Mental Abuse Quotes

“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as
obvious. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“My dad had limitations. That's what my good-hearted mom always told us. He had limitations, but he meant no harm. It was kind of her to say, but he did do harm.”
― Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl

“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows many ways in which he has been good to her. Friends say: “He treats you that way because he can get away with it. I would never let someone treat me that way.” But she knows that the times when she puts her foot down the most firmly, he responds by becoming his angriest and most intimidating. When she stands up to him, he makes her pay for it—sooner or later. Friends say: “Leave him.” But she knows it won’t be that easy. He will promise to change. He’ll get friends and relatives to feel sorry for him and pressure her to give him another chance. He’ll get severely depressed, causing her to worry whether he’ll be all right. And, depending on what style of abuser he is, she may know that he will become dangerous when she tries to leave him. She may even be concerned that he will try to take her children away from her, as some abusers do.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to selfishness. Verbal explosions when he is irritated or when he doesn’t get his way. Her grievances constantly turned around on her, so that everything is her own fault. His growing attitude that he knows what is good for her better than she does. And, in many relationships, a mounting sense of fear or intimidation. But the woman also sees that her partner is a human being who can be caring and affectionate at times, and she loves him. She wants to figure out why he gets so upset, so that she can help him break his pattern of ups and downs. She gets drawn into the complexities of his inner world, trying to uncover clues, moving pieces around in an attempt to solve an elaborate puzzle.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“God whispered, "You endured a lot. For that I am truly sorry, but grateful. I needed you to struggle to help so many. Through that process you would grow into who you have now become. Didn't you know that I gave all my struggles to my favorite children? One only needs to look at the struggles given to your older brother Jesus to know how important you have been to me.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“...my father, [was] a mid-level phonecompany manager who treated my mother at best like an incompetent employee. At worst? He never beat her, but his pure, inarticulate fury would fill the house for days, weeks, at a time, making the air humid, hard to breathe, my father stalking around with his lower jaw jutting out, giving him the look of a wounded, vengeful boxer, grinding his teeth so loud you could hear it across the room ... I'm sure he told himself: 'I never hit her'. I'm sure because of this technicality he never saw himself as an abuser. But he turned our family life into an endless road trip with bad directions and a rage-clenched driver, a vacation that never got a chance to be fun.”
― Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl

“Gaslighting is mind control to make victims doubt their reality.”
― Tracy Malone

“Narcissists are very retaliative if they believe another has achieved what they desire,
exposed their insecurities, or refused to be under their control.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse

“My grandma frequently refers to me as "bitch". She always throws a little extra salt on the word too, for effect.”
― Jennette McCurdy, I'm Glad My Mom Died

“My mother emotionally, physically and mentally abused me in ways that will forever impact me. She gave me breast and vaginal exams until I was seventeen years old. These "exams" made my body stiff with discomfort. I felt violated, yet I had no voice, no ability to express that.”
― Jennette McCurdy, I'm Glad My Mom Died

“The ‘love’ we had was dead before it started. I am not willing to revive something that isn’t worth saving.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson

“You is a thorn on my side that caused me to bleed to death, but I never had the strength to take it out.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“You thought I was weak because you tore me apart with your words. The sad thing is…you thought you were in control, but you never were…no you never were because you were never in control of yourself.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“Every day, I laid in your bed I was your prey.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“Life is meant to be enjoyed, not trying to dissect yourself worth to others or even yourself.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“I paid for your love, and in reality, love doesn’t cost a thing. The ‘love’ we had was dead before it started. I am not willing to revive something that isn’t worth saving.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“I never loved me first, and that was one of my many mistakes.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“The Truth was staring me in the face, but I let you easily persuade me with lies on top of lies. You made a fool of me over and over again and I allowed you to control my thoughts…you never cared. You didn’t give a shit. I was blind to the truth…and what was so crazy is that the truth and the red flags were waving me down, but I thought I could change you. However, the only person it changed was me.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“You tried to play on my weakness, but you were the weakest link.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“I didn’t know what you wanted from me, at times I wish I was enough but I don’t give a fuck anymore. You had a fucking time bomb in your head, that always exploded on me. I couldn’t keep up with you. You lead me on and on, all you did was have me run in a circle.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“I am willing to take ownership of my past decisions.”
~Love is respect ♥~”
― Charlena E. Jackson, In Love With Blindfolds On

