Multicultural Center at The Ohio State University Ohio Union, Suite 1000 1739 N. High St. Columbus, Ohio 43210 614.688.8449 Student Organizations: Pride OSU Twitter: @PrideOSU B’Nai Keshet FB: B’nai Keshet at OSU comBIne combine.org. ohio-state.edu/ FB: Combine Engineering Allies engineeringallies.osu.edu outlookohio.com

Student Organizations: Multicultural Club 419.995.8806 LGBT and Allies Club 419.995.8806 OHIO STATE UNIVERSITYMANSFIELD Student Organizations: OutLoud FB: OutLoud OHIO STATE UNIVERSITYMARION Office of Diversity and Inclusion Maynard Hall, Room 100 1461 Mount Vernon Ave. Marion, Ohio 43302 740.725.6219 Student Organizations: OutLoud FB: OutLoud at Ohio State Marion OHIO STATE UNIVERSITYNEWARK Student Organizations: Directions FB: irections Gay AND Straight Alliance

OHIO UNIVERSITY Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Center ohio.edu/lgbt/academics.cf m FB: Ohio University LGBT Center 354 Baker University Center Athens, Ohio 45701 740.593.0239 Student Organizations: Ally FB: Ally: Ohio University Asterisk: Athens Area Trans* Advocates FB: Asterisk: Athens Area Trans* Advocates Open Doors: Ohio University’s LGBTIQQA Student Union FB: OUOpenDoors OHIO UNIVERSITYCHILLICOTHE Student Organizations: OUC United FB: OUC United OHIO UNIVERSITYEASTERN Student Organizations: Wallflower Alliance FB: Wallflower Alliance

OWENS COMMUNITY COLLEGE Office of Equal Opportunity and Inclusiveness Administration Hall, Second Floor P.O. Box 10,000 Toledo, Ohio 43699 567.661.7292

2500 Student Union Toledo, Ohio 43606 419.530.2261 Student Organizations: Spectrum FB: Spectrum UT URBANA UNIVERSITY Student Organizations: Spectrum

Student Organizations: Gay Straight Alliance GB: Owens Gsa

FB: UU Spectrum: Seeing Everyone Xactly Equal

RHODES STATE COLLEGE Student Organizations: LGBT & Allies Club livchak.a@RhodesState.ed u

URSULINE COLLEGE Student Organizations: Allies FB: Ursuline College Allies (LGBTQSA)

UNIVERSITY OF RIO GRANDE/ RIO GRANDE COMMUNITY COLLEGE Student Organizations: LGBT&A FB: Lgbta Rio Grande

WILMINGTON COLLEGE Office of Multicultural Affairs wilmington.edu/studentlife/multicultural-affairs 1870 Quaker Way Wilmington, Ohio 45177 937.481.2335

SHAWNEE STATE UNIVERSITY Student Organizations: Gay Straight Alliance FB: Shawnee State University Gay Straight Student Alliance

Student Organizations: Rainbow Alliance FB: Wright State University Rainbow Alliance Boonshoft School of Medicine PRIDE FB: Boonshoft PRIDE Queer Grad Network scacco.2@wright.edu

Student Organizations: LGBTQ Alliance FB: Xavier LGBTQ Alliance YOUNGSTOWN STATE UNIVERSITY Office of Student Diversity cms.ysu.edu/administrative-offices/studentdiversity-programs/ student-diversityprograms

Student Organizations: YSUnity ysunity.webs.com FB: YSUnity ZANE STATE COLLEGE Student Organizations: LGBTA Alliance FB: LGBTA Alliance (Zane State College and OU Zanesville)

TAIGA: Transgender, Agender, Intersex, Genderqueer Jones Hall Room 1027 Youngstown, Ohio 44555 and Allies petey.peterson@wright.edu 330.941.2087 XAVIER UNIVERSITY Office of Diversity & Inclusion xavier.edu/diversity 1507 Dana Ave., Room 134 Cincinnati, Ohio 45207 513.745.3000

Student Organizations: Gay-Straight Alliance FB: WC Gay-Straight Alliance WITTENBERG UNIVERSITY Center for Diversity FB: William A. McClain Center for Diversity-Wittenberg University

SINCLAIR COMMUNITY COLLEGE Student Organizations: BriTe SiGnaL Alliance britesignalalliance.weebly.c Student Organizations: om/ G.S.D.A. (Gender and FB: BriTe SiGnaL Alliance Sexual Diversity Alliance) FB: Gender and Sexual DiSTARK STATE COLLEGE versity OHIO WESLEYAN Office of Student Diversity Alliance at Wittenberg UNIVERSITY starkstate.edu University Student Organizations: 6200 Frank Ave. NW PRIDE (People Regarding North Canton, Ohio 44720 COLLEGE OF WOOSTER Individual Diversity Every- 330.494.6170, x4667 Office for Sexuality where) and Gender Inclusion FB: PRIDE@OWU Student Organizations: wooster.edu/students/ LGBTS Global diversity/osgi Sexuality and Gender FB: LGBTS Global at SSC Babcock Hall Equality House 1315 Beall Ave. owu.edu/student-life/hous- TIFFIN UNIVERSITY Wooster, Ohio 44691 ing-dining/housing-opOffice of Institutional 330.263.2434 tions/ Diversity & Equity small-living-units tiffin.edu/institutionalStudent Organizations: diversity Queer Student Union OTTERBEIN UNIVERSITY 155 Miami St. woosterqsu.weebly.com Office of Diversity Tiffin, Ohio 44883 FB: Otterbein University 419.448.3504 QPoC Office of Diversity (Queer People of Color) 65 W. Home St. Student Organizations: fcheng17@wooster.edu Westerville, Ohio 43081 Spectrum 614.823.1312 tiffin.edu/institutionalWRIGHT STATE UNIVERSITY diversity/ Office of LGBTQA Affairs GLBTQ Advisory Commisorganizations wright.edu/LGBTQA sion FB: Wright State University 614.823.1162 UNIVERSITY OF TOLEDO Office of lgbtqa Affairs Office of Multicultural Student Union 011 Student Organizations: Student Success 3640 Colonel Glenn Hwy. FreeZone! utoledo.edu/stuDayton, Ohio 45435 FB: FreeZone! dentaffairs/omss 937.775.4611 OHIO UNIVERSITYZANESVILLE Student Organizations: LGBTA Alliance FB: LGBTA Alliance (Zane State College and OU Zanesville)

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Stonewall Columbus hosts a support group for LGBT veterans.

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A COMFORTABLE

CAMPUS HOME Gender-Neutral Housing Improves College Life for LGBTQ Students

by Rachel Duthie

LGBT students to share five- or six-person rooms and become their own support networks, just like it did for Wolcott.

Carmen Wolcott had two reasons to feel relieved. First, after years of questioning her sexuality, she was finally comfortable admitting to herself and acknowledging to others that she is attracted to women. Second, because of a gender-neutral housing option offered by Oberlin College, Wolcott was able to make friends quickly and easily with other LGBT students. “Since we are such a small community, we all bonded very quickly, especially since almost everyone in the house is queer,” said Wolcott, an American comparative studies major at the private, liberal-arts school in Northeast Ohio. “It was really nice for me to have such a close-knit community that I could always come home to, especially since school is so stressful.”

“This place is for students to get to know each other better, to have a place they know they will be with like-minded people that are likely to be accepting and open to people that fall within this sexual minority group,” said Ken Ditlevson, director of the LGBTQ Student Center at Kent State University, where Korb Hall recently became the school’s first gender-neutral dormitory. The gender-neutral option is offered by small, private Ohio schools such as Oberlin, Kenyon College and the College of Wooster and by big public universities such as Ohio State, Ohio University, Miami and the University of Toledo. Campus Pride lists 204 schools with the option nationwide, including Harvard, Yale and the University of Michigan.

Gender-neutral housing, a dormitory option in which two or more students can share a room despite different gender identities or expressions, is rapidly restructuring college landscapes across Ohio and the nation.

According to a 2011 study conducted at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill, residence halls were the fourth most common place on campus where LGBTQ students endured harassment. Gender-neutral housing began more than a decade ago - Oberlin was an early adopter, in 2004 - as an option for transgender and other LGBT students who didn’t feel comfortable in traditional residence-hall living arrangements.

It’s an on-campus housing option that lets a gay male student, for expample, live with his high school best friend who’s a woman. It allows transgender students to choose their own roommates and avoid uncomfortable questions and dorm assignments. It allows

“I have seen students blossom from our LGBTQ organizations here,” Ditlevson said. “I’m very excited to see the opportunities gender-neutral housing can bring as well. It will create even a safer space for our students, making them feel comfortable and

Wolcott’s story is not unique - well, at least not now.

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loved in an environment they may have not felt in high school.” At Kent, Korb Hall residents will be able to take classes toward a minor in LGBTQ studies as well. While that program and housing option seem designed for LGBT students in particular, gender-neutral housing usually is open to all students, including straight couples. Schools say they don’t ask about romantic attachments out of respect for students’ privacy, but they often advise students to think about whether they’re ready to live with a romantic partner. There are few reports of college administrators actively opposing the idea, although the University of North Carolina board of governors banned gender-neutral housing at the system’s 17 campuses in 2013 after leaders in Chapel Hill approved the option. The conservative National Review called gender-neutral housing “a liberal crusade,” and one of its writers suggested such living arrangements would lead to more sexual assaults on college campuses. After a successful pilot program, genderneutral housing became available at Case Western Reserve University this past winter. The fact it’s offered in four different residence halls helped push the Cleveland school to the top of Campus Pride’s index of Ohio’s most LGBT-friendly colleges. “I had a student tell me that they made their decision to come to CWRU because we have

Now if they could just guarantee roommates who change their sheets regularly...

