One Tribe Magazine - November 2019 - Issue 25

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Wherever YOU are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together we are ONE TRIBE. Love And Judgement Cannot Exist In The Same Place At The Same Time Linda Liv Doktar Worry? Who...Me? Robert Landau Take Numbers Out Of The Body Confidence Equation Karyn Holt Nachi’s Top 10 Tips For Maintaining Weight Loss Helen Nachintu I Went Through Suffering In My Sex Life Until I Faced And Did This Joanna Intara The Story I’m Telling Myself Isabel Hundt Follow Your Bliss Christine Schlonski Love A Love Letter To Money Clare Turner Marshall Body Talk Listen To What Your Body Is Saying You Need Vanessa Louise Birt Love They Said Samantha Caroline Lavallée Oil Your Consciousness Nina Sadlowsky Self-Sabotage Is Not The Answer Charmaine Barber The Opposite Of Walkling Andy Ferguson A World Beyond The Stone Ariaa Jaegar Get Off The Plane Emily Formea Grow Through What You Flow Through Katie Moriarty Be Careful What You Wish For Dawn Bates Goal-Less And Happy Kassie Rhodenizer Heartfelt Burt Kempner Awareness Christine Saunders Yellow Miso Soup With An Eternal Message Larry Rosenberg She Finally Listened To Her Heart Mercy Juma Love Is Always Available To You Juliette Wells

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Our cover features the fabulous Joanna Intara (above), The Intimacy Genius currenlty living in Petaluma, California. You can read Joanna’s thoughful article ‘I Went Through Suffering In My Sex Life Until I Faced And Did This.’ on page 16 One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you FIND YOUR HAPPY. We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 24 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) (Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine). Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. © 2019 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media

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Love And Judgement CANNOT EXIST IN THE SAME PLACE AT THE SAME TIME. Linda Liv Doktar The Voice of Love, Freedom & Choice.

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“Mirror Mirror On The Wall, When I Judge Another I Judge Myself Most Of All”

We live in a world of extreme projection. We have been programmed to name and shame others to make ourselves feel better. Tall Poppy Syndrome has taken a new world record. And as a result, we continue to play small in life just to fit in and feel like we belong.

It is time to stop judging the perception of our own world that keeps being reflected back to us. What we see outside of ourselves is a mirror of Self. And when we choose unconditional love within ourselves our perception of others will change, and the judgment simply falls away.

We have been conditioned with fear, not love. We have been programmed with separation, not wholeness. Our society has created certain standards and the world has been installed with expectations and pictures of “normal”. And anything that isn’t up to these standards have been labelled as “strange” or not acceptable”

Let’s take responsibility of our own inner world and our own healing. Let’s begin to see ourselves in love and light, and as a result allow the love and light to reflect back to us. “I am you, you are me. How you see me is a reflection of you.” My entire world changed when I took the time to release judgement of myself and learnt to see myself in complete love. The inward journey is not always a comfortable one to take, however one that is worthwhile taking.

This isn’t just an issue in the collective society. This is also an issue in our own personal paradigm, where we have created our own inner reality and perceptions of the world. We have also inherited beliefs that aren’t ours, and anything that doesn’t fit in with our model of the world we begin to perceive as “abnormal” or “different”. This is where judgment runs high through our inner being. Emotional triggers and projections from our own belief system begin to fire. And now we are making others “wrong” to make ourselves feel better. This is a trap. Each time we judge we are taking love away from ourselves, because love and judgement cannot exist in the same place at the same time. External judgement stems from internal judgement, and the moment we judge we are ‘away from’ love – meaning, we are out of embodiment of the truth of who we really are. We cannot judge another without judging Self. We see in other people what we see in ourselves. 6 | OneTribeMagazine.com

Many blessings on your inward journey back into unconditional love. What do you see in others? Love, light and magic? Or darkness, ‘too much-ness’ and other things that make you feel uncomfortable?

“Mirror mirror on the wall, When I love myself the judgement will fall.”

What we see in others is a clue and a reflection of our own inner being. Our inner ‘triggers’ and external judgements are our guides. We get ‘triggered’ by our own wounding, belief system and by other’s qualities that we aren’t yet owning within ourselves. What if we stopped judging and began to take responsibility for owning our beauty, magic and power within ourselves? What if we accepted all beings for who they are and honoured each individual for their uniqueness?

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What we see in others is a clue and a reflection of our own inner being. – Linda Liv Doktar

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Worry? Who...Me? Robert Landau | Motivational Speaker, Certified Life Coach & Published Author.

Worry. It’s the one thing that just about all of us do, more so than we like to admit. What percentage of your week do you spend in the mindset of worry? You might be shocked to know what the real number is. Get this; It is said that we spend an average of 14.31 hours worrying each and every week. That’s 744 hours doing nothing but worrying every year, which is 45,243 hours of worry over a lifetime. Over five years of our lives are spent doing nothing but worrying. The interesting thing is that worry decreases as we get older. So how is it that we worry less as we get older? It might be that as we age, we tend to calm down a bit and take more of life as it comes. Is this because the older we are, the wiser we get? Maybe yes, maybe no. If you asked me I would tell you that I fully believe that worry is a mindset. It’s a state of mind, it’s an emotion. But does worry just ‘happen’ to us or do we actually have the power to turn worry on and off? If you are thinking that the latter rather than the former is correct...BINGO!!!!! Worry is a state of mind and I firmly believe that it is also a choice that we make. Here’s a case in point; My father’s mother spent at least 90% of her day worrying. Believe it or not, she did this throughout most of her life. She would worry about her three children and when she’d 8 | OneTribeMagazine.com

but it became a major part of her personality. There must really be a worry gene because all of this crap got passed to my father (her son) who, particularly in his later years, sat in front of the television at all hours of the day worrying about the horrific and overly negative reports he constantly exposed himself to. Guess who got all of that passed on to him? Yup! But it’s something I’m profoundly aware of so the buck will indeed stop here.

choose to finally leave that alone for a few moments, she’d move on to worrying about her grand kids. Then she’d choose to leave that alone for a few moments and move on to worrying about what she just read in the paper or heard on the news about national or international political events. The economy, the threat of war, the weather...oh vey!...it was a never ending parade of heavy negativity that not only ended up making a direct line to her health,

How safe and joyous a life can you really have if you constantly allow outside stuff effect your true state of being? Worry is indeed a choice. How so? When you see a report on television in which some financial expert swears that within the next few weeks, the financial world will totally collapse beyond repair, how do you react? Let me re-phrase that; how do you choose to react? If worry is the first thing you feel after seeing such a report, then could it be that you are letting outside influences take over how you might be really feeling within you? Is the worry you are feeling really you or is it something you let in from outside of you that has nothing to do with who and what you really are? If you took the time, right after hearing this report on television, to go within and say, “OK, I just heard all of that so how do I feel now? And if I feel a little concerned, do I know that even if some bad stuff

does occur, I’m really going to be OK no matter what happens?” That’s choosing to honor your feelings as opposed to someone else’s when the mindset of worry has the opportunity to be activated in your life. It’s important to remember that you are so much more that what you hear and see on TV. So here’s what to do the next time you feel the flames of worry start to dance around with reckless abandon within your mind; 1. Acknowledge that you heard what you heard or saw what you saw. Don’t be in denial about it as if you never heard or saw it 2. Ask yourself what the healthiest way to react to what you heard or saw would be right now. Let it come from within you, not from without. How do you really feel deep inside about what you saw or heard? 3. Know, without a doubt, that everything is going to be OK, no matter what happens 4. If you do start worrying about it, let it happen. Play it out and then, here’s the important part, start to let it go and move on. Don’t get attached to what you could be worrying about because then you’ll become exactly what you fear. If you look at it as if it’s on display in a museum, you won’t attach yourself to it and then you’ll find it so much easier to move on and let it go. You can’t be open to the next event in your life if you are still carrying worry with you. Always be aware of what’s happening around you. Don’t become it. It’s when we attach ourselves to the emotion of worry that we become the energy of worry itself. Aren’t you more than that? Are you any of that? Is worry something that you really do have control over? Yes, heck yes!!!! Worry is a temporary cloud that can end up blocking the sun of your clear blue sky. Who puts the cloud in front of the sun? You do! When you see the cloud, acknowledge that it’s there. Don’t get attached to it and it, like all clouds do, will move on its merry way...so much sooner than later.

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Take Numbers Out Of The

Body Confidence Equation Karyn Holt | Body & Sexual Confidence Coach at Made Flawsome

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Do you measure your body confidence by numbers? If the numbers on the scales and in your clothing go up, does you body confidence go down? If you have answered ‘yes’ then my next question is why? You are born with a DNA blueprint of the shape and size you’re naturally meant to be, yet we spend most of our lives trying to fit into society’s idea of the “perfect” body! The trouble is though, one size doesn’t fit all, we’re not all supposed to be the same shape and size. Some of us are naturally slim and we envy curvy ladies, especially when we hear phrases like “two aspirins on an ironing board!” Some slim ladies want to have boobs and a curvy bum. Some of us are naturally curvy and, speaking as a curvy lady, I find that the media pushes the “You need to be slim to be attractive” message in my face way too much and it’s complete rubbish too! I’d never really been bothered about dress sizes or how much I weighed until I lost weight through stress in 1995. I had always been a size 14 and happy with that, after all I hadn’t known any different, I’d always been that shape and size. Then stress hit and the weight dropped off! I hadn’t been aware that I was under lots of stress but in 6 months I lost 3 stone and I hadn’t even realised because I didn’t own a set of scales. I was walking around in size 14 clothes, weighing 8 stone. I only found out what I weighed when I went to the hospital for an operation assessment, talk about speechless and I am rarely speechless. Then the numbers obsession began big time! I became obsessed, even buying a set of scales, with the numbers on the scales and in my clothing, it was like an addiction and it escalated quickly! I would weigh myself every morning, something that I’d never done before, and at the height of my addiction, I’d weigh myself twice a day. Any upward movement of the needle would send panic and horror through my veins and I’d starve myself to lose those gained pounds. This unfamiliar feeling soon became very familiar, and boy does our mind loves familiarity!

This set the tone of my daily struggle for the next 24 years! Whenever I put weight on I would try the latest fad diets, or starve myself, and they all had the desired effect! I’d lose the weight I wanted then I would return to ‘healthy’ eating and the weight would pile on and more. Sound familiar? I also tried the latest exercise regimes; kettle bells, weights, cardio, HIIT, blah, blah, blah! I toned up a little but never to where I thought I needed to be, never to where society said I should be. My body confidence plummeted, I shamed my own body on a massive scale and I was constantly miserable! I was a size 12, how ridiculous does this all sound?! When I look back now I can’t believe how much pain I put myself through, how much money I wasted, only to still not have the body I was being programmed by society to believe I needed! Literally 9 weeks ago, I woke up and decided enough was enough. I was going to stop hating my body, punishing it with silly diets and exercise plans, because all I have done for the past 24 years is screw up my metabolism, my mental health and my body confidence. Instead of berating myself every time I looked in the mirror, I would give myself praise and love, I would thank my body for functioning the way it’s supposed to. Wow, I can’t tell you how much my life has changed since that day. I am a size 10/12 depending on where I shop because we all know that a size 10 in one shop can be a size 8 in another or a size 14 elsewhere! However, now I have stopped weighing myself , in fact I can’t even tell you where the scales are! I buy clothes that fit and flatter my shape regardless of size inside. My body confidence, in fact my overall confidence has sky-rocketed! I love my curves and as long as the clothing I’m wearing fits properly I don’t care what the number is inside it! After ditching the numbers and changing the way I talk to my body (it really does react to every word you say), other amazing things started to happen. I stopped drinking wine every night, I started walking every day and I actually wanted to eat healthy, nourishing

food. And the result? My tummy is flatterer, my shape is changing and I am shedding pounds! Wow! Now I am driven to help ladies do the same, to accept and love their bodies just as they are. To change their mindset and speak kindly about themselves to themselves and each other. To throw the scales out of the window and dress in clothes that fit and flatter their shape and size. And it’s working but it doesn’t stop there. These ladies are now influencing the people around them to speak positively about their bodies, especially to their children and the results are showing already. Just imagine if every single one of us spoke positively about our bodies. Just imagine the impact we could have, not just for us but future generations too. Isn’t it time to take numbers out of the body confidence equation? They really don’t have a place in it! Let’s rejoice and have phenomenal confidence in our uniqueness, let’s accept and love our bodies and inspire those around us to do the same. Change the words you say about your body and watch the magic happen, it truly is life changing!

