I was reading "The No-Cry Discipline Solution" last night (because I'd like to discipline without the tears and tantrums!), as recommended by my psychiatrist, and found author Elizabeth Pantley's points for building a strong parental foundation to be ones that I can incorporate into my mental health program. Here they are:
1. The big picture is more important than any one action.
To even attempt perfection would be ludicrous and stressful, yet ... most of us criticize ourselves unnecessarily over every negative situation.
2. Relax more and stress less.
View the little things for what they are--little things--and don't let them get in the way of taking pleasure out of every single day.
3. Play more.
You don't always have to have one eye on the clock when you're immersed in playtime....Let the answering machine pick up a few more messages. Ignore the ding of incoming e-mail messages on your computer.
4. Give yourself more credit for what you do right and don't examine so intently the things you do wrong.
Do your best, learn from your mistakes, and appreciate that you are doing a grand and important job. Give yourself a pat on the back, and give credit where credit is due. You are doing a better job than you think.