Housing Options

Fifteen Ohio colleges and universities - nine public and six private - offer gender-neutral housing options to their students: • Bowling Green State University • Case Western Reserve University • University of Cincinnati • Columbus College of Art and Design • Kent State University • Kenyon College • Miami University • Oberlin College • Ohio State University • Ohio University • Otterbein University • University of Toledo • College of Wooster • Wright State University • Youngstown State University Source: Campus Pride

gender-inclusive housing, and that was incredible to hear,” Executive President of Resident Housing Victoria Robinson told the student newspaper, The Observer. Gender-neutral housing will begin this fall at Bowling Green State University, Otterbein University and Youngstown State University. Rachel Duthie is a summer intern with Outlook. She’s a junior majoring in journalism at Kent State University, and she’s a native of Granville. august 2016

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Eleven Classes That Make Us Want to Go Back to College

by Bob Vitale, Leonard Ballosh, Nathan Cole, Rachel Duthie and Paige Johnson Oh, to be young and queer and without a declared major. Women’s studies, gender studies, LGBT studies, sexuality studies: It’s all flourishing on Ohio college campuses these days. As we compiled our Ohio LGBT College Resource Guide (it’s on Page 17 of this month’s issue), we also poked around the websites of Ohio colleges and universities to collect what we thought were the most intriguing LGBT studies classes being offered on campuses this fall. These course descriptions sound a lot more interesting than the English lit and medieval history courses we’ve taken... Computer Interface and Human Identity: This Ohio State University communications course surveys the intersection between computer phenomena (artificial intelligence, avatars, virtual worlds and humanoid robots) and identities such as race, gender and sexuality. So that explains the Sexy Avatars page on Photobucket... Women, Gender, and Rock and Roll: Through blues, jazz, girl groups, folk, soul, punk, rap, MTV and riot grrl, this Ohio University women’s gender and sexuality studies class looks at the extent to which rock music has challenged the boundaries of women and gender. Queer Graphix: Students in this Denison University art course celebrate queer art styles while learning the impact society and politics has had on self-identity and expression. It’s a lesson in GLBT art history that also allows students to employ traditions of journalistic comics, collage, screenprinting, photocopies, community collaborative artistic work (zines) in a series of drawing and printmaking projects. 22

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Gender and Sexuality in Art History: Don’t pretend you haven’t noticed them hanging around the museums: sacred bodies and sexy bodies, old and young, ailing and athletic. This art history course at Otterbein University examines how these images of the body reflect, reinforce, and shape constructions of gender and sexual identity. Students look at how notions of masculine and feminine, queer and straight identities change and differ across time and place. Gender Benders: Men are from Mars and women from Venus, right? Not so fast. Critical gender, feminist and queer theorizations have gone beyond such simplistic binaries. This English course at Kenyon College looks at newer figurations of gender and sexuality that writers have employed. Students examine these gendered imaginings and pay particular attention to the fluidity of gender boundaries, in-betweenness, third space and exclusion. Trans*Gender Studies: Oberlin College’s comparative American studies class focuses on gender and sexual minorities of all racial and ethnic backgrounds. Lesbian Gay BTQ Studies: This class isn’t as unique for its subject matter as it is for where it’s offered. It’s a sociology class at Xavier University, a Catholic school with 8,000 students in Cincinnati. It covers sexual identity in contemporary U.S. society and examines the political, legal and social issues facing LGBTQ communities. The course description says it will address debates about sexuality through the lens of disciplines including sociology, psychology and economics - but it doesn’t mention religion.

No, really, he’s straight. .

Bible, Gender and Sexuality: Religion and sexuality is tackled in this Denison University women’s and gender studies class. Students examine the Bible’s conflicted attitudes and images around men, women and sexuality, “from the very different creations of Adam and Eve to Revelation’s representation of the Roman Empire as the ‘whore’ of Babylon; from the assertive and sexually suspicious female figures of Ruth and Rahab to Jesus’ uncertain masculinity in accounts of his death.” Love, Sex and Desire in Medieval Romance: Medieval literature kind of wrote the rules of love: It gave us Valentine’s Day, the notion of love as a sickness and the articulation of courtship as a game with specific rules. Yet it also breaks many of the “rules” it created, what with women resisting marriage, men loving men, etc. This Kenyon College English class explores the complex messages about love and sex encoded in medieval romances. What’s Love Got to Do With It?: After all the debate about who should be entitled to it, this Kenyon College class examines what marriage really is. Is marriage a sacrament or a civil right, or a civic responsibility? Is it fundamentally about procreation? Or is it the highest form of human friendship? Students read poems, stories, novels, plays and nonfiction of all kinds in pursuit of the answer to a simple question: What is marriage for? How has the institution been shaped by law and culture over the centuries? Screening Sexuality: Glee. Hedwig. The L-Word. Brokeback Mountain. Queer as Folk. Capote. Modern Family. Diving into television and film, this Otterbein University class immerses students in queer media. What narratives of sexuality and selfhood do queer media create? What acts of defiance, resistance, activism or transgression do they encode? Works of Lisa Cholodenko, Gus Van Sant, Gregg Araki, Cheryl Dunye, Ruby Rich, Henry Benshoff and others are covered. outlookohio.com

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Project Nunway, featuring Cleveland designers and the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, benefits Dare2Care.

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‘I Never Expected to Become an Activist’ by Bob Vitale

Jim Obergefell: It’s President Obama, and he’s calling me. My brain stopped functioning. Jim Obergefell sat with us in the Outlook booth After I hung up, I had no memory of anything at Toledo Pride last August and just relaxed. I said or if I even spoke in complete sentences! We talked about how, despite the occasional I knew the president thanked me and said I Kim Davis or homophobic baker, marriage helped make our nation a better place, but equality had quickly become a part of Ameri- that was all I could remember. can life. It was a good thing the CNN crew who’d just Then a mom and her daughter and her partner interviewed me captured the conversation on came to say hi. She looked at Jim, and through tape because it allowed me to relax and tears, she thanked him. breathe a sigh of relief later and confirm that I had been respectful and had indeed formed Jim has traveled the country a few times over complete sentences. I’ll never forget the in the year since the U.S. Supreme Court ruled unbridled joy I felt and saw all around me that in favor of nationwide marriage equality in a day outside the Supreme Court. case that bore his name. His story - their story, because it’s also about his late husband, John BV: Before that day, were you Arthur, and their marriage - is known around confident you and John and the other couples would prevail? Did you the world now.

court in the land saying that Kelly and Kelly, Joe and Rob, Pam and Nicole, and all the other plaintiffs and couples like us across the country were really second-class citizens. I simply couldn’t waste any time or energy considering it. It wasn’t until about five sentences into Justice Kennedy’s reading of the decision that I was finally convinced we’d won. That’s when the tears started.

BV: Your Facebook posts have me exhausted! Have you counted how many places you’ve gone in the past year for speeches, awards dinners, LGBT causes and other events?

JO: I’ve traveled to more than 30 different cities and spoken at almost 100 events since March 2015. It’s been an amazing experience, especially because I’ve been involved with believe your cases would bring about organizations such as Equality Ohio, the nationwide marriage equality? When Human Rights Campaign, Equality Florida, But it started in Cincinnati, did you become convinced? SAGE, American Military Partner Association, the ACLU, Equality North Carolina, Lighthouse He shares their tale in Love Wins, written with JO: From the start, I knew we were on the right Youth Services, the Children’s Home of Northjournalist Debbie Cenziper and released in late side of history, and I didn’t want to imagine a ern Kentucky and more. It’s been tiring, and at June by Harper Collins world where we would lose. I knew there were times overwhelming, but I’m happy to spend no guarantees about court decisions, and my time working on such meaningful causes. Bob Vitale: It’s June 26, 2015, and losing was a possibility, but I wouldn’t let you’re on the steps of the U.S. BV: You visited Guam. Why was that Supreme Court. Your phone rings. Take myself seriously consider it. it from there...

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so special?

It was too scary for me to imagine the highest

OK, Jim, we suppose you can do the I that way, too...

JO: I was invited to be a commencement speaker at the University of Guam, and I also spoke as part of the university’s lecture series. It was an honor to be part of such an important day for the graduates and their families, and I appreciated the incredibly warm welcome I experienced on the island. On a personal note, I was especially excited to visit Guam because my father was stationed on Guam as a Navy Seabee during World War II. My father died in 2000, and I wasn’t expecting to feel as connected to him as I did during that visit. The Guamanians have an abiding love and respect for the service members who liberated and rebuilt the island, and I was welcomed like family. BV: When we met for the first time, you told me that you and John “were so not gay activists.” But you seem to have embraced that role now...

JO: We were anything but activists, gay or otherwise! Our type of activism was signing checks to organizations and causes we cared about. We were more behind-the-scenes guys rather than marching-in-the-streets guys. I never expected to become an activist, but finding yourself in the right situation can have unexpected consequences. That’s what

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happened to me. John and I decided to file suit because we wanted to live up to our commitments to each other; it wasn’t a decision to be an activist, it was a decision to fight for someone I loved, and that turned into something much bigger than myself. I discovered how meaningful that can be, and now I can’t imagine not being involved and fighting for what matters. BV: Tell me about some of the people you’ve met in this journey. Lots of famous ones, but I’m sure you’ve had some very touching moments with members of our community.

JO: The most important and memorable interactions have been with people who stop me on the street, in the airport or at events. They stop me to say thank you, to show me photos, to tell me stories, to cry, or to hug me. It’s impossible not to be touched when people share their stories and explain what the decision meant to them or someone they love. I have so many stories, but here are some of my favorites. A young man told me that watching the video about John and me gave him the courage to come out. A flight attendant welcomed me to a flight with a hug, tears and a thank you for helping make his marriage exist no matter where he flies on the job. A man across the street held up his hand, pointed to his wedding ring, and mouthed “thank you” to me. A mom and dad tweeted a photo of me with their children and thanked me for making the world a better place for their kids. Marrying a gay couple in Cincinnati was also a wonderful experience. I’m humbled to be part of making their marriage possible, and to be the person who officially married them was their gift to me. I feel like I’m part of thousands of marriages across the country, and I’ll never get tired of feeling that joy! outlookohio.com

BV: OK, now the famous ones. Tell me five people you met where you could barely keep it together.

JO: Edie Windsor. President Obama. Michelle Obama. Billie Jean King. Anderson Cooper. BV: When you and John talked about whether to sue the state of Ohio for recognition of your marriage, were you gung-ho, or did you almost decide not to take on the fight?

JO: This might be surprising, but it was a very easy decision for us. After meeting our attorney, Al Gerhardstein, and talking about his ideas, as well as what we could expect, I was gung-ho and ready to say yes. John was a bit more reticent, not because he didn’t think we should, but because he was concerned about me. He thought we should file suit, but he stressed that he wanted me to understand that it would all be on me because he couldn’t do anything. We both looked at filing this suit as something we could do to live up to our promises to each other.

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BV: Your name and John’s name and the story of your lives together will be in American history books forever. Do you think about that?