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Nachi’s ~ Top 10 Tips For Maintaining Weight Loss

Helen Nachintu Intuitive Energy Healer & Mentor | Natural Health Enthusiast | Natural Health Researcher.

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Have you ever started and completed a detox, lost weight, then put it all back on again within a few days or weeks? Would you like to discover a few secrets to maintaining your weight loss, and learn how you can continue to loose the weight, long after you complete your detox? No matter who you are or what diet or detox you have been doing, maintaining your weight loss should be a nice easy process. In this article, I share Jennifer’s weight loss story, along with my top 10 tips for maintaining weight loss after you’ve completed a detox. Jennifer and I have been friends for a while, but as each month passed by, I noticed that her health was seriously deteriorating. She went from this really glamorous, vibrant and happy Hollywood looking socialite, to a woman riddled with so much pain that she could barely stand on her feet for longer than a minute. It got to the point where she even struggled to breath in between sentences, and would often randomly fall asleep when we were out and about having a meal together or with other friends. Socialising was becoming a real nightmare for Jennifer to the point whereby Jennifer required a wheelchair just so she could attend social functions. At this point, I knew that it was time for me to help my friend. At this point, Jennifer had already tried a detox, in an attempt to loose some weight prior to a pending hip operation. I invited Jennifer to come and stay at my house for a few days, so that we could get to the bottom of how she ended up in such a poor state of health. Jennifer arrived at my house all hunched up in pain, and she could barely walk with swollen ankles that looked like golf balls. She spent a total of 5 days with me, during which I coached and mentored her through my 7 day detox program. By the end of the 5 days, Jennifer was like a whole new person. There was a massive change in her energy levels. She was literally bouncing off the walls. The swelling on her ankles had gone down completely. She was walking much straighter and the pain in her hip had reduced quite significantly. And best of all, 14 | OneTribeMagazine.com

Jennifer was delighted that she had managed to loose a whopping 6 pounds in weight in just 5 days of the 7 Day Venus Club Detox Retreat. When I saw Jennifer two days later, I weighed her again and she had managed to maintain the weight loss and continued to loose more weight. Below are some of the weight loss maintenance tips that I share on the online detox program: 1. Plan your meals in advance. If you are busy, remember to prep your meals in advance and take them with you to the office. This will prevent you from snacking on junk food like everyone else at the office 2. Before buying a particular food or drink item or eating it, ask yourself whether it is going to enhance your health or harm your health 3. Avoid storing junk foods and drinks in your house. Remember, if it’s not in the house, you are less likely to be tempted 4. Slowly reintroduce sugar through organic fruit and vegetables via juicing 5. Only eat when you are hungry. Intermittent fasting at 18 or 24 hour intervals can be very healthy and helpful towards maintaining your weight loss 6 Ensure that you are present with your food so that you are able to recognise when your stomach is actually full. Our bodies communicate with us all the time, but if we are having our dinner in front of the TV, or otherwise engaged in our smart phones and mobile devices, it can be very difficult to recognise when your stomach is telling you that you are full, so you are much more likely to consume

more food than your body can actually cope with 7. Remember to chew every mouthful at least 15 to 20 times before you swallow. This will help to break down your food and make the entire digestion process so much easier on your whole system 8. Aim to have a soup or light snack for dinner 9. Drink water at least 30 minutes to one hour prior to eating your meal. You can also drink water and unsweetened juices up to an hour after you have eaten. This will again aid the digestion process, whilst ensuring that you are not depleting your body of the acids it requires in order to efficiently and effectively break down your food 10. Drink a glass of water or a cup of soothing herbal tea at least an hour before you go to bed Constant pain and inflammation is not meant to be a normal part of our lives. Follow Jennifer’s story, or start the 7 Day Venus Club Health Detox program by clicking here. You can also watch Jennifer’s interview by clicking here.

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I Went Through Suffering In My Sex Life Until I Faced And Did THIS. Joanna Intara | The Intimacy Genius

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If you’re willing to be open to it, your relationship with your partner can teach you everything you need to learn to have all the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness you need and desire. It gets challenging when we run into our conditioning during our sexual experiences…what we’ve been taught about how to love, how to f**k, suck and touch and how much to open, trust, and love. I’d like to share some of my very vulnerable story with you of how I went from struggle into some of the most ecstatic and amazing sexual experiences I’ve ever had, so that you can know me more.. and also to share how it can happen for you too. I come from a long line of deep ancestral trauma. My mother revealed to me in my late teen years that she was seriously molested by five different people growing up. And in my early twenties, I also uncovered deeply repressed sexual abuse from her as well. This was in addition to untangling all the inappropriate sexual energy my dad funneled my way, out of frustration that his marriage wasn’t functioning in the way he desired with my mom. The brutal confusion I felt. And the guilt and shame ridden entanglements that lived in my body made sex, love and intimacy a nightmarish adventure for me at times. To relive all that pain, and then face it, attend to it, and heal it was NO joke. I had to: •e xperience body memories that my mind had forgotten because things were so shoved down. • f ace those body memories with presence, attention, deep care, release, and bring in new resources of safety, and containment to help me literally know I wasn’t crazy, or alone, or that I wasn’t going to die, and that my body was safe, that my sexuality was healthy and that I could express it freely as my soul desired. •p rocess all the emotions about sex, receiving it, giving it, and loving so fully. 18 | OneTribeMagazine.com

I know you can imagine some of this.. 4 out of every 5 people in my client list have had some sort of sexual violation or another. And it’s not just the women, as more men are coming forward too. Almost everyone has love, sex, and closeness issues somewhere. And then people get together in relationship, just like you..just like me, and want the amazing sex lives that they see in the movies and media. And you run into obstacles. And you wonder what the hell you’re going to do or how to handle it. It cuts so deep because it creates so much connection and goodness when we have great sex, and so many feelings of darkness and shut down and gloom when we don’t. I see this every day in my work. I’ve got your back. And I seriously do get you and this prickly territory. And here’s the good thing. Even if you’re hopeless right now, even if you wonder how you’ll ever have the Hot Sex you so deeply crave and desire… If I can heal, I KNOW you can too. It’s not a ‘nice to have, ‘ it’s your birthright and doing this work will make you thrive. And I want you to get that if you turn towards those difficulties when they arise during sex, and face them by clarifying exactly what the issue is.. if it’s emotional, or mental or conditioning from your lineage.. or maybe it’s in your nervous system and your body sensations during sex feel intolerable.. and you walk towards them, not get rid of it, and actually give it the presence it needs, the love it needs, the care it needs, the space you need for any knots to unfurl and untangle and get clear.. you WILL heal, and I’m not just talking about surviving and being functional.. I’m talking you will THRIVE. Like I did. I became completely free. And started having fabulous, pleasure filled, satisfying and fulfilling sexual experiences that were hot, and wild and free…despite everything I had been taught. It was hard at times to face such deep pain, such heartbreak, such terror and fear, and confusion… But I did. And I was relentless because I wasn’t about to give up

on sex, to deny it, or pretend I didn’t need it or become a nun, which I once considered at the height of my suffering. (that’s another story for another time) And if you’re devoted to doing the work I describe, and you make the decision that you WILL overcome it, and that you DO get to have epic, hot sizzling sex, I KNOW you will too. And not only that, you will contribute to the healing of your relationship, and your family and the world. You will provide amazing modeling for your kids. And if your partner is on board for doing the work it will absolutely double the results.. actually triple or more.. because 1 + 1 is waaaay more than 2. Maybe it is actually infinity. I’m open to working with you or your partner, but ideally you both. Sexual healing is one of the ways we can become truly liberated. to be free to love and express the fullness of our sexual desires and needs and pleasure. That is your right! If you claim it. You DO get to decide. And the question is, will you? Will you let yourself have that deep healing, and the support you need to turn the mess into miraculous healing, into the sizzling hot sex you crave and desire? Will you say YES, to this healing being your right to have, for your relationship, and your happiness? I want that for you SO much, and I know you do too. And. I’ve got ONE spot ( www. freecallwithjoanna.com ) open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship..... even if you haven’t been having it for a while... get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.

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STORY I’M TELLING MYSELF Isabel Hundt Speaker | Sociologist | Coach The Leader’s Heart Decoder Author | Empath-Warrior

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People love creating movements to have a bigger impact and they love joining the movements that resonate with them. Today I’d like to take you deep down into the rabbit hole of how I came up with the idea of creating the #ISeeUMovement a few years ago. Let’s be honest, everything we create and everything we want to teach others, especially anything involved in the self-help industry, is initially fueled by our own needs. It doesn’t matter if it’s a phrase like “I help people become the best version of themselves,” or the particular cause of a given movement. It’s all rooted within our own desires. But the important part is often missed or even ignored. To create a social shift and interpersonal impact through our work, we have to focus on deep inner healing FIRST. If we create anything in the light of self-centered service (either consciously or subconsciously) or even revenge, it won’t last or it could even turn into the opposite of what was initially intended. It doesn’t look pretty. I had to acknowledge that my own little movement hashtag was a cry to be seen myself. If I help others to feel seen, I would get their attention, admiration, and acknowledgement. I’d finally feel seen. But I came to the brutally honest realization that the movement started out being all about me. The main focus wasn’t pointed at other people. With this realization, I had to get to work. I knew I’d stay stuck if I didn’t refocus my movement and create it purely from the heart. Take a look on social media for yourself. How often do you see statements like “You are playing too small.”? Take another look and you may notice that the perceived success, according to common social standards, as social change maker, “self-help guru,” or “spiritual advocate” depends very much on how many followers they have and on the amazing seven-figure income threshold. I myself have chased higher follower counts just to be recognized by people I deemed “successful”. When the 22 | OneTribeMagazine.com

numbers didn’t change or, even worse, when I lost followers, I’d tell myself that probably I was still playing too small and therefore didn’t “show up” enough. This only confirmed my deep-rooted fear that I wasn’t being seen. It showed in my daily actions and goals. Literally everything was about “me being seen more”. I chased after the big interviews, the big stages to speak on, all with the very subconscious, strong belief that this was the only way I’d be able to fill my own tank of recognition. The deeper I dug the more uncomfortable it became. I discovered that every now and again this crazy thought would show up telling me that God didn’t ever really see me either. My outside circumstances of not achieving what I had myself set out to accomplish absolutely validated my belief. It’s obvious that I was that “little German girl” who couldn’t do it right and was somewhat forgotten in this big, nutty world. My measurement of success wasn’t monetary or materialistic, it was based solely on how much I felt admired. Since I operated from deep emotional wounds, no recognition would have ever been enough. It was a cruel game I played with myself that I could never win. Still lacking some awareness, I then created this super awesome hashtag, the #ISeeUMovement. My mission was/ is around supporting people in feeling seen, not in the common sense of looking at someone, but feeling seen on a soul-level. I knew this was possible because of this very awesome and special empathic gift I have of seeing colors around people. I have learned that what I receive is the vibration of people’s hearts that my brain translates into color. Everything I receive includes a unique message for or about that person. It’s a form of communicating with your Soul. It is even more unique in my case as an Empath because I can receive all that information remotely. The condition is known as mirror touch synthesis where the mind interprets something one way and then outputs it in another. The heart’s patterns, the vibrations I

receive, depend on the emotion that is being experienced at the time. Additionally, the rhythm and signal from the heart are felt in all the cells of the human body. This can change sound pressure, blood pressure and the electromagnetic fields that are emitted. With the knowledge surrounding my “superpower” I set out to teach about self-reflection, awareness and especially emotional and social awareness on a psychological, and spiritual level. It’s a powerful movement – when created from a place of healing. The first time using my hashtag on social media made me almost instantly feel more seen. I didn’t notice it back then, but I had created a movement based on requirements – something like “If you want to be seen (which we all yearn for), you have to see me first.” I mean, it makes sense because in that moment others would have to interact with me in some capacity. By them making me feel good about myself, and thus adding to my bank account, I was able to give them what they desired – being seen. Obviously, my little hashtag didn’t receive that much attention to be noticed nationally, therefore it didn’t give me what I yearned for. I was running against myself, feeding my ever-hungry ego a little more each day. No level of feeling seen seemed to ever be enough to mend my needy ego. I kept pushing harder, doing more, going for the bigger things, chasing after the “Well done, my good and faithful servant. Now I will reward you for your efforts and your noble intentions.” After I evaluated and faced the deeper layers of my subconscious and looked at the patterns I established that created these undesirable results, I could finally heal those old wounds created by trapped emotions. By being brutally honest about my true intentions I was able to check in with myself, asking the hard questions and indulging in some serious selfreflection like it was some yummy ice-cream. Okay, it didn’t taste all that great and at times I profoundly resisted letting go of the beliefs that were programmed into my subconscious. Those belief systems

