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Reply: close to a breakdown

the baby will need surgery at some point...the nerves of her spinal cord are thethered...but she is so...

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Dont handle loss well

I must not handle loss well. I lost my stepdad over 5years ago. He was not a good man but even knowing this I...

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Reply: Too much loss....

I am so sorry for your losses. The idea of making the home your home... that's a difficult process...

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Reply: feelings of loss

alone259, It sounds to me like you are going through a greiving process...that is exactly how I have been...

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Reply: Loss of spouse

I am very glad to hear that to Raymondswife. I have looked for a group to join and this is the only one I...

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A Handbook for Survivors of Suicide:It's a short b...

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This is a good resource for the friends and families of people who have taken their own lives that I'd like to share.

Here's also something I received that I wanted to share below, it really gave me a new perspective and opened my eyes to some things I didn't see I have been doing.

~SHARING IS CARING: I'm sharing this post from a Second Firsts email from CR, and I know that some of you will not yet be ready to hear this, but I feel it's important to offer hope and different perspective for when you do arrive at this stage.

What if I told you grief is addictive, even though it is something we did not ask for, or wanted in our life? What if I questioned your need to shed your identity of loss from your life? Would you question this email? Would you stop reading? Would you protect your grief even more?

Before you make any decision let me explain... When we have been hit by grief, and we have no choice but to go through this horrible world of pain and helplessness we learn new ways of surviving. We learn to live within the darkness. We learn to use our loss as our first name.

We learn that we had no choice but to feel hopeless. And we are told that there is nothing we could possibly ever do to feel better, as time is the only way out of this pain. So while we wait for time to heal us, we got comfortable within our grief.

We looked in the mirror and we only saw uncertainty married with a disadvantaged life. Somehow the image in the mirror is now used to living in this space with dimmed lighting, merely surviving and making the most of what little life has left behind, on its way out the door.

But guess what happens during the time of grieving? New habits emerge that were never there before. New beliefs are being cemented in your brain about who you now are. You create this story of a new life.

You write the story of a new you, using the proof that has surrounded you. Out of necessity grief moves in, but out of habit grief never moves out.

Don't make the mistake, and forget that life is more than just pain, more than just surviving. Don't become addicted to living your life hiding in the darkness under your identity of your loss.

Life can be more addictive than grief. But it has to be lived, experienced and felt once again. Will you turn on the lights in your life by choosing life over your grief? ~View Thread

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Reply: weird dreams

hi there. i was reading some of what people wrote, ley me start by sending my deepest sympathy for all your...

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Reply: In Memory Of...Steve Jobs

Steve Jobs has defined so much of my life. My Apple Macintosh LCII got me online 18 years ago this...

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Reply: Can't get passed it

You are so very welcome. As a mother of 4 children, I do understand how difficult it is to fit one more...

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Reply: parents loss

I know that God can help us through the hard time of lossing a love one. I can't say that it gets easier as the...

Posted by Wpooh27

I know that God can help us through the hard time of lossing a love one. I can't say that it gets easier as the years go bye though, because my grandfather has been died for 25 years now and i still think about him everyday and miss him very much. My great grandparents on my dad's side died recently though. My great grandmother and i was very close, she got real sick my junior year of high school. She told me she was going to hold on to see me graduate high school. Well she did just that, i graduated on May 23,2003 and she passed on july 4,2003. so it was just a couple months after i graduated. That was very hard for me to have to go through because me and her was real close. I was suppose to sing amazing Grace at her funneral so i had to record it on a tape and let them play it because i couldnt get up there and sing it. Also, My mother in law just passed a year ago september the 9th. It doesnt seem like it has been a year since she passed. She died two days before my husbands birthday. She found out she had cancer and then 15 months later she is gone. She got really sick the last two weeks, and i was taking care of her everyday. I was the only one of my husbands wife because i make his third wife, that she liked the other two she didnt like them. But during the last two weeks when i was taking care of her we got real close. When she passed away i was the only one in the room with her. I was rubbing her head, when she took her last breath and she had one little tear in her right eye. Shortly after my husband come in and he seen my crying and asking if she was ok and i just took him by the hand and told him she was gone. He lost it. I was at work the morning all this took place to and they called me at work and said if i wanted to see her alive to get down there so i told them i had to go with in 5 minutes i was at the hospital and then 30 minutes after i got there she passed away. i just pray every day that God give me the strength to get through. I know that probably dont help you but maybe it will. Because honestly God is the only one that can really help us.View Thread

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Reply: another loss

I am so sorry, Beechl. (((softhugs))) Even when we expect it, it doesn't change how deeply the loss...

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Reply: Can't Move On

Miss_Vikki, I read your story...I know how u feel in a way because I just lost my Guy of 9 years and he...

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Reply: I Miss My Mom so much that I feel numb

I've been reading your posts about your Mom. My Mom passed in February 19, 2011. I just want to tell you...

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Reply: Depression

Hi Jeanie, I hope you return her to check for responses because those are given on the board...

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Reply: losing my biggest supporter

Thank you for the update, Ladybird. (((hugs))) I'm glad you took steps to keep yourself safe.

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Reply: inrirled

screwed up horrible on one of the boards, i just didnt understand, i hurt someone when i wasnt trying to, i am...

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Reply: lung congestion and death

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Reply: I don't know how much I can take!

Hi Bailey, I am so sorry for your losses and all you're dealing with now. Please consider...

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Reply: I am trying to hold on...

I'm so sorry to read about all that is going on for you! My gosh you have been through so much, I'm...

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Reply: too much in too short a time

You've felt loss of all kinds, haven't you? (((hugs))) Please consider turning to one-on-one...

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Reply: Losing my mother

I'm so sorry, dear Miss Vikki. Please be gentle with yourself. Our thoughts go with you.

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Reply: I'm new hoping for help

Dear one, I am so very sorry for your devastating loss and can understand how seeing any children,...

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Reply: Struggling with the death of my daughter.

Hi Angel... Just checking in to see how things were going. I hope you are finding some resources in your...

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Reply: It's been 10 1/2 years but....

coffee my sis committed suicide 4 years ago.....................................i don't think i gave...

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Reply: Struggling with my Mother's Death

Hi and welcome to WebMD, I am so sorry for your loss. That first year and well into the second can...

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Reply: A Year now and I still hurt =( help!

It sounds like you have a lot of unaddressed issues that really would be helped with therapy. One...

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Reply: Facing the pending death of my father

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Reply: Lost a friend

You're very welcome, Nicole. And you are always welcome here too.

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