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Asking for a friend: ‘My wife and I are separated but still live together because we can’t afford to rent two houses. I feel trapped and frustrated’
My wife and I decided to separate a year ago, as we both felt it was the right thing to do for our relationship. It had fizzled out and it felt like we had become more like friends rather than romantic partners, and we have stayed friends since. However, we have had to live together since our separation as neither of us can afford to rent a new place, and neither of us wants to share a room with someone else — we are in our thirties and too old to do that. The housing crisis has meant that we feel stuck together. Neither of us have dated much, at least to the point of wanting to bring someone home, and even if we made it that far, we would have to figure out how the logistics of that would work with our exes in the house. I feel so stuck and I don’t want to start resenting my ex, but I feel so frustrated. Thankfully, we have separate rooms, but it’s still so difficult. It’s stressing me out and I am starting to feel uncomfortable at home, and generally try to avoid her lately. She seems upset by this, but I don’t even know where to begin to explain how we can fix this.