formed over many years and kept me safe, or my ego safe I should say. It kept me safe from simply trusting in the flow of life and to stay on my own soul’s journey instead of buying into all the requirements of being part of the “acknowledgment club”. Trust and surrender tested my level of patience. Keeping up old wounds would at least justify my desire for control. No more. After working through the stories that led to creating my selfserving movement, I started asking the question of “What are my true intentions?” about what I’m going to create next. Don’t get me wrong, several movements and progressive causes people stand for are not only important but meant to empower. However, creating a movement from a place where we lack awareness and operate from hurt and selfishness will only end with more pain and further serve what we initially set out to change. Sometimes even “roles” just switch – the victim becomes the oppressor, and the oppressor becomes the

victim now embattling their new oppressor with new manipulation tactics. The #metoo or #timeIsUp movements are prime examples of this. How did I know that I continued my #ISeeUMovement from a place of healing? Well, I no longer get triggered about follower numbers nor am I worried about what others have to say about the measurement of success. I don’t crave attention. I’m not saying I don’t love it when I get words of affirmation, however, it is no longer my everyday focus. I am able to be in the present moment, being okay with being in the flow of life and trusting in my own path. It’s a sense of peace that one has to experience for themselves to fully get it. How are we able to distinguish between creating from a place of trauma and a place of healing? Healing leads to forgiveness (not necessarily forgetfulness – those are two different things). It’s also important to notice our anger and trigger level whenever we find a movement that speaks to

us. If we’re out for revenge we create from a place of trauma and unnoticed, subconscious beliefs. If we get flustered and upset whenever we don’t receive the recognition about something we’ve created, we respond from a place of disempowerment and subconscious victimhood. In the end, it all comes down to self-awareness. The more aware we are of the stories we tell ourselves, the more impactful our message, our work, and our mission becomes. An amazing, powerful movement is always created from a place of love for the betterment of human kind. #ISeeU! This time around, I truly see you!

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Follow Your Bliss Christine Schlonski The Queen of the Sales-Success-Mindset, is a multi-talented leader in the field of Sales-Success-Mindset, Motivation, and Strategies.

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Hi Gorgeous, Do you follow your Bliss? How do you even know that you do? What makes life extraordinary? What makes life special? Tony Robbins always says that it all comes down to contribution at the end of the day. The more we give the happier we are. But how does this work? What are key indicators to know? For me I found out that if you leave the structure of a simple workweek you know you are on the right path. For me as an online entrepreneur working from home or from anywhere in the world it is not important anymore what day of the week we have. I don’t need to know when there is finally the next public holiday so I can stay home. I don’t care if I coach my clints in the morning or in the evening, I just give them my link to m calendar and I have blocked times for coaching, whenever I feel I want to spend time coaching. When I was still working in a 9 to 5 I always ran into people who did not love Monday’s. And I get it. Monday’s are not easy for many who don’t like their jobs, who feel obligated to exchange time for money. They simply don’t follow their bliss. I have been in that same boat with them. In the past, I tried to love Mondays. I tried to talk myself into the excitement of a new week, of getting things done, of making an impact. Often it worked because I did like my job and I was looking forward to seeing my team, my colleagues and talking to clients and closing high-ticket deals. So, I never really hated Mondays or already got upset on Sunday or during the one day that was declared a public holiday because I knew after a Sunday follows a Monday, after a public Holiday follows a full day of work. I knew quite some people spent their Sunday being upset that it was Monday the next day and they had to go to a job they hated. Sometimes it is hard to imagine, but life is a choice. Our choices and decisions we made in the past brought us to where were we are now in life. The more you make choices that make your heart sing 26 | OneTribeMagazine.com

and follow your bliss, the more you will have of what you desire to have. But you also need to know what you really desire. Be clear on your desires, stand up for them, claim them, and communicate them to create the life of your dreams. Get yourself into the position where you need your calendar to figure out how to set up the next appointment because you are not sure if today is Monday, Wednesday or Sunday. So, here is the truth Gorgeous. You will grow and your desires will grow with you. The bigger and bolder dreams you have the faster you need to grow to become that person who lives her dreams. I have been unhappy inside for a long time. I was not totally unhappy but there was this feeling, this knowing of there is more, there must me more I am not living my full potential, I am not living my dream life, I am missing out on so much fun and times of bliss. I just had to make a change, I had to take a chance. Because I was working in a job where I was not happy with the environment, where I felt I was running against the wall over and over again. Only when I made the bold decision to let go of the job and to follow and own my dreams and feeling of bliss things changed. If you are in a job or a situation that does not make you happy, that does not put a smile in your face and makes you feel bliss, here is what you can do: • Get clear. Figure out the details of your dream life and build the rest around it • Don’t build your life around the circumstances you are in right now. They will change over time as you change. • Develop a daily practice of something that makes you happy, puts a smile on your face ( I use journaling, masterminding, my cats and dogs, nature and flow, travelling, sitting in the sunshine, listening to the Ocean, the wind) and most important: DO it DAILY! • Don’t drop everything and resign from your job. Make a plan first and start working it out. So you know what works and what does

not. It is always better if you don’t need to wing it. Especially if you have some financial challenges you want to make sure that you are in a place where you do not need to worry about money. When you come from a place of abundance, of love and light things will click. • Come from a place of giving. As Bob Burg and John David Mann say in the book The Go-Giver: Money is an echo of value. Bring value first, show up for others. As you support them building their dreams they will support you with yours. • If you are not sure what to do: Drop into your heart. Listen to your heart and be guided by your heart. You already have the answers inside. • If you want to be your own boss, find a business that makes you happy. If you have several ideas, don’t go for the one where you think the money is, go for the one where the passion is and find out how to monetize it. Life is too short to struggle and to fight. Make it easy and flowlike. One thing I noticed is that as soon as I started to get clear about my dream life, about my dream business, about my dream clients, who I call soulmate clients, I felt this feeling that I call bliss. It is a feeling that comes deep from the inside. It starts somewhere in my gut and it goes up in my body filling my heart from where it just radiates and it makes me feel light and happy with a big smile on my face. When I got clear I followed this feeling. I ask myself what do I need to do NOW to get there. And each and every time I managed to get into this space magic happened. The more grateful I was for this feeling the more I got. Until my life had transformed over time. Please know that I am not special, I am not different from any other human being on this planet. I am like you. I have a human experience and my experience changed after my thoughts changed, my words changed and my feelings and circumstances did. Always remember: Stop JUST dreaming. Act NOW! Go for your bliss Gorgeous.

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LO VE A LOVE LETTER TO MONEY. Clare Turner Marshall Life Trainer and Revolutionising Trailblazer.

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At some point in all of our lives, we write love letters. Part of my journey with money has been to heal the traumatic relationship that we had at one point. So I write a love letters to money, I have written many over the years. They change and evolve as I do. When we look at the world today and why it is so very traumatised, there are two reasons for me. Money has the wrong meaning for many and Love is not unconditional for everyone. Dealing and healing these things will help everything and everyone change. Getting in to UNflow of life , is how I got where I am today. I stopped working with everyone elses flow and adopted my very own. I UNbecame the person I was, I UNplugged from the matrix, I did me UN conditionally and now the result is peace, harmony and UNconditional LOVE for all! Writing these letters has helped me evolve into a life I had only ever dreamed of, now it’s my real~ality. To serve you all, I share my vibe on how I did it. I know that my story is not totally unique and that we all have similar issues. I hope that in sharing it in this article it beings some insight to you and shares with you how I healed from my pain and trauma. I wanted to share with you what I said… My LOVE letter to money Writing to you again is all part of my journey, I look forward to now connecting with you in a whole new way and seeing you for who you really are. In my early years, I was the rich kid that was never really that rich. My parents had money, not me. I felt lost and alone. Whatever I got, I got rid of. I didn’t

Over the years we have had a very, very tumultuous relationship. I have loved you, I have hated you, I honestly at times have despised you and that is not kind. I realise that now. And I realise more than ever it was never you, it was me and how I felt. I got so frustrated that others seemed to be such good friends with you and not me! Like any amazing relationship we had to learn to love each other and to respect each other. I had never really been taught that and it has taken me many years to get there. Now I am in a much better place and life is calmer and more connected. All sorts of opportunities are landing at my feet. Things I never imagined possible and I am starting to see how we can become the bestest of friends. I am grateful for that. The world has become such a broken place because of how so many view you. I see now totally that you had me travel the road I did so that I could understand in a way I never did before that you only want good for everyone. Us humans have gotten it so mixed up for so long. We have failed to see that you are part of us and that you were only ever about love. You have been used and abused by so many. My role now here is to help people back to love so that they can see you for who you really are and that you are simply the same as us…..ENERGY. Thank you, thank you with every cell of my being for being my teacher, my guide and most of all a wonderful mirror. You reflection has taught me things I would never have seen without the experience you shared with me. I am blessed, I am grateful, I am love, I am abundance on a whole new level *****

trust me and I linked money to EVERYTHING!!! Which I now see wasn’t awful, the issue was how I was aligning you with everything. When I lost most of what I had created in my life, I realised that it was never about money in they first place. It was about me and who I was showing up as in life. 32 | OneTribeMagazine.com

NOW… Now, whenever I go into the vibe of money, I no longer use the word money. I have replaced it, I now say ENERGY as that is exactly what it is. I heard a saying and I feel it is so profound and I have expanded on it a little.

Nobody OWNS money, it is in circulation for all of us. We all can have our share as their is more than enough for everybody. There is more ENERGY(money) in circulation everyday than there was the day before. If right now it is not in your life the way you would like. Look at where LOVE ranks and that will help you to know where you start in changing it. I would LOVE to hear your thoughts and story.

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Body Talk Listen to what your body is saying you need Vanessa Louise Birt | Transformational Mentor & Speaker.

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I recognised by doing this daily and often, I was realigning myself with my inner being, the innate wellness part of me and my energy levels were changing for the better. I found I was attracting to me people, opportunity and circumstances that aligned me with my purpose, my body began feeling lighter and stronger and I found I was able to navigate myself around tricky times in my life as and when they occurred.

“If you are not defined by a vison for the future, you are left with the memories of the past” Dr Joe Dispenza Is ill health, heightened negative emotions or addictive tendencies present in your life all too often? As human beings we are conditioned from an early age that to achieve any kind of success we must look out for ourselves and do what it takes to get ahead. In my experience the problem I have found, is this kind of self-obsessed competition only leads to our stress levels skyrocketing with the end result of chaotic and destructive lives and relationships, ill health, burnt out or worse. Why does is often take something physically drastic to happen to us before we stop and have the courage to take a good look at ourselves and our lives to see something has to change? As Madonna once sang about, we live in a material world. Reality, as we know it, is what we can see, touch, taste, smell and hear plus we share our physical planet with other physical beings. We, generally, believe that what we detect with our five senses is all there is and some of us grapple with the fact there is an unseen force governing and orchestrating all our lives. As a result of denying we are anything other than physical, we create resistance in our lives, in particular our physical bodies. This is because of trauma we have experienced. We attach emotions to that trauma and that emotion is what remains trapped in our bodies, as well as the unresolved trauma. Because we are unaware of this trauma and emotions trapped in our bodies, we carry on living our lives in survival mode, looking for and protecting ourselves from any future trauma. Living in survival mode, our body produces too much cortisol which, over time, weakens our bodies and causes ill health and disease. Therefore, it is so important to listen to what is going on in our bodies and recognising that any aliment or symptom of illness is our bodies way of saying ‘you are trapped in a negative emotional loop that is compromising your well-being’. If you are anything like me then

Before too long I was feeling like a new person and was enjoying the new me. The key is to not become complacent with your new feeling state. This is the quickest way to drag you back into your old habitual ways of living that you have worked so hard to reprogram and hard wire into your brain/mind and body.

you’ll appreciate illness or any kind of discomfort in your body is not a comfortable state to be in, so I began to look into what I could do to help myself be the well~being I knew I was designed to be. I soon learnt the best way to free myself from the negative emotional loop I was caught up in was to THINK greater than I felt and for me to do that, I had to be driven by an impactful future vision for myself. I’ve always been a daydreamer so I created a future vision full of all the ways I could feel good, happy, peaceful, loved, fulfilled and all the other good feeling emotions, important to me. I would remind myself first thing in the morning, last thing at night and anywhere in between the necessity of feeling the feelings from my future vision NOW! The intentional choice to focus on my vision coupled with the elevated emotion connected me with the Universal power greater then my physical self and gradually pulled me out of my negative emotional loop I had been caught up in for too long.