JO: It’s a very strange concept to wrap my mind around, so I try not to think about it very much! I know this is an historic decision with a nationwide impact, and that means it will be in history books, but it’s weird to think, “Oh, that’s about me and John.” When I read news stories that reference Obergefell v. Hodges, I have to remind myself that I’m that Obergefell. I will admit, however, that the first thing I’ll likely do whenever I see a history text book is flip to O in the index!

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How Love Won

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An Excerpt From Jim Obergefell’s Book, ‘Love Wins’

Thank you to William Morrow/Harper Collins Publishers for permission to share the prologue of Love Wins, about the Cincinnati case that brought marriage equality to the entire nation in June 2015. The book by Jim Obergefell and Washington Post writer Debbie Cenziper was released in June and is in bookstores now. July 16, 2013 Soon it would be time for goodbye. His husband was dying, and with a gentle knock on the bedroom door long past midnight, it would come now, quickly. But Jim Obergefell, married for five days, didn’t want to think about a funeral, not on this bright July morning when Cincinnati was in the throes of summer and his husband, John, was sitting up in bed because the spasms that coursed from his hips to his toes had mercifully subsided. John Arthur couldn’t wear a wedding ring. The weight of it hurt his fingers. He was naked under an electric blanket because clothing made his skin burn. His voice, what was left of it, had become winded and hoarse, a labored delivery of syllables and sounds that required great concentration and long, shallow breaths. Jim had to bend low to hear him, endlessly struck that a man who’d once had such a deep and lyrical laugh could now produce only a whisper. But for five days, John had pushed out a single, perfect word. Husband. Good night, husband. Good morning, husband. I love you, husband. Disease had struck suddenly, just after John’s 45th birthday two years earlier, when his left foot started dragging as if a 10-pound weight was bearing down on his shoe and everything they knew shifted and splintered. The diagnosis of ALS had been a death sentence: The neurological disorder attacks the nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord, eventually robbing every muscle in the body of movement, including the diaphragm,

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which facilitates air flow to the lungs. Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis literally suffocates its victims to death. Jim glanced at John in the bedroom they’d once shared, painted pale yellow and dominated by a hospital bed that compressed and expanded beneath John’s weight. Jim had moved to the guest room, but already this morning he had spent several hours in a chair by John’s bedside, watching the news on a television set loud enough to overcome the constant whoosh of an oxygen generator that pumped air through a line looping over John’s ears and up into his nostrils. The bedroom faced east, and Jim had opened the window blinds so John could feel the sun. On this day, they were expecting a visitor. Jim was nervous about meeting a civil rights lawyer who had spent the better part of 30 years suing the City of Cincinnati, but when Al Gerhardstein rapped on the door of their downtown condominium just after 2 p.m., his smile was benign and his graying sideburns were slightly disheveled, as if he had just come in from a run. He adjusted his wirerimmed glasses, and when he shook Jim’s hand, the embrace was warm and friendly. Al followed Jim down the length of the hall to the bedroom, where John was propped up on pillows, waiting. Dropping his briefcase to the floor, Al barely glanced at the hulking hospital bed. His younger sister, one of six Gerhardstein siblings, was paralyzed by multiple sclerosis, and on Saturday mornings, Al sipped coffee by her bedside until her caregiver arrived. He leaned forward and rested a light hand on John’s shoulder. And then he said, “Tell me about your wedding.” “Saying ‘I thee wed’ was the most beautiful moment of my life,” Jim said, looking at John, whose frail frame was hidden beneath the blanket, and remembering the lanky, grinning man with a mop of blond hair.

They had spent more than 20 years together in Cincinnati, spread across the hills and low ridges of the Ohio Valley, but had never felt compelled to marry because Ohio had banned same-sex marriage and the federal government didn’t recognize the statesanctioned marriages of gay couples anyway. But three weeks earlier, the U.S. Supreme Court had delivered an important win to the gay community, finding that same-sex couples married under state law deserved all the federal benefits that came with it, spanning health care, Social Security, veterans’ assistance, housing, taxes. So Jim and John had traveled to Maryland to marry, each mile in a private plane fixed with medical equipment wearing on John’s fragile body. “He suffered,” Jim told Al. “It’s frustrating and hurtful to know that the person you love went through terrible pain and discomfort just to do something millions of others take for granted.” “I wanted us to be treated the same,” John said slowly, each word a struggle. “And I want Jim to be legally taken care of after I die.” Al listened without taking notes. Once, 20 years earlier, when he had been in his early 40s juggling three children and a shoestring law practice that operated on contingency, the voters of Cincinnati had changed the city’s charter, permanently banning all laws that would protect the gay community from discrimination in areas like housing and employment. To Al, it was an arbitrary and hateful provision, and he sued in federal court. He spent nearly five years working without pay, and when the case was done, he questioned the city, the courts and the application of law. He thought about shuttering his practice and taking up teaching, moving his family from Cincinnati. He wasn’t sure if he would ever take on an-

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other major gay rights case, but then United States v. Windsor on June 26 had struck down a key provision of the Defense of Marriage Act, which for more than 15 years defined marriage solely as a union between one man and one woman. The law, Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote in the opinion overturning it, told gay couples “that their otherwise valid marriages are unworthy of federal recognition.” Over late nights in a dusty office overlooking a bus stop and the federal courthouse, a poster of Rosa Parks in the lobby and hate mail tacked to a bulletin board in the kitchen, Al studied Ohio’s ban on same-sex marriage, passed by a majority of voters in 2004. He discovered a striking inconsistency. Ohio prohibited first cousins and minors from marrying, but would recognize the marriages if they were performed in another state. The “place of celebration” rule came from a longstanding legal principle known as lex loci contractus, the Latin term for “law of the place where the contract is made.” But Ohio didn’t apply that principle equally: Out-ofstate marriages among same-sex couples were excluded. If the federal government after the Windsor decision had to recognize same-sex marriages on an equal basis with heterosexual marriages, Al thought, shouldn’t states like Ohio have to recognize them, too? The finding seemed entirely existential until a mutual friend told Al about John, Jim and their marriage in Maryland. On a hunch, Al outlookohio.com

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hurried to his filing cabinet and dug out a death certificate saved from an old lawsuit. He scanned the document from the Ohio Department of Health and immediately found what he was looking for. “This is it,” he whispered, and three days later, he went to meet John and Jim. When Jim got up for water, Al followed him into the dining room and pulled out the death certifiate. “I’m sure you haven’t thought about this, because who thinks about a death certificate when you’ve just gotten married.” Al pointed to Section 10: Marital Status. Al pointed to Section 11: Surviving Spouse. Jim had never studied a death certificate before, and he followed Al’s fingers across the page. In Ohio, Al explained, their marriage did not exist. John would be classified as single when he died, and the box where Jim expected to be named as the surviving spouse would be left blank. In death, they would be strangers. “John’s last official record as a person will be wrong,” Al said gently. Jim’s head started hurting as he thought

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about John, who had traveled nearly 500 miles to marry even though his bones ached and his skin burned. “I can’t believe this,” he said, wiping at tears with the back of his hand. “I just can’t believe this.” Across the country, lawyers and advocacy groups were focused on a broader mission delivering same-sex marriage to all 50 states. But Al saw a more narrow, tangible and urgent need, one that had never been fully explored in an American courtroom. He asked Jim, “Do you want to talk about ways that you can fix this for you and John and make a difference for all gays here in Ohio?” Jim wasn’t sure if there was room in their lives for a federal lawsuit, but when he walked back down the hall and looked at John, whose wedding ring sat on a nightstand by the bed, there was no longer any question. Jim had no idea where the case might lead or how it would end, but with John’s permission, Jim signed John’s name and then his own to some papers that Al laid out in front of them. Alone in the fading light of the yellow bedroom, Jim and his husband launched the first-ever challenge to Ohio’s ban on the recognition of same-sex marriage, enshrined in the state’s constitution by 3.3 million voters. •

OBERGEFELL, ARTHUR LEGACY: A SAFER, MORE EQUAL OHIO “We’re not a special interest. We’re not a lobby or a demographic. We’re human beings, and our experiences matter.” That’s Jim Obergefell talking about the Jim Obergefell & John Arthur Society, a group within Equality Ohio that focuses resources on specific issues in the LGBTQ community: • The fight for statewide anti-discrimination provisions that include sexual orientation and gender identity. • Support for transgender youth. • Addressing bullying by addressing school climate and school-district policies.

We are so grateful to Jim and his publishers for permission to share a portion of his book.

• Keeping LGBTQ elders safe from discrimination and helping older LGBTQ people who live in poverty. “Gaining marriage equality was a victory but not the conclusion,” said Obergefell, whose husband, John Arthur, died in 2013 before Ohio recognized same-sex marriages. Their lawsuit brought about the U.S. Supreme Court’s decision in favor of nationwide marriage equality in June 2015. Mary Zaller, Equality Ohio’s development director, said the fund will help the statewide LGBT civil-rights group “usher in a new era of full, lived equality.” “Jim wanted to ensure that John’s name lives on and continues to have a positive impact on the lives of LGBTQ people in Ohio,” she said. “The society does just that.” “We are so grateful for Jim’s trust in our work.” Contact Zaller at 614.224.0400 or mary@equalityohio.org for more information about the Jim Obergefell & John Arthur Society.

