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Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience
Posted by Andrew on Sunday, February 25 @ 14:48:43 EST
Society By Derald Wing Sue et al.
Excerpted from "Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience"
Cultural Diversity & Ethnic Minority Psychology
January 2007

[Editor's Note: A recent study by five Columbia University researchers led by Professor Derald Wing Sue identified the following eight common themes that arose in Asian Americans' lived experiences of race.]

Theme 1: Alien in Own Land

This theme emerges from both focus groups and can be described as a microaggression which embodies the assumption that all Asian Americans are foreigners or foreign-born. An example of this theme was universally voiced by Asian Americans of all ethnicities and manifested in questions or remarks like “Where are you from?” “Where were you born?” or “You speak good English.”

The participants were often torn between whether the comments were well intentioned expressions of interest in them or perceptions that they were foreigners and did not belong in America. Furthermore, the meaning construed by recipients is that they were different, less than, and could not possibly be “real” Americans. That this phenomenon has empirical reality was a finding that White Americans, on an implicit level, equated “White” and “American” with one another while Asian and African Americans were less likely associated with the term “American” (De Vos & Banaji, 2005).

On the whole, the participants did not see the questions or “compliments” as benign and curious, but disturbing and uncomfortable. One Chinese American participant shared that while she was working in a restaurant, a White customer came in and attempted to converse with her in Japanese. She interpreted the behavior as the person perceiving her as a foreigner and not fluent in English. Worse yet, the person could not distinguish between Chinese and Japanese Americans. The focus group members did not perceive the intent of the questions to be overtly malevolent. They believed the person might have been attempting to establish a relationship with the Chinese American and might have wanted to indicate that he was not like other White Americans and could speak an Asian language.

Theme 2: Ascription of Intelligence

This theme also emerges from both focus groups. It is described as a microaggression that occurs when a degree of intelligence is assigned to an Asian American based on his/her race. Many of the participants describe teachers and fellow students making statements such as “You are really good at math,” “You people always do well in school,” or “If I see lots of Asian students in my class, I know it's going to be a hard class.” The message conveyed is that all Asians are bright and smart, especially in math and science. Interestingly, the work on stereotype threat suggests that this belief is shared by many Whites, and that it may actually depress academic performance among them when in the presence of Asian Americans (Steele, 1997; Steele & Aronson, 1995).

The participants believed that the conscious intent of these statements was to compliment Asian Americans, since being good at math was perceived by aggressors as a positive quality. However, the impact of assuming Asian Americans are good at math can be harmful. Participants describe feeling pressured to conform to a stereotype that they did not endorse, particularly if they were not good at math or did not enjoy it. In essence, they expressed feelings of being trapped. One Korean woman, for example, describes her coworkers bringing every math question for her to solve. Not only did it seem to operate from a stereotype, but it added pressure to help them, and resulted in a heavier workload for the woman. She also expressed discomfort at another major side effect: Asian Americans were viewed as intelligent while other people of color were perceived as less intelligent. It created tensions between her and other Black and Latino coworkers.

Theme 3: Denial of Racial Reality

Participants of all Asian ethnic backgrounds share that many microaggressions invalidate their experiences of discrimination. In one case, a Vietnamese American male was told that “Asians are the new Whites.” The participant in the study indicated that the remark dismissed his experiences of racism, indicated that Asians experience no discrimination, suggested inequities do not exist for Asians, and that they have made it in society. In other words, the Vietnamese male felt that the perpetrator saw Asians as a model minority, similar to Whites and experience minimal socioeconomic or educational disadvantages. While the intent of the aggressor may be to compliment the Asian American individual by saying that Asians are more successful than other people of color, the negating message is that Asians do not experience racism—denying their experiential reality of bias and discrimination.

Theme 4: Exoticization of Asian American Women

A fourth theme found in both focus groups is exoticization of Asian American women who are relegated to an exotic category. One Chinese American woman stated, “White men believe that Asian women are great girlfriends, wait hand and foot on men, and don't back-talk or give them shit. Asian women have beautiful skin and are just sexy and have silky hair.” One Korean American woman indicated that she is frequently approached by White men who are very forthcoming with their “Asian fetishes” of subservience and pleasing them sexually. Nearly all members of the focus groups interpreted these microaggressions as indicating that Asian women are only needed for the physical needs of White men and nothing more. Again, participants felt that the intent of the aggressor in these situations may be to praise Asian women for their ability to take care of a man's every need. One participant was quite vocal in stating that the continual subjugation of Asian American women to roles of sexual objects, domestic servants, and exotic images of Geishas, ultimately “equates our identities to that of passive companions to White men.” Many of the participants also suggested that the exotic image of Asian American women also serves as an unconscious backlash to feminist values and that it potentially creates antagonism with White women as well.