Listening to my body and to be aware of how I feel is an essential practice for my well~ness and to keep me aligned with my true~self. It keeps me living in the present moment where all my power is. It keeps me free from my past and it keeps me strong, loving, kind, trusting, safe, joyful and empowered. From this place I can make an impactful contribution in this world. From this place I am strong and able to support my loved ones, clients and anyone who needs me. From this place I can lead by example and illuminate the way for those still caught up in their loop. Listening to my body talk to me and telling me what it needs, I am able to live a life full of all that I love.

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Love they said... Samantha Caroline Lavallée Writer & Lover of all things soul at Beautiful Disaster. Love they said... YES she answered! Hurt you will they said... NO she answered! Oh but darling you must experience both to truly know the infinite depths and breadths of love. Why she asked? Because to love is to live. To live is to be vulnerable. To be vulnerable is to live out your full aliveness expressed. For anything else is to taste death while still alive. I am afraid she replied. Oh but darling it’s okay to be afraid. That is part of aliveness, anything else is to taste death while alive. I have tasted death she said... With tears streaming down her apple cheeks. How does that taste they ask? Like despair, Like despondency, Like Hell she replied. Oh my darling, are you tired of being dead they ask? Oh yes, so very well worn and lifeless from just this she replied. So darling, what do you choose? I choose all of it she replied. To taste life is to be alive, To taste death is to be reminded that I am too still alive. So what do you choose they asked? I choose me she replied, I choose love, I choose aliveness, I choose to be alive. Good they replied. Now go and love the hell out of your life and remember you’re never alone, always loved and always enough. Okay she said... And so she did with a bittersweet abandon in her stride, with a warriors well worn armoured trusting heart and with a brave courageously resilient soul. She swayed to the dance of love and lost, of vulnerability and bliss, of death and aliveness. She lived out her aliveness without fear of death as death she as known far longer than that of being truly and fully alive!

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OIL YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS Nina Sadlowsky International Results Coach & Speaker, Yoga Instructor, Essential Oils Lover.

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Personal development always starts with your own consciousness. Transformation can only take place when we consciously look at ourselves, when we expand our consciousness, when we become aware towards our words, thoughts, feelings and actions. And that every day again. Hence, I would like to ask you: • Are you truly happy in your life? • Do you have the feeling, that you really are the captain of your life? • Or do you feel as though your life is determined by someone else? I know for myself that I had reached a point in life where I wasn’t 100% happy and where I definitely felt like others, i.e. society, family, job was determining my path. And this is exactly how I came from a successful marketing manager in corporate to a successful international results coach. It first hit me in 2010 when I felt that what I was doing was a complete waste of my precious life time. Sitting in an office all day. Always thinking about “When is it finally Friday?” and “Oh no not Monday again.” The thought alone led to tensions in my entire body. Neck, shoulder, jaw tense. I kind of thought, well this is this job, so I just have to find a new one. But you know as much as I do, that this wasn’t the solution. Yet, do you know that feeling? You jump from one job to the next, one relationship to the next, one city to the next, one trip to the next just to avoid dedicating yourself to the real topic here, and that is YOU. Every time you jump to the next, you deny and ignore yourself and your deepest desires. You may try to run away, but it won’t work until you consciously reflect yourself, your words, your feelings and your actions. Why? Your personal development is about loving yourself fully again. It is about believing in yourself again and it is about showing up in your whole truthfulness. Why? So that you can grow into the person you always wanted to be and to live the life you always wanted to live. And I know that I wanted to 40 | OneTribeMagazine.com

develop into a healthy, happy, authentic, courageous and strong woman who lives a life in freedom.

checklist of five topics that I see as decisive factors for your continuous personal growth:

So, at least, looking back, I understand that my volatile behaviour got me closer to myself than I could have ever imagined. I understood for the first time what it means to deal with myself, my fears, my needs and my desires. I understood what it means to be courageous and to take a decision for myself, not for others. I understood what it means to finally take action and design the life of my dreams.

1. Have I respected and set my own boundaries?

The result of expanding my consciousness led me to what I do now: Holistic coaching under the consideration of body, mind and soul, the supporting use of essential oils, yoga, meditation, breath work. What I understand now is that it was the work on myself and my personality, my personal growth that got me to where I am now. When you really want to step into your power, regular reflection is key to getting results. In order to help you expand your consciousness and self-confidence I have created a

2. Have I kept my promises, towards myself and others? 3. Have I taken responsibility? 4. Have I asked for what I need? 5. Have I been generous towards myself? This 5 step reflection process helps you to expand on your consciousness and can be perfectly supported with the power of essential oils. Yet, in order to be able to dive deep into this reflection it is firstly important to ground yourself and to align with your centre. The more grounded we are, the more resilient we are in times of stress. Secondly, this process is about releasing emotional blocks, to be able to express ourselves clearly and confidently. To express one’s voice without fearing the reaction of others is essential in developing more consciousness and grow as a human being.

Thirdly, transformation always needs action. You have to be clear about in which situations you are still holding back? Where are you not in your full power yet? Where may you move forward with more determination and courage? And this is where the essential oils come in. These little gems can wonderfully support your process. • VETIVER – To ground, align and centre. • SPEARMINT – To express our voice. • GINGER – To be courageous, determined and powerful. I have designed an oil blend called – BOOM – which targets exactly these needs and gets you natural longlasting results. Essential oils are to be used intuitively. And trust me it is all within you. To ground yourself for example you may want to apply the oil blend on the soles of your feet. To express yourself you may want to apply the oil blend on your throat. And for determination apply the oil blend onto the solar plexus, just underneath your chest. Use the oil blend regularly and experience the BOOM effect. To truly experience the power of essential oils and their great impact on body, mind and soul, I recommend you also do a meditation and speak a mantra to really experience the transformation. Whenever you find yourself in a spiral of negative thoughts, words, feelings or actions, speak this mantra or a mantra of your choice. Here is mine for you: I love myself, I believe in myself, I show myself in my whole truthfulness. Speak this mantra mentally, in your mind, for a minimum of one minute. Whenever you feel distracted bring your consciousness back to silently repeating the mantra. Enjoy the meditation and mantra. Enjoy your consciousness. Enjoy your life.

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Self-Sabotage Is NOT the Answer! Charmaine Barber | Transformational Coach & Writer helping professional women to Live Life Freely

Do you lead a “normal” or decadent lifestyle, one where you are selfsabotaging? Part of living the right sort of life is having the right mindset and beliefs and believing in ourselves.

it, realising that you actually went through 2 or 3 bottles on your own. So much for just having one drink.

It’s also about keeping our body fit physically by exercising and feeding it the right nutritional requirements as well as giving ourselves the right environment in which to thrive and grow. Which means surrounding ourselves with the right kind of people who support our growth and expansion and don’t pull us down, denigrate, criticise or lecture us. So, having the right relationships with people, starting with ourselves is critical. Anything detrimental in our life, we should eliminate, get rid of, say no to. Not only that, but what kind of lifestyle we lead is important too, so say no too constantly pushing yourself in your career just to prove a point that you are better than others, or to showing the boss that you’re not a slacker, or that you really aren’t lazy. No to staying up until 2am to finish off that project. No to people that suck your precious time away from you. It´s how we start to get balance in our lives. What about your social life? Do you party hard to show others you’re the life and soul of the party and can stay up all night and that it´s wonderful and fun to do stupid things like pushing someone else into that swimming pool even though they told you no and you told them not to be such a spoil sport or you push a broken glass into someone´s face and have badly injured them. Are you being a brat? Why do you party hard? Maybe it´s time to ask yourself some very uncomfortable questions and get to the truth of why you do what you do. 42 | OneTribeMagazine.com

Do you take drugs to prove that you can treat your body badly and that you can get away with it? What about when you can´t afford or don´t know where to get that next fix, or when you have delusional thoughts, your mental health starts to suffer, you have needle marks everywhere on your body and it affects your work and your relationships with family and others? Are you scared now, I don’t know about you, but I would be because that next needle or tablet could be your last. Do you smoke like a trooper or drink like a fish because you want to outdo everyone and drink them under the table? Is it because you don´t think you´re good enough, you thought it was fun at the time and clever? Don’t fool yourself, because you’re the only one who is, and it’ll catch up with you sooner rather than later in the form of illness, broken relationships, court judgements, threats, victimhood and more. Perhaps you sit all alone at home after work and tell yourself, “I´ll just have one, no more,” and you have “a little drink” and before you know it, you wake up next morning, lying in a pool of your own vomit, hair full of

Are you a bully and know-all with your manner and attitude towards life and people? Did you have parents who split up and fought during that split up so that you ended up with torn loyalties, or you got to the point where you didn’t care anymore because you felt they didn’t care about you and what you felt so you shut down your emotions and you rebelled? Were you sent to boarding school where you were bullied, raped, abused or maybe you were at home when it happened, and you made a decision there and then never again to let anyone have control over you ever again? Or do you eat and eat because you feel empty inside and then you eat some more because you think it´s the answer to your unhappiness? Are you trying to fill up some void inside of you, some yawning gap which no matter how hard you try you can´t fill? I´ll just have one chocolate, and before you know it, you´ve eaten the whole box? Or, just one piece of cake, suddenly, sitting crying in front of the TV, you find you´ve eaten a whole cake, or you keep going back to the fridge just for “one more,” whatever that one more is? You feel sick and want to purge so you go to the toilet and find yourself sticking the toothbrush down your throat because you have to. You don´t. Stop fooling yourself, before you end up overweight, miserable, unhappy, morose, depressed, crying every evening, alone with no friends to call on because they´ve drifted away, fed up with trying to help you when you won´t be helped. What about your finances? Are they in a mess? Are you constantly overdrawn or worse, up to your eyeballs in debt, you owe the bank thousands, you’ve

taken out as many credit cards as you can and are juggling paying back the interest on them every month if you’re lucky and you´re very close to losing the roof over your head. You’ve over stretched yourself with your living requirements, nice flashy car on the drive, the latest technological advancements lying around not being used or handbags and shoes lie in your wardrobe waiting to see the light of day. Do you blame others for the situations you find yourself in? Why? No-one else put you there, you got yourself there because of the decisions you made. You can make different ones in the future. All of this is self-sabotage and your self-worth is being destroyed so why continue to do it? We do all these things because we don’t care enough about ourselves, because we think we aren’t good enough, because the pain we endured when we were children was too much to bear so we made either knowingly or unknowingly depending on the age we were, certain decisions which still affect us to this day. But they don’t have to. We don’t love or value ourselves. Isn’t it time we did? There is hope, there is light and there is an end to feeling this way about ourselves. The first step is to know that we are doing these things to ourselves, no-one else is. That is a hard truth to swallow which we tend to shy away from but deep down we know it´s true. The next step to get away from this awful pain we are inflicting on ourselves by setting an intention to not do it anymore and after that we need to forgive ourselves for having treated ourselves the way we have done. Would you treat someone else the way you have treated yourself? If you have, you need to go and say sorry. Say sorry to yourself for having treated yourself that way, then say sorry to all those whom you have hurt. Forget about those who have hurt you and start with you in the here and now. Say it with humility and say it humbly and with deference. We are human and if you mean it, they will understand and forgive you. Then start to really clean up your life. You can do this! Many of us have travelled that very path and now know better. It isn’t always easy, but it is an easier way of living rather than how we were before. Life can be lived happily and joyously without all this drama. You can come from a place of powerlessness to be all powerful, I know, I´ve been there!

