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Ciara O'Connor
Opinion At funerals now, when there's no hands to squeeze and hair to stroke and cheeks to kiss - we make our own rituals
Their mother had been in Clare for months, doing the caring. So brother and sister, my old, old friends, were alone together when the news came that their grandmother was gone; there was no question of travelling to the funeral or seeing family. What can you do with death without a body, community, rituals - those first prescriptions for loss? No one was sure. I think we all felt there should be a real adult in charge, someone born before the 1990s.