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creative class

A NEW

REALITY

Cleveland’s ‘Real Houseboyz’ Hope to Change TV by Alicia Hoisington

When Cleveland writer DeVaughn Lilly was on his last book tour, he and his manager came up with a “crazy” idea in hopes of representing a community of people. “It was something we had never seen before, which is a reality show with an all-gay cast of all black men who are young, ambitious, all artists and businessmen who are trying to make it to the top,” said Lilly, writer, producer and one of the young, gay, ambitious stars of the web series, The Real Houseboyz of Cleveland. The initial conversation that sparked the idea happened in late 2014. Four months later, cameras started rolling. The first episode was everything people love about reality TV from a group of subjects overlooked by previous reality fare. DeVaughn and Chris share pre-party cocktails and throw shade in “confessional” talks to the camera. Antonio has blown off the party, and the others share their theories as to why: Is 28

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he trying to make a statement, or does he just not have anything to wear? “They said America wasn’t ready for us, but we decided to show the world our journey through our eyes,” Lilly says in a trailer for the show, which was posted on YouTube until producers began shopping it for possible wider distribution. The show features what Lilly describes as an eclectic group of friends who are all striving for greatness in their personal and professional lives. The main cast includes: Lilly, who has written three novels; Antonio Jackson, a chef; and Chris Broadwater, a model. A different twist in the show is host Joshua Shores, also known as “Thumper,” who pops up in a corner of the screen to offer commentary as “the man in the bubble.” While there’s all the drama of a typical Real House-something-else episode - DeVaughn, for instance, tells his boyfriend, Warren, a stripper, to choose him or his job - Lilly said the premise of the show is to showcase

young black men in a positive light. “I want to be able to show a different lifestyle that a lot of people are living,” he said. “I want to show that it’s not just a group full of party kids. It’s actually businessmen, entrepreneurs and artists. I just really want to give a different look to this community.” “It’s revolutionary,” he said. But “it’s also super-entertaining.” Lilly said the show doesn’t follow a script. The men shoot two or three days a week, from eight to 10 hours a day. “The cameras will follow us around, like if we’re going to work or having a meeting or going out for lunch. They follow us around and capture what’s really happening in our lives,” Lilly said. When Lilly and his crew watched the show, they were surprised to discover it was funny. “The show turned out to be hilarious, and we didn’t try to make it funny. We’re just funny

That’s Chris, Antonio and DeVaughn, left to right.

when you put us together. When we watched it, everyone was just dying laughing.” Lilly said the show has had a good following, and members of the cast have been recognized around Cleveland. “We can be walking around malls ... and people will say, ‘Aren’t you those Real Houseboyz guys?’” Lilly laughed. “At least two to three times a week I’ve been recognized.” And that recognition isn’t a bad thing when it comes to the show’s goal of representing communities. “We not only represent the LGBT community, but we also represent young, ambitious men,” Lilly said. And that representation will help revolutionize television, Lilly hopes. Alicia Hoisington is a freelance writer from Cleveland. As for reality TV, she’s hooked on Naked and Afraid and The Real Housewives of Atlanta. outlookohio.com

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insight out

Conquering Fear

Simple Breathing Exercises Can Ease Your Anxiety by Regina Sewell

ing, just gently bring your awareness back to your breath and start over.

More than a month has gone by since Omar Mateen opened fire in Orlando’s Pulse nightclub, killed 49 people and injured 53 others.

Second, let yourself be aware of your surroundings in this moment. If you aren’t in danger, you are safe. If you don’t feel safe, keep The incident no longer commands 24/7 news breathing and remember a time when you felt coverage, but the awareness remains that we that way. Perhaps it was in your grandmother’s could be targeted simply because we are LGBT. arms or in a quiet spot in the woods. And it’s easy to fall into fear. If you can’t do this, try butterfly tapping. Fear makes us vigilant. For our primitive ancestors, this was helpful. Vigilance helped Put your hands in front of you, crossing them them avoid becoming a snack for predators. like a butterfly. It doesn’t matter which hand is on top. Bring your hands to your chest, placNow, this life-or-death vigilance is not so use- ing the heel of your bottom hand on your sterful. It can put us in a state of hyper-alertness num, your left thumb on the left inside so we’re constantly looking for danger. Physio- collarbone point and your right thumb on the logically, this causes us to tense our shoulders, right inside collarbone point. tighten our guts and breathe more shallowly, which in turn causes us to be more anxious. Gently tap your left collar bone with your right middle three fingers and then your right collar It also makes us less present and less able to bone with your left middle three fingers. Consuccessfully defend ourselves or escape from tinue tapping left and right while you imagine danger because we are not able to think yourself successfully defending yourself, getclearly. It slows our response time. ting out of a dangerous situation or simply being safe. But how do we stop being afraid? If none of this works, try taking a yoga, tai chi First, we breathe. I’m serious. Slow, focused or formal meditation class to train your body to breathing is the antidote to fear. relax. It seems paradoxical, but allowing yourself to feel safe actually makes you more able You can do this standing or sitting. If you are to successfully respond to potentially dangerstanding, bring your awareness to your feet. ous situations. The more you allow yourself to Rock slightly forward and back and then left breathe and be in the present moment, the and right until you feel your weight balanced more control you’ll feel over life and destiny. between the balls and heels of your feet. Then imagine sending roots down from the soles of Terrorism aims to shut people down and make your feet into the core of the earth. them live their lives smaller. Putting an end to terrorism is a political issue that requires Next, lengthen your spine and roll your shoul- massive resources, but refusing to take the ders back and down. This will counter the ten- bait and staying present is how we, at an indidency to have your shoulders hiked up toward vidual level, defeat terrorism. your ears. Let your arms hang comfortably by your side. Close your eyes or focus on someThat’s especially true when it’s rooted in thing and bring your awareness to your breath. homophobia and transphobia. Notice the air coming in and going out of your nostrils, or focus on the rise and fall of your belly. See if you can lengthen your exhale.

Do this every day for three to five minutes, or longer if you can. If you find your mind wander-

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Be safe and be well.

Regina Sewell is a licensed mental health counselor. Visit reginasewell.com to ask her a question, propose a column topic, read about her approach to counseling, or check out her books and other writing. Insight Out will appear again in the October issue of Outlook.

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trans point analysis

Big Rulings on Campus Title IX Is the Shield Against Anti-Trans Laws

by Brynn Tannehill

Schools, and particularly colleges, are now ground zero in the battle for transgender civil rights. Currently, most right-wing anti-transgender legislation is targeting transgender students, including those in college. Most of these bills and laws are designed to prevent transgender students from participating in athletics or sharing spaces like dorms or bathrooms.

Thankfully, Mississippi’s religious freedom law was struck down by a federal judge on June 30, just before it was set to take effect. “The state has put its thumb on the scale to favor some religious beliefs over others,” U.S. District Court Judge Carlton Reeves wrote. “Showing such favor tells non-adherents that they are outsiders, not full members of the political community and ... adherents that they are insiders, favored members of the political community.”

Passing laws protecting transgender people has proven almost impossible most places, including Ohio. The first thing Gov. John Kasich did in office was to repeal employment protections for transgender state workers.

Similarly, the fate of House Bill 2 in North Carolina looks grim for the religious right. A federal court already ruled that transgender students must be allowed to use facilities in accordance with their gender identity, based on the Department of Education’s interpretaBut the right wing is losing in court because of tion of Title IX. Title IX of the U.S. Education Amendments of 1972, which states: “No person in the United The defendants have not exhausted their apStates shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded peals yet, but they appear ever more feeble and from participation in, be denied the benefits of, desperate. Most of the plaintiffs in the ACLU’s or be subjected to discrimination under any suit against North Carolina Gov. Pat McCrory education program or activity receiving federal and HB2 are transgender students and transfinancial assistance.” gender employees of universities. In the past three decades, a body of case law has been built that transgender people are protected on the basis of sex. In 1989, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that discriminating on the basis of sex stereotypes against a masculine acting cisgender woman was sex discrimination. In 1990, courts began ruling that laws banning sex discrimination in employment applied to transgender people who were discriminated against because of stereotypes about how men and women should act.

HB2 is probably doomed, anyway, based on all the other precedents it seems to violate. Given how its backers are trying to force a particular class of students to use facilities that are demonstrably inferior to those available to other students, it’s hard to see how this doesn’t run afoul of Brown v. Board of Education.

In the end, whether Title IX saves transgender people from laws trying to drive them underground depends on this year’s presidential election. A case determining whether the defiISince then, the overwhelming majority of court nition of sex discrimination includes transgencases have ruled that discrimination against der people is sure to end up in front of the transgender people for being trans is a form of Supreme Court. The court is split 4-4, and sex discrimination. The Department of Educa- Donald Trump already has promised to appoint tion, Department of Labor, Department of Jus- judges recommended by the far right. tice, the Equal Opportunity Commission and now even the Department of Defense all have So tell me again how elections don’t matter. taken the same position: Anti-transgender discrimination is sex discrimination. Brynn Tannehill is a former naval Which brings us to the laws targeting transgender people in Mississippi and North Carolina. outlookohio.com

aviator and former Xenia resident who can be found on Twitter @BrynnTannehill. She writes Transition Point Analysis every month for Outlook.

The GOP platorm OK’d in Cleveland would undo Obama administration protections for trans students.

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dyke like me

I’m Not Laughing

Post-Orlando, Those Little Iandignities Are Harder to Take by Brooke Cartus

understand is that until everyone in our community is treated with a baseline of respect I went on a vacation in July and saw a lot of my allowed to just live and have the opportunity to family members. I mean a lot: cousins, uncles, thrive - you can f*cking keep your politeness. aunts, parents, second cousins, I think a nephew… too many to count, really. I get that I’m not winning any awards for my behavior. And I understand how lucky I am. There are those with no families, or families that have Sometimes, when arguing with conservative disowned them for their identity, presentation assholes, I make really nonsensical arguments or orientation. to lighten the mood. It didn’t work in this case. I stated that gay relationships were keeping So I’m not saying I have it worse than others, the economy afloat; gay and queer people have but the conversations that took place with my less vaginal intercourse, meaning they have family were truly astounding and a reminder more adventurous sex out of necessity, which that we have a long way to go to push through leads to more sex-related injuries, which leads the polite bullshit and have real progress. to trips to the ER and urgent care, which leads to the funding of the medical-industrial comThe bigots in my family go to work every Mon- plex, which sustains a huge part of our day with the knowledge that they “know a les- domestic economy. bian... she’s pretty cool.” That particular line of logic led to one or two The bigots in my family smugly assume that conservatives storming off. I wanted to tell because they know one gay person and she is them, “Go jump in a lake!” because the lake not a flaming trashcan fire that she must be was literally a few feet away. the exception, because those other gay people won’t shut up. In a post-Orlando world, it’s hard to argue that some people don’t outright hate us. But how The bigots in my family think that while the that hate presents itself, how it leaks out in gays are bleeding heart liberals, that once they today’s culture means that we have to conhave money, it will all change and they will stantly be on the lookout. And it’s exhausting to vote for Trump. be polite all the time to people who don’t think you have a right to love who you want. The comments above are just some of the thoughts shared to my face by those who think I’m not going to smile when they ask about my they are on my side. “friend” or “roommate,” and I’m not going to acknowledge their fear of violence because, My anger from this trip stems from the façade “You know, I’ve been to a gay bar once ... Orof acceptance. Not the outright, “Get out of lando could have happened to me.” here, you aren’t welcome,” which I would expect from state legislators or protestors at my Maybe I’ve become the angry lesbian I was hometown Pride parade, but the, “C’mon in” born to be (much to my mother’s chagrin). But notion that polite society thinks we want. maybe you made me this way because of your hate. At one point, my uncle asked where my “friend” was, and I responded by saying, “Oh, And I refuse to stoop to your level and swim my ‘roommate’?” He chuckled. But he wasn’t in your ignorance. I have more important joking. He couldn’t even bring himself to say shit to do. the word girlfriend. I actually don’t want your welcome mat if you’re going to be like that. What bigots don’t 32

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Brooke’s not kidding this month, is she?