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The Opposite Of

Walkling Andy Ferguson | Personal Development Reimagined

Up until that point Greece had not been somewhere I’d given any thought to but during those early months of our courtship, I discovered a country, a people, culture and history that made a deep impression on me. If my intention had been purely to follow my heart, the gift I received in return was greater than I could ever have imagined.

The health benefits of walking have become very prominent in the media lately, it’s good for our stress levels apparently and it’s said to improve our physical and mental health. More and more people, at least where I live, seem to be taking dogs out for a walk and picking up their poo, which to me at least seems a high price to pay for the enjoyment of stretching one’s legs, but who am I to judge? Anyway, Pilgrimage routes are being rediscovered and walked again, and long-distance paths of many different sorts are springing up all over the place, yes walking it seems has definitely become a thing. Now not to brag but over the last four years, I’ve walked a lot, somewhere in the region of 4000 miles, mostly around Scotland where I live but also quite a lot during holidays (or vacation for our US readers) in places like Italy, Croatia, France and Spain. So here’s the thing - I’ve just returned from a holiday on the island of Cyprus, and surprisingly I hardly did any walking at all. Now that’s not like me, and I can’t say it was down to the high temperatures because on another break, earlier in the summer, I walked or ran for miles every day in similar conditions. No the reason I didn’t walk much as I discovered something amazing - I’ve dubbed it the opposite of walking. Now to be sure I haven’t given up on my wanderings, at least not yet, there are still thousands of miles I plan to cover in the next few years but this new thing, this opposite of walking, I’d like to do a lot of that too. Let me give you a little of the background story. 44 | OneTribeMagazine.com

When we arrived in Cyprus I was ready for some downtime, I was seeking a place to just be but more to the point I was there to celebrate my 25th Wedding Anniversary with my wife, Nicky. We had met thirty years earlier in France when we were both working the Winter Season in a Ski resort, yet it was the time we spent in Crete, a few months later, that really nurtured the seeds of our growing relationship. When Nicki left the Ski resort before the end of the season to start working in Crete, I found I missed her badly. Then when the season ended I headed home not quite sure what was going to happen, there was now nearly 2000 miles separating us. I was due to go back out to France for the summer and .. oh well I was a lovesick puppy, what was I supposed to do? I booked the first available flight out to Crete and ended up staying there for the next six months.

Meeting Nicki changed my life, in so many ways, making it so much richer, opening up the world to me, literally, since working in the travel industry she had access to almost unlimited opportunities to travel. And so before the kids came along, we travelled the world, together and separately. Our expectation became that every time we had a break, we’d get on a plane and fly somewhere exciting and interesting. Travel was so much more expensive back then so we knew we were lucky to have this opportunity, to experience places others would only dream of visiting. Once our kids came along, our vacations became less adventurous, more like normal family holidays usually involving a tent, a swimming pool, the sea and a hire car. France, Italy or Spain with the occasional sortie further afield became the norm. And during all of those holidays, I’d walk or run for miles. Interestingly for all that Crete had been so important to us we never seriously thought about returning until that is we were looking for somewhere go to celebrate our Silver Wedding Anniversary. Crete seemed the perfect place, but then we got cold feet. Perhaps it was so

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As I sat there connecting to the force of the Mediterranean Sea’s westerly winds, whipping up those majestic waves, I found that I could lose myself in the sound of breakers bombarding the beach. I started to disappear only to be replaced by nothing. And yet still the observer, the experiencer remained. – Andy Ferguson

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loaded with those powerful early memories and expectations we’d be disappointed, at least that was our worry so we settled on Cyprus, a sister Mediterranean island, instead. It would close enough to connect us to the (Greek) culture, the people and our early story, yet distant enough to insulate us from unrealistic expectations: Crete, like us had probably changed a lot over the years.

her batteries, absorbing the sun’s goodness, thawing out again after years enduring Scottish summers. This time I couldn’t slink off for a walk like I did when the kids were around, disappearing for a short walk only to turn up much later than intended to be met with stony-faced silence and an unseasonal chill in the air. “Hey, it’s my holiday too, you know”. I’d offer up in defence.

Before it had even begun, this trip seemed packed with significance, marking thirty years together, twentyfive years married, a journey of a lifetime that had passed so quickly. There were twenty plus years of bringing up kids - exciting, rewarding and exhausting as that was. We were getting older, and now we’d have time to spend together to reflect on where we’d come from and where we were headed next.

But this week I committed myself to not walking, to just being there on the beach every day with my wife of twenty five years, a partner for thirty. This week I’d practice doing the opposite of walking. So we’d spent every day on a different beach, most turned out to be nicer than the first, some were more crowed but on all, those blue, green and white waves were ever-present. Each day I’d find a place right at the water’s edge, I’d lookout and the world behind me would disappear. Every now and then, a huge wave would cover me completely or knock me backwards under a surge of power and energy that would invigorate my soul. The longer I stayed there, the happier I felt. I became the sea.

When we arrived at our small, they called it a boutique hotel at around one in the morning we saw that it was very simple and in that Greek way more a small apartment than hotel room. Thirty years started to fall away as the memories of a similar shared apartment came rushing back. But we didn’t notice much more of our surroundings as we clambered into bed exhausted from the journey. Later that morning we ventured out to find the beach which we knew was only a short walk away. All around us were half completed apartments, and lots of unkept vacant plots of land. It was not in the least picturesque. I’m guessing to some folks it would have looked a bit like how they might imagine Beirut, which by the way, was only about 150 miles to the east of us. After a little exploring and a few false starts, we eventually found a track which we thought might lead us to the sea. There seemed to be a lot of fly-tipping, old sofas, building materials, plastic sacks, and so on, the journey to the beach didn’t bode well. When we got there, there were less than a handful of people around. At the back of the beach, the surrounding was less than pleasing to the eye, tons of concrete and an empty unpaved carpark meant this beach wouldn’t be winning any awards. Yet the view out to sea was inspiring: Blue-green waves breaking into whitetops thundering down on to fine sand. Maybe this shabby wilderness was a blessing; here you 46 | OneTribeMagazine.com

could really feel alone, just you and the sea, as long as you didn’t look behind you. We sat for a while, just listening to the waves. It’s easy to lose oneself. When I go walking it’s often not about the destination, that’s just a justification for going on a walk in the first place and it’s not even about the journey, what I’ll discover along the way, it is about losing myself as I walk. The sun and the rain, the wind and the sensation of movement are present, until they disappear, somehow I become so still I’m unaware of my own motion. Walking becomes who I am not what I’m doing. Now, as I sat there connecting to the force of the Mediterranean Sea’s westerly winds, whipping up those majestic waves, I found that I could lose myself in the sound of breakers bombarding the beach. I started to disappear only to be replaced by nothing. And yet still the observer, the experiencer remained. The same transformed, transcendent me who had to walk for mile after mile to lose myself, quickly disappeared, gobbled up in an enormous vortex of energy. In all the years I’d gone on holidays with Nicky I’d never felt that comfortable sitting on a beach. Look I get it, she grew up in Australia and warmth and sunshine are her life’s blood but me I’m Scottish, too much sun and I turn lobster red. Without total sunblock I’m heading into serious sunburn territory. And besides, I’d get restless being still anywhere, perhaps especially on a beach. Yet I knew this trip she needed to be on the sand and in the sea recharged

How strange it was that in letting go of the need to be on my way, exploring, walking, discovering - I found something magical and transforming and energising. I could just sit there and absorb the power of the sun and the sea. After so many holidays, so many adventures, so many places explored and so many miles walked it seems incredible to be writing about a revelatory experience that required nothing much more than for me to sit on my arse and let Mother Nature envelop me. I can still feel it, that uplifting, empowering lostness, as wave after wave crashed into me, over me, through me. I am the sea, the sun and the wind, I am everywhere and just here, in this moment and in every moment, I am finally just me.

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I found something magical, transforming and energising. I could just sit there and absorb the power of the sun and the sea. – Andy Ferguson

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A World Beyond

The Stone Ariaa Jaegar | Spiritual Life Strategist, Emotional Intelligence, Cellular Memory Pioneer, Quantum Physics, Author, Animal-Human-LGBT-Senior-Earth Advocate.

The lines wrapped around the building, throngs of people from every nation were waiting to get in.

blanketed us. Were we really the only two people invited to partake of this majesty? Somehow, I was sure we were not but for those brief moments, my mind entertained the thought, that this was a visual display of the power of the Holy Spirit, whom I’ve given my life to for more than twenty-six years, to do with, whatever is pleasing to the heavens. I sat in silence, my eyes welling up with gratitude, my tears salting the face of this old soul and I was replete with a peace that lifted me to high places yet humbled me to the floor.

I’d been here before in 2006, but there was a difference in the air this time. As we made our way to the ticket office, I glimpsed a powerful man standing just inside the ancient wooden doors of Westminster Abbey. Cloaked in black with a red sash, I was instantly intrigued. Holy men move me; not in the way of a follower but in the ways of what lives in my heart and inspires me to practice what I teach every day. I motioned to him and said in a voice just loud enough to be heard over the crowd but soft enough as to not be intrusive; “Father will you please bless me?” He replied, “Yes, I’ll wait for you here.” As I approached him it was as if I’d known him all my life, yet he was a stranger amongst thousands of others. He took my hand and the hand of my friend Debra and began praying. Here we were in the middle of so many tourists you could hardly move and yet, a sense of being the only one in the Abbey overcame me. How could I know that I was being blessed by a man who has dined with Queen Elizabeth on more than one occasion, while standing in the very place where Princess Diana and the future King of England were married in 1981. Time and history stood still and as we were about to go our separate ways, he whispered this; “Do you see that large wooden door in the back of the Abbey?” I struggled to find it with all the tourists flocking about like baby chicks trying to find their mother. “Yes, I see it.” He continued, “Go there my child and you can pray 48 | OneTribeMagazine.com

and meditate privately.” I thanked him and found my footing as if coming off of a cloud, swirling back down to the staggering energy of earth. We parted and a warm glow consumed me. An hour or so later we finally made our way to the ancient door and looking around so as to not be discovered, we slipped behind the massive doors into a world beyond the stone. Built 929 years ago, we bore witness to a faded ancient mosaic of Jesus that was cast upon the stone. The room was empty yet so full of palpable energy. We sat in silence, struggling successfully to honor the “no photos” rule, recognizing and desperately wanting to preserve the power of this moment. Outside the world was loud, maddening and intrusive; inside the pure beauty of silence

Reverend Michael had no way of knowing that we were in this sacred chapel when suddenly we heard his voice. Over the noise of a hustling crowd, he politely asked all the tourists to take a moment of silence and be still. A hush fell over the abbey, yet another gift, stillness. It was potent, powerful and we were engulfed in a state that was rapturous. He did not know we were there. As we left the chapel and merged back into the crowd. I couldn’t help but feel the overwhelming sense of love mingled with the fragrance of sweet surrender. No miracles, no grand displays, just a whisper, a nod and a moment of oneness. It was and will remain a memory unlike any other.

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I couldn’t help but feel the overwhelming sense of love mingled with the fragrance of sweet surrender. No miracles, no grand displays, just a whisper, a nod and a moment of oneness. – Ariaa Jaegar

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Get Off the Plane GROWTH

Emily Formea Blogger | Coach | YouTuber | Hippie | Wellness Coach

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We’re told that we have one path. One destiny. One major. One job, significant other we are meant to spend the rest of our lives with. We’re destined to struggle maybe with anxiety or depression. Some of us are born failures and some of us are noble successors who have never encounter hardships a day in their lives. Let me tell you something. Get off the crashing plane. We are all riding this plane through the air. I think the number one thing I hear when I talk to people who are unhappy with their lives is this sentence, “Well, I don’t want to deal with it.” Deal with what? Deal with that you feel anxious? Deal with that maybe you realized you hate your major in college? Deal with that you don’t get along with your boyfriend anymore or you know that you need to move apartments, however, it’s easier to just renew your lease? Deal with that you know you can make changes to make your life better, but you would rather stay comfortable than thriving? If you bought a ticket to France and halfway through your flight the plane started to go down and you were offered a parachute, would you say, “Yeah, but I bought the ticket?” We are 100% responsible for our lives, which means we either choose or allow all things to happen to us. What does that mean? That means that when I graduated from college with an undergraduate degree in political science, I had bought my government ticket. I was supposed to go to DC, which I did. I was supposed to get a prestigious job working for the House of Representatives. I did. I was supposed to climb the ladder. I sort of did. Then, I was supposed to arrive in France. I did not. Ya see I was caught in a crazy thunderstorm right over the Atlantic Ocean. I hated my job. I didn’t feel fulfilled in the slightest. I was overworked and certainly underpaid. I spent many mornings anxious on the train in and crying on the train out. I was very unhappy. OneTribeMagazine.com | 51

Many parachutes came my way. I was offered a job at my college back home. I passed it up. I was offered a job at my nonprofit actually in DC, but I threw the parachute back in their face. Until the moment my nose was inches from the ground, I was focused on France. Here is where this conversation gets fun. Why did I want to go to France so badly? If the entire plane ride was a disaster. I was unhappy, unhealthy, and miserable the entire time. I felt lonely and disassociated with people around me on the plane and especially with myself. Was France going to change any of that? I would argue not. I was about a foot from the crash when I quit my job. I raised my hand on the plane and exclaimed, “Give me that parachute!” Strapped it on my shaky back and jumped out. I didn’t want to live my life crashing. I didn’t want to live my life in France. My parents may have wanted me to go there. My own ego that feared being judged really wanted me to arrive in England. I had bought a ticket. I had studied the thing. I had done the work. I was still doing the work. I was supposed to be on this plane. And every single day, the flames on that plane engulfed me just a little bit more.

