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My skin crawls to think that my father’s blood runs in my veins and I’m afraid to talk about my discovery with my mother. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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We are in our mid-50s and our children will soon have left home. For financial reasons, I don’t see how I can leave, but I’m so lonely. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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At family gatherings my brother refuses even to say hello, yet I have reached out a hand to him since I was a child. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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We’ve discussed the downsides of our age-gap relationship and we don’t want to separate but I feel paralysed thinking about it. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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I haven’t got involved so far because I know she will shut down communication if we try to discuss it. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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If I try to talk to her about it, she just tells me to leave, but I love and adore her. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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My husband says he won’t live with a thief in the house, but I am afraid that, by making him homeless, his problems will get worse. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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She says she had a miserable childhood, which she blames me for – but she seemed happy at the time. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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My parents – who divorced 45 years ago and live in different countries – seem incapable of being grandparents. It’s hurtful and damaging for my child. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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My elder sister has power of attorney for our mother, who has dementia, but I find her difficult to deal with – she keeps me in the dark. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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I’ve known him for 10 years and she liked him until we began dating nine months ago – I think she should suck it up and be civil. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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My husband stopped our Relate sessions when the therapist said our relationship had characteristics of domestic abuse. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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I am furious that my father is about to move in with a woman he claims he only met after he separated from my mother
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My own children are financially independent but my husband’s well-paid son is in his 40s and still expects handouts. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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I am 22 and try to tell them their sexist remarks cause harm, but my brother talks over me and Mum says I preach too much. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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Her behaviour has cost me an amicable divorce with her father and led to the breakup of a new relationship. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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He does have health issues that need to be addressed, but I don’t know how to help him. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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I supported my children through the breakup and they adapted well. But now my mother has died and it’s hit me harder than expected. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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I’ve started online dating two years on from my divorce but I fear sex with someone I meet could be a disaster. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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She said we’d be better off and have more fun after they divorced. That never happened and now I’m upset all the time, which she hates. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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My nine-year-old is intelligent and loving but since he was about three he has followed a pattern of a period of normal behaviour followed by a gradual build up of anger and frustration. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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Now that I’ve met someone new, my ex is being nice again – how can I get her out of my life for good? Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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A few years ago, life was good but I had a breakdown last year and my boyfriend recently ended our relationship. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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Now that the children have left, we barely see or talk to each other and he drinks a lot too. I feel stuck. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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We’ve been together for eight years since I came out – I don’t want to feel like this. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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He doesn’t understand the impact of his behaviour on other people. And I fear he has inherited my personality. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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I’ve had therapy to explore the abuse and anger issues in our family and want to reconnect with him. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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I find it hard to cope with her behaviour but I put up with it because I can’t bear the guilt trips. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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He needs to understand that his lack of communication is having a huge impact on our lives. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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He seems to be coping but I think he’s too young to deal with this complicated illness alone. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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She was a baby when her father died 13 years ago, but he left her the letter in a memory box. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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My partner agrees with me about his sister’s behaviour but does nothing to help. I’m thinking about cancelling the wedding. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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He’s just had an operation, but every time I see him it takes me months to recover because he’s so narcissistic and manipulative. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
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My daughter says that my husband and I never liked her choice of partner and he says we should forget about her. But I want to reconnect. Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
We live together, but my sister and I are like strangers