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hopefully his worries will pass.View Thread
My name is Karrina and I`m a single mom to a preschooler named Delilah. I`m also 32 weeks pregnant with my 2nd daughter. we live in Ohio and I am 25 years old.
I would always refer to this site for health tips and stuff, but I just learned that they have a community. Hope to make some friends on here and get some good health tips.
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SO, the only advice I can give - pick your battles! A lot of times they do what they do to see how you'll react. If your son sees you react a certain way, he'll want to confirm that it works the same way every time and will do it again and again, especially if he know that's what gets you going. It sucks, but it's completely normal for them. Often, if he doesn't see a reaction out of you, he'll stop after trying it a few more times. So, bottom line - if what he is doing is not safe for him or the baby - that has got to stop. If it's a question of something that's not that important - let him at it for a few times and then he'll stop on his own if he doesn't get a reaction out of you.
Read up on "terrible 2s" (which, by the way, will morph into terrible 3s before too long). THere is a ton of literature and lots of good advice on how to handle 2 year olds. Most of it will probably be applicable in your situation.
Good luck and hang in there!View Thread
My son just turned 6 and has been acting out of control too. It is a lot of the guilt from raising him as a single parent.
I got some books and started reading them. A lot of it is stuff I know and knew I should be doing, but reading it again, helped reinforce the ideas and what needs to be done.
Be consistent. And remember you are the boss. The best things we can do for our children is raise them to respect thier parents and to behave well.
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Any advice on how to go about keeping my child safe from pain, but still find love for myself? I'm 21 and because of the pain I caused my son from one failed relationship, I'm ready to give up on love! HELP PLZ!!!View Thread
He had more than enough chances. He was in his life until he was 3months, then disappeared for a few months, begged his way back, i allowed him another chance, he walked out again at 10 months and then got court ordered visitation 1 day a week when my DS was 13 months. Now, Sperm Donor hasn't seen him since he was 16 months old. Sunday he will be 2 years!...
Make sure you keep track of the visits he does have and the ones he cancels just in case! Hope it works out better for you than it has for me and my DS!!!View Thread
DB and i were together almost a year (on & off) before i got pg and stayed together my entire pregnancy. He was abusive physically and mentally. He cheated on me and after my son was born, I realized that was that last thing i wanted for him. I left him when DS was a little less than two months old. Best choice I've ever made. Since then he has been in and out of his life but mostly out. DS is almost 2 now and doesn't even know who Sperm Donor is. But SD claims that he doesn't have a kids anyway... His loss!!!
When DS was 4 months old, I met an incredible man and he and i were together for over a year. He had a daughter and together we made a family. Eventually we started fighting and our work schedules forced us apart. In october he left, after 2 months of trying to make it work. Still, to this day, DS calls this man daddy and asks for him.
Its been a long, bumpy road but my family and BFF have helped me through the most challenging of times and I know that DS and I would not have made it without them!...
You girls are strong and I hope you realize that you are the best thing for your children and no matter what, keep your heads up and know that God sees you struggling and if you're doing the best you can, whats meant to be will eventually find a way to be!View Thread
He seems to have things easier bc he does have this side job and is living on his dad's property. And it doesnt seem fair. I agree my ex lives with a roomate, and I have our old apartment. He makes more $$ then me and pays $400 a month to live with his roomate. I pay $600 alone in rent.
I wouldnt try to keep him from your DC, but I wouldnt be driving 8 hrs for him to see her either. Especially if he isnt helping you with money because you got in a fight. That is just stupid. He doesnt sound very responsible.
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Remember being a mom we still need our own space so try to keep your room for you, and if you have room put 2 dressers in your room for the kids clothes. Since your youngest are 2 and 3 and the oldest is 8 this would be a great arrangement until you can afford a 3 bedroom.
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Decide what you want then go from there, if this is something that you do not want then you need to make some new arrangements. It is your house and if you do not want him to come over after a certain time then YOU have to STOP that. You do not have to cater to him, but for the sake of your son you are going to have come to some type of co-operative arrangement.
My daughter too has medical problems and her father would choose to come and see her once every couple years. When she was in a coma for 36 hours due to her health he never showed up, and 6 weeks after she came home from the hospital he called and told me it was my fauly because i did not allow him to see her when he had time.
Men like him and presumably your son's father only want to be fathers when it is convenient for them. I don't like drama and I do not like being manipulated and lies too. I got tired and stopped his 1 every two year visits that is why he is upset with me, that and i refuse to sleep with a man who likes to sleep around. I am a firm believer in if i allow you to treat me like nothing then you will.
Live your life and take care of your son, and do not let a father who wants his cake and obviously eat it too have what he wants when he wants. The child's needs must always come first, but is his father a good example of the kind of man that you want your son to be. That is something to think about.View Thread
I love my child with all my heart and soul, but at this point in our lives I truly feel that we are being punished. it just seems that with Type 1 diabetics when they are in the first year/year and a half it is very hard on their physical and mental well being. it takes a toll on the mind, body and everything in between. It is the hardest thing to see your child in so much pain every single day of her life. My child's pain increases my stress level and my pain level by about 100 million and that is no exaggeration.View Thread
I am the single parent of 1 child and I deman respect at all times, or things get taken away for long periods of time. Your children are old enough to know what they are doing is hurting there mother. I would call a family meeting and let them know the new rules of the house that you will have to establish. You cannot be friends with your children they have enough of those, and you cannot allow them to run yoru house as that is a direct sign of disrepect. All children at one time or another tell their parents "you hate me". If you know you are a good mother then do not fall for that. Start taking back control of your house and your children. Limit what you give them to the basic nescesities, let them know your expectations and more importantly "YOU MUST BE CONSISTENT." If the children see you as being weak then they will definitly try to run things. I truly wish you the best of luck, but remember you are the parent and whether the father is there or not you are still the parent. If your child get in trouble at school and you know that he is in the wrong, then let him suffer the consequences of his actions. Sometimes tuff love will make force them to learn a lesson in life. Remember we all had to learn things the hard way. My child's father has not seen her in almost 3 years and she cries for him. That tears me up inside, but the only thing that I can do is let her know that I am there for her and carry on with life.
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i just joined this discussion but, my story is similar to Proud_Mommy 23 where I was 5 months pregnant and my now ex boyfriend for almost 2 years physically and mentally abused me while i was pregnant. I was with him for 10 years and he always said that he wanted a baby and when i finally got pregnant he said he didnt want the baby and told me to get rid of him. Which of course i didnt and his reasoning was he was not ready to be a father financially and what is so frustrating he does not realize his son needs him emotionally. i did not bother to take him to child support because i dont want to be bothered with the father plus he does not have a steady job. My struggle now is to place my son in pre-school and i cant really afford it, plus i have a mortgage i pay on my own as well. i just want to say to both of you its okay to still love the man but, think about your children first. Its not an easy road but, it will get better. Keep the faith and keep your heads up God is in your side and he will make a way. Most of all dont ever be too proud to ask for help.View Thread
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