We don’t believe we can get off the plane. Why? Because it’s much more comfortable to ride the old vibrations of the person we believed to be and will never grow out of. I didn’t think I would make it out there. I didn’t think I deserved the parachute. That’s a huge one. And I believed that France was just where I was supposed to go whether I wanted to vacation there or not. I hear this all the time from people who study one thing and hate the career path it leads them to. The, “I just don’t want to deal with it.” You don’t want to deal with your slow crash? You don’t want to get out of your old self? Let me tell you something, “When you let go of something, you are only stressed because you can only comprehend what you are losing, you cannot comprehend or have the capacity to understand what you will be gaining.” When you let go of your old narrative. When you let go of your old shell. When you let go of your old limiting beliefs. It’s freaking terrifying. Because I could only see what I had just turned away. France. I had turned away France and that’s where I was supposed to go, had to, would die trying to get there. Says who? Not me, I can tell you that right now.

Now, was the plane my job and was France my future? Sort of.

My ego, my fear, social pressures, societal norms told me to go to England.

I see it more as the plane was what I believed myself to be.

I jumped out of the plane and landed in Boston.

I believed myself to be this scared, stupid, silly, and insignificant girl who better like her first job because she was never going to get another. The girl who knew that her ultimate dream was to be a blogger, coach, speaker, friend, and role model to other girls just like her, but pushed that dream way down because ‘get real, Emily.’ The girl that had purchased the ticket out of fear and not desire. The girl who was struggling with eating, sleeping, saving, and you guessed it….. Believing.

I jumped out of the plane and started my own business.

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I jumped out of the plane and began living my dream, manifesting my reality, spreading the light, love, and secrets that I had learned as I descended downward. I wanted to go to Boston, not France. To say, “Well you bought the ticket though,” meaning this is your path right now, this is the groove you are in, the vibrations you are giving off and receiving, the stresses that hold

you down, the disbelief you have about yourself is “something you don’t want to deal with.” Deal with it. Do you know how many people live their ENTIRE lives crashing? More than I can imagine. Don’t be the person on the plane who is offered a parachute and they say, “No, I already bought the ticket.” There is no rule, law, or rhythm of this Earth that says this is your only destiny. That this is how it is always going to be. There is no person who is holding you down (except maybe yourself). There is nothing that says you always have to struggle financially, you always have to clock in and out at a job you hate, you always have to be in a toxic relationship. You always have to spend your days praying for the weekend to come. You do not always have to envy others around you or know you aren’t living your dream. You never have to deny your passion or what sets your heart on fire. You never have to go to France. Take accountability, responsibility, determination, and belief, and please, please take that parachute.

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Grow through what you

Flow Through Katie Moriarty | Writer & Quantum healer Have you ever had the thought about how nice it would been to win the lottery and have all of your problems ‘solved’ and live out your dream life without a care in the world, checking items off the bucket list all whilst remaining stress free and having a jolly good time?

So the road was rocky for a while there and as per the imperfect human experience we all live in, it still is sometimes. Every time I seek to up-level my life in some area, it means that certain things can’t come with me on that journey. Because they are holding me back they are limiters.

I know I have. In fact, when I first really tapped into the art of manifestation particularly around abundance and money, I thought it made perfect sense that the Universe should deliver me a big fat cheque for 30 million dollars so I could go and impact the world free from financial constraint and live my best, most abundant life!

This could be habits of behaviour, belief systems and thoughts, old patterns and sometimes this includes people.

I literally laugh about that now because the most crucial lesson I have learned on my spiritual path; the number one and most important realisation that I have made, is that just like the good old saying goes … “It’s all about the journey, not the destination.’ I never considered this until I started practicing the art of quantum jumping which was essentially a process whereby I would collapse timelines in my own life and bring about new desired realities at lightning fast speed. It sounds complicated and perhaps you’re wondering what I mean by that. Quantum leaping states of reality is an article entirely in itself. However the point of this is that what I came to learn very quickly was that when I asked to receive a certain opportunity, or something of value in my life, if I intended to manifest a new reality, what I was actually doing was opening a doorway or a portal for the universe to put me through the necessary 54 | OneTribeMagazine.com

series of challenges or learnings required, in order to reach or arrive at that state. Why? Because in order to be the person living the existence I was asking for, who could manage or handle the level of success, the abundance, the confidence and self-love or the relationships I wanted; I needed to shift accordingly too. I needed to level up. I needed to become that person before I could receive that manifestation. Sounds easy. Sounds simple. The truth is it is often not. During this process parts of my old self needed to die away, be released or shifted in order for me to step forward into this new state of being and therefore new reality. Perhaps you can relate to those times in your life where it feels like your life falls apart or the going gets tough before things suddenly re-align and you find yourself in a better position than ever before. The speed at which I wanted to make these leaps meant that proportionately, the Universe needed to prepare me for what was to come. Quickly. In quantum time as per my request. Ask and you shall receive, just be clear about what is involved in what you ask for!

Thats right, the one that I would say I initially found to be the hardest challenge of all. Sometimes we have to let people, experiences, beliefs and behaviours shift out of our life in order to welcome in something new. We have to lose something to gain something essentially. And this can be scary. It can be emotionally harrowing and quite frankly it can hurt. However, from personal experience I can attest to the fact that clinging to things that no longer serve us and no longer remain to be in our highest good makes the transition all the more painful and drawn out. Thank God I learned the art of surrender in this process. Another topic for another time. Many times I have questioned why I ever decided to embark on this path of deep spiritual and self work. I definitely have considered what life could have been like if instead I had decided to take the seemingly less challenging path of meandering along largely unconscious and remaining satisfied with the status quo. However as nice as that thought may be to dabble in from time

to time the truth is this - my soul chose this journey and I know it. To live this life any other way would be going against my own true self and what it intended when it chose this particular lifetime, this human existence, this journey and this body. Chasing the extraordinary is nonnegotiable. Every experience allows for a new level of empathy with which to serve others. Nothing is by accident and every moment serves a purpose. When you can find a deep sense of trust for this truth, you learn to flow with life and the rhythm of it instead of resisting and fighting your own growth. Experiencing challenges is something I can live with. Not fulfilling my purpose is something I cannot. And on that point, the purpose of this life was not to come here and merely exist. It was to live life fully and completely, to follow the true path to unfold with ease and grace and to fulfil that purpose in its entirety. And the fact is this - the full human experience includes the full gamut of emotions and exactly that experiences. Which means the good, the terrifying the beautiful and the gut wrenching. When we can shift our perspective from seeing these as “wrong” or “bad” as difficult as that may sometimes be, there is opportunity to see the beauty in the pain and the expansion in the lessons. Even when uncomfortable, we can see these periods of transition and transformation for what they are - a helping hand in our evolution and a guiding light leading us towards the fulfilment of our divine purpose just as our soul intended. And that my friends, is a beautiful and magical thing.

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The purpose of this life was not to come here and merely exist. It was to live life fully and completely, to follow the true path to unfold with ease and grace and to fulfil that purpose in its entirety. – Katie Moriarty

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Be careful what you

Wish For Dawn Bates | International bestselling author, coach and speaker.

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Do you remember who you are? You know the person deep inside of you bursting to get out from under the pressures of work, relationships, family dramas, children, social groups. The person who just wants to disappear for a few days to just sleep and wake up naturally without an alarm, without a meeting to get to. The person who wants to run until you cannot run any longer, pushing your body to the max, instead of just running a set distance for a set time, because you’ve got to get back to the office or home to eat dinner with the family. Perhaps jumping off a cliff into the waters below screaming “jeronimooooh!!” on your way down laughing and squealing with utter delight and feeling the water rush over you as you burst up through the surface and the warm sun hits your face. Maybe you are wishing for the day you get to lie on the beach all day, or go camping in the woods, living off grid away from urban life, waking up to the bird’s songs rather than the song of the sirens on their way to another emergency. Or you could be wishing for the kids to move out and get their own place instead of relying on you and their father. I mean for heavens sake they have finished Uni and got their own job, now it is time for them to fly the nest, because you want to start nesting in a whole new way, reclaiming your own independence. This person who is longing for these things, or at least keeps thinking about them, is being made wrong by thoughts in your head, because you have a responsibility, you have bills to pay, you’re too old for these kind of escapades now and they are your children, of course they are welcome in the family home, and what kind of parent would you be if you told them you wanted them to stand on their own two feet? Imagine if you wrote down all those wishes you had in your head and got really, truly present to them and their power. Can you feel that smile on your face as you imagine doing all the things you have always wished for, always dreamed of, and been secretly longing for? Hmmmm, how good does that feel? Now imagine you wrote down all the negative chatter that goes with those wishes coming true; every single last bit of chatter, from you, those in your inner circle and others in society and then burnt it, sending all the negativity up in flames turning them

into the positive power of warmth and light. Fire burns things to the ground and for me, there is no better way to burn and destroy negativity than having a bloody good fire release ritual on the beach at night. Why? Because the wind from the ocean fuels the fire, the fire warms you at night, lights up the beach around you, along with the beauty and energy of the Moon, and then once the fire is out, the tide comes in and washes away the ashes, taking the negative energy out to sea where it is purified and embraced with the power of the greatest life force on the planet. Hmmmmm…. So Divine! Using the elements of nature to bring our wishes to life, our desires, our dreams and our deeply locked away longings is such a powerful element of manifesting all you deeply desire. You are working with nature, calling on the power of Mama Earth, Gaia, the elements to step into the nature order of things. I remember growing up in The Fens of the UK and I would get excited about harvest time. It was crop burning season and there was something so hypnotic about the way the farmer would look at his crops, say a thank you for a good harvest, pray for a better one the next year, and then bend down, light the corner of the field debris and then WOOOSH!! The fire would embrace every corner of that field, burning everything in its path, nourishing the soil ready for the next years harvest; which would always come back stronger and healthier, more abundant in every way. And then crop burning was banned, and the fear from government was spread. The chemical companies got richer and we got sicker and sicker with allergies and the crops got weaker, like our immune systems. When we look at how the Maori’s used the sap from the Kowri trees to burn amongst the crops to fight off flies and insects, and then do the same with their crops. When we look at the South Island of New Zealand and see how the volcanic earth has increased the growth of the trees by 25%, the power of fire. I am reminded of my mother who, when I was younger, picked up the washing machine and moved it with total ease because she was angry (I forget what about) and then when she was calm it took all she had just to jiggle it into a new space. The power of the fire within.

