Welcome to the club that no one should ever have to join.
If you're here, it's because you are surviving, or have survived, infidelity in a relationship that you thought was life-long. Whether you were the faithful or the wayward partner, this is a safe place to give support and guidance to each other.
Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences you will ever have to survive. Regardless of your decision to stay or to go, you will have to overcome a tremendous amount of pain and emotional scarring.
You can do it. And we're here to help.
This is not a place for advice on young or short relationships. If your college girlfriend/boyfriend of 1 year cheated on you, check out /r/relationships for great advice.
Please only post here if your relationship is/was otherwise intended as a lifelong one: a marriage, life partnership, common law relationship, or similar.
Related subreddits:
FLAIR
We broadly categorize survival into 3 phases:
- In the fog: within ~2 months of Disclosure. Your emotions swing wildly, and you hurt more than anything.
- Recovering: within ~2 years of Disclosure. Once the fog starts to clear, you get to work on the business of recovery. Seeing a therapist/counselor, building your relationship, or building your own validation.
- Recovered: Disclosure was more than 2 years ago. It is no longer a daily thought in your life. You have managed to move on, and move forward.
We also have a flair for those who are suffering ongoing infidelity which has not stopped yet.