Brooke Cartus is a Chapstick lesbian with a law degree. You can find more of her writing on her blog, Size L for Lady, at brookecartus.com. She writes Dyke Like Me every month for Outlook. outlookohio.com

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in the shade

Define ‘Radical’...

Building Walls, Inciting Hatered: Sounds Like It to Me

by Debra Shade

One-hundred and two lives in Orlando changed forever, so many more affected, so many more altered. Never to be the same. With bodies still at the scene of the crime, politics were more important than the pain. Biased media and politicians began to tell a story none of them knew.

more important than the next. To be governed by the few means something to me now. For all the times I’ve made fun of those speaking about a grand conspiracy, I now see more truth and more proof that this is plausible.

How do the few remain in control over the many? Policymakers and the punishers deterHow, with all of the voices vying to be heard, mine when it’s necessary to redesign the did we have a candidate for president who structure of society anytime they want. We constantly incites racial violence and religious calmly scurry along within the guidelines of hatred get airtime to mutter anything about the few who lead us. the lives altered by this gunman? Why is Donald Trump defined as “bizarre,” “biased” Now we’re facing a decision between the or “extreme” and not “radical”? lesser of two evils. Do we choose her or the openly racist, full-of-hate instigator of vioThe Orlando massacre was the act of a radi- lence? cal, Trump said. If that’s not the pot calling the kettle black! “Correcting” immigration, Hillary Clinton knows the inside of the White segregation, shutting out countries, building House like the back of her hand. She is wellwalls or blowing them up, creating barriers trained for the media and knows how coverwhile inciting hatred, violence and racism. Is ups work. She already knows the nation’s this not “radical,” too? worst secrets! She knows how to keep her hatred tamed. Any individual who performs an act as heinous as to shoot 102 people is “radical.” Race is not an issue this time. This time, we Shooting nine in a church, the youth who are are making a choice for the person with the killing each other daily, the metropolitan po- least amount of hate on his or her sleeve. lice departments... it’s all “radical.” After all, it’s the members of Congress, the senators who have the ability to decide what I want to understand how double standards happens to the many. have been tolerated for so long. There are so many individual plights that so many individ- They are the few who decide who commits viual groups attempt to overcome that we are olence against another. Senseless violence constantly distracted from the menace of the because they’re not speaking the same langovernment. guage, saying the same thing, or wanting the same things. There has always been one power over another. One people over another. One choice, What will happen if he is chosen? one decision, one profit, one life over the numbers. This 1 percent that we complain about In this race, education level, experience and includes both presidential candidates. race have little to do with what work they will be able to complete. They will continue to be How could they improve our plights? members of the 1 percent, and they will continue to be among the few who govern the We are on the outskirts of one of the most ill- many. conceived political decisions in our lifetimes. We’re at a time when all four living generaDebra Shade is an author and owner of Shade Media. You can follow her on tions are in the workforce, dating pool and Twitter @shadeyontop and find her voting booth. Yet we stay continuously divided books at shademediallc.com, Her next by one person saying that their “plight” is any Outlook column will run in October. outlookohio.com

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Diana Chittester • Kinky Boots • Cleveland Pride!

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 3 Jim Obergefell @ Trinity Cathedral, 2230 Euclid Avenue, Cleveland, 44115; 216.771.3630; trinitycleveland.org: The Ohioan behind the 2015 U.S. Supreme Court case that brought nationwide marriage equality and journalist Debbie Cenziper will discuss the historic journey that inspired their coauthored book, Love Wins. 7p. FRIDAY, AUGUST 5 Cinema at the Square: Rebel Without a Cause @ Connor Palace, 1615 Euclid Ave., Cleveland, 44115; 216.241.6000 or 866.546.1353; playhousesquare.org: The 1955 James Dean classic returns to the big screen. Although movie tickets cost 50 cents back then, the $5 price this time around isn’t too bad a deal. 7:30p; $5. Bears in the Woods XXII @ Freedom Valley Campground, 1875 U.S. 250 S., New London, 44851; 419.929.8100; freedomvalleycamping.com: Yes, bears do a lot more than that in the woods. They also play bingo, have beer and wine tastings, cavort at foam parties, eat ice cream and watch movies. Arktos Bears hosts the annual camping weekend. $135 registration includes all meals, beverages, special activities and access to the campground.

Madonnarama @ Twist Social Club, 11633 Clifton Blvd., Cleveland, 44102; 216.221.2333; FB: Twist Social Club: The Material Girl turns 58 on Aug. 16. So dance to all the hits, remixes, album cuts, fan favorites, megamixes and more. 9p.

Dawg Days @ Freedom Valley Campground, 1875 U.S. 250 S., New London, 44851; 419.929.8100; freedomvalleycamping.com: The weekend hosted by the Captain Fantastic Band: The Elton John Legacy @ Lock 3 Rangers includes a party in which you can pay to put Akron, 200 S. Main St., Akron, 44308; 330.375.2877; someone in the pound, adopt a pup for 15 minutes, or buy lock3live.com: Captain Fantastic and the Rocketband per- a dog license to stay free all night. $15 for day or night form your favorite Elton John hits from his crazy- passes ($20-$124 per night for accommodations). costumed days in the 1970s. The free show includes a 5-foot baby grand piano that SATURDAY, AUGUST 20 will shower you with lights, smoke, lasers HAPPY FLAIR FEST, AKRON! Links and Drinks @ Mud and a few surprises. 8:30p. Run Golf Course and Driving Range, 2000 S. Hawkins Ave., Akron, 44320; 330.252.1559; canapi.org/links-andCLAW Leather Weekend @ Freedom drinks: This is an inclusive event that does not Valley Campground, 1875 U.S. 250 S., discriminate... against hackers. Register New London, 44851; 419.929.8100; at the link above; the deadline is freedomvalleycamping.com: Activities include Sunday, Aug. 7. All proceeds benefit a kilt/skirt party. $15 for day or night passes ($20CANAPI. $40 includes nine holes $124 per night for accommodations). and cocktail reception ($25 for the reception only). SATURDAY, AUGUST 13 HAPPY PRIDE, CLEVELAND! Pride Parade @ Downtown, HAPPY FLAIR FEST, AKRON! Steve 44114; 216.226.0004; FB: Cleveland Pride: 11a. Grand and Karen Williams @ Akron Civic Theatre, 182 S. Main St., Akron, 44308; 330.253.2488; FB: HAPPY PRIDE, CLEVELAND! Pride Festival @ Mall C; 301 Steve Grand with Karen Williams: Grand, a gay country E. Lakeside Ave., Cleveland, 44114; 216.226.0004; FB: singer, found fame with his 2013 hit, “All American Boy. Cleveland Pride: Lakefront construction means a new loWilliams, a native Clevelander, is a lesbian standup comic cation for this year’s festival. Stay tuned for the entertain- who has toured with the Queer Queens of Qomedy. 8p; ment lineup, which had yet to be announced when we $10-$15. went to press. 11a-8p. Hot Foam Party @ Circle JJ Ranch, 1104 Amsterdam Rd., X-Men Heroes vs. Villains Mega Party @ Aura Scio, 43988; 330.627.3101; circlejjranch.com: Circle JJ Ultra Lounge, 1313 E. 26th St., Cleveland, Ranch is a Northeast Ohio campground for men. $15 for 44114; 216.812.3330; FB: AURA Ultra Lounge: Celebrate the battle for equality in costume as your favorite X-Men hero or villain. Drag queens and adult stars will be in character as well, and DJ/producer Kidd Madonny will provide the music and visuals. It’s 18+ and co-ed. 9p; $15 at the door.

day or night passes ($18-$110 per night for accommodations). TUESDAY, AUGUST 23 Kinky Boots @ Playhouse Square/Connor Palace, 1615 Euclid Ave., Cleveland, 44115; 216.241.6000; playhousesquare.org: The winner of six Tony Awards tells the musical story of a struggling shoe factory owner who turns his business around with a drag queen who comes to the rescue. 8p; $10-$80. There are more performances scheduled for Aug 24-26 at 8p; Aug. 27 at 2p and 8p; and Aug. 28 at 1p and 6:30p. SATURDAY, AUGUST 27 Human Rights Campaign Cleveland Gala @ Hilton Cleveland Downtown, 100 Lakeside Ave. E, Cleveland, 44114; hrcclevelandgala.com: It’s Cleveland’s turn to dress up and show its support for the nation’s biggest LGBT civil rights group. 5p; $125-$225. SUNDAY AUGUST 28 Kent State University LGBTQ Welcome Reception @ Kent State University Student Center, 1075 Risman Dr., Kent, 44240; 330.672.8580; kent.edu/lgbtq: Celebrate the new school year with the LGBTQ Student Center. 2p-4p. MONDAY, AUGUST 29 CANAPI Benefit Performance: The Secret of the Old Queen @ Weathervane Playhouse, 1301 Weathervane Lane, Akron, 44313; 330.836.2626; weathervaneplayhouse.com: What old queen doesn’t have a lot of secrets? This affectionate musical parody of the Hardy Boys series will be stages one night only, and all proceeds will benefit CANAPI, Akron’s HIV-services agency and LGBTQ community organization. 7:30p; $22.

