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Asking for a friend: ‘I’m marrying my friend’s brother but she’s been distant with me since the engagement and I haven’t asked her to be bridesmaid’
I’m having an issue with my soon-to-be sister-in-law. We were friends in college for three years, and stayed in touch since, although we hung out less frequently. I met her brother, who I hadn’t known before, when I went to a party, and we instantly got on. We started dating and ended up spending most of our time together. I have to admit, this meant I saw my friend even less, but we were both so busy. Since my fiancé popped the question, she’s been really distant. I don’t know how to manage this, and I’ve been busy planning the wedding, so I haven’t tackled it head-on. I didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid as I don’t want a huge wedding as I would feel overwhelmed. I miss her but I worry that our friendship is never going to be as close again. I keep thinking about it but don’t know how to bring up the subject. Would it be better to have my boyfriend there so that he could be a buffer and make it easier?