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No current Talk conversations about this book. as a lesbian, reading this book on dollyâs perception of love opened my eyes to understanding how heteronormative love is like, at least to her. i feel so excited to grow and change, and learn. so excited to deepen my friendships, and find those people that make me the happiest. i wonder if it will be the same or drastically different. iâll find out eventually. favourite quotes: âYou know, the life isnât happening elsewhere, it doesnât exist in another realm. Your relationship with that man was seven years long. That was it, thatâs what it was.â - 263 â â âYouâre too hard on yourselfâ, she said. âYou can do long-term love youâve done it better than anyone I know.â âHow my longest relationship was two years and that was over when I was 24.â âIâm talking about you and me, she said.â - 301 â âI donât need to run away from discomfort and into a male eyeliner. Thatâs not where I come alive. Because I am enough. My heart is enough. The stories and the sentences twisting around my mind enough.â - 305 This is Dolly's memoir of her life from her teen years through age 30. It started slow and whiny. I wanted to throw it against the wall but since I won it through the Goodreads Giveaway I felt obligated to finish it and give it a fair and honest review. It got better as she grew up and stopped using one-night stands and drink as crutches and started working and being an adult. She had some good things to say about growing up and some of it was funny. I could see some of it but it was a long time ago that I was that age and I did not use sex and alcohol to try to make me feel better. I think she began growing up when Florence, her friend's sister, started having problems. Florence's story was good. I loved the few letters about friends milestone events--engagement, marriage, birth. They were so snarky they were funny. This ends on a high note. I received an ARC of the book for free from the publisher (Harper Books) in exchange for an honest review. Since I received an ARC, my quotes from the book are tentative. I found this to be a very relatable memoir. There were some passages that really spoke to me. For example, a paragraph from the chapter, Tottenham Court Road, perfectly describes me right now. She writes: âWhen you begin to wonder if life is really just waiting for buses. . . and ordering books youâll never read off Amazon. . . You are realizing the mundanity of life, You are finally understanding how little point there is to anything. You are moving out of the realm of fantasy âwhen I grow upâ and adjusting to the reality that youâre there; itâs happening. And it wasnât what you thought it might be. You are not who you thought you would beâ (pg 167-168). That passage really hit home. I am definitely still coming to terms with the face that I am âgrown up.â At another point she states, âOnline dating is for the braveâ (pg. 324). All I can say is amen to that! This book is not just relatable, it is also very humorous. There are some funny moments. I particularly liked the satirical emails she interspersed throughout the book. On the flip side, there are some more heartbreaking moments that added contrast. I liked the balance between the two because it really showcases the ups and downs of life. Lastly, I really liked the authorâs writing style. It was very accessible and conversational, as if you were two friends catching up. Overall, I really enjoyed this book and definitely recommend it. It isnât just a book about love. Itâs also about female friendship and growing older which will resonate with a lot of women. no reviews | add a review
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HTML: New York Times Bestseller Everything I Know About Love now streaming on Peacock! "There is no writer quite like Dolly Alderton working today and very soon the world will know it." â??Lisa Taddeo, author of #1 New York Times bestseller Three Women "Dolly Alderton has always been a sparkling Roman candle of talent. She is funny, smart, and explosively engaged in the wonders and weirdness of the world. But what makes this memoir more than mere entertainment is the mature and sophisticated evolution that Alderton describes in these pages. It's a beautifully told journey and a thoughtful, important book. I loved it." â??Elizabeth Gilbert, New York Times bestselling author of Eat, Pray, Love and City of Girls The wildly funny, occasionally heartbreaking internationally bestselling memoir about growing up, growing older, and learning to navigate friendships, jobs, loss, and love along the ride When it comes to the trials and triumphs of becoming an adult, journalist and former Sunday Times columnist Dolly Alderton has seen and tried it all. In her memoir, she vividly recounts falling in love, finding a job, getting drunk, getting dumped, realizing that Ivan from the corner shop might just be the only reliable man in her life, and that absolutely no one can ever compare to her best girlfriends. Everything I Know About Love is about bad dates, good friends andâ??above all elseâ?? realizing that you are enough. Glittering with wit and insight, heart and humor, Dolly Alderton's unforgettable debut weaves together personal stories, satirical observations, a series of lists, recipes, and other vignettes that will strike a chord of recognition with women of every ageâ??making you want to pick up the phone and tell your best friends all about it. Like Bridget Jones' Diary but all true, Everything I Know About Love is about the struggles of early adulthood in all its terrifying and hopeful un No library descriptions found. |
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On the other hand, this book just DRIPS with privilege and heteronormativity. Alderton is a 30-something woman who is largely reflecting on her teens and 20s, which were filled with drinking, partying, careless spending, European holidays, working jobs that allow an unusual level of creative freedom, etc. and this results in a book that is, on manyyy levels, just not relatable whatsoever. At times she genuinely sounds like a caricature of a British party woman that might pop up on an SNL skit or an episode of "Skins". She describes so many drunken nights that they begin to blur together, and each consecutive one offers less than the one before, which made me want to start skipping chapters.
This book was also just extremely hetero. Even when Alderton is emphasizing female friendship and not changing yourself for any man, there is a steady and constant undercurrent that runs through the entire work that still places romance with a man as highly desirable and finding a partner, even if it happens later in life, still needs to happen at some point. It just seems so antithetical to everything she comes to conclusions about time and time again, and by the end of the book the conclusion sort of peters out to this weird agreement of "Yes, love yourself and cherish your female friendships because they're the most precious love you will have, oh and also you will get a boyfriend one day who will love you even if you're silly and don't shave and have a wild past!"
All in all, there are some really heartfelt and valuable writing in "Everything I Know About Love", but it's a little like mining: you're gonna have to dig and pick through some rubble to get to the shiny bits (I actually don't know how mining works, so just picture the mining scene in "Snow White"). I'm curious to maybe read Alderton's latest work and see how her writing and voice have developed since this book came out. (