Theme 5: Invalidation of Interethnic Differences

This theme is most closely associated with the statement: “All Asians look alike.” One Filipino American woman states, “I am always asked are you Chinese?” Another example of this is conveyed by a Chinese American who stated that new acquaintances oftentimes make statements like, “Oh, my ex-girlfriend was Chinese, or my neighbor was Japanese.” These microaggressions tend to minimize or deny differences that may exist between interethnic groups or the existence of other Asian American groups. Participants believed the microaggression suggests that all Asian Americans are alike and that differences between groups do not exist and/or do not matter. The intent of the aggressor in this situation is to express that they are familiar with Asians, but instead the message received is that the aggressor assumes that all Asians are Chinese or Japanese. Moreover, it is assumed by the aggressor that most Asians are familiar with each other, regardless of their Asian ethnic background.

Theme 6: Pathologizing Cultural Values/Communication Styles

Another microaggression theme involves the perception of cultural values and communication styles other than that of the White majority as being less desirable or indicators of deficits. One Chinese American woman expressed exasperation at how class participation (usually verbal) is valued strongly in academic settings and that grades are often based upon it. Because of Asian cultural values that emphasize the value of silence, less verbal Asians are often perceived as lacking in interest, disengaged, or inattentive by the teacher. Many of the participants felt disadvantaged, for example, when verbal participation in class was graded. They felt forced to conform to Western norms and values (“talking more”) when such behavior violated their cultural upbringing. Although the Asian participants could see that educators might be attempting to enforce an objective grading standard, they unintentionally negated traditional Asian cultural values and penalized their Asian American students. Another example was relayed by a Vietnamese American male who describes being derided and teased by friends for using chopsticks as a utensil. He stated that the message was quite clear; eating with forks, knives, and spoons is the right/correct way to eat and “the American way.”

Theme 7: Second Class Citizenship

Being treated as a lesser being or second class citizen was another common experience. A number of Asian Americans relayed similar stories of Whites being given preferential treatment as consumers over Asian American customers. A typical story involved a Korean American female who told of dining with White friends. Although she frequently ordered the wine, it is usually her friends who are asked to taste and approve the wine selection. She would often feel snubbed because Whites were believed to more knowledgeable about wine, and their opinions were more important. Another Asian American woman described how her eight family members were taken to a table to the back of the restaurant, even though there were available tables elsewhere. She interpreted the action to mean that they were lesser customers and did not deserve a table in the front of the restaurant. The message, they believed was that Asian Americans are not deserving of good service and are lesser than their White counterparts.

Theme 8: Invisibility

This theme is used to label incidents that involve the experience of being overlooked without the conscious intention of the aggressor. Experiences with the theme of invisibility are commonplace among Asian American individuals of all ethnic groups who share that they were often left out whenever issues of race were discussed or acknowledged. One Chinese American female stated, “Like even most race dialogues are like very Black and White…like sometimes I feel like there's a lot of talk about Black and White, and there's a huge Asian population here and where do we fit into that?” Another example involved an Asian American appointed to a committee and having someone suggest that they needed “to appoint a person of color” to the group as well. The messages being conveyed were that Asians are not an ethnic minority group, experience little or no discrimination, and that their racial concerns are unimportant. In addition, the Asian participants felt trapped in that when issues of race are discussed, they were considered like Whites, but never fully accepted by their White peers.

Experiences of Microaggressions

Most of the participants acknowledged that the majority of those who engaged in microaggressions did so unintentionally, and the perpetrators often perceived their own remarks or actions in a positive light (interest in the Asian American person: “Where were you born?”). Nevertheless, most of the Asian American participants were clear that the remarks reflected a biased worldview that tended to communicate something negative and disrespectful about their group. In general, it appears that most of the Asian American participants experienced psychological conflict and distress because of several dilemmas they faced.

First, they remarked that it was often difficult to determine whether a microaggression occurred. Were they being oversensitive or misreading the remarks or questions? They described spending considerable psychic energy trying to discern the motives of the person and/or dealing with inner turmoil and agitation caused by the event. A few stated that it was often easier to deal with a clearly overt act of bias than microaggressions that often created a “guessing game.”

Second, most of the racial microagressions that occurred came from peers, neighbors, friends or authority figures. It disturbed them that personal or respected acquaintances could make such insensitive or hurtful remarks. What bothered them most, however, was their occasional tendency to “make excuses” for friends by rationalizing away their biases and by denying their own racial reality. Although we did not specifically explore the differential impact of microaggressions from acquaintances versus strangers, it appears that some of the participants felt that microaggressive behaviors were easier to handle and less problematic when they came from strangers.

