Guest List Grief: How do you deal with a mother-in-law who insists relatives be invited to the wedding over close friends?
Q. My daughter is getting married in 5 months with a guest list of 200 people. My husband and I are not paying for the wedding, and my mother-in-law is insisting that her brother and other relatives that are close to her (my daughter sees these people once every two years) be invited. My daughter would rather have close friends at the wedding than these relatives. What do I do?
A. You need not do anything except support your daughter and her fiance’s decision. Whomever is the host of the wedding (whomever is paying for it) generally has a “say” in who is included on the guest list, so unless your mother-in-law is contributing financially to the wedding, she should simply abide by your daughter’s wishes. You can talk to your mother-in-law and explain the situation, and stress the fact that your daughter would like to include close friends rather than distant relatives with whom she does not have a close relationship. Best wishes!