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Do you like the counselor, is she qualified and smart?
You could always look into a Child Psychologist.........
Divorce can be very traumatizing for some, it sounds like you're being very proactive and that's wonderful, and will help your daughter in the long run!
Take care!
-KathleenView Thread
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Unfortunately, I had a friend like that for two years, criticizing and offering unsolicited advice all the time (ironically, I was not allowed to criticize her parenting). This was like a toxic friendship. It was such a relief to break that relationship up.
If your daughter's friend is already doing this when your grandson is only 2.5 yo, think about the next 20 years.
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About three months ago, though, things shifted pretty significantly. My daughter started hanging around almost exclusively with her mom and was frequently ignoring me. There was nothing in particular that occurred that would have triggered this, either, as far as I can tell. We didn't have any kind of falling out or terrible argument or anything. I keep thinking that it's like someone reached inside my daughter's head and just flipped a switch suddenly, and now it's like she's a different person. She is noticeably distant towards me now, and she never has been in the past. She'd not rude at all, she doesn't have an attitude around me, she's polite but just distant. When I ask her if she wants to kick the ball around in the backyard or just whatever she wants to do, she usually declines (politely) in favor of hanging out with
mom instead. When she does spend time with me, it often seems like she's doing it to humor me, and a few minutes later she says she's bored and she'd like to go see what mom is doing.
I realize that kids do shift their parental preference back and forth as they're growing up, but the way my daughter is now is unprecedented. There truly was no particular situation that seemed to trigger this, which is why it puzzles me so much. The only thing I can
think it could be is that my daughter is starting to enter the very first stages of puberty. We got her some of those flat training 'bras' (not really bras, but I'm not sure what they're actually called) not too long ago because although she still looks like a young kid, she's starting to have some subtle changes. And I just wonder if maybe since the hormones are starting to develop, maybe she's now identifying more strongly with the female half of our family.
I've also read on some web sites that some kids do actually become fairly one-sided in their parental preference at a certain
developmental stage, and that various behavior issues can manifest themselves pretty strongly around ages 10 to 11, which is my daughter's age range. Some kids stay fairly balanced in their parental affections while others worship one parent and ignore the other. I keep telling myself that she's in a stage right now and not be pathetic about it, but as a father who loves his daughter a lot and to whom family means a lot, it pains me that she is this way. Just wondering if anyone has any insight about this sort of thing or is going through the same kind of situation.View Thread
Really, your husband needs to do something about this NOW while there is still time. In a few short years it will be too late to help them. It's not the lack of opportunities to spend time with them that is the root problem here it is your husband's refusal to take any kind of responsibility nor be an active parent. He needs to wake up to what he is doing to his children - by being passive he is not helping them, he is actually handicapping them. How will they ever survive in the outside world if nobody teaches them how to behave?
I would also be worried about the safety of a toddler with these children around ...View Thread
AprilView Thread
My 3rd daughter had a lot of issues like this and we eventually used Miralax daily to help her have regular bowel movements and this allowed her insides to heal.
The pedi needs to rule out different causes - so that is your first step.
Take care!
-KathleenView Thread
Maybe something happened - an incident that has made your daughter not want to be alone?
Is there anything you can think of? Has she gone away / slept away from you this summer?
Has anything changed - or will be changing soon that she knows about?
Sometimes its difficult to figure out what drives a sudden change of behavior. Have you gently sat down with your daughter and talked to her about her feelings / being scared?
Does she seem "typical" in the day time? Any red flags there?
Another thought is sometimes the influx of hormones during puberty can trigger new confusing emotions, this in-particular happened to my 3rd daughter - it was a difficult time for her.
Here are a few good articles to read regarding this:
http://health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/female-reproductive-system/female-puberty7.htm
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescence/201004/adolescence-and-the-problems-puberty
I hope some of this helps? I understand how hard this can be on everyone......try to be patient, listen and let your instinct help guide you.
Take care!!
-KathleenView Thread
If you have a 10+ year old that went through this procedure then please share your experiences. How bad did it hurt? what was the recovery like? are things normal now? etc.
Also, is there an alternative to surgery to correct this?View Thread
Last week for example, her and a team mate were doing a duet routine at a comp when in the middle of it my daughter farted and her and her team up ended up fighting over the bubbles it caused. Another time her synchro swim team were sitting around their instructor preping for a routine when one of them ripped a fart out of nowhere.
I always thought little girls grew out of this sort of thing by this age is there any reason for this kind of behaviour?View Thread
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