Third, many expressed severe conflict about whether to respond to microaggressions given that most were unintentional and outside the level of awareness of the perpetrator. Pointing out a microaggression to a friend, for example, generally resulted in denial, defensiveness, and a negative outcome for the relationship. A few shared that they simply were at a loss of how to respond, or that the incident occurred so quickly a chance for some sort of intervention had long passed. They described being angered and upset without any recourse other than to “stew on it.” Some indicated being especially angry at themselves when they finally thought of what they could have said or done (“Damn it, that's what I should have said.”) Again, we did not explore this aspect of the participants' inner turmoil; blaming themselves for not having a comeback and having to deal with the agitation for a prolonged period of time. We can only conclude that the emotional turmoil could be long lasting and take a psychological toll on the recipient.

Last, deciding to respond also had major consequences. Some of the informants stated that responding with anger, striking back, or confronting the person generally did no good. It only served to make the victim appear “paranoid” or suggest that the responder had some major personal problem.

References

De Vos, T., & Banaji, M. R. (2005). "American = White?" Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 88, 447–466.

Steele, C. M. (1997). "A threat in the air: How stereotypes shape intellectual identity and performance." American Psychologist, 52, 613–629.

Steele, C. M., & Aronson, J. (1995). "Stereotype threat and the intellectual test performance of African Americans." Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 69, 797–811.

 
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Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by dnpark on Monday, May 14 @ 03:59:48 EDT
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These themes and experiences resonate very clearly and directly with the experiences of myself and friends in a Midwestern university setting.
My sensitivity to anti-APA microaggression has become so finely tuned after years of frustrating exchanges with coworkers, supervisors, and people I run into in daily life.
Whenever I get the "where are you from" question or compliments about my math/computer skills, or any romantic overtures from white people (mostly men), or unprovoked clerks/staff providing me with substandard services/goods, there is no way to process the exchange without sensing that underlying context of microaggressions.

I think the authors make an excellent point in the summation of experiences (from the focus groups),

First, they remarked that it was often difficult to determine whether a microaggression occurred. Were they being oversensitive or misreading the remarks or questions? They described spending considerable psychic energy trying to discern the motives of the person and/or dealing with inner turmoil and agitation caused by the event.


What strategies/skills can we use to struggle against the psychic crap we're left dealing with after these microaggressions?



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by normal2 on Sunday, February 25 @ 15:40:00 EST
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Excellent article!



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by sir_humpslot on Monday, February 26 @ 01:39:31 EST
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excellent article indeed. it's great that these academics can finally write in plain english all these studies that give evidence to what we've all been discussing. it's also great that these academics can explain it in a clear and non-vulgar style that doesn't offend the readers who are non-asian. however, i got 3 points to pick with this article: dying to assimilate -- face it, asians will always be seen as the perpetual foreigner. regardless of how we rant about our status of being treated like equal citizens. the point here is to not get the mainstream racism to stop treating us as perpetual foreigners, the solution is to stop caring about the mainstream and what they have to say. here on MM, we've been advocating watching Korean media and getting away from the mentally damaging and unhealthy US media for all its racism. AA should focus on each other and FOBs over that of the white mainstream. we are overachievers -- asians are overachievers because asian immigration has been selective and only the brain drain of asia has led to so many doctors, engineers and lawyers and scientists in the US. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GOOD AT MATH. there is something wrong with the stereotype and prejudice and pressure against asian kids being good at math. however, being good at academics is something to be proud of and celebrated. instead of going to the other extreme and become mental slaves to the mass media, asians should just be proud of their good academics and excel at everything we can. what we should start doing, is to branch out and become more artistic and creative and more business minded with becoming CEOs. right now, asians are nothing more than mental coolies and that has to change for asians to become more influential in the workplace. asian women like asiaphiles -- there's no other explanation as to why so many white men chase after asian women and treat them like sexual objects if these asian women didn't go for white men in the first place. even in this article it's stressed that these asian women want partners who don't treat them as sexual objects, but only if they're white. they're lamenting on the fact that asiaphiles chase after them. but the problem is that because they accept these asiaphile behaviors that it perpetuates the vicious cycle. it's the asian women's own fault for wanting to be with whitemen and accepting their behaviors because they can't be with whitemen if the whitemen aren't asiaphiles to begin with. this is a catch-22 for the asian woman, but it's their own fault for wanting white men in the first place. asian men are perfectly good people who get the short end of the stick because these asian women chase after white men only. so it's not even a point worthy of discussion, BECAUSE IT'S THEIR OWN FAULT.



