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== Primary types of love
=== Eros ===
''[[Eros (concept)|Eros]]'' is the Greek term for romantic, passionate, or sexual love, from which the term
Erotic lovers view [[marriage]] as an extended [[honeymoon]], and sex as the ultimate aesthetic experience. They tend to address their lovers with pet names, such as "sweetie" or "sexy". An erotic lover can be perceived as a "hopeless romantic". The erotic lover wants to share
The advantage of erotic love
Examples of
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=== Ludus ===
Ludus means "game" or "[[wikt:school|school]]" in Latin. Lee uses the term to describe those who see love as a
Ludic lovers want to have as much fun as possible. When they are not seeking a stable relationship, they rarely or never become overly involved with one partner and often can have more than one partner at a time, in other words, a school of partners. They
This love style carries the likelihood of infidelity. In its most extreme form, ludic love can become sexual addiction.
Examples of
=== Storge ===
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''[[Storge]]'' is the Greek term for familial love. Lee defines Storge as growing slowly out of friendship and based more on similar interests and a commitment to one another rather than on passion. However, he chooses ''Storge'', rather than the term ''[[Philia]]'' (the usual term for friendship) to describe this kind of love.
There is a love between siblings, spouses, cousins, parents, and children. Storge necessitates certain familial loyalties, responsibilities, duties, and entitlements. The dwelling is to be a sanctuary for its members and all members of a family are to pull through together in difficult times. Except for marriage, all other relationships have existed often by blood for as long as the individuals have known each other. In marriage, a couple, who formerly did not accord each other this love,
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== Secondary types of love ==
According to Lee's
=== Mania ===
Mania is derived from the Ancient Greek term
Manic lovers speak of their partners with possessives and superlatives, and they feel that they "need" their partners. Oftentimes, manic individuals are attracted to individuals who have low self-esteem and a weak self-concept.<ref>Laswell, T.E. & Laswell, M.E. (1976). I Love You but I'm not in Love With You. ''Journal of Marriage and Family Counselling'', 38, 211-224.</ref> This kind of love is expressed as a means of rescue, or
Extreme examples of mania in popular culture include yandere anime and manga characters. Additionally,
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=== Agape ===
''[[Agape]]'' is derived from
Agape is an all-giving, selfless love. A revised questionnaire based on an instrument in a previous study (Hendrick et al., 1984) entitled Altitude about sex and love was administered to a group of Psychology students. Results showed that Agapic lovers are willing to place their lover’s happiness and needs before their own and endure all suffering and all things for the sake of their lover. Whatever they own is their lover's and no argument or strife will change that unconditional love'''.''' <ref name=":0" />Agape love is often referenced with religious meaning and is signified by the colour orange.
Agapic lovers view their partners as blessings and wish to take care of them. The agapic lover gets more pleasure from giving in a relationship than from receiving. They will remain faithful to their partners to avoid causing them pain and often wait patiently for their partners after a break-up. Agape requires one to be forgiving, patient, understanding, loyal, and willing to make sacrifices for their partner. An agapic lover believes that this love is unconditional, though lovers taking an agapic stance to relationships risk suffering from inattention to their own needs. The advantage of agapic love is its generosity. A disadvantage is that it can induce feelings of guilt or incompetence in a partner. There is the potential to be taken advantage of. In its deviant form, agape can become [[Martyrdom]]. Martyrdom for principle may be acceptable; martyrdom to maintain a relationship is considered psychologically unhealthy.▼
▲Agapic lovers view their partners as blessings and wish to take care of them. The
Examples of agape can be found in books and movies including ''[[The Gift of the Magi]]'' by [[O. Henry]], Penelope in Homer's ''[[Odyssey]]'', ''[[The Mission (1986 film)|The Mission]]'', ''[[Somewhere in Time (film)|Somewhere in Time]]'', ''[[Titanic (1997 film)|Titanic]]'', ''[[Untamed Heart]]'', ''[[Forrest Gump]]'', and the [[Bible]]{{specify}}.▼
▲Examples of agape can be found in books and movies including ''[[The Gift of the Magi]]'' by [[O. Henry]], Penelope in Homer's ''[[Odyssey]]'', ''[[The Mission (1986 film)|The Mission]]'', ''[[Somewhere in Time (film)|Somewhere in Time]]'', ''[[Titanic (1997 film)|Titanic]]'', ''[[Untamed Heart]]'', ''[[Forrest Gump]]'', and the [[Bible]]. <ref>{{
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=== Pragma ===
Pragma comes from the Ancient Greek term {{wikt-lang|grc|πρᾶγμα}}, meaning
Lee defines pragma as the most practical type of love, not necessarily derived out of true romantic love. Rather, pragma is a convenient type of love.
Pragmatic lovers have a notion of being of service which they perceive to be rational and realistic. While they may be sincere about being useful themselves it also translates to having expectations of a partner and of the relationship. They tend to select and reject partners based on what they perceive as desirable, compatible traits. Pragmatic lovers want to find [[Value (personal and cultural)|value]] in their partners, and ultimately want to work with their
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== Tertiary types of love ==
Lee defines nine types of tertiary types of love that are combinations of the previous six types of love. Each combination includes one primary and one secondary.
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Though Lee names each of the tertiary types of love, he never found enough evidence to
==Measurement==
Clyde Hendrick and Susan Hendrick of [[Texas Tech University]] expanded on this theory in the mid-1980s with their extensive research on what they called "love styles". Their study found that male students tend to be more
Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) developed a self-report questionnaire measure of Lee's love styles, known as the Love Attitudes Scale (LAS).<ref name=":0">{{cite journal |vauthors=Hendrick C, Hendrick SS |title=A theory and method of love |journal=Journal of Personality and Social Psychology |volume=50 |issue=2 |pages=392–402 |date=Feb 1986 |doi=10.1037/0022-3514.50.2.392}}</ref> A shortened version of the LAS, presumably for researchers trying to keep their surveys as concise as possible, was later published,<ref>{{cite journal |vauthors=Hendrick C, Hendrick SS, Dicke A |title=The Love Attitudes Scale: Short form |journal=J Pers Soc Psychol |volume=15 |issue=2 |pages=147–59 |year=1998 |doi=10.1177/0265407598152001 |s2cid=145583028 }}</ref> and other variations appear to have been used by some researchers. Respondents indicate their level of agreement or disagreement with the LAS items, examples of which include "My partner and I have the right physical 'chemistry'" (eros) and "Our love is the best kind because it grew out of a long friendship" (storge). Depending on the version of the LAS one administers, there are from
==Biological view==
In 2007, researchers from the [[University of Pavia]] led by Dr [[Enzo Emanuele]] provided evidence of a genetic basis for individual variations in Lee's love styles, with
== See also ==
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* [[Diotima of Mantinea]]
* ''[[The Four Loves]]'' by [[C. S. Lewis]]
* [[Theories of love]]
* [[Triangular theory of love]]
* [[Greek words for love]]
* [[Love]]
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==References==
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== External links ==
* http://www.psychologycharts.com/six-love-styles.html
* http://www.intropsych.com/ch16_sfl/six_types_of_love.html
* https://web.archive.org/web/20160615202623/http://www.rv337.com/vimages/shared/vnews/stories/4b55e440aa0d7/John%20Lee's%20Love%20Theory.pdf
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