When it comes to sex positions, we generally gravitate toward positions that are easy to pull off and that feel really great. Positions that are too strenuous—say, the helicopter position—might not be doable for more than a few seconds. Where's the pleasure in that, besides getting to check it off your sexual bucket list?
On the flip side, you have the Spork sex position: a real bang-for-your-buck kinda move. It requires minimum work for maximum pleasure. And yet you might not be familiar with it, as we don't see it in porn very often. Here's what to know about getting into the sex position, along with its many benefits (and few drawbacks).
How do you start the Spork sex position?
To get into the spork position, the receiving partner (i.e., bottom) lies on their back and gets comfortable. “It may be helpful to use a pillow or wedge to elevate this partner’s hips and create more alignment with the partner providing penetration,” says Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., founder of Modern Intimacy. Once on their back, the receiving partner should drape one leg over their partner’s shoulder. The other leg can remain open and around the other partner’s legs. Next, the penetrating partner can bring their body (facing forward) in between the legs of the receiving partner.
“Holding one of their partner’s leg up on one shoulder with the opposite hand, the penetrating partner can hold themselves up with the other arm and lean to that side slightly,” Balestrieri explains. “The insertive partner's legs will rest in the opposite direction, creating a perpendicular angle with their partner’s body.” Then with their legs ajar or together, as long as they maintain balance and have enough mobility to thrust, the partners can align their genitals (or strap-on) and grind or penetrate a partner’s vagina or anus.
What are the pros of the Spork position?
“This position is easier to maintain than traditional on top positions,” explains Daniel Saynt, founder & chief conspirator of the New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a NYC-based sex club. “You’ll also be entering your partner from a side angle which may provide new stimulation and help increase the feeling of girth of your penis.”
Balestrieri adds, “The Spork allows for eye contact during penetration, which can increase intensity and connection. Also, it allows for deep penetration and can leave room for clitoral stimulation with the thrusting partner’s pelvis or an intimacy accessory.”
Last but not least, holding on to the receiving partner’s leg offers more leverage and they can pull for a deeper, more powerful thrust.
Are there any cons?
There aren’t too many cons to this one. The insertive partner could get a little tired if they’re thrusting aggressively, but that’s true of many sex positions. “It may get a little tiresome for the thrusting partner to rest on one arm, but switching sides or leaning into the receiving partner can take some of the pressure off,” Balestrieri says.
That's where this pillow variation could come in handy: “This position is great with pillow support under the cheek of the leg that you rest on your partner's shoulder," Saynt says. "Slight elevation will allow for better flow and deeper penetration during sex.”