Now, back to title “be careful what you wish for”. When we get angry, we say things we don’t necessarily mean. When we are hurt, we also say things we don’t mean. It’s natural, it’s human. We all have fire within us. When we stub our toe on the corner of a cupboard, or we are stuck in traffic making us late, because we didn’t account for delays in our planning (or we got distracted by social media news updates) we get frustrated, the fire comes out. When we are frustrated in life, feeling trapped and stuck in a rut, our fire comes out. We feel stuck because we are not honouring ourselves. We are stuck in the system of 9-5, placing ourselves in boxes day in day out, and tell ourselves to think outside of the box…. When there is no box! Many do not need the police and courts of justice to put us in prison, because we do it to ourselves daily, at home, at work, in social groups and especially in our own minds. The thoughts which go through our minds are like wishes and worrying is simply praying for bad stuff to happen. So be careful what you wish for, because like I said in my Assassin’s Creed article “when we look for the good, we see only good, when we focus on the bad, we see only the bad”. Others will say “where the mind goes the body follows”, where we focus our attention, even in the smallest of ways, when we allow doubts to creep in, we open the door to doubts becoming our reality. So what new wishes are you going to focus on? And when are you going to make these desires and longings a reality? Let us know! We’d love to hear from you! And remember when calling in these wishes, do it with joy and a giggle, because when you live to laugh and laugh to live, life takes on a whole new level of abundance!

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Goal less . ~

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A few months ago, I was interviewed for an online podcast on achieving your life goals and living your life’s purpose. The conversation started great – we were talking about all my favorite topics! We started with my background and how I came to discover personal growth, energy healing and manifestation. Next we jumped into discussing how to heal your life through learning to deal with the thoughts in your head. We talked about how important it is to help people learn to do this for themselves. The conversation then flowed naturally into the question, “So, what are your biggest goals? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” The question stopped me dead in my tracks. That’s when I realized that here I was, a speaker, coach and workshop leader, and for the first time in my life, I was goal-less. Let me back up – About a month before this podcast interview, I had just finished my Masters degree which took almost 4 years to complete. I kept working on this degree on the side while also growing my workshop and coaching business over the last couple of years. In the meantime, I was continuing to read hundreds of books on personal and spiritual growth, attending retreats all over the world, and doing my own research into what actually works and what doesn’t. Every day I would think, “I cannot WAIT until this degree is over so I can pour myself into my business and get to do what I’m actually passionate about!” But something strange happened when I finally submitted my Masters thesis and completed my degree… For the first time in 20 years (being in school since I was 5 meant a 20year school career), I didn’t have a goal that needed to be completed. I didn’t have a deadline, or any emails to answer that were asking for reports or data or timelines. I realized that for the first time, I was goal-less. And of course, my natural instinct was to fill up the empty space with 60 | OneTribeMagazine.com

more goals and more timelines for myself - because that’s how I’ve always functioned - so I got to work setting some business goals for myself. I set some targets, timelines and got to work on making them happen. Then came the day of the podcast interview – I was so ready for a great interview and to share about all that I had learned, and how it could help others. But when asked about my goals, all of a sudden, my mind went blank. In that moment I realized, for the first time, that I was sick of chasing goals. I was sick of sitting here talking about where I want to be, making it seem like there was something wrong with where I am RIGHT NOW. That the present moment could be different or better in some way. Many different personal and spiritual growth practices like mindfulness and meditation teach the importance of “being present”. To be present means to live in the moment and do your best to stay in the NOW instead of drifting away to the past or the future. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that the constant striving to reach my goals, while it did give me something to push toward and stay motivated for, did absolutely nothing to help me practice being truly present in my life. I realized that my constant need to be chasing, striving and achieving was continuing to take me out of the present moment! This realization brought up a lot of confusion, guilt, and questions like: “That’s just crazy! Of course I need to have goals!” “Who am I, without my goals?” “Aren’t I lazy if I don’t have something I’m working consistently toward every day?”

accomplishments – it’s found in learning to live in the present moment. We are always striving. Reaching for those new milestones. We accomplish one thing and then it’s immediately on to the next – whether that’s finishing a degree and jumping right into the job hunt, reaching one level of income only to be striving toward the next, or getting into new relationship and already starting to think about marriage. We tend to get so distracted with the future that we miss out on what’s truly important in our lives, like the people who are here with us NOW. We get so caught up in the DOING, that we forget about BEING. Actually BEING fully present in our lives. We work hard NOW, to be able to rest later, assuming that later will ever even arrive. This is the realization that I’ve been working with the past few months. People continue to ask me every day, “So, what’s next? What’s the plan?” And it’s taken a few months to get comfortable with saying, “No plan. I’m just being right now. One day at a time.” It’s actually become a fun little game where I get to see some very confused or judgmental faces people make. Hopefully, over time, this answer becomes more common, and we can actually celebrate wanting to live more in the moment. So right now, I have no goals. I have no milestones that need to be achieved. Maybe having big goals will come back someday. This time, hopefully I can go after them in a healthy way – a way that’s not so future focused that I forget to enjoy the here and now. But until then, I am goal-less and happy.

“What if, without always having goals, my life goes nowhere by default?” These questions can be scary to confront, especially in a society which places so much importance on striving and achieving. But from all the work that I’ve done, I’m convinced that true peace isn’t found in the striving or

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We tend to get so distracted with the future that we miss out on what’s truly important in our lives, like the people who are here with us NOW. – Kassie Rhodenizer

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He rtfelt “The world isn’t made up of atoms. It’s made up of stories.” ~ Muriel Rukeyser

Burt Kempner | Independent Writer/Producer & Author

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On January 20th, 2009, Barack Obama was sworn in as the 44th president of the United States. I would have loved to watch it, but I was otherwise engaged, busy fighting for my life.

endangered species theme. If young people aren’t exposed to the beauty and wonders of Nature early on, why will they want to fight to preserve them later on in life?

I received a triple bypass that day. Given the sad state of my arteries, it was miraculous that I hadn’t dropped dead long before. I remember waking up in the Intensive Care Unit, swimming in and out of morphineinduced sleep. I followed the advice of a wise friend who’d taught me to accept rather than resist pain. I kept having a vision: I was crawling on my hands and knees through the woods. In the far distance I could hear the sound of human voices. Every time the vision resumed, I was closer to the disembodied voices. After two days of determined crawling, I reached a clearing. My family and my dearest friends were sitting around a campfire and welcomed me joyously. At that moment on January 22nd I knew I would live. I still celebrate it as my rebirthday.

I joke that becoming a children’s book author has turned me into a multi-hundredaire. I don’t make much money or enjoy stratospheric sales. I’ve had splashy success and recognition in the past and have outgrown the need for them. I do what I do because I love children, pure and simple. I know they’re our future, yadda-yaddayadda, but that isn’t what matters most to me. What matters is that I like and respect young readers, and I hope they’ll return the compliment.

I recuperated at home and, except for journeys measured in a few steps, did my best imitation of a still life for five weeks. There was nothing much to do but watch “Law & Order” re-runs and think. And wonder. And think again. Why had I been granted a second chance? What was I meant to do now, a child of 64 summers at the time? I was old enough to know that I could not change the entire world, but I could change myself, and that, in turn, might activate the so-called Butterfly Effect. If ever a time called out for reinvention, this was it. I changed. So what to do with Burt Kempner 2.0? At the time of my operation I was a TV-film scriptwriter and producer. I’d enjoyed moderate success, having my work seen on PBS, Discovery, History and other national and international cable outlets. After my recovery, I spent four turbulent years as coexecutive producer for a documentary series set in India. The sorry affair ended in failure and I tarnished my reputation and lost my life savings in the process. What ended up saving me was a story. Specifically, it was a story I’d made up for my son when he was six, one he particularly loved. It was about a narcoleptic blue whale who falls asleep while on migration. Two opposing navies bump into him on either side, and believing they’d found an undiscovered island, claim it in the name of their respective countries. I forgot about it as my son went on to Nickelodeon and SpongeBob. But when the Iraq War broke out in 2003,

I sat down at my keyboard, wrote the story down and sent it to a number of publishers. The reception was far from rapturous. I was told it wasn’t the right time for a book like mine (when is a better time for an anti-war book than a war, I ask you?). One editor went and accused me of treason. All because of a gentle, humorous parable about force not being the answer. I put “Larry the Lazy Blue Whale” back in my desk drawer, where he languished for over a decade. But one day I met an illustrator who knew a publisher, and the next thing I know I’d landed a contract. My imagination hasn’t looked back since. There followed a book about accepting who you are and the perils of celebrity worship. A modest moose finds that a golden whisker has sprouted on his chin, believing that makes him movie star material. He makes the long, difficult trek to Hollywood, only to end up as a hat stand at an A-list party. Duly chastened, he returns home.

I’ve been given back the gift of life and I intend to pay it forward. How? I don’t have a vast fortune to donate to the charitable causes I admire. I don’t command armies or boast my own influential news network. I’m a writer, no more, no less, and this is the gift I have to offer you: Words. Let my stories always reflect my higher self. May I use them to heal, not to inflict wounds or pain. May I share beauty where I can find it and hope where I can’t. Thank you from the bottom of my new and improved heart. Burt Kempner’s The School of Animal Magic Adventure series (“Maisha the Educated Elephant”, “Dolphins in Distress” and “The Salmon Who Wanted to Run”) is available on Amazon.

Next, a botched diagnosis by my then-cardiologist landed me in the hospital almost completely bled out. One night the door opened, and five tigers walked into the room (no, I wasn’t hallucinating or dreaming). I knew everything about them: their names, their personalities and their backstories. I also knew they were there to help me, and I recovered quickly. A couple of days after I was released, I wrote “The Five Fierce Tigers of Rosa Martinez: A Tale of Healing.” It was intended for all audiences, but especially for ill children and their parents. Gone were any regrets about my film career and the ignominious way it ended. I was having obscene amounts of fun. Picture me at my computer, my playlist pumped to 11 and me cackling non-stop.

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awareness Christine Saunders | Empowerment Coach at Wholehearted Life.

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As I reflect on the day, which is something I always try and do, it hit me. It wasn’t different than any other day but a word popped into my head. That word is awareness. I recently facilitated a workshop on personal responsibility and empowerment in an active shooter situation. We were asking for people to have situational awareness and be prepared for such an event So, it does not surprise me that awareness is the word of the day. There are so many layers to personal empowerment within our own ability to feel safe in our homes, communities and even in our own minds. It is deep within us… instinct. It starts with awareness. Awareness of our surroundings, our triggers, our intuition when something does not feel “normal” for the situation and tells us “this is not right”. We call this situational awareness. How can this type of training relate to self? If you can begin with an external focus on safety, you can make the transition to self quite easy. They both require two very important aspects of our mind and our heart. We must have our minds engaged for our intuition and heart to pick up on things out of the ordinary. Yes, we pick up on vibrations and sometimes that is enough, other times it is not. Just like having external awareness, having awareness of our internal baseline, or our “normal” aids our brains in calculating what might be “off” or “out of sorts”. I know I have said to people “I’m just off today.” And that’s okay awareness is the first step. And most of the time it’s followed up with “And I’m not quite sure why”. This is my heart letting my brain know, we need to look internally. Just like if there is an external alert, like an alarm going off. We check out the situation to make sure there isn’t a fire, so why not use the same warning system internally. Think of it as an internal alarm. We need to start by examining our triggers that surprise us. We all have triggers based on beliefs and experiences. And here’s the kicker, we may not even know we

have these triggers, that is until the first time we have them. Yikes! This is when situations sideline us or throw us off course, and we are finding ourselves saying “I didn’t see that coming”, or “I didn’t think I would react that way”. Once we process this we say things like “Oh this must be one of my triggers” and now you know. The key in a situation like this is to recover quickly. In an emergency, it needs to be seconds. In personal work, if you’re not in danger, it’s ok to take a pause, be thoughtful, and figure out what that trigger. And finally, why we have had such a reaction to it. Once we figure out our triggers we can then figure out the deeper “why” and recognize those triggers and react with a more positive reaction. This is where I might ask myself “What value is being challenged in this situation, or what does this remind me of?” Remember, it is very important to ask ourselves intelligent questions and the mind will find intelligent answers. We must remember to engage the heart as it is equally important in seeking wholehearted answers. If we rely solely on our brains for answers, we will be abandoning our emotions, and in turn unable to honor our truth and wholehearts. We all have triggers, some are there because we are born with them, others exist because of life experiences. An important thing to remember is, most people only like surprises when they are happy surprises. Unexpected or surprises we are not fond of, tend to be labeled as triggers or problems. However, they are simply our responses to situations. It is here where we can look internally and figure out the appropriate response to situations and surprises and therefore less need for suffering.

conversation, it dawned on me, these two people love each other so much, and want each other to be happy, and want to do what the other wants. The problem is neither one of them will truly share what they want to do, as they want it to be what the other wants. So, what should have taken two mins to decide, turned into 20 minutes. This is where I felt my heartbeat quicken, my anxiety raise, and my mouth would not stay shut. “DO YOU TWO REALIZE THAT YOU BOTH WANT THE OTHER PERSON TO BE HAPPY. YOU ARE SIMPLY BOTH BEING STUBBORN IN YOUR DELIVERY OF WHAT YOU WANT IN ORDER TO PLEASE THE OTHER, JUST PICK?” Whoa, what just happened? Umm was I just triggered by observing a conversation? Well huh, that is something that I need to explore. Ok let’s do this. Umm, yep I am this person. The people pleaser, the one who makes others happy, and yet I want a cheeseburger, and not a rice noodle bowl. OHHHHHHHH I see, this is about me! No, could it be? Really? No? Umm, YEP! “What value is being challenged?” Wait for it… YES, speak your truth of course and deliver it with kindness. Later that evening while speaking with my husband, sharing my enlightened state, it dawned on me. I do what he wants because it makes him happy, and he does what I want because it makes me happy. We are these people I witnessed earlier!! And interesting, why do I not feel so triggered? Ahhh, I have self-awareness! Was there a cheeseburger in my future? Umm no, there were however tacos, lots and lots of tacos.