SATURDAY, AUGUST 6 Project Nunway @ Lago East Bank (in the Aloft Hotel), 1091 W. 10th St., Cleveland, 44113; 216.374.6007; dare2careusa.org: Members of Cleveland’s Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence team up with 15 local designers for an over-the-top avant-garde fashion show that benefits Dare2Care, which helps LGBT youth in Northeast SUNDAY, AUGUST 14 Ohio. Celebs include Carson Kressley, Jai Rodriguez, Dari- Big Queer BBQ @ Bounce Nightclub/Hinge Lounge, 2814 enne Lake and Aggy Dune.7:30p-midnight; $25-$150. Detroit Ave., Cleveland, 44113; 216.696.0831; FB: Bounce Nightclub Hinge Lounge: The event benefits the LGBT Community Center of Greater Cleveland. Your ticket inWEDNESDAY, AUGUST 10 Greek Life Gets Gay @ Kent State University Student cludes one plate of food, two drinks and admission into Center, Room 024, 1075 Risman Dr., Kent, 44240; Bounce. 11a-4p; $20. 330.672.8580; kent.edu/lgbtq: The roundtable discussion is hosted by the LGBTQ Student Center. 1p-2p. Cinema at the Square: The Music Man @ Connor Palace, 1615 Euclid Ave., Cleveland, 44115; 216.241.6000 or 866.546.1353; playhousesquare.org: Oh, we got trouble, FRIDAY, AUGUST 12 Film Screening: The Pursuit @ Ohio Theatre, 1511 Euclid my friends... The 1962 musical stars Robert Preston, Ave., Cleveland, 44115; 216.241.6000 or 866.546.1353; Shirley Jones and an 8-year-old Ron Howard. 2p; $5. playhousesquare.org: The one-hour documentary reflects on the beginning of the LGBT civil rights FRIDAY, AUGUST 19 movement: a July 4, 1965, protest in front HAPPY FLAIR FEST, AKRON! Summit Pride of Independence Hall in Philadelphia. Ride @ Lock 3 Akron, 200 S. Main St., The screening will be followed by a disAkron, 44308; 330.252.1559; FB: Akron cussion with the film’s producer. Summit Pride Ride: Flair Fest is Akron’s 6:30p; $10, which includes a soft version of Pride; it’s an LGBT festival to drink, candy and popcorn. commemorate the 2014 Gay Games in Northeast Ohio. Visit the Facebook page Diana Chittester @ Perici Amphitheatre, or canapi.org for details about registering 10260 Ravenna Rd., Twinsburg, 44087; for this 10K bicycle ride. 7p-9p. 330.963.8722; rocktheparkconcert: One reviewer said of the lesbian guitarist/singer/songwriter: “If you don’t be- HAPPY FLAIR FEST, AKRON! Space Oddity: David lieve an acoustic solo performance can fill a room with Brighton’s Tribute to David Bowie @ Lock 3 Akron, 200 S. raw power, elegance and intelligence concurrently, you Main St., Akron, 44308; 330.375.2877; lock3live.com: haven’t experienced Diana Chittester.” 7p; $10-$40. Brighton is called the world’s top Bowie tribute artist. He recreates all of the late artist’s ch-ch-ch-changes throughout his storied career. This concert is free. 8:30p.

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Healing Weekends. The cost includes lodging and all meals. There was a deadline of Aug. 1 to register, so check with organizers to see if they’re still accepting registration. 4p; $60. Weekend activities conclude Sunday, Aug. 21, at 4p.

midnight; $5 ($3 if you bring a nonperishable food item for the Toledo Northwestern Ohio Food Bank).

SATURDAY, AUGUST 27 Costume Party • Foam Party • Toledo Pride! HAPPY PRIDE, TOLEDO! FRIDAY, AUGUST 12 SUNDAY, AUGUST 7 Toledo Pride PaFRIDAY, AUGUST 26 Steinem’s Sisters Talking Circle: Bad Stone Productions: Hair @ Collingwood Arts rade @ Downtown HAPPY PRIDE, TOLEDO! Center, 2413 Collingwood Blvd., Toledo, 43620; Nite Glo 5K @ International Feminist @ People Called Women, 6060 Toledo, toledopride Renaissance Pl., Suite F, Toledo, 43623; stoneproductions419.com: Stone .com: Registration Park, 26 Main St., Toledo, 419.469.8983; peoplecalledwomen.com: The Productions is a new local starts at 10a at Adams 43605; toledopride.com: Part theater company that says feminist archive housed at and 21st streets near Bretz party and part 5K/1-mile run or hio’s only feminist its mission is to showcase Nightclub. The parade steps off at noon, walk, the Pride event with an illuminated the talents of the LGBT combookstore hosts heads down Adams Street to Summit Street course, blacklights and glowsticks drew munity. 8p; $12. a discussion of and then into Levis Square for the Pride more than 400 people last year. Those who bisexual writer register get free admission to the Kiss ’n’ Drag festival. Mayor Paula Hicks-Hudson is the Roxane Gay’s SATURDAY, AUGUST 13 Kickoff Party Downtown. 7p check-in; $30 ($25 grand marshal. Noon. 2014 collection Foam Party @ Bretz Nightclub, 2012 Adams if you register before Wednesday, of essays on pop St., Toledo, 43604; 419.243.1900; FB: Bretz HAPPY PRIDE, TOLEDO! Aug. 10). culture, politics and Nightclub: This is the third of four monthly Toledo Pride Festival @ Levis Square, feminism today. 2p. foam parties scheduled this summer. The last HAPPY PRIDE, 285 N. Saint Clair St., Toledo, 43604; is on Saturday, Sept. 10. 9p; $6 ($10 for those TOLEDO! toledopride.com: Michelle Truman of 18-20). WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 10 truRock is the headliner of this year’s Kiss ’n’ Drag Kickoff Costume Party: Greek/Roman Mythology @ festival, but Toledo Pride also inParty @ Downtown Other Side Bistro, 5038 Lewis Ave., Toledo, FRIDAY, AUGUST 19 cludes a huge lineup of local bands Toledo; toledopride. 43612; 419.476.1577; FB: McCune’s Other West Ohio AIDS Task Force Healing Weekend com: Live performand drag queens and kings who keep Side Bistro Bar: Dig out that toga... or at least @ Widewater Retreat & Ministry Center, 4050 ances and DJs from the party going. Noon-midnight; $5 bepull it off your bed. Toledo Bar Owners United County Rd. 424, Liberty Center, 43532; fore 7p ($7 after 7p). 92.5 KISS-FM get Pride hosts the third of its rotating series of cos419.798.6249; ohioaidscoalition.org: weekend started with a night of tume parties. Cash prizes will go to those with Spirituality, education and creating bonds of music, food and drinks. The main show starts friendship are the focus of the HIV/AIDS the best costume. 7:30p. at 10p, after the Nite Glow 5K concludes. 6p-

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RSVP via the Facebook page by Thursday, Aug. 11. 10a. PFLAG Cincinnati 30+ Anniversary Gala @ The Metropolitan Diana Ross • Tennis Pride Night • Caracole Fundraiser Club, 50 E. Rivercenter Blvd., Suite 1900, Covington, 41011; SATURDAY, MONDAY, AUGUST 1 pflagcinci.org: Proceeds go to Diana Ross @ Riverbend Music AUGUST 13 Gallery Talk: Divine Fe- scholarships for college students. Center, Riverbend Music 5p; $50 ($450 for 10-person lines @ Cincinnati Center PNC Pavilion, Museum of Art, 953 table). 6295 Kellogg Ave., Eden Park Dr., Cincinnati, 45230; Cincinnati, 45202; TUESDAY, AUGUST 16 Western & Southern Open Pride 513.721.ARTS 800.745.3000; Night @ Lindner Family Tennis (2787); cincinnariverbend.org: Thank you, Diana, for tiartmuseum.org: Dis- Center, 5460 Courseview Dr., Mason, 45040; 513.651.0303; cover the important role “I’m Coming Out.” We cats had in ancient Egyptian im- FB: Western & Southern Open want the world to know. We’ve Pride Night: The U.S. Tennis Assogot to let it show. 8p. $16-$154. agery during this gallery talk that’s part of the museum’s exhi- ciation is hosting its first-ever bition, Divine Felines, which fea- Pride Night. A discounted terSUNDAY, AUGUST 7 tures 80 representations of cats race-level ticket (available Miss Drag You Out Prelim through a Facebook page link) No. 2 @ The Cabaret, 1122 Wal- from the Brooklyn Museum’s includes a pass into the USTA world-famous Egyptian collecnut St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.202.4052; FB: ISQCCBE: Cis tion. 2p-3p. The exhibition closes tent for food, drinks and a short program. 5:30p; $45. Sunday, Sept. 11. woman do drag to raise money for the YWCA of Greater CincinSATURDAY, AUGUST 20 nati’s Breast Cancer Prevention SUNDAY, AUGUST 14 MUSE Cincinnati Women’s Choir Queen of the Beach Project. The women who collect the most tips go on to the finals Volleyball Tournament @ Dun- Auditions @ Community Matters, in this contest hosted by the Im- ham Recreation Area, 1994 Dun- 2110 St. Michael St., Cincinnati perial Sovereign Queen City Court ham Way, Cincinnati, 45238; FB: OH 45204; 513.221.1118; museCincinnati Alternative Volleyball choir.org: Visit the website to reof the Buckeye Empire. 7p. Association (CAVA): Four-person quest an audition time. 9a. teams compete. Teams must

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SUNDAY, AUGUST 21 Miami Valley and Tri-State Prime Timers Pig Roast @ Possum Creek MetroPark, Prairie Dock Shelter, 4790 Frytown Rd., Moraine, 45418; 513.956.4398; primetimersww.org/tristate: The Cincinnati and Dayton chapters of the social group for mature gay and bi men host this annual get-together where the guest of honor is a whole barbecued hog. There’s a full menu, activities and a raffle for a 40-inch TV. 2p-dusk; $20 ($15 before Sunday, Aug. 14).

Center Ballroom, 317 E. 5th St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.761.1480; caracole.org: Get out your tartan and spike up that hair. The annual Party in Plaid fund-raiser for Southwest Ohio’s HIV/AIDS service agency takes on a punk twist. 6:30p; $75-$250 (young professional tickets are $40).

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 31 Summer Cinema: Casablanca @ Washington Park, 1230 Elm St., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.621.4400; washingtonpark.org: The movies start at dusk every Wednesday for this outdoor series. The park sells alcohol. 9p.

FRIDAY, AUGUST 26 Cincinnati Men’s Chorus Art After Dark + Beer Bash @ Cincinnati Art Museum, 953 Eden Park Dr., Cincinnati, 45202; 513.542.2626; FB: Cincinnati Men’s Chorus: Free art, a cash bar and a performance by the Cincinnati Men’s Chorus. 6p-10p. SATURDAY, AUGUST 27 Caracole’s Party in Plaid and Punk @ Cincinnati Masonic

MUSE auditions are in August, and Cincinnati Men’s Chorus auditions are in September.

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Western Ohio ABBA Tribute • Go-Go’s • Green Velvet

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 3 LGBT Group Dance Lessons @ Dayton Dance Centre, 7 E. Central Ave., Miamisburg, 45342; 937.219.8512; dayton-dancecenter.com: The dance studio hosts LGBT group lessons every Wednesday. Your first night is free. 6p-7:30p.

