Catherine de Lange, reporter
As yet another of my friends prepares to tie the knot next month, I can't help but feel a twinge of jealousy. Try as I might to convince myself being single is better (no squabbles over the washing up, joint bank accounts or "not tonight I've got a headache" conversations to worry about), a new study is making those arguments hard to believe.
According to the review of almost 150 studies (Student BMJ, DOI: 10.1136/sbmj.d404), married people live longer, happier and healthier lives than singletons. What's more, the longer the couple are together, the smugger they can be, because these benefits only increase with time.
David Gallacher at the University Hospital of Wales in Cardiff, UK, who led the research, writes:
Love is a voyage of discovery from dopamine-drenched romance to oxytocin-induced attachment. Making this journey can be fraught with hazards and lead many to question the value of romance and commitment
Nevertheless, the impact of stable long-term exclusive relationships on longevity is well established. In a study of one billion person years across seven European countries the married persons had age-adjusted mortality rates that were 10 to 15 per cent lower than the population as a whole.
More specifically, men enjoyed better physical health whilst women enjoyed better mental health.
According to CBS News:
The reason men enjoy better health when married is their partner's positive influence on lifestyle. The mental health bonus for women, the researchers say, may be because women place great value on the importance of the relationship
Be warned, however: don't go getting down on one knee for the wrong reasons. As The Telegraph explains, the study conceded: "not all relationships are beneficial, and it is better to be single than in a strained relationship."
Which leads me nicely onto another study, which might help you find out whether your relationship is destined to succeed.
Psychologists from the University of Texas at Austin have found that analysing the way that couples speak to each other can predict whether the relationship is destined for success or doomed to fail (Psychological Science, DOI: 10.1177/0956797610392928).
What it comes down to is the way we use simple words such as "a", "that", "will" and "am" says study co-author James Pennebaker, in a press release. How we use these words constitutes our writing and speaking style.
One experiment analysed online chats between couples over ten days. "Almost 80 per cent of the couples whose writing style matched were still dating three months later, compared with approximately 54 per cent of the couples who did not match as well," according to British newspaper The Daily Telegraph.
The team even has an online app which analyses the way you and your lover communicate. I just tried it, and it seems my current love interest and I aren't speaking the language of love after all.
Oh well, there is one small consolatory detail. Gallagher's study says that divorce can have a devastating impact on health. At least that's something us singletons don't have to worry about.