My big trigger, or as I like to call it, my aha moment. Spending time with family, observing a conversation I watched two people that love each other so deeply, trying to figure out the simple question that most people find difficult to decide. “What do you want for lunch?” Oh, we all have been there right? Watching this unfold was fascinating. As I listen to the indecisions and the

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Yellow Miso Soup With an Eternal Message

Larry Rosenberg PhD CEO, The Larry Show, Sedona, Arizona

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This article was inspired by a lucid dream I had at a campsite next to a stream near Salmon, Idaho, August 26, 2017. I am visiting dear friends in Tokyo, Japan. They include mostly Japanese and a few foreign men. Having celebrated many occasions together over the years, the group has become close and learned about each other’s lives and families. We are told that Toshi, one of the group, has suddenly died; he was in his thirties. In shock, the group makes a courtesy call on his grieving widow Kumiko, who is extremely upset by her husband’s passing. She tells us in tears that every time she consumes their favorite soup of yellow miso she goes into an allconsuming pain of missing him. A month later the group meets with Kumiko again. We learn that after much self-reflection, she has undergone a transformation. Instead of going into grieving whenever she has yellow miso soup, she now is comforted and uplifted by consuming it. When thinking about the pleasurable activities the couple used to do together, she still misses his physical presence. However, recently she became aware that when she slowly and consciously sips yellow miso soup, she senses Toshi’s presence next to her. They are sharing this experience because she has realized that his soul lives on and they are still profoundly connected. Memories of his love and joy are evoked by the steaming soup, and she feels deeply that his energy is in the kitchen, soothing her as she prepares, consumes and cleans up. The shift in mood occurred when Kumiko imagined that she was sitting next to a stream in her rural hometown near Kyoto. She realized that this stream does not know where it came from; it has no past. And it is unaware of where it is going; it has no future. It exists wholly in the present moment. She knows that Toshi is in her heart every day, and his being is particularly present when she enjoys one of their favorite foods – yellow miso soup.

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She finally listened to

Her Heart Mercy Juma | Creative Writer. Psychologist. Inspired Blogger.

The leaves rustled beneath her bare feet beckoning for calmness while at the same time whispering in her ears. The wind caressed her skin as the trees waved slightly in greeting from side to side, almost urging her to move forward and keep going. Birds chirped in a melodious tune in synchrony with the whisper of the trees. The sun bathed her skin, drenching her in a warm glow that warmed her soul and lifted her spirits. There was a green pond a few meters in front of her and Sharon felt a desire, a beckoning, to go sit at the front of it which she did. It had been too long since she 68 | OneTribeMagazine.com

had been at the ranch and she had almost forgotten how alluring the small forest felt every time she was there. She carefully sat at the bank of the green pond, memories of her childhood bombarding her mind. She would always come here whenever she needed to think and reflect or even pour out her feelings in a diary when she needed to. The rock she would normally sit on was still there a few meters to her right, now covered in green but it still brought a smile to her face. She was here to seek guidance once more

and she hoped the peace in nature would help her find some answers. Her mind was torn and she was in deep emotiona pain. She noticed however that for the first time in a long time she was feeling this peace wash her like this and she wondered whether it was because of the magic of the place. During these past months, Sharon felt so tired with her life and she was going through the motions feeling dead inside wondering if this was all life had to offer. In the past three years, she had tried to kill herself three times and

each time she tried to, her daughter Tasha had come to her rescue. Sharon kept wonderung if Tasha always sensed that something was happening. She had conceived Tasha so unexpectadly and she wondered if the universe had sent Tasha her way to be her earth angel or something. Sharon was from a rich christian family. She had grown up with strong christian morals and at twenty five years of age was considered one of the strongest members of her church. It came as a shock therefore when she fell pregnant since fornication is considered a great sin in the christian religion. But then who could blame her? Had she not just fallen in love just like we all do? He was smart, funny, fun to be with and so caring towards her! In her world thid was a dream come true. She felt she had found her perfect match and was so lucky to! The church as you can imagine made her feel like an outcast and for three years, she never stepped into a church building. She also questioned her faith in so many ways. Lawy, the love of her life paid a wealthy sum of money to her family just so that she was well taken care of during her pregnancy. This is the man she loved and wanted to spend the rest of her life with so when life twisted her fate into an intricate web only to have it slap her face with the truth that Lawy had seven other women, she was punched to her soul. It ended, just like that, but she was devastated. Tasha though, was a blessing she would forever be grateful for. Even through her turmoil though, Sharon was a fighter. In her career she thrived. Sharon started as a bank teller and rose through the ranks to become a senior bank manager Even though she died a little every day as she drove to work, she still managed to compartmentalize, and bring brilliance to her company. At one time, her annual salary was more than the revenue her bank had made in a year. In all odds, she was considered successful. She was sharp, witty, creative and full of innovative ideas that made her a real asset in her work place. She could not shake it off though. Every

day she felt like she was nailing her coffin shut, killing herself from the inside, yet she still kept at it, convincing herself that it would turn out okay, that if she ignored the feeling it would go away. In a strange way, the suicidal thoughts started plaguing her even more. Finally at thirty three years of age, Sharon decided to seek a psychologist to help her because the inner turmoil was just too much. It allevited a bit of her stress and in a way she still felt weighed down. If anything was to change then a huge change was needed in her life and at the pond she was seeking guidance. Did she have the courage to leave her job? Where would she find another source of income? What if she took the leap and it failed to work out the way she had anticipated? What if she ended hating her decision? Would she end up hating her other job too? Would she regret her decision? Would it all go away if she was patient with her feelings? There was a lot to ponder about. Currently she felt stuck, unfulfilled and scared. This was not the life she had imagined. Money no longer held the allure it once did. She wanted to live a life of meaning. Her daughter was all she felt grateful for yet she felt she was not being a good enough mother. The man she loved had deceived her. What was she to do? She was lying down at the bank of the pond, her feet slightly touching the water, her eyes closed, a smile painted on her lips as she listened to the birds sing, her feet bent upwards at her knees, her fingers on her chest giving a slight caress to her stomach every few minutes. Her navy blue knitted cardigan was open at the front and was light enough to feel the sand through thr fabric. She took a deep breath and then another. For a moment the chatter in her mind lessened which id something she was grateful for. Finally she could concentrate. At that moment she decided to listen and she felt a quiet peace engulf her. A quiet voice within was urging her to take the leap and assuring her that it would turn out okay. It was scary at first and

her mind insisted on plaguing her with questions but as she took deep breaths and kept listening to the voice it became apparent that this was what her heart was calling her to do. Then it hit her like a strong wave! This is what set her passion aflame! This is the answer she jad sought all these years. She could either live a lie and continue in misery or choose another path which seemed to ignite her soul. She was going to quit and find her true path. Six months later, after therapy she slowly healed and while healing she noticed she was growing passionate about emotional intelligence. She realized that her emotions had been trying to guide her all this while but she had not listened. She also realized that there were so many people like her who understood very little about the wealth of wisdom that emotions bring. That they were a compass guide to the inner self. Sharon decided to learn herself anew and peel through the layers to her core. She understood her need to be perfect was because her parents put so much pressure on her for example. She wanted to forgive herself and she did, accepting her imperfections as part of who she was. With time, she healed. Today, Sharon is a renowned speaker on all matters that revolve around emotional intelligence. She is also a business analyst and works amongst some top companies in Kenya. Her free spirit and vibrant nature draws people in whenever she goes. Her light shines bright now that she has found her purpose. Her motto, “know yourself, love yourself enough to choose yourself and finally, give yourself to the world and serve others and you will find your joy.�

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Love Is Always Available To You Juliette Wells | Artist/Art Teacher, Intuitive Artist, Entrepreneur

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Once upon a time there was a beautiful, sensitive, pure hearted being. Innocent and full of love she arrived here on earth only to discover she didn’t feel loved, she didn’t feel safe, and the people she desperately needed this from couldn’t even give it to themselves let alone her so from a very young age she knew she had to dig deep, lean in to courage and look after herself. Years and years of being treated badly by people was taking its toll on her happiness she was doing the best she could for herself with what she had. The only way she knew how to survive was to NOT feel. It was not safe to show weakness or vulnerability she stuffed her feelings down , deep deep down inside.

part of her transformation. Listening to guidance and trusting were the next key pieces to the puzzle.

huge for her to handle she would reach for a quick fix, some sort of distraction to take the pain away. She couldn’t keep living like this. Life just wasn’t working. If she can’t meet herself fully in every moment, good, bad or messy how could she expect anyone else to. What was this human experience human experience anyway?

She decided to become a strong and invincible woman that nobody would dare take advantage of or hurt ever again.

Everything was out of balance the only person she was running away from was herself and her soul aligned path.

She wouldn’t dare show anybody what was really going on inside, from the outside she portrayed a strong untouchable woman who was in control but she was feeling such a different story inside.

One day she decided to start doing things differently, she started observing herself when being triggered. She started to pause and breathe and let the emotions run through her veins without become attached.

She does not risk intimacy or Vulnerablity,her smile and sense of humour deflected any type of weakness. She wants change but sometimes she avoids the uncomfortable just for one day. No longer would she be living a life of feeling ashamed and embarrassed or scared so a new more positive exciting world was created. Or so she thought..... Cracks started to appear. No longer could she keep it all together small explosions started to go off with the slightest trigger, it became almost impossible to keep the lid on like a pressure cooker ready to blow its top. She had to do something soon or her physical body was not going to be able sustain this charge, she felt soo out of control, her life felt like a lie she was tired, ohh soo tired, it was exhausting trying to keep it all together. After years of not facing anything that felt uncomfortable, scary, too

When you become open and willing the answers come at the right time, within the right people and perfectly aligned situations almost like magic. Then comes the ping pong stage. Like a ping pong ball on steroids bouncing from unhappiness and feeling lost to finding answers and meaning to life and then back again. Have you ever had that feeling? We are constantly changing and evolving so its inevitable to move back and forth across the scale. Sometimes you feel right back at square one, or feel like you just can’t get it right and other days the feeling of being soo Evolved and flowing is just soo freeing. The Deeper the Inner work she did the more she started to question everything in life and to deeply understand who you are and why you are here is your true meaning to life.

Until we meet ourselves fully and deeply life will remain stuck, the echoes of her truth keep nudging her from deep within.

Boundaries, self love and listening to her own soul were major factors in the transformation and freeing of her true spirit.

Starting to lean into the hurt and pain she allowed space for little pieces at a time.

Having compassion for self and others became a daily practice.

Only the brave go to the depths and dark shadows of the soul. It is far from easy, it is soo painful but strangely enough once you start to feel and heal there is no going back. It’s like tasting chocolate for the first time, you just have to go back for more. The hurt painful parts of you need to be loved, given space and healed. Have you ever longed for something more? Have you ever longed to live a fully expressed life but didn’t know how to make that happen? Until you start to take FULL responsibility for everything in your world nothing changes.

Choosing to Love self fully and back yourself fully through it all with no judgement is part of the process. Understanding the collective we are not separate but we are all one was like music to her soul. She does not need other peoples acceptance, validation or belief in order to feel worthy of living a full and happy life! This is her path and hers to walk alone. People come and go, but she stays true to who she is.

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