“One of the challenges adult children of narcissistic mother’s face is the myth that every mother is giving, nurturing, and gracious. Worldwide, this is a false notion and taboo topic. For many adult children, they are scolded by our society who chides, “But it’s your MOTHER!” Despite the fact that we’ve spent a lifetime suffering chronic mental abuse, rejection, criticisms, and scapegoating by our mothers, most people don’t believe us, don’t understand us, nor have they personally experienced narcissistic abuse by their mothers.”
― Dana Arcuri, Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma

“…Decent motives don’t always produce decent results. And the body is not the only target of rape. Violence does not always take visible form, and not all wounds gush blood.”
― Haruki Murakami, 1Q84

“Mental pressure kills faster than any known sickness. Pressure from family and society  has led us astray, made us choose the wrong part, coerced us into making a permanent decision for our temporary emotions, killed us even while we are living. Sometimes we died, it was never natural but MURDER! Our family and society murder us by constantly reminding us how we ought to live a long life of another person and abandon ours. Don't allow family and societal pressure kill you while you live, live a happy life for yourself. When you die of mental pressure, life continues for them all that MURDERED you. Don't get MURDERED living for someone's selfish reasons, rather die happy you've lived a fulfilled life”
― Maduabuchukwu Prestine Akaeze

“Somebody tells you the truth, and you call it raving.”
― Vincent H. O'Neil, A Pause in the Perpetual Rotation

“I have had the unpleasant crazy neighbor experience and I will no longer buy a home with close neighbors.”
― Steven Magee

“I’ve thought of all the times when we could have forestalled damage to the children, but the truth is we were damaged ourselves. Even if we had worked that out, it wouldn’t have been much use. Those early wounds run deep.

Eve had been ignored as a child, controlled but neglected; longing for freedom and longing for affection, she was ridiculously generous with both, and I don’t just mean Martin. She trusted everyone. How would she have recognized cruelty when she was determined to love everyone she met?

Melly swapped one tyrant for another, her father for her husband; it’s hard to know who caused the most damage, especially as she was hell-bent on damaging herself. When you are anorexic, it actually does something to your vision; you can’t assess what you see properly. I heard that on the radio yesterday and I wanted to tell her, but I’m not sure if that would help; not now.

I was damaged by greed: my own. My grandfather told me that anything was possible; it wasn’t his fault that I believed him. I thought I could manage it all – work, marriage, kids, writing, being scared. That was wrong, or worse, half right. He forgot to add that anything is possible, but not on your own. He might have thought that was completely obvious; I grew up in an African village, after all. I should have asked for help when I needed it. He told me to walk slowly and he was right. I might have noticed what was there in front of me. You can’t blame Melly for not seeing things properly, when I wasn’t watching either.”
― Jane Shemilt, Little Friends

“This is me just going on a rant about self harm and my experience started when I was 7 through 10 I was always getting raped my my cousin I had told my brother and after he said "well so u wanna have sex with me" i kept telling him no then he force me to I was 7 he was 9 and the thing with him lasted until i was fucking 12 mothers day weekend of 2022 i was scared, alone so I went to my last resort, cutting i was always in the care of my father fast forward to about 2 months later so in july i went 4 months without seeing my father so iwas heart broken i couldent see him so now my father was in a motorcycling accident i mean he was mentally abusive so i kinda laughed then i realized that he night not make it”
― Sarai Hawkins

“In 1991, betrayal trauma was originated by Jennifer Freyd, PhD, an American psychology researcher, author, and educator. She states, 'During trauma it is usually not safe or possible for individuals to consciously access their emotional reactions or experiences, awareness often emerges after trauma ceases.”
― Dana Arcuri CTRC, Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma

“No, Queen, abuse is NOT okay. I encourage you to stop making excuses for being abused. Come on, Queen… You CAN do this. It’s time to honor yourself! You are worthy of love, respect, and appreciation. You ARE important. No matter how you may feel or what has been said to you, you DO matter.”
― Stephanie Lahart