937.228.2582; FB: Masque: Electronica and house music virtuoso Curtis Jones (his real name) has been praised for bringing a fresh sound to the genre. 9p; $20-$50.

SATURDAY, AUGUST 13 PFLAG Facilitator Training @ Harmony Creek Church, 5280 Bigger Rd., Kettering, 45440; Diana Ross @ Rose Music Cen- 937.545.1179; pflagdayton.org: ter, 6800 Executive Blvd., Huber Facilitator training helps build Heights, 45424; 1.800.745.3000; skills of reflective listening and rosemusiccenter.com: She’s in empathy - something the world Cincinnati two nights earlier. 7p. could use a bit more of lately. 9a$24.50-$73. noon. THURSDAY, AUGUST 4 Film: Trapped @ The Neon, 130 E. 5th St., Dayton, 45402; 937.222.8452; neonmovies.com: The 2016 documentary follows the struggles of the clinic workers and lawyers who are on the front lines of a battle to keep abortion safe and legal for millions of American women. This screening is sponsored by Dayton’s PUSH, or Professionals United for Sexual Health. 7:30p; $5.

Cool Films Series: Rocky Horror Picture Show @ Victoria Theatre, 138 N. Main St., Dayton, 45402; 937.228.3630; victoriatheatre.com: Dress up, but leave your props at home. You can get a survival kit in the lobby for $5. 10:30p; $6.

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 24 Brunch and Book Discussion: Broad Influence @ Wright State University Student Union, Endeavour Room, East Drive, FairSATURDAY, born, 45324; vanessa.borellyvega AUGUST 20 SUNDAY, @wright.edu: Author Jay Newton Mu Crew Cedar AUGUST 21 Point Trip @ Miller Miami Valley and Tri- Small, whose 2016 book State Prime Timers Pig examines women’s influence on Lane Walmart Parking business and politics, will talk Lot (departure point), 3465 York Roast @ Possum Creek Commons Blvd., Dayton, 45414.; MetroPark, Prairie Dock Shelter, about her work. The community is 4790 Frytown Rd., Moraine, invited, but email an RSVP by 937.461. 2437, x2015; Tuesday, Aug. 16. 11a-1:30p. mucrew.hb2web.net: The group 45418; 513.956.4398; primetimersww.org/mvopt: The for men 18-29 will drive up to Sandusky for a rollercoaster of a Dayton and Cincinnati chapters day. 7a; $10 for gas. of the social group for mature gay and bi men host this annual Stonewall Columbus LGBTQ Hik- get-together where the guest of honor is a whole barbecued hog. ing Club @ John Bryan State Park, 3790 Ohio Rte. 370, Yellow There’s a full menu, activities Springs, 45387; 614.930.2265; and a raffle for a 40-inch TV. 2pFB: LGBT Hiking Club - Stonewall dusk; $20 ($15 before Sunday, Aug. 14). Columbus: The group from Columbus plans a 4.5-mile hike that should take about two hours. free, but space is limited to 100, so call to reserve. 5:30p.

It’s a medium-level hike. Participants are planning a cookout afterward. 10:30a.

MONDAY, AUGUST 29 Dayton Gay Men’s Chorus Vocal Placements @ Westminster Presbyterian Church, 125 N. Wilkinson St., Dayton, 45402; 937.530.0642; daytongaymenschorus.com: If you’re interested in joining the chorus for its 2016-17 season, sign up at the website. 6p-7p.

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 17 The Go-Go’s Farewell Tour @ Rose Music Center, 6800 Executive Blvd., Huber Heights, 45424; 1.800.745.3000; rosemusiccenter. com: They remain the only allfemale band to write their own songs, play their own instruSUNDAY, AUGUST 7 ABBA the Concert @ Rose Music ments and top the Billboard Center, 6800 Executive Blvd., charts. 7p; $23.50-$56. Huber Heights, 45424; 1.800. 745.3000; rosemusiccenter.com: THURSDAY, AUGUST 18 They’re billed as “the most auSouthwestern Ohio LGBT Inforthentic and amazing tribute mational Expo @ Holiday Inn show in the world,” and that’s a Dayton/Fairborn I-675, 2800 title with many contenders. 7p; Presidential Dr., Fairborn, 45324; $23.50-$42. 937.274.1776; daytonlgbtcenter.org: Topics include family law, adoption, parenting, guardianFRIDAY, AUGUST 12 Green Velvet @ Masque, 20 N. ship, estates, trusts and acJefferson St., Dayton, 45402; counting/financial planning. It’s

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Evolution Theatre • Todrick Hall • Bob, Kim Chi and Naomi Smalls

THURSDAY, AUGUST 4 Evolution Theatre: POZ @ Columbus Performing Arts Center’s Van Fleet Theater, 549 Franklin Ave., Columbus, 43215; 614.233.1124; evolutiontheatre.org: The play by Michael Aman is an unconventional love story described as funny, tender and ringing with truth. 8p; $25 ($15 for students and $20 for seniors). There are more performances scheduled for Aug. 5-6 and 10-13 at 8p, as well as Sunday, Aug. 7, at 2p. SATURDAY, AUGUST 6 CAPA Summer Movie Series: The Wizard of Oz @ the Ohio Theatre, 39 E. State St., Columbus, 43215; 614.469.0939; capa.com: The annual summer series concludes with Judy’s classic. 7:30p; $4. There are more screenings, at 2p and 7:30p, on Sunday, Aug. 7. SUNDAY, AUGUST 7 Walk-In Tour of Martin Wong: Human Instamatic @ Wexner Center for the Arts, 1871 N. High St., Columbus, 43210; 614.M 292.6493; wexarts.org: It’s the last guided tour on the last day of the exhibition of paintings by the late artist, an openly gay man who painted vivid canvasses of New York neighborhoods. 1p. TUESDAY, AUGUST 9 LULAC Rainbow Council @ Stonewall Columbus, 1160 N. High St., Columbus, 43201; my.lulac.org/group/627ghb: The group meets monthly to discuss issues, concerns and highlights of LGBTQ Latin@s. All are welcome. 7:30p-9p. WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 10 Name and Gender Change Legal Clinic @ Equitas Health-Clintonville, 4400 N. High St., Suite

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300, Columbus, 43214; 614.340. hosted by Trident, the National 6744; equitashealth.com: Leather Association-ColumPresented with Tranbus and Cap City sOhio, this free Pups. 9p. clinic offers one-on-one SATURDAY, counseling by AUGUST 13 trained attorBob the Drag neys. Call the Queen @ @ number above Axis, 775 N. or email High St., Columlegalclinic@equibus, 43215; tashealth.com to register, al614.291.4008; axisonhigh.com: though walk-ins are welcome. The RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 8 champ is heading back to Columbus - purse first, of course THURSDAY, AUGUST 11 Bi Local Happy Hour @ Bossy - for a command performance. Grrls Pin Up Joint, 2598 N. High 10p; $12-$100. St., Columbus, 43202; FB: Bi Local: The Central Ohio group for WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 17 bisexual, pansexual and Broadway in Columbus: Wicked other nonmonosexual @ the Ohio Theatre, 39 E. State people gathers St., Columbus, 43215; 614. monthly. 6p-8p. 469.0939; capa.com: It’s a Wizard of Oz-zy kind of month in Todrick Hall Presents: Columbus. The original on Aug. 6, Straight Outta Oz @ Todrick Hall on Aug. 11, and 18 Lincoln Theatre, 769 E. performances of Wicked. 7:30p; Long St., Columbus, 43203; $42-$112. Performances are 614.469-0939; capa.com: The scheduled through Sunday, Sept. queer American Idol finalist will 4. perform 20 original songs in his take on the American classic. 8p; THURSDAY, AUGUST 18 $26.50-$100. Season 8 Queens: Live Across America @ Capitol Theatre, 77 S. High St., Columbus, 43215; FRIDAY, AUGUST 12 Fifty Shades of West @ Axis, 800.745.3000; FB: Murray & 775 N. High St., Columbus, Peter Present: The queens from 43215; 14.291.4008; axisonRuPaul’s Drag Race Season 8 are high.com: Virginia West’s new stopping in Columbus on their show - which includes Nina West, nationwide tour. Scheduled: Kim Krystal Something Something, Chi, Naomi Smalls, Derrick Barry, Freesia Balls, Candi Panties and Thorgy Thor, Chi Chi Devayne and more - is described as a “caval- Katya. 8p; $21-$250. cade of perversion.” 8p; $12-$75. More shows are scheduled for SATURDAY, AUGUST 20 Aug. 13 at 7p; Aug. 20, 21, 26 Ohio History Connection LGBTQ and 28 at 8p; and Aug. 27 at 5p Community Day @ Ohio History and 9p. Center, 800 E. 17th Ave., Columbus, 43211; 614.297.2663; ohioTrident International Dog Days history.org/GOHIDay: Bring your of Summer @ Exile, 893 N. 4th photos, documents and other obSt., Columbus, 43201; FB: Trident jects to be digitized, and you can International - Columbus OH: Is it help build a historical record of hot in here or is it just the pups, LGBTQ life in Ohio. The event will demos, flogging, fire, ropes, boot- include a display of current items blacking and mosh pit? It’s from the Gay Ohio History Initia-

tive, special curator talks, and more. 10a-5p. Sami’s Summer Party @ Sami’s, 178 Wayne St., Mansfield, 44902; 419.522.1500; FB: Sami’s Bar: Mansfield’s only gay bar hosts everything good about summer on one night: drinks, a show, cold beer and an outdoor fire. 10p. LGBTQ Hiking Club @ John Bryan State Park, 3790 Ohio Rte. 370, Yellow Springs, 45387; 614.930. 2265; FB: LGBT Hiking Club Stonewall Columbus: This month’s hike is 4.5 miles and should take about two hours. It’s a medium-level hike. Participants are planning a cookout afterward. 10:30a. SUNDAY, AUGUST 21 Central Ohio Prime Timers Brunch @ Copious, 520 S. High St., Columbus, 43215; 614.885.0846; primetimersww .com/copt: The group for mature gay and bi men meets on the third Sunday of every month for brunch. 11a; most meals range from $9-$11.

THURSDAY, AUGUST 25 Film: John Waters’ Multiple Maniacs @ Wexner Center for the Arts, 1871 N. High St., Columbus, 43210; 614.292.3535; wexarts.org: The scuzzy, early 16mm films by John Waters are unlikely subjects for shiny digital restorations. But that’s exactly what’s happened with this 1970 feature. Divine stars as the operator of a sideshow called The Cavalcade of Perversion who slaughters the suburbanites lured there. 7p; $8 ($6 for members, seniors and students). There’s another screening at 7p on Friday, Aug. 26. SUNDAY, AUGUST 28 Family Pride Network Family Potluck Picnic @ Fancyburg Park, 3375 Kioka Ave., Upper Ar lington, 43221; 614.636.3233; familypridenetwork.org: The group that connects LGBT parents, families and prospective

If you’re looking for more mainstream Divine fare, Hairspray is on Netflix right now.

parents will provide the main dish, water and paper products. Please bring a side dish or dessert to share. 3:30p-6:30p. Content of Their Character Commemoration @ TBA; FB: GLSEN Columbus: The night includes a broadcast of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech on an outdoor screen, speakers discussing racially motivated hate crimes and a candlelight vigil. Check the Facebook page for location, which hadn’t been confirmed as of late July. 7p. WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 31 2016 Legacy Fund Honors @ Ohio Stadium, Club Level, 410 Woody Hayes Dr., Columbus, 43210; 614.400.0818; helegacyfund.org: The Columbus Foundation fund that helps LGBTQ organizations in Central Ohio honors Ohio State University at its annual recognition event and fundraiser. 5:30p; $100.

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Tegan and Sara!

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savage love

by Dan Savage

THREE PETERS I’m a gay male in my late 20s. My little sister’s husband, “Peter,” is my age and bisexual. I’m not one of those gay men who think bi guys don’t exist. And I know bi guys are just as capable of being monogamous as other guys which isn’t that comforting when you think about it - and I don’t have a problem with my bi brother-in-law being bi. More importantly, my sister doesn’t have a problem with it. But whenever I’m alone with Peter, however briefly, he starts telling me how much he misses dick. He wants to hear about the last “really great dick” I sucked and tells me he misses sucking dick.

Today I got a message from a new guy, and when we exchanged face pics, I saw that he looks exactly like “Peter,” my boyfriend’s best friend’s fiancé! I asked him if that was him, and he stopped responding. What should I do? My BF doesn’t want to know much about my extracurricular activities, but this could make our next double date extremely awkward. We see this other couple a fair amount, and even though I think this guy is goodlooking,

I smile and say dick is great for sure and make a halfhearted attempt to change the subject. The last time it happened was after my grandfather’s funeral.

P.S. Additional information that might be relevant: Our engaged friends aren’t having sex, we’ve been told, and they’re making no moves toward actually planning a wedding. Going silent after you asked, “Is that you, Peter?!?” is a pretty good indication that it was indeed Peter you were talking to. But while you know Peter was on Recon, RECONS, you don’t know exactly what he was doing there. Maybe he goes online to fantasize, swap pics and jack off. Maybe Peter is on Recon with his fiancé’s blessing, just as you’re on Recon with your partner’s blessing (but, like you, he’s not comfortable discussing his kinks with friends). Maybe their relationship/engagement is on the verge of collapse and your partner’s best friend’s fiancé is trying to line up a new relationship before pulling the plug on the one he’s in now.

Since you don’t know what’s going on in their relationship, I’m pretty sure Peter wants RECONS, keep your mouth shut to suck my dick, and I’m and refrain from making astempted to let him. I know sumptions or judgments. And it’s a bad idea, but Peter is the next time you have to interhot. This is torture. What act with Peter and his fiancé should I do? socially, slap a smile on your face and talk about the - Boy Is Lost weather, the election, the estrogen-enhanced, better-than-theStop smiling, work harder to change the I would never sleep with him because of original Ghostbusters reboot, the new subject, avoid being alone in a room the social situation. season of Difficult People, Zika, the with Peter, and repeat after me: “My Olympics sister might be able to forgive her hus- On the other hand, if I’m wrong and basically anything other than Recon, band for sucking a dick, but she’ll they’re not the same person, bringing it kinks and wedding plans. never forgive him - or me - if that dick up with them could make things awkis mine.” ward, especially since I’m pretty s ecretive about my kinks and have zero You can email Dan Savage at mail@savagelove.net, follow him on Twitter at I’m a gay guy in an open relationship desire to discuss them with my BF’s @fakedansavage or listen to his weekly podcast, and I’m on Recon, a gay hookup/dat- friends. Savage Lovecast, every Tuesday ing site for guys into leather/ at thestranger.com/savage. fetish/BDSM. My partner, who isn’t - Requires Educated Savage Love appears every kinky, knows I have a profile there Consultation On Next Step month in Outlook and every week at outlookohio.com. and it’s not a problem.

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Peter No. 3 didn’t make it into print, but he’ll be at outlookohio.com.

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the divine life

by Debé

Leo (July 23 - August 22) It’s your month and you’re feeling playful and a little lazy. Lay in the shade and let them stalk you for a change. The full moon in Aquarius on the 18th adds a little imagination to the mix, turning you into an even more playful minx. Prrrrrrrr. Pisces (February 19 - March 20) Sometimes the real world is a nasty palace. Feisty Lions: Sapphire, Tim Gunn, Missy Higgins, DJ Samantha Ronson. Your generous heart wants to kiss it and make it better, but you could end up with a cold sore. Temper your desire to help with Virgo common sense to avoid cooties. (August 23 - September 22) You might be feeling a little guilty about cutting something or someone out of your busy Aries life. It’s not too late to use your fabulous cre- (March 21 - April 19) ativity to find a way to add it/he/she/them Your righteous indignation is bubbling to the back into your tight schedule. surface, and you’re ready for the next battle. Your focus is laser sharp, but don’t trip over your own sword. You might need to fight Libra some internal battles first. (September 23 - October 22) No one is the boss of you, but you might be allowing someone else to push your buttons. Taurus Time to whip out your... scales. It’s all about (April 20 - May 20) balance and moderation, and balance is your The heat is on, and there is a lot to be done. forte. Pace yourself. Try to do it alone and all at once, and you’ll get heat stroke. Hey, how about a buddy system? You’ll get more done Scorpio and maybe have more fun, too. (October 23 - November 21) You had to practice patience last month, but it’s payoff time. Opportunities abound, and Gemini doors are opening. You are like a kid in a (May 21 - June 20) candy store. Enjoy, but don’t overindulge, or Life tends to ebb and flow, and it’s an ebb it will start showing. tide at the moment. I know that’s frustrating, but that’s just the way it is. Circle of life and all that cosmic blah, blah, blah. Hang on, it Sagittarius really does get better. (November 22 - December 21) You’ve gotten rid of some of the minutiae cluttering up your life. Hopefully you kept Cancer only the good stuff that deserves your time (June 21 - July 22) and You are my most sensitive of signs, and the talent. Bring on your A-game to take it to the world is throwing too much cray-cray at you. next level. Take a breath. Handle what you can and still maintain your sanity. As for the rest ? Sing it with me: “Let it go, let it go...” Capricorn (December 22 - January 19) Life threw you a wicked curve, and you had Handy Tip: Head Lines to fight to get things back on track. You The head line starts above the thumb and might have soiled your big girl panties, but moves across the middle of the hand. A short it’s time to wash up and get back on board. head line (ending below Full steam ahead. Woot-Woot! the middle and ring fingers) indicates decisive personalities that might Aquarius not look before they leap (January 20 - February 18) You are being a little rough on yourself, but but are great in a crisis. unless that’s what you’re into, it’s time to Debé is a palmist, intuitive adviser and metaphysical ease up the pressure. The full moon in your teacher in Columbus. She is available for personal readsign on the 18th encourages more creative ings, parties, events and workshops. For more information outlets. go to thepassionatepalmist.com. Look for The Divine Life outlookohio.com

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Sounds like the three Peters might be Leos...

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lesbians 101

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We should all have state legislators who look like Brian Sims.

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Is Being Gay in Your Genes Across

1 Straight, to mixologists 5 Lindsay of Liz & Dick 10 Cut 14 Composer Thomas 15 Commandment word about coveting thy neighbor’s ass 16 Who Lincoln showed malice toward, in a speech 17 Enterprise helmsman 19 Cho, who plays 17-Across as a gay character 20 Screw-up 21 Really sucked 23 Invitation to a top? 26 Cake parts 27 Portrayer of 17Across on TV and in movies 32 Melissa Etheridge’s “___ It Heavy” 33 Complexion affliction 34 Paul of Hollywood Squares 39 Fruits did this in the orchard 40 What the smithy did to a stallion 42 On the calm side 43 Greek fabulist 45 Cinder suffix 46 News columnist Lisa 47 Gene, who created the character of 17-Across 50 Bewitch 54 Cole Porter’s

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“Let’s ___” 55 3-D Disney movie of 2000 58 Cicely of Fried Green Tomatoes 62 With 63-Across, movie with 17Across as a gay character 63 See 62-Across 66 Toledo’s lake 67 James Baldwin work 68 Movie dog 69 “L,” in box scores 70 Debussy contemporary Erik 71 Someone who’s kind of queer

VDown

1 Slangy refusals 2 Dancing With the Stars cohost Andrews 3 “Diana” singer 4 No, No, Nanette song 5 SEC powerhouse 6 Understanding comments 7 Dwelling, to the von Trapps 8 Weight loss product 9 Set with an unknown number of members 10 “Have a ball!” 11 Lorna of literature 12 ___ Shoes (Toni Collette movie) 13 Sees to 18 Made a “clang, clang, clang” sound 22 Word with Mary

24 Angry in., for example 25 Emulated Paul Cadmus 27 “Do What U Want” Lady 28 Land of Emma Donoghue 29 They’re straight on the Kinsey Scale 30 “I’m ___ Cowhand” 31 Passed out, with “over” 35 “Happy Talk,” perhaps 36 Glenn Burke, formerly 37 Bambi, e.g. 38 Start of a counting rhyme 41 Paul of Little Miss Sunshine 44 Sheryl Swoopes and Michael Sam 48 Uses a gifted tongue 49 Word before “my shorts” 50 Ford lemon that was not fruitful 51 Big bang cause, briefly 52 Lover of Henry and June 53 Social customs 56 Bear that may be a minor 57 Silence for Saint-Saens 59 “I’ve had better...” 60 “I’m ___ your tricks!” 61 Minn. neighbor 64 Word after “Cobra” in The Karate Kid 65 Tournament exemption for Mauresmo

No one in this state better miss 66 Across!

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Outlook Magazine: Celebrating 20 years!

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