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by Andrew (Use the Write to Us Link) on Sunday, March 04 @ 03:25:40 EST
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Oddly enough, this article seems to have undergone a more thorough discussion here [boards.babycenter.com]. (Then again, that discussion thread seems to be the only place racism has been discussed anywhere in that section of their forum, so I'm not that impressed. Well, carry on...)



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by OmegaSupreme on Monday, March 05 @ 01:28:39 EST
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Interesting and well-written article. However the author's unwillingness (or denial? - see theme 3) to touch on the subject of asian male emasculation (as well as the interracial dating/marriage disparity) is unfortunate. Theme 4 should be expanded to include the stereotypes that plague asian-american males, specifically.



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by parasiatic (EastAssassin@usa.com) on Sunday, March 18 @ 16:46:03 EDT
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This is why the government or private forms with the ethnic identification boxes still list

Whites

African-Americans

Hispanics/Latino-Americans

Asian/Pacific Islanders

with "whites" referring to the European-Americans who want to reinforce their view that they are the "real" Americans who belong on this continent without any allusion to their ancestral continent, while other ethnic citizens who are subtly reminded that they really don't belong here as hyphenated Americans or belong here only temporarily.



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by neomushu on Wednesday, March 28 @ 05:44:18 EDT
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How true this is for me and all my friends.



We NEED Asian Black Panthers (Score: 1)
by temujin2000 on Tuesday, April 24 @ 14:08:54 EDT
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Yet the challenge to twenty-first-century Asian American identity remains the same as it was in 1969: how to make sense of a landscape marked by fissures of ethnicity, class, gender, and sexuality, and how to build political solidarities that bridge these rifts.111 At the birth of Asian America, the Red Guard Party and Frank Chin demonstrated through their performances of blackness both the power and limitations of organizing around racial identity.


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On March 22, 1969, in Portsmouth Square, a public gathering place in San Francisco's Chinatown, a group of young Chinese Americans calling themselves the Red Guard Party held a rally to unveil their "10 Point Program." Clad in berets and armbands, they announced a Free Breakfast program for children at the Commodore Stockton school, denounced the planned destruction of the Chinese Playground, and called for the "removal of colonialist police from Chinatown." The Red Guard Party's style, language, and politics clearly recalled those of the Black Panther Party, with whom they had significant contact and by whom they were profoundly influenced.1 At the rally, the Red Guards performed an Asian American version of black nationalism by adopting the Panthers' garb, confrontational manner, and emphasis on self-determination.
Many years later, the Asian American playwright and critic Frank Chin dismissed the Red Guards' rally as a "yellow minstrel show."2 But while Chin rejected the Red Guards' performance as a vain attempt to imitate blackness, in 1971, just two years after the rally, he offered his own dramatic take on the interplay between Asian Americans and blacks in his play The Chickencoop Chinaman. Widely acknowledged as a germinal work of Asian American literature, Chin's play explores the relationship between Asian American identity and blackness by featuring Chinese American and Japanese American protagonists who associate with, claim sympathy for, and exhibit speech and dress patterns most commonly associated with African Americans. Set in the late 1960s, The Chickencoop Chinaman chronicles the adventures of Tam Lum, a fast-talking Chinese American, and his Japanese American sidekick, Kenji, as they attempt to produce a film about the career of their childhood hero, the African American boxer Ovaltine Jack Dancer and his putative father, Charley Popcorn. As a story about the search for heroes, fathers, and a usable past, The Chickencoop Chinaman provides a powerful meditation on the relationship between masculinity, race, and Asian American identity.
Both the Red Guard Parry and Frank Chin were key players in the Asian American political and cultural mobilization of the late 1960s and early 1970s. The Red Guards were among the first radicals to arise from Asian American communities and in their later incarnation as I Wor Kuen (IWK) constituted one of the two preeminent Asian American leftist organizations.3 They built community programs, organized Asian American workers, fought for better living conditions, protested against the Vietnam War, and became integrally entwined in the Marxist-Leninist-Maoist left. Chin was highly influential in his own right as a writer, critic, and activist. His play The Chickencoop Chinaman marked his emergence as a major figure. It won the 1971 playwriting contest sponsored by the East West Players, the prominent Los Angeles-based Asian American theater company, and became the first Asian American play to be produced off-Broadway.4 Chin published numerous works of searing criticism, fiction, and nonfiction, cofounded the Asian American Theater Workshop in San Francisco, one of the most important venues for Asian American dramatic productions, coedited AIIIEEEEE!, a foundational anthology of Asian American literature, and organized the first Day of Remembrance to commemorate the incarceration of Japanese Americans during World War II.5



Yet Chin is also a controversial figure who has leveled

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Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by m4321 on Monday, July 09 @ 19:20:02 EDT
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Saying that exoticization/fetishization is the fault of Asian women is like saying that rape is the fault of the victims, or that Asian kids deserve to get beat up because they're nerds. We need to differentiate between being responsible for ones actions and being the target of racist behavior. Behaviors based on racist beliefs are committed by the perpetrator of the behaviors, not the ones on the receiving end. The cause of the problem is not any one person; what about the perpetuation of racist stereotypes in media or the historical patterns of racism in America? The idea that any person causes, deserves, or otherwise is responsible for the racist behaviors (such as those inspired by false beliefs about Asian women and sexuality) directed at themselves is contradictory to the idea that racist beliefs should not be tolerated because it attributes potentially harmful stereotypes against all members of a group, regardless of the qualities of the individuals.
Likewise, we need to differentiate between Asian women, Asian women who choose to participate in consensual interracial relationships, and (the select few) Asian women who welcome or exploit exoticization for their personal advantage. Saying that your mother deserves to be hit on by a white man with an Asian fetish because she's an Asian woman is very different from saying that women who use exoticization for personal gain shouldn't complain about its existence. Nowhere in the article does it say that the women reporting instances of exoticization date white men; for all we know they're all involved with Asian men. (Interracial dating is a different matter entirely.) To lump all Asian women together and accuse them of being responsible for white men looking at them like sexual objects is an insult Asian women, and anyone who sees people as more than what society prescribes them to be.



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by professorpunk on Tuesday, February 05 @ 00:29:10 EST
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How should whites act toward Asians? It almost seems that anything said regarding Asians could be considered a part of white bias and insulting, even attempts to say something positive. Should we avoid saying anything that seems like a stereotype? On the other hand, being silent about Asian-ness and race or avoiding the topic could be viewed as ignoring the problem. If we act colorblind that can be perceived as microaggression too. It seems we're damned if we do and damned if we don't.

One other point regarding the focus of race issues on racism toward blacks: it is agreed that racism toward Asians is bad and that something needs to be done about it, but I think the emphasis on white racism toward blacks and latinos is justified because of the severity of racism toward them. The situation of blacks is far worse than the situation of Asians -- being perceived as intellectually inferior, violent, lazy, ad uncivilized. locks many blacks into poverty, violence, drug abuse, and prison. You have to admit that this is a lot worse than the micro-snubs Asians typically experience. Their situation is more critical, and therefore deserves more attention.



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by rover on Tuesday, March 11 @ 18:32:45 EDT
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This article is on point. Just today I was logging into my hotmail account and saw this image of an AF/WM with the caption "The New American Couple". The article summary claimed to be about whether or not men objected to women making the same salary or even more than they were earning. But that was not what the article was really about: it was the imagery cleverly veiled. To be American Asian females must marry white males, it's the only way. This is nothing new, MSN has been running similar images on their site for a while now. There is also a Holiday Inn commercial where a group of whites are standing around a counter debating whether or not to order something to eat, in the foreground was an AF seated at a table with a WM. The AF was facing the camera and although was not given a speaking roll, could be seen laughing and conversing with the white male (no audio provided for her, though). What is happening is that the media and other sources are becoming more aggressive in their push toward eugenics and the marginalization of PoC inferring that Asian FEMALES will only be accepted in American society if they marry white males. The Holiday Inn commercial portrayed the AF as being very happy to be in the company of the white male seated across from her. Such visual images are becoming increasingly more pravalent as the country continues to have an influx of immigration from East and South East Asia coupled with the rising economic influence of China.



All in all it dismisses Asian racism and suggests that Asian females are American only if they are with a WM, if it is an AF/AM couple, etc. they are not Americans. Quite the insult. And this sort of imagery has become increasing in the past decade. That is something to think about.

-"Rover"



Re: Racial Microaggressions and the Asian American Experience (Score: 1)
by BasinBictory on Thursday, August 21 @ 08:12:57 EDT
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I have found that a good way to deflect the "Where are you from?" question is to fire it right back at them (meaning the usually white person asking). When I get that question, I respond with, "Well I'm from Los Angeles - where are you from?" Most often, I get a curious look, because this was certainly not the response they were expecting, but curiously enough, lots of white people opened up with "Oh I'm Irish, or I'm mostly German, or My mother was